If you're exhausted from giving too much, fixing too much, and staying too long… this episode will show you what's really driving it - and how to take your energy back.

"I'm so tired of wasting time." That's how this conversation started.

But here's the truth… it wasn't about time at all.

It was about the hidden habit so many of us are stuck in, overexplaining, overgiving, and over-participating in situations that were never ours to carry in the first place.

Maybe you recognise it…
You answer once, but then you explain it again.
You say no, but then soften it with a long justification.
You're ready to leave, but you stay, just in case.

Not because you have to…
But because something in you feels safer staying than leaving.

In this episode, I walk you through a real client session where we uncovered what was really going on underneath the frustration and how one small shift changed everything.

Because this isn't about becoming cold or uncaring.
It's about recognising where your energy is leaking… and learning how to choose differently.

If you've ever felt drained, resentful, or stretched too thin, this episode will help you see why.

And more importantly… what to do about it.

What You'll Learn

• Why overexplaining is often rooted in fear, not logic

• How to catch yourself before you slip into "fixer mode"

• The hidden emotional drivers behind people-pleasing habits

• How to pause in the moment and ask, "Is this mine to carry?"

• Simple ways to say no (without guilt or over-explaining)

• How to stop managing everyone else and start leading yourself

1:1 Coaching with me
If this episode hit close to home, this is exactly the work we do together.

I have one space open this month for private coaching.

This is a calm, supportive space to understand your reactions, shift your habits, and start showing up in a way that feels clear, confident, and in control.

Contact me through my website https://jennymcoaching.com/contactme/ or you can DM me @jennymcoaching

What my clients say

"Working with Jenny helped me realise how much energy I was giving away without even noticing. I feel calmer, clearer, and finally back in control of my time."

If you're enjoying the podcast, I'd love if you left a review or shared it with someone who needs to hear this.

This is your reminder, you don't need to do more, explain more, or carry more.

You just need the awareness to choose differently.

And I'm right here with you every step of the way.

Do you ever feel like you're walking on eggshells around people… constantly overthinking what you said… or trying to keep everyone happy so nobody gets upset with you?

Maybe you replay conversations in your head.

Maybe you feel responsible for fixing everyone's problems.

Or maybe no matter how much you give, it still never feels like enough.

If that sounds familiar, this episode will feel very personal.

Because the truth is, people pleasing and anxiety in relationships rarely start with other people.

They usually begin with one quiet belief running in the background:

"I'm not good enough."

In this episode, I take you inside a real coaching session with a client who was feeling anxious and overwhelmed in their friendships. What we uncovered together is something so many people struggle with, the deep fear of disappointing others.

And when that belief is driving your behaviour, you end up:

• Overexplaining yourself

• Managing other people's emotions

• Trying to control situations that were never yours to control

But once the inner belief shifts, everything else begins to change.

Your relationships feel different.
Your confidence grows.
And the pressure to constantly prove yourself starts to disappear.

This episode will help you understand why people pleasing happens — and how inner game work is what truly changes your outer world.

What You'll Learn in This Episode

• Why people pleasing is often rooted in fear, not kindness

• The hidden belief that fuels anxiety in friendships and relationships

• How childhood patterns shape the way you seek approval today

• Why trying to control other people's emotions creates exhaustion and stress

• How shifting your inner narrative changes your relationships naturally

• The mindset shift that helps you move from fear to self-trust

Work With Me 1:1

If you recognised yourself in this episode and you're ready to go deeper, I currently have one space open for private 1:1 coaching this month.

This work isn't about fixing you, because you're not broken.

It's about slowing things down enough to understand what's really happening underneath your reactions, so you can respond differently with more calm, clarity, and confidence.

If you're curious about working together, you can reach out through the contact form in the show notes and we'll simply have a conversation to see if it's the right fit.

Remember

Most people spend their lives trying to control the outside world.

But the real shift happens internally.

When your inner game becomes stronger, your outer world starts to change too.

And that's where real freedom begins.

This podcast is produced by www.keystepsupport.com

You're not procrastinating.
You're protecting.

If you've been waiting to feel ready, confident, or certain before you speak up, post the thing, set the boundary, or have the conversation, this episode will gently call you forward.

In this episode of Who Do You Think You Are Talking To, