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Falling in Love is Easy

Falling in Love is Easy

著者： Kate Marlene
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 Falling in love is easy, but what happens next? Hosted by Kate Marlene, couples therapist and mediator, this is a podcast about what happens when love doesn’t go as planned—which is most of the time. We’re talking about everything after the honeymoon phase-- relationship conflict, attachment issues, family wounding, breakups, divorce… and really the hardest question of all: "Should we fight for this love, or is it time to let go?"Kate Marlene 人間関係 社会科学
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  • Episode 8: Unconscious Coupling

    Episode 8: Unconscious Coupling
    2025/07/02
    We have all heard of "conscious uncoupling," a term popularized by Gwyneth Paltrow and her therapist, which emphasizes a mindful and respectful approach to separation. While being conscious when ending a relationship is both helpful and important, what about the other side of the equation? What about unconscious coupling—when people enter into relationships without clear intention or self-awareness, only to later realize they are not truly compatible with their partner?I met my husband when I was in my early thirties feeling a clear pressure to marry and settle down. I called my father after our first date and said, “I met my husband,” which demonstrates my own impulsivity, but also my deeper desire to enter into partnership. We hurried the relationship, the engagement and the wedding. Our daugter was born within 3 years. Looking back, I can say honestly that “unconscious coupling” played a strong role in the demise of my marriage. Unconscious coupling occurs when individuals drift into relationships without deeply considering their values, needs, or long-term compatibility. This often happens due to:Societal and family pressures: Feeling like it’s time to be in a relationship or get married without actually evaluating if the partnership is right.Fear of being alone: Entering relationships out of loneliness rather than genuine connection.Infatuation and emotional highs: Mistaking initial chemistry for long-term compatibility.Lack of self-awareness: Not fully understanding personal desires, boundaries, or dealbreakers.Comfort and convenience: Staying in a relationship because it feels familiar, even when it's not fulfilling.Addictions including sex, love drugs, or alcohol: Addictions come in many forms and many can lead us to making unintentional coupling decisions. Sometimes a person helps serve our addiction rather than our emotional needs. The danger of unconscious coupling is that individuals may find themselves years into a relationship, feeling disconnected, unhappy, or even trapped, simply because they never took the time to assess whether they were truly compatible in the first place. In more severe cases, you unconscious coupling leads to partnering with a narcissist, abuser, or addict. Not every unconscious coupling leads to distress. You may grow into love over time, or perhaps you both change together. However, certain patterns can indicate that a relationship may not have been built on a solid foundation. Consider the following signs that you may have hurried a relationship: You struggle to communicate effectively and frequently misunderstand each other.Your core values and long-term goals are misaligned.You feel like you're playing a role rather than being your authentic self.Conflict feels repetitive and unresolved.You are staying together out of obligation rather than genuine desire.You don’t feel emotionally fulfilled, even if everything appears fine on the surface.You have evolved and your partner has notTo learn more about my work as a narrative therapist, couples therapist, and post-divorce mediator—or to book a consultation—visit ⁠katemarlenelove.com⁠ or reach out via Instagram DM.You’ll learn:The difference between conscious and unconscious couplingHow societal pressure, infatuation, addiction, and fear of being alone play a roleSigns you may have entered a relationship unconsciouslyHow to shift toward conscious, secure, and self-aware connectionWhy intentionality is the foundation of lasting loThis episode is for anyone navigating dating, questioning a current relationship, or simply wanting to relate more consciously and compassionately in love.Website: katemarlenelove.comInstagram: @katemarlenelovePodcast on Apple: Listen on Apple PodcastsPodcast on Spotify: Listen on Spotify🎵 Music: "asleep next to you" by SSS on her album Open CycleSarah Schneider is an electronic musician and multidisciplinary artist based in Berlin.Find her music on Bandcamp: sssssss.bandcamp.com
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    28 分
  • Episode 7: Shifting the Burden of Emotional Labor

    Episode 7: Shifting the Burden of Emotional Labor
    2025/06/25

    Do you always feel like you are solving the problems in your relationship? Not feeling heard or like your partner isn't carrying their emotional weight? Your partner takes up a lot of emotional space but isn't available for your needs? You are doing the majority of emotional caretaking for your partner and family?

    In this episode, we're getting real about emotional labor in relationships—what it is, how it shows up, and why it so often goes unnoticed. If you’ve ever felt like the one doing all the work to maintain emotional connection, this conversation is for you. We discuss how to recognize early signs that someone may not be capable of real emotional reciprocity, and what it means to stop doing it all yourself. From burnout and resentment to building more equal partnerships, this episode is about shifting the dynamic—for good.


    🧠 Topics Covered:

    • What emotional labor looks like in romantic relationships

    • The invisible toll it takes—fatigue, resentment, disconnection

    • Why we often ignore early signs that someone can’t (or won’t) hold emotional space

    • How to stop overfunctioning and start asking for reciprocity

    • What a more balanced emotional exchange looks like

    • Tools for setting boundaries and communicating your needs

    • When emotional labor becomes a form of people-pleasing or self-abandonment

    • How to tell if it’s time to step back and take care of your own nervous system


    🎵 Music: "asleep next to you" by SSS from the album Open Cycle.
    Find her music on Bandcamp: https://sssssss.bandcamp.com

    🌐 Connect with Kate:

    Website: ⁠katemarlenelove.com⁠Email: ⁠hello@katemarlenelove.com
    Instagram: @katemarlenelove
    TikTok: @katemarlene
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    18 分
  • Episode 6: How Romantic Love Can Help (or Hurt) Our Mental Health

    Episode 6: How Romantic Love Can Help (or Hurt) Our Mental Health
    2025/06/11

    Relationships have the power to heal us — and to hurt us. In this honest episode, Kate Marlene shares why our romantic connections impact mental health so deeply, how our brain and nervous system are wired for love and safety, and what happens when connection turns into conflict, loss, or chaos.

    Drawing from her own life — including stories of navigating anxiety, depression, recovery, and healing after narcissistic abuse and divorce — Kate explains why breakups feel like withdrawal, what’s normal to feel, what’s not, and how to protect your mental health before, during, and after love.

    • Why healthy love regulates the brain and body

    • How conflict and breakups affect mental health

    • Signs your mental health may be suffering because of a relationship

    • How to care for your nervous system while dating, in love, or healing from loss

    • Kate’s own experience rebuilding after toxic love and divorce

    • A listener question: “Why am I still grieving my breakup 8 months later?”

    ✅ We are biologically wired for connection — secure love lowers stress, supports resilience, and builds a sense of safety.
    ✅ Unstable or toxic love does the opposite — leading to burnout, anxiety, low self-worth, and trauma responses.
    ✅ Breakups trigger real brain withdrawal, so grief takes time — there is no deadline.
    ✅ Healthy love is rooted in inner safety: emotional regulation, clear boundaries, and honest conflict resolution.
    ✅ Protect your mental health by staying connected to yourself beyond the relationship.

    Your mental health matters more than any relationship. Whether you’re falling in love, struggling in conflict, or healing from heartbreak — you deserve connection that supports your well-being, not drains it. This episode will help you better understand the relationship between mental health and romantic love, understand how toxic dynamics affect brain chemistry, and protect your own wellness at every stage of a relationship.

    💌 Send your questions for future episodes: hello@katemarlenelove.com
    🌐 Learn more or book a session: katemarlenelove.com
    📲 Follow @katemarlene on TikTok

    Slide into my IG DMs at @katemarlenelove

    🎵 Music: "asleep next to you" by SSS — Bandcamp
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    32 分

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