Do you always feel like you are solving the problems in your relationship? Not feeling heard or like your partner isn't carrying their emotional weight? Your partner takes up a lot of emotional space but isn't available for your needs? You are doing the majority of emotional caretaking for your partner and family?

In this episode, we're getting real about emotional labor in relationships—what it is, how it shows up, and why it so often goes unnoticed. If you’ve ever felt like the one doing all the work to maintain emotional connection, this conversation is for you. We discuss how to recognize early signs that someone may not be capable of real emotional reciprocity, and what it means to stop doing it all yourself. From burnout and resentment to building more equal partnerships, this episode is about shifting the dynamic—for good.

🧠 Topics Covered:

• What emotional labor looks like in romantic relationships

• The invisible toll it takes—fatigue, resentment, disconnection

• Why we often ignore early signs that someone can’t (or won’t) hold emotional space

• How to stop overfunctioning and start asking for reciprocity

• What a more balanced emotional exchange looks like

• Tools for setting boundaries and communicating your needs

• When emotional labor becomes a form of people-pleasing or self-abandonment

• How to tell if it’s time to step back and take care of your own nervous system

  
  

🎵 Music: "asleep next to you" by SSS from the album Open Cycle.
Find her music on Bandcamp: https://sssssss.bandcamp.com

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Website: ⁠katemarlenelove.com⁠Email: ⁠hello@katemarlenelove.com
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Relationships have the power to heal us — and to hurt us. In this honest episode, Kate Marlene shares why our romantic connections impact mental health so deeply, how our brain and nervous system are wired for love and safety, and what happens when connection turns into conflict, loss, or chaos.

Drawing from her own life — including stories of navigating anxiety, depression, recovery, and healing after narcissistic abuse and divorce — Kate explains why breakups feel like withdrawal, what’s normal to feel, what’s not, and how to protect your mental health before, during, and after love.

• Why healthy love regulates the brain and body

• How conflict and breakups affect mental health

• Signs your mental health may be suffering because of a relationship

• How to care for your nervous system while dating, in love, or healing from loss

• Kate’s own experience rebuilding after toxic love and divorce

• A listener question: “Why am I still grieving my breakup 8 months later?”

✅ We are biologically wired for connection — secure love lowers stress, supports resilience, and builds a sense of safety.
✅ Unstable or toxic love does the opposite — leading to burnout, anxiety, low self-worth, and trauma responses.
✅ Breakups trigger real brain withdrawal, so grief takes time — there is no deadline.
✅ Healthy love is rooted in inner safety: emotional regulation, clear boundaries, and honest conflict resolution.
✅ Protect your mental health by staying connected to yourself beyond the relationship.

Your mental health matters more than any relationship. Whether you’re falling in love, struggling in conflict, or healing from heartbreak — you deserve connection that supports your well-being, not drains it. This episode will help you better understand the relationship between mental health and romantic love, understand how toxic dynamics affect brain chemistry, and protect your own wellness at every stage of a relationship.

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In this episode, I’m joined by breakup and dating coach Janice Formichella—host of Sex and the Solo Girl and Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On. We talk about what really happens to your mind and body after a breakup, how to create psychological safety in your life whether you're partnered or solo, and why grief and confusion are normal—even scientific—reactions to heartbreak.

• Psychological and physiological responses to breakups (racing thoughts, memory loss, IQ drops, fatigue)

• Why we avoid breakups (even toxic ones)

• The myth of closure and giving it to yourself

• Stages of grief and navigating post-breakup withdrawal

• Obsessive thinking and attachment theory

• Creating safety within yourself before seeking it from others

• One powerful question to ask yourself when deciding whether to stay

Guest Info:

• Website: janiceformichella.com

• Podcasts: Sex and the Solo Girl, Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On

Resources or Links Mentioned:

• Learn more about Janice and her work at janiceformichella.com

Contact & Info:

• Website: www.katemarlenelove.com

• Email: hello@katemarlenelove.com

• IG: @katemarlenelove

• TikTok: @katemarlene

Music: "asleep next to you" by SSS from the album Open Cycle. Find it on Bandcamp: https://sssssss.bandcamp.com/

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In this powerful episode, host Kate Marlene explores how parenthood can reshape, strain, or even unravel the foundation of a romantic relationship. Drawing from her own experience of getting sober shortly after her daughter’s birth, Kate shares how the personal transformation that comes with parenting often alters both partners in ways that aren't easy to anticipate or navigate.

While many couples grow together through the parenting journey, others quietly drift apart. This episode offers insight, compassion, and tools for those feeling the tension between who they were before kids and who they’ve become since.

Covered in this episode:

• How parenting changes identity, intimacy, and partnership dynamics

• The emotional and lifestyle shifts that occur after having children

• What to do when personal growth no longer aligns with your relationship

• Understanding that growing apart doesn’t mean failure

• Communication strategies for couples navigating post-baby disconnection

• Signs it may be time to seek support or to consciously separate

• How separation can lead to healing, clarity, and personal transformation

Key Takeaways:

• Parenting doesn’t just change your schedule—it changes you

• Disconnection after kids is common, but not unsolvable

• Open communication is essential when the emotional bond feels strained

• Conflict doesn’t have to mean chaos—it can lead to clarity

• Sometimes growth means letting go, and that can be a healthy path forward

About the Host:
Kate Marlene is a therapist, certified mediator, and relationship coach who works with individuals and couples navigating the complexities of love, conflict, and personal growth. She specializes in helping clients find clarity—whether working to reconnect or choosing a conscious, compassionate ending.

