What if the most resilient people aren’t the ones who bounce back quickly—but those who allow themselves to break, feel, grieve, and still move forward?

In this heartfelt episode, we explore tragic optimism—a powerful reframe introduced by Viktor Frankl—and how it allows us to hold both pain and hope without bypassing either. You’ll learn how real resilience comes not from fixing or rushing, but from the ability to live with the full truth of what is and keep going anyway.

We’ll explore:

• Why “bouncing back” is a cultural myth

• What tragic optimism really means (and what it’s not)

• The nervous system’s role in resilience and meaning-making

• The 3 Ps of pessimism—and how to unlearn them

• Practical tools to regulate your body, reframe your thoughts, and hold space for grief and growth at once

This is your invitation to stop striving to return to “how things used to be”—and instead, build capacity to bounce forward with wisdom, gentleness, and courage.

Timestamps:

00:00 – Resilient people aren’t the fastest to recover

06:55 – When Breath Becomes Air & the phrase “devastatingly beautiful”

10:14 – What tragic optimism really means (Viktor Frankl)

13:05 – Why it’s not toxic positivity (Brad Stulberg’s take)

15:15 – Introducing learned optimism (Martin Seligman)

17:32 – The 3 Ps of pessimism and how to flip them

20:18 – Why your nervous system must feel safe before optimism is possible

23:12 – You can’t access nuance from a dysregulated state

25:50 – The nervous system’s role in meaning-making

28:36 – Post-traumatic growth: Making meaning, not finding it

31:45 – What it means to hold both pain and hope

33:58 – How to actually practice tragic optimism

36:10 – Step 1: Reframe with “both/and” language

37:15 – Step 2: Befriend your nervous system, not fight it

38:48 – Step 3: Hold space for others with “Tell me more”

40:10 – What resilience really looks like: bouncing forward

41:50 – Why regulating isn’t about avoiding pain—it’s about holding it

43:30 – Final thoughts: You can be devastatingly beautiful too

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If you’ve been calling yourself lazy, unmotivated, or inconsistent, this episode is your wake-up call.

What if the reason you’re stuck isn’t a mindset problem… but a nervous system one? In this deeply validating solo episode, Leah Davidson explores how procrastination, avoidance, and “invisible resistance” are often signs of a protective nervous system, not personal failure.

From ghosting your own business to endlessly “preparing” but never acting, Leah shares powerful insights on how shame, fear, and dysregulation keep you small, and how to reclaim momentum safely, one small step at a time.

Whether you’re an overwhelmed parent, frozen entrepreneur, or helper who can’t seem to help yourself—this episode will help you reframe your “stuckness” and offer a gentler, more effective path forward.

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⏱ Timestamps:

00:00 – Intro: When “cleaning the junk drawer” means something deeper

02:00 – What’s really behind feeling stuck

03:25 – Fear masked as logic: the subtle signs

04:40 – Shame’s quiet whispers and protective disguise

05:52 – The “roommate” analogy for your nervous system

08:10 – The myth of perfection in healing work

10:25 – Real-life examples: coach, parent, student, executive

12:57 – Stuckness ≠ laziness: it’s protection

13:45 – Step 1: Curiosity over criticism

14:45 – Step 2: Get specific about the emotional fear

16:09 – Step 3: Regulate before action

17:10 – The Safety Sequence in practice

17:58 – Step 4: Start with the smallest possible step

19:00 – Step 5: Find your people, especially in messy moments

20:00 – Is it resistance—or redirection?

21:20 – Sustainable change happens at the speed of safety

22:10 – Regulate. Act. Repeat.

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What if being “messy” doesn’t mean you’re disorganized—and clutter isn’t the real issue?

In this episode of the Building Resilience Podcast, I’m joined by organizing coach Tracy Hoth for a powerful reframe on what it really means to be organized. Spoiler: It’s not about color-coded bins or minimalist living. It’s about safety, clarity, and knowing where your stuff is—80% of the time.

We talk about the nervous system side of clutter, why perfection is a trap, and how “messiness” might be a protective response rather than a personal flaw. You’ll walk away with mindset shifts, practical tips (hello, SPASM method!), and a whole new lens on what organized can actually feel like.

If you’ve ever looked at your home, your business, or your life and thought, “I should have it more together by now”—this conversation is for you.

