In this episode, Dr. Luke Montrose discusses his research on the reproductive health of firefighters, particularly focusing on the effects of occupational exposure to smoke. The conversation covers the study's design, the importance of understanding long-term health impacts, and the specific focus on male reproductive health. Dr. Montrose highlights the need for more participants in the study and the implications of initial findings regarding fertility issues among firefighters. The episode serves as a call to action for firefighter families to engage with this important research.

Learn More

website: https://www.themontroselab.com/

email: luke.montrose@colostate.edu

In this episode, Dr. Morgan Cutlip joins us to discuss her new book, A Better Share, and dive into the realities of balancing relationships and the mental load, especially in first responder families. We get real about the impact of gender roles, the struggles with resentment, and why open communication is key to building more equitable partnerships. Plus, she shares insights on how today’s relationship dynamics shape future generations and why systemic support matters.

Whether you’re a parent, a partner, or just looking for a fresh perspective, this conversation is full of honest moments and relatable stories, served with a side of humor. You won’t want to miss it!

Takeaways:

• ​ Maintaining personal identity while navigating relationships (03:30)
• ​ Understanding guilt differences between partners (01:40)
• ​ Avoiding the mistake of villainizing each other (03:59)
• ​ Addressing resentment through open communication and mindset shifts (06:37)
• ​ How changing family dynamics can positively impact future generations (20:54)

Books and Podcasts Mentioned:

• ​ Fair Play by Eve Rodsky
• ​ Shrinking (TV show)
• ​ Ted Lasso (TV show)
• ​ Listen for the Lie (audiobook)
• ​ My Love Thinks ( Blog )
• ​ ⁠My Love Thinks (podcast)

Learn more about Dr. Morgan Cutlip

Website: https://drmorgancutlip.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmorgancutlip

Books: Love Your Kids Without Losing Yourself

A Better Share

Courses: The Motherload

Mental health in the fire service is a topic we’re passionate about, and today we’re joined by Mike Kaufman, firefighter, paramedic, and founder of Tee It Up for Mental Health. Mike shares his journey into the fire service, the personal loss that motivated him to start this nonprofit, and how the annual golf tournament is bringing firefighters and their families together while raising money for first responder mental health programs.

We also discuss the importance of community, the challenges of balancing family life with a fire career, and why seeking therapy should be as normal as going to the gym. Plus, Mike shares insights into how his department is leading the way with mental health benefits for firefighters.

Learn more about Tee It Up for Mental Health

www.teeitupgolftournament.com

Follow them on Instagram: @teeitupformentalhealth

In this episode, we sit down with Kristen McCormick, a wildland firefighter and counselor, to explore the unique challenges of firefighting and its impact on relationships and mental health. Kristen shares insights from her research on hotshot crews, discussing how the unpredictability of fire contrasts with the complexities of human relationships.

We dive into the emotional and physical demands of the job, the deep camaraderie among firefighters, and the strain that firefighting can place on personal relationships. The conversation covers the importance of effective communication, intentionality, and emotional resilience—both on the fireline and at home.

We also examine the often unseen labor of firefighter partners, the challenges of maintaining intimacy, and the necessity of autonomy and support in relationships. Kristen offers valuable perspectives on compartmentalization, vulnerability, and the need for mental health awareness in navigating these dynamics.

Key Takeaways

• Wildland firefighting fosters personal growth, resilience, and a strong sense of duty.

• Camaraderie and shared suffering build strong crew bonds but can strain personal relationships.

• Firefighters face emotional challenges that require adaptation and mental health support.

• Intentional communication is key to maintaining relationships outside of work.

• Partners of firefighters often carry unseen labor and need acknowledgment, autonomy, and support.

• Reconnecting during the off-season and maintaining personal interests help sustain relationships.

• Compartmentalization can hinder emotional connections, while vulnerability fosters deeper understanding.

• Small gestures and open conversations about job challenges can strengthen relationships.

Tune in for a raw and insightful discussion on the realities of wildland firefighting, the toll it takes on relationships, and how both firefighters and their loved ones can navigate these challenges.

