Ever found yourself spiralling over something that hasn't even happened yet?

You're not alone. Sometimes, the most stressful part of change isn't the event itself, it's the anticipation. That space where nothing's happened yet, but your mind is running worst-case scenarios on a loop.

In this episode, I'm sharing three specific tools that helped me move through one of those seasons: the weeks leading up to my son Jonah's big move to Los Angeles. While I was thrilled for him, I also felt completely ungrounded. And it wasn't the day he left that was hardest; it was the waiting.

If you've ever micromanaged your way through stress, replayed conversations in your head, or mistaken anxiety for intuition… this conversation is going to help you soften your state, so your thoughts and actions can follow.

This episode will help you:

• Break the habit of managing everyone else's emotions just to feel safe

• Interrupt the mental dress rehearsals that keep you stuck in worry

• And most importantly, get clear on what actually helps you find calm

What You'll Learn / Episode Takeaways:

• The #1 reason anticipation often feels worse than the actual event

• Why anxiety isn't always intuition—and how to tell the difference

• 3 tools to calm your state when you're spiralling:

1. Breathe differently (the 5-5-7 method I swear by)

2. Move your body (even in winter!)

3. Talk it through with someone safe

• How the "pause before strategy" changed the way I parent (and coach)

Why your state of being comes first, and how everything else flows from there

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You don't have to fix yourself. You just need tools.
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Be gentle with yourself. I'm rooting for you.

When rage is how you survive, what happens when it stops working?

If you've ever felt like you had to stay angry to stay safe, this episode is going to hit close to home.

In Part 2 of my powerful conversation with Tommy Morris, we dive deeper into the emotional roots of addiction and the real work of recovery. This isn't about quick wins or clean timelines. It's about showing up for your life when your nervous system is screaming no. It's about choosing vulnerability over violence. It's about healing the parts of you that still think they're unlovable.

Tommy doesn't hold anything back. From addiction and shame to leadership and service, his story is both brutal and beautiful, and it might just be the mirror you didn't know you needed.

If you're in the thick of it right now, or loving someone who is - press play. There is a way through.

What You'll Learn in This Episode:

• Why rage often masks deep self-hate, and how to break the cycle

• The emotional toll of working in high-pressure, high-stakes environments

• What real support in recovery actually looks like (hint: it's not a hashtag)

• How Tommy uses his past to lead with fairness, compassion, and no bullshit

• Why "attraction, not promotion" works - especially in recovery communities

• One small moment of support that changed someone's life forever

Resources & Links:
Need support with addiction or recovery? You are not alone. Start here:

Narcotics Anonymous - https://na.org
Alcoholics Anonymous - https://aa.org

Also, don't miss part 1 and part 2 - Episode 58 and Episode 59

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You don't need to be perfect. You don't even need to have it all figured out. You just need the right tools and people who won't flinch when it gets messy. I'm here. And I'm not going anywhere.

This show is produced by Key Step Support - www.keystepsupport.com

What if the first voice you hear in the morning tells you you're worthless?

This episode goes beyond addiction, into belonging, rage, and the fight to feel worthy.

Tommy Morris returns for part two of our raw, real, and transformational conversation and this time, we're diving into the messy middle of recovery. The shame. The resistance to love. The desperate need to belong.

If you've ever woken up with a heavy head and thought, "What am I even doing here?" this episode is for you.

We're talking about what it really means to heal the beliefs that kept you stuck. The ones that say you're unlovable, unworthy, too much. And we're walking straight into the tender truth: that you can build new belonging. But only when you're brave enough to let people in.

Tommy doesn't hold back about the rage, the knee-jerk reactions, the moment he nearly became a pimp (yes, really), and how picking up the phone saved his life. Again and again.

I'll be honest, this one gave me goosebumps.

In part two of my conversation with Tommy, we move from chaos to clarity. From self-pity as a comfort blanket to the unshakable power of human connection.

You'll hear how Tommy rewrote the story of who he thought he had to be - tough, invulnerable, always on guard and learned to accept love, even when it made him squirm.

We talk about his daily rituals, the friends who became family, and why saying "I'm lonely" can be the most courageous thing a person in recovery will ever do.

This isn't just about addiction, it's about identity, trust, and learning how to belong without betraying yourself.

If you're in a funk, spiralling in your head, or scared to reach out, this episode will meet you where you are and remind you: you're not alone. And you never have to be again.

What You'll Learn:

• How to catch your thoughts before they spiral into shame

• What real support looks like and why it often starts with strangers

• The surprising reason we resist affirmation (even when we crave it)

• Why old habits feel like safety, and how to build new 'warm blankets'

• How group belonging can rewire your relationship with trust

• The mindset shift that helps you trade judgment for curiosity

Resources & Links:
Need support with addiction or recovery? You are not alone. Start here:

Narcotics Anonymous - https://na.org
Alcoholics Anonymous - https://aa.org

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"I cried listening to Tommy's story. The honesty hit me in the gut, I felt less alone."

This is your reminder that you don't need fixing, you just need tools. And I'm here with you, every step of the way.

This episode was produced by Key Step Support - www.keystepsupport.com