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Episode 8: Unconscious Coupling

Episode 8: Unconscious Coupling

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 We have all heard of "conscious uncoupling," a term popularized by Gwyneth Paltrow and her therapist, which emphasizes a mindful and respectful approach to separation. While being conscious when ending a relationship is both helpful and important, what about the other side of the equation? What about unconscious coupling—when people enter into relationships without clear intention or self-awareness, only to later realize they are not truly compatible with their partner?I met my husband when I was in my early thirties feeling a clear pressure to marry and settle down. I called my father after our first date and said, “I met my husband,” which demonstrates my own impulsivity, but also my deeper desire to enter into partnership. We hurried the relationship, the engagement and the wedding. Our daugter was born within 3 years. Looking back, I can say honestly that “unconscious coupling” played a strong role in the demise of my marriage. Unconscious coupling occurs when individuals drift into relationships without deeply considering their values, needs, or long-term compatibility. This often happens due to:Societal and family pressures: Feeling like it’s time to be in a relationship or get married without actually evaluating if the partnership is right.Fear of being alone: Entering relationships out of loneliness rather than genuine connection.Infatuation and emotional highs: Mistaking initial chemistry for long-term compatibility.Lack of self-awareness: Not fully understanding personal desires, boundaries, or dealbreakers.Comfort and convenience: Staying in a relationship because it feels familiar, even when it's not fulfilling.Addictions including sex, love drugs, or alcohol: Addictions come in many forms and many can lead us to making unintentional coupling decisions. Sometimes a person helps serve our addiction rather than our emotional needs. The danger of unconscious coupling is that individuals may find themselves years into a relationship, feeling disconnected, unhappy, or even trapped, simply because they never took the time to assess whether they were truly compatible in the first place. In more severe cases, you unconscious coupling leads to partnering with a narcissist, abuser, or addict. Not every unconscious coupling leads to distress. You may grow into love over time, or perhaps you both change together. However, certain patterns can indicate that a relationship may not have been built on a solid foundation. Consider the following signs that you may have hurried a relationship: You struggle to communicate effectively and frequently misunderstand each other.Your core values and long-term goals are misaligned.You feel like you're playing a role rather than being your authentic self.Conflict feels repetitive and unresolved.You are staying together out of obligation rather than genuine desire.You don’t feel emotionally fulfilled, even if everything appears fine on the surface.You have evolved and your partner has notTo learn more about my work as a narrative therapist, couples therapist, and post-divorce mediator—or to book a consultation—visit ⁠katemarlenelove.com⁠ or reach out via Instagram DM.You’ll learn:The difference between conscious and unconscious couplingHow societal pressure, infatuation, addiction, and fear of being alone play a roleSigns you may have entered a relationship unconsciouslyHow to shift toward conscious, secure, and self-aware connectionWhy intentionality is the foundation of lasting loThis episode is for anyone navigating dating, questioning a current relationship, or simply wanting to relate more consciously and compassionately in love.Website: katemarlenelove.comInstagram: @katemarlenelovePodcast on Apple: Listen on Apple PodcastsPodcast on Spotify: Listen on Spotify🎵 Music: "asleep next to you" by SSS on her album Open CycleSarah Schneider is an electronic musician and multidisciplinary artist based in Berlin.Find her music on Bandcamp: sssssss.bandcamp.com

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