Media Mentions During This Episode

Dark Matter by Black Crouch

This Past Weekend podcast with Theo Von

World Class Conversations podcast with Aubrey Marcus

The Hotshot Wakeup

Learn More About Kristen McCormick

website: https://www.anchorandflankwellness.com/

instagram: https://www.instagram.com/anchorandflankwellness/

In this conversation, Maggie Hernandez, an associate marriage and family therapist, discusses the significance of attachment styles in relationships, particularly for first responders. She explains how attachment styles are formed through early interactions with caregivers and how they influence emotional bonds and coping mechanisms in adulthood. The discussion also covers the unique challenges faced by first responders and their partners, including the impact of job-related stress on attachment patterns. Maggie emphasizes the importance of seeking support and fostering secure attachments to improve relationships. Additionally, she introduces the Fire Family Collective, a support network for partners of first responders, aimed at providing resources and community for those navigating the complexities of this lifestyle.

Takeaways

• Attachment styles are formed through early interactions with caregivers.
• There are four main attachment styles: secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized.
• First responders often exhibit avoidant attachment styles due to job stress.
• Anxious partners may seek constant reassurance, while avoidant partners may isolate themselves.
• It's crucial for couples to identify their attachment styles to improve their relationship.
• Surrounding oneself with securely attached individuals can help change attachment styles.
• Therapy can provide a safe space for exploring attachment issues.
• The Fire Family Collective offers support for partners of first responders.
• Building emotional awareness and practicing vulnerability are key to fostering secure attachments.

Media Mentioned During the Show

The Overwatch Collective

How I Built This

Ted Lasso

Learn More About Maggie

Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/mindmatterswithmaggie/

Fire Family Collective:https://www.firefamilycollective.org/

In this episode, we sit down with Luke Sherman, Senior Vice President of Outreach for Folds of Honor, an organization dedicated to providing scholarships to families of fallen or disabled military service members and first responders. Luke shares the organization’s mission, its 2022 expansion to include first responders, and the powerful impact these scholarships have had on families.

We discuss how families can apply for scholarships, the role of community involvement in identifying those in need, and the significant rise in applications. Luke also takes us through the inspiring origin story of Folds of Honor and wraps up with personal insights and some fun rapid-fire questions.

Key Takeaways:

• Folds of Honor has awarded nearly 62,000 scholarships totaling approximately $290 million.

• The organization expanded its mission to include first responders in 2022.

• Safety and freedom are the core values that drive their mission.

• Scholarships are available for both children and spouses of first responders.

• The application process requires documentation to verify eligibility.

• Community support plays a vital role in identifying families who need assistance.

• The organization has seen a 300% increase in first responder scholarship applications this year.

• Folds of Honor was founded after Colonel Dan Rooney witnessed firsthand the impact of war on military families.

• The goal is to provide financial support and educational opportunities for first responder families.

• Stepping outside of one’s comfort zone is key to personal growth.

Books Mentioned During This Episode

⁠The Comfort Crisis⁠ by Michael Easter

Learn More About Folds of Honor

Website:https://foldsofhonor.org/

Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/foldsofhonor/

First Responder Scholarship Info:https://foldsofhonor.org/scholarships/first-responder-scholarships/

In this conversation, Tyler Moore, known as Tidy Dad, shares insights on managing household chaos, especially for first responder families. He emphasizes the importance of teamwork in household chores, involving children in responsibilities, and adopting a practical approach to organization through soft decluttering. Tyler's book, 'Tidy Up Your Life: Rethinking How to Organize, Declutter, and Make Space for What Matters Most' offers relatable strategies for creating a functional home environment amidst the unpredictability of life.

Resources and Media Mentioned

Even The Rich Podcast

The Home Edit

Oprah

Follow Tidy Dad

website:https://thetidydad.com/

instagram:@tidydad

In this episode, we dive deep into neurodiversity among first responders, specifically focusing on ADHD. Our guest, James Boomhower, a Critical Care Transport Specialist Paramedic with extensive experience in mental health advocacy, shares his personal and professional insights on navigating high-pressure situations with ADHD.

We explore the challenges and strengths of neurodivergence in the field, discuss the importance of self-awareness and support systems, and offer practical advice for individuals and organizations.

If you've ever wondered about neurodivergence, either as a first responder or a spouse, this episode is for you.

LEARN MORE ABOUT JAMES + STAYFIT4DUTY

Website: www.stayfit4duty.org

Instagram: @stay_fit4duty

Media Mentioned During This Episode

ADHD 2.0

Dirty Laundry