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Timestamps:

00:00 – Welcome + Leah admits she might not be that organized

02:34 – Meet Tracy: An organizing coach with a nervous system twist

05:55 – Why “organized” doesn’t mean minimalist or picture-perfect

09:18 – The 80% Rule: A realistic definition of being organized

12:43 – Leah’s tiny Toronto home vs. American closets

17:05 – You can be organized and have stuff

21:17 – Nervous system links: Why some people need more things to feel safe

24:30 – SPASM: The 5-step framework for organizing

29:49 – The hardest part of getting organized (it’s not what you think)

33:12 – The emotional side of purging (guilt, scarcity, memories)

38:05 – How to set limits without feeling deprived

41:50 – Why baskets and bins aren’t the answer

44:37 – Benefits of organizing: Calm, clarity, confidence

48:30 – Organizing as a nervous system regulation tool

52:11 – What organization reveals about your identity

56:05 – How to break projects into doable steps

59:40 – Is your “mess” actually protecting you?

01:02:55 – Where to start: Mindset before method

01:05:23 – Final takeaways + how to work with Tracy

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That voice in your head that says, "Who do you think you are?" The one that shows up right before you do something brave or bold? It’s not a flaw, it’s a signal , and the way you respond to it might be the difference between staying stuck or stepping forward.

In Part 1, Leah Davidson explored where imposter syndrome comes from, how it shows up, and why it’s actually not the enemy. Now, in Part 2, she dives deeper into the how: what those imposter feelings are trying to tell you, how to regulate your nervous system in the moment, and strategies to help you take action even when self-doubt is present.

This isn't about "fixing" imposter syndrome, but understanding its roots in your nervous system's protective responses. Leah guides you through practical, embodied strategies to transform the fear of being "found out" into a powerful catalyst for authentic self-expression and sustainable progress. Remember, confidence isn't a requirement to doing things; it's the result of doing them.

In this episode, you'll learn:

- Why imposter syndrome often signals you're heading in the right direction and doing something that matters to you.

- How to reframe imposter feelings as "data, not drama" by getting curious instead of fighting or believing them completely.

- Practical nervous system regulation techniques like the Safety Sequence, Box Breathing, 5-4-3-2-1 grounding, and Progressive Muscle Relaxation to calm your body and allow clear thinking.

- The crucial difference between eliminating imposter feelings and regulating your nervous system to act effectively while they are present.

- How to build "general competence confidence" by taking small, consistent actions despite uncertainty, proving to yourself that you can handle challenging situations.

The importance of community and seeking examples of others to counteract the isolation imposter syndrome thrives in.

This episode is for anyone ready to move beyond just understanding imposter syndrome and actively build the nervous system resilience needed to thrive in their authentic power.

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Do you ever feel like any minute now, someone’s going to figure out you don’t actually belong, even though you do?

In this episode, Leah reframes imposter syndrome not as a flaw to fix, but as a signal that you’re growing. Through neuroscience, personal reflection, and powerful analogies (yes, including “bicycle face”), she explores the real reason you feel like a fraud—and why it’s actually a good sign.

You’ll learn:

• Where imposter syndrome really comes from

• What your nervous system is doing behind the scenes

• Why new experiences trigger old survival responses

• How neuroplasticity explains the discomfort of growth

• The 5 types of imposter syndrome—and which ones resonate with you

This is part one of a two-part series that will help you stop spiraling and start honoring the discomfort of doing something meaningful.

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⏱️ Timestamps

00:00 – The fear of being “found out”

01:04 – What we’re covering in part one

02:05 – Where imposter syndrome originated

03:18 – The “bicycle face” analogy (and what it means today)

05:09 – What if imposter syndrome is a sign of growth?

05:44 – Your nervous system’s job is survival, not success

06:54 – Neuroplasticity: why growth feels awkward

07:34 – Leah’s personal story: launching her Resilience journal

09:02 – Your body reacts to newness like a threat

10:08 – Your brain is scanning for patterns—and gets anxious without them

11:44 – The 5 patterns of imposter syndrome (by Dr. Valerie Young)

12:00 – #1: The Perfectionist

13:11 – #2: The Expert

14:08 – #3: The Natural Genius

15:20 – #4: The Soloist

16:24 – #5: The Superhero

17:38 – These are survival strategies, not flaws

18:22 – You might show different types in different areas of life

18:33 – A final reframe: imposter syndrome as a growth signal

18:42 – Preview of part two: regulating & taking action

19:01 – Closing

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Do you replay conversations in your head, second-guess your words, or feel a wave of shame from just one comment or look?

You’re not too sensitive and you’re not alone. You’re simply human with a nervous system doing its job to protect you.

In this episode, we unpack why you take things personally and what you can do to shift that response. This isn’t about “toughening up” or just thinking positive. It’s about understanding the neurobiology behind emotional reactions and learning how to regulate your state so you can respond with clarity, not collapse.

🔍 What You’ll Learn:

• How your nervous system interprets disapproval as a threat

• Why “story follows state”—and how to shift both

• The “slime” analogy for handling criticism

• A powerful mindset tool called the “second score”

• How to create emotional space between stimulus and response

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🕰️ Timestamps:

03:27 – Why thinking differently isn’t enough

03:55 – Survival wiring and neuroception

05:20 – Strategy #1: Critique behavior, not identity

06:25 – Separate who you are from what you did

06:56 – Strategy #2: Reframe criticism as feedback

07:44 – The “Slime” analogy for handling feedback

10:02 – Brené Brown’s arena metaphor: who deserves your energy?

10:52 – Not all feedback deserves full volume

11:16 – Strategy #3: Mind reading and nervous system state

12:20 – Story follows state: Team Hyper, Hypo, and Resilient

13:37 – The Safety Sequence: Regulate before you reframe

14:27 – Strategy #4: Track and anticipate your personal triggers

15:12 – Strategy #5: Validate your emotions first

16:07 – Strategy #6: The Second Score – how you respond matters

18:19 – Criticism as a growth opportunity

18:40 – Final thoughts: It’s not a mindset flaw—it’s your nervous system

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You know that moment when someone says something small, but your reaction feels huge? Like, your heart’s racing, your mind is spiralling, and you’re suddenly questioning everything?

Or maybe you lose it, and then after think "Oof, where did that come from?"

(Or I've often seen others lose it and also wonder, "Oof, where did that come from!")

One of my clients recently asked a question that I know so many of us have wrestled with:

"If something triggers me today, how do I know if I'm just reacting from an old wound - or it something's actually not ok right now?"

Yes. Yes. YES.

That’s exactly what this week’s episode of the Building Resilience podcast is all about.

We’re diving into:

* Why your nervous system doesn’t do timelines

* How “story follows state” (and what that really means)

* 6 powerful tools to help you sort out what’s now and what’s then

* And how to bring compassion no matter what you find

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Have you ever felt yourself pulling away right as things started going well? You finally feel joy, connection, or success—and suddenly you sabotage it, shut down, or spiral. You’re not broken. You’ve just hit your nervous system’s upper limit.

In this episode of the Building Resilience Podcast, Leah Davidson explores why so many of us unconsciously resist the very things we want—and how to shift that. Self-sabotage isn’t a failure of discipline—it’s a brilliant act of protection when our body doesn’t feel safe holding more.

Through nervous system science and real-life examples, Leah walks you through 10 powerful strategies to expand your capacity, calm the fear of goodness, and stop pulling back when it matters most.

This episode will help you:

✔ Understand the root of your self-sabotage (and stop blaming yourself)

✔ Rewire your nervous system to feel safe with ease, success, love, and rest

✔ Recognize the subtle ways your body says “too much”

✔ Use micro-moments and bottom-up tools to build real resilience

✔ Expand your emotional capacity without triggering collapse

This episode is for anyone who’s ready to grow—but wants to do it in a way that’s gentle, embodied, and truly sustainable.

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⏱ Timestamps:

00:00 – Do You Sabotage the Good Stuff?

00:43 – Welcome to Episode 231: What’s Really Behind Resistance

01:12 – Sabotage Is Protection in Disguise

02:01 – The Body’s Response: “Too Fast, Too Far, Too Unfamiliar”

02:49 – The Hidden Beliefs That Keep Us From Expanding

03:48 – Why You Can’t Think Your Way Into Safety

04:30 – Resistance Isn’t a Motivation Problem—It’s a Mismatch

05:37 – Strategy 1: Get Curious With the Part That’s Afraid

06:48 – Strategy 2: Anchor Safety in Small Doses

07:55 – Strategy 3: Let Yourself Hold the Good Just a Beat Longer

08:49 – Strategy 4: Practice Safe Exposure to Joy

10:03 – Strategy 5: Expand Through Creative Expression

10:49 – Strategy 6: Use Identity Work to Reinforce Safety

11:46 – Strategy 7: Regulate Before You Strategize

13:01 – Strategy 8: Slow Down Your Intake

14:25 – Strategy 9: Stay Connected While Growing

15:14 – Strategy 10: Be Gentle With Your Nervous System

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