📩 To inquire about couples work, therapy, or mediation: hello@katemarlenelove.com
🌐 Learn more at: www.katemarlenelove.com

🎵 Music Credit:
"asleep next to you" by SSS from the album Open Cycle
Sarah Schneider is an electronic musician and multidisciplinary artist based in Berlin.
Listen on Bandcamp: sssssss.bandcamp.com

What do you do when you’re ready to grow—but your partner refuses to go to therapy?

What if you're feeling alone in wanting to fix things or it feels your partner isn't taking the problems of your relationship seriously.

In this episode of Falling in Love is Easy, Kate answers a listener’s heartfelt question about being in a long-term relationship where emotional disconnection, repeated arguments, and personal growth are met with resistance. We explore what it means to work on your relationship without your partner’s participation in therapy and why their avoidance doesn’t always mean they don’t care.

Whether you're trying to heal ongoing relationship conflict, feel like you're doing all the emotional labor, or are just starting to wake up to your own needs, this episode will help you find clarity, confidence, and a way forward.

In This Episode, You'll Learn:

• Why some people avoid therapy or resist emotional vulnerability

• How to begin healing your relationship by working on yourself first

• The difference between a partner who won’t go to therapy and a partner who won’t grow

• Signs your partner might still be willing to work on the relationship, even if they avoid therapy

• How to set boundaries, speak your truth, and stop walking on eggshells

• • The ripple effect of personal growth in a relationship
  • Why couples' therapy may not fix the deeper underlying issues for each partner
  • Making the decision to leave when your partner truly refuses to work together

• • When to consider individual therapy or coaching (even without your partner)

  If you're feeling alone in your relationship, this episode is for you.

  💌 Have a listener question? Email me at:
  📬 hello@katemarlenelove.com

  Let’s Stay Connected:
  🌍 Website: www.katemarlenelove.com
  🎵 Music Credit: "asleep next to you" by SSS from the album Open Cycle
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  🎙 Instagram: @katemarlenelove

  
  

  
  

We’ve all heard that relationships take work, but what does that really mean when things get tense, emotions run high, and we find ourselves in yet another fight?

In this episode of Falling in Love is Easy, we explore the transformative power of conflict and how learning to fight well can actually bring us closer. Because not all conflict is bad, in fact, the way we handle it can make or break trust, safety, and long-term connection.

You’ll learn:

• The difference between healthy and unhealthy conflict

• Why fighting isn’t a failure — it’s a doorway to growth

• How conflict can actually build trust and intimacy

• What’s really at stake when we’re arguing (it’s usually not about the dishes)

• Why meeting your own emotional needs first might be the key to showing up with compassion

We also talk about how to recognize when conflict is productive… and when it’s become a pattern that’s driving you apart.

Whether you’re in a relationship, healing from one, or learning how to navigate love more consciously — this episode is for you.

• Learn more or book a session: www.katemarlenelove.com

• Follow me on Instagram: @katemarlenelove

• On TikTok: @katemarlene

• Subscribe for more episodes on love, conflict, and clarity

"Conflict isn’t the problem. The repair is where the real intimacy begins."

Email questions for the show hello@katemarlene.com

Music: "asleep next to you" by SSS on her album Open Cycle. Sarah Schneider is an electronic musician and multidisciplinary artist based in Berlin. You can find her music on Bandcamp

https://sssssss.bandcamp.com/

Welcome to the very first episode of Falling in Love Is Easy - a podcast about everything that happens after the honeymoon phase.

In this episode, I introduce the heart behind the show: why I created it, what I’ve learned through my own relationships, and the work I do supporting people navigating love, conflict, separation, and personal growth.

If you've ever wondered why love feels hard after the falling part, or whether your relationship is worth fighting for—or finally letting go of—this podcast is for you.

• Let's talk about the title, Falling in Love Is Easy. But is it?

• My journey through marriage, divorce, and emotional recovery

• Attachment theory, chemical attraction, love and sex addiction

• The work of love, commitment, and personal growth

• What I've learned as a lawyer, mediator, and couples therapist

• Why I believe conflict can be a catalyst for intimacy

• My mission to help people get unstuck in love—together or apart

• Navigating the tension between staying and leaving

• Recovering from heartbreak or repetitive relationship patterns

• Couples seeking tools to reconnect or separate with compassion

Kate Marlene is a relationship therapist, certified mediator, and couple's therapist who helps individuals and couples navigate love, conflict, and clarity. She brings humor, honesty, and real-life wisdom to the often messy—but meaningful—work of love.

Contact for a free discovery call:

Linktree: https://linktr.ee/katemarlenelove

🌐 Website: www.katemarlenelove.com
📧 Email: katemarlenelove@gmail.com
📸 Instagram: @katemarlenelove
🎵 TikTok: @katemarlene

Music: "asleep next to you" by SSS on her album Open Cycle. Sarah Schneider is an electronic musician and multidisciplinary artist based in Berlin. You can find her music on Bandcamp

https://sssssss.bandcamp.com/