If you've ever left a doctor's office or professional meeting feeling unheard—or like you were the problem instead of the person needing help—this one's for you.

Ever found yourself nodding politely while an expert dismissed your concerns?
You walked in hoping for support, but left doubting your instincts, downplaying your pain, and questioning your right to speak up.

I've been there too. And so have many of my clients.

In this episode, I share a personal story (yep, it involves a root canal) and a powerful client transformation that both reveal what really happens when we outsource our voice, and how to take it back.

You'll hear what happens when ego gets in the way of expertise, how to stay calm when you feel yourself spiraling, and the one golden question that can transform a defensive conversation into a collaborative one.

Whether you're dealing with a doctor, a lawyer, a therapist, or a coach—this episode is your reminder: you're the client. You're allowed to ask questions. You're allowed to be heard.

And you don't have to blow up or shut down to get your needs met.

• Why you freeze or go quiet in high-stakes conversations

• What to do when an expert's ego starts to take over

• How to use "the golden question" to reset the room

• A real client script for communicating clearly and calmly

• How to shift from emotional reactivity to empowered communication

• The power of pausing - and how it can bring everyone back into the present

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And I'm here with you every step of the way.

If you've ever made a big life choice… then second-guessed it because of someone else's opinion? This one's for you.

We all want to make the right choice.
The smart choice. The one that keeps us safe, successful, secure.

But what if the voice in your head saying "play it safe" isn't even your voice at all?

In today's episode I am joined by returning guest and financial planner Frank Iozzo. Together, we explore what really happens when we outsource our thinking - and the emotional cost of handing our decision-making power over to other people's headlines, opinions, and fears.

You'll hear why following blanket money advice (even from big names like Dave Ramsey) might not work for you, and what it looks like to reclaim your gut instinct, ask better questions, and choose what's right for you - not your parents, your neighbours, or the algorithm.

This isn't just about money. It's about your life. Your values. Your voice.

If you've been living by other people's rules, without even realising it, this is your invitation to pause and come home to your own.

What you will hear about:

• Why even well-meaning advice can lead you away from yourself

• How to tell the difference between fear-based decisions and informed ones

• Frank's honest take on why "all debt is bad" doesn't hold up

• The emotional pressure behind financial decisions (like buying a home or sending your kids to college)

• How to spot when you're seeking advice… just to avoid responsibility

• What it means to reclaim your gut wisdom - and why it's so needed now

The next time you feel pulled to follow someone else's advice, pause and ask:
Is this true for me? Or just familiar?

Then take one small step toward your own clarity.

Resources & Links:

If you missed Franks last two episodes you can check them out now:

Episode 40 - Tackling College Debt: Beyond Price Tags and Prestige

https://jennymcoaching.com/episode40/

Episode 43 - Drowning in Debt? How to Take Back Control Before It's Too Late

https://jennymcoaching.com/episode43/

Frank will be back, so if there is a question you would like to ask him, you can DM me on Instagram @jennymcoaching or email me at jenny@jennymcoaching.com
or DM me on Instagram with the word "MONEY".

Connect with Frank

Make sure you are following Frank on LinkedIn @Frank-Iozzo or check out his webiste https://www.fmifinancial.com/

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Before You Go

You don't need fixing - you just need tools. And I'm here with you every step of the way.

This episode was produced by Key Step Support - www.keystepsupport.com

Your people pleasing isn't a personality trait.

It's a survival strategy you learned long before you ever realised you were doing it.

In this episode, I take you right into the early moments where people pleasing begins, how those habits harden over time, and the emotional cost of performing calm on the outside while falling apart inside.

I share my story from childhood stage school to years of performing for approval, to losing myself again after moving to America. You'll hear how the cracks finally pushed me toward habit change coaching and the tools that helped me rebuild my voice, my self-trust and my emotional regulation one pause at a time.

If you've ever wondered why you swallow your truth, overextend yourself or explode over tiny things, I walk you through the exact tools that changed my life and the lives of my clients.

These are the practices that help you shift the cycle of trigger → react → regret into trigger → pause → respond.

And if you're tired of performing, pleasing or pretending, there's one small challenge at the end of the episode that can shift everything.

"People pleasing isn't who you are, it's what you learned." – Jenny Maxwell

You'll hear about:

• Why people pleasing begins so young
• Childhood rules that shape lifelong behaviour
• Performing for approval and its hidden cost
• Becoming everyone's person after moving abroad
• Finding purpose in non-profit work
• The moment coaching changed everything
• Rebuilding self-trust and emotional regulation
• Learning to pause before reacting
• Setting boundaries without guilt
• A challenge to practice one tiny truth

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Don't Miss the Next Breakthrough

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This is your reminder that you're not too much, and you're not not enough. You are allowed to take up space, to need support, and to rest. And if that feels hard right now, I'm here. You're not alone in this.

Episode produced by Between Tracks Media Productions - https://www.betweentracks.com/

Have you ever tried to help someone you love, only to realise they felt pushed, managed or misunderstood instead?

In this episode, I'm diving into the real reason our "fix it" habits damage connection and what to do instead. This is personal work, practical work and deeply liberating work.

I share a powerful story about a young man who came to a coaching call out of obligation and what happened when I stopped trying to pull clarity out of him and started giving him autonomy instead.

You'll hear why real change never comes from pressure, how to recognise your own emotional patterns and why supporting someone doesn't mean directing their life.

We also explore the two roles many of us fall into: the fixer and the people pleaser. I show you how to slow everything down, build self-awareness and reset old habits in a way that protects connection instead of destroying it.

If you've been feeling over responsible, overextended or overlooked, this conversation will hit home and help you change the pattern… starting today.

And there's one simple question in this episode that can instantly reset any conversation…listen to find out what.

"Support creates connection. Pressure destroys it." – Jenny Maxwell

You'll hear about:

• Why fixing others lands as control
• Coaching without consent
• The cost of people pleasing
• What creates real autonomy
• How stress blocks clarity
• Pacing change in relationships
• Questions that support not pressure
• Resetting boundaries gently
• How to stop being over responsible
• Tools for both fixers and pleasers

Press Pause:

https://jennymcoaching.thrivecart.com/presspause/

Your Anytime Reset:

https://jennymcoaching.thrivecart.com/youranytimereset/

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Website - https://jennymcoaching.com/

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Before You Go

This is your reminder that you're not too much, and you're not not enough. You are allowed to take up space, to need support, and to rest. And if that feels hard right now, I'm here. You're not alone in this.

Episode produced by Between Tracks Media Productions - https://www.betweentracks.com/

Let's be honest: we've all done it. Given one kid more grace than the other, bent the rules for someone we like, cut a team member extra slack because it's easier.

You tell yourself it's no big deal, but here's the truth: every time you do that, somebody else feels it.

In this episode, I'm pulling back the curtain on favouritism and how it shows up everywhere, from guilt parenting at home to people pleasing dynamics at work. I share a personal story about noticing this pattern in my own childhood and explain why favouritism isn't about bad intentions. It's about blind spots, stress responses and emotional avoidance.

Whether you're a parent constantly giving one child more attention, a manager who keeps going to the same reliable employee, or a teacher who unconsciously praises the same students, this episode will help you understand the ripple effects of these patterns. I'll walk you through practical tools like the fairness tracker, family balance check and awareness audit so you can start leading with true equity.

Ready to stop operating from comfort and start building real connection through fairness?

Let's break the cycle together.

"Favouritism is guilt disguised as grace" – Jenny Maxwell

You'll hear about:

· Why favouritism breeds resentment and disconnection everywhere

· How guilt parenting creates invisible tension at home

· The stress response that makes us play favourites

· What happens when one child feels never good enough

· How teachers and coaches leave lasting marks on kids

· The fairness tracker for recognizing your whole team

· Family balance checks to ensure everyone feels seen

· Speaking up when you're the one feeling overlooked

· The appreciation framework for calm, clear communication

· Why fairness takes courage and calling yourself out

Press Pause:

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Your Anytime Reset:

https://jennymcoaching.thrivecart.com/youranytimereset/

1:1 Coaching Book a call:

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Website - https://jennymcoaching.com/

Don't Miss the Next Breakthrough

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Whether you're a mom, a partner, or someone supporting a loved one through postpartum, please share this episode with someone who needs to feel less alone. A problem shared is a problem halved.

Before You Go

This is your reminder that you're not too much, and you're not not enough. You are allowed to take up space, to need support, and to rest. And if that feels hard right now, I'm here. You're not alone in this.

Episode produced by Between Tracks Media Productions - https://www.betweentracks.com/

Depression isn't something you "get over." You learn to live with it.

These were the words my therapist told me that changed everything.

That realisation shifted how I approached every emotional storm that's come since, especially this new one: perimenopause.

In this episode, I open up about what it's really like when your hormones start rewriting the rules. From 2am wake-ups and brain fog to guilt and overwhelm, I share the small, doable steps that are helping me find balance again, and how you can too.

I share why emotional awareness is the missing piece in this conversation, how to support yourself (and others) through hormonal changes, and why the truth habit matters more than ever when your body feels out of sync.

If you've ever thought "what the hell is wrong with me?" or if you love someone who's asking that this one's for you.

"You're not broken. It's just chemistry" – Jenny Maxwell

You'll hear about:

• Why hormonal imbalance isn't a character flaw
• How depression and perimenopause overlap
• The truth about the "I'm fine" lie
• Practical ways to rebalance mind and body
• How men can support women through hormonal shifts
• Small daily anchors that restore calm

Press Pause:

https://jennymcoaching.thrivecart.com/presspause/

Your Anytime Reset:

https://jennymcoaching.thrivecart.com/youranytimereset/

1:1 Coaching Book a call:

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Connect with me:

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Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/jennymcoaching/?hl=en

Website - https://jennymcoaching.com/

Don't Miss the Next Breakthrough

Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify so you never miss a reset moment. And if this episode spoke to you, would you leave a quick review? It helps more women find the tools they didn't know they needed.

Whether you're a mom, a partner, or someone supporting a loved one through postpartum, please share this episode with someone who needs to feel less alone. A problem shared is a problem halved.

Before You Go

This is your reminder that you're not too much, and you're not not enough. You are allowed to take up space, to need support, and to rest. And if that feels hard right now, I'm here. You're not alone in this.

Episode produced by Between Tracks Media Productions - https://www.betweentracks.com/

Ever caught yourself saying "I'm fine" when you're anything but?

In this episode, I unpack the quiet, everyday lies we tell to keep the peace and how they quietly teach us to hide what we really feel.

From the "thank you I love it" moments at Grandma's house to the "just be polite" white lies we tell our kids, I reveal how these tiny habits of dishonesty shape our emotional reactions and communication patterns.

You'll learn how to trade comfort for clarity, guilt for growth, and how to speak the truth calmly and confidently without blowing up, backing down, or overexplaining.

If you're ready to stop performing "fine" and start showing up real, this episode will help you take the first step.

Because peace doesn't come from pretending; it comes from honesty

"Your truth isn't too much, it's your power." – Jenny Maxwell

You'll hear about:

· Why we learn to tell little white lies

· How politeness turns into people-pleasing

· The hidden pressure of "money lies"

· What honesty really means in daily life

· How to use the trigger → pause → respond framework

· Replacing guilt with calm communication

· How small truths create big change

Press Pause:

https://jennymcoaching.thrivecart.com/presspause/

Your Anytime Reset:

https://jennymcoaching.thrivecart.com/youranytimereset/

1:1 Coaching Book a call:

https://calendly.com/jennymcoaching/initial-call?month=2025-09

Connect with me:

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Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/jennymcoaching/?hl=en

Website - https://jennymcoaching.com/

Don't Miss the Next Breakthrough

Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify so you never miss a reset moment. And if this episode spoke to you, would you leave a quick review? It helps more women find the tools they didn't know they needed.

Whether you're a mom, a partner, or someone supporting a loved one through postpartum, please share this episode with someone who needs to feel less alone. A problem shared is a problem halved.

Before You Go

This is your reminder that you're not too much, and you're not not enough. You are allowed to take up space, to need support, and to rest. And if that feels hard right now, I'm here. You're not alone in this.

Episode produced by Between Tracks Media Productions - https://www.betweentracks.com/

Have you ever walked away from a conversation thinking "why didn't I say anything?"

Then you replay it over and over, feeling frustrated and stuck.

I've been there. For years, I thought my husband just didn't care enough or understand me, while he was quietly carrying his own invisible load, afraid to speak up for fear of judgment.

In this episode, I'm sharing what happens when honesty disappears from our relationships. When men shut down to avoid conflict and women get louder trying to fix things, both people end up feeling unseen and alone. I'll walk you through the pattern I lived for years: the silent resentment, the passive aggression, and the moment everything shifted when I learned to trade judgment for curiosity.

You'll hear a powerful story from one of my male clients about connecting with his nine-year-old son in a way he never thought possible. I'm also sharing the uncomfortable truth about playing the blame game and what happens when we stop assuming everyone else needs to change and start looking at our own behaviour first.

By the end, you'll have simple action steps for both sides to start rebuilding trust today. Because when you tell the truth, even when it's uncomfortable, you take the mystery out of the situation.

What's left? Clarity, calm, and real connection.

"Peace doesn't come from silence. It comes from speaking truth." - Jenny Maxwell

You'll hear about:

· Why men often shut down instead of speaking up

· How I made it hard for my husband to share his struggles

· Trading judgment for curiosity in every conversation

· A client's breakthrough moment with his nine-year-old son

· The invisible loads both partners carry without realizing it

· Why playing the blame game keeps you stuck

· What men wish they could say but rarely do

· How to make it easier for loved ones to open up

· Simple action steps for both men and women

Press Pause: https://jennymcoaching.thrivecart.com/presspause/

Your Anytime Reset: https://jennymcoaching.thrivecart.com/youranytimereset/

1:1 Coaching Book a call: https://calendly.com/jennymcoaching/initial-call?month=2025-09

Connect with me:

LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/jennymaxwell-leadership-coach-replacemicromanagement/

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/jennymcoaching/?hl=en

Website - https://jennymcoaching.com/

Don't Miss the Next Breakthrough

Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify so you never miss a reset moment. And if this episode spoke to you, would you leave a quick review? It helps more women find the tools they didn't know they needed.

Whether you're a mom, a partner, or someone supporting a loved one through postpartum, please share this episode with someone who needs to feel less alone. A problem shared is a problem halved.

Before You Go

This is your reminder that you're not too much, and you're not not enough. You are allowed to take up space, to need support, and to rest. And if that feels hard right now, I'm here. You're not alone in this.

Episode produced by Between Tracks Media Productions - https://www.betweentracks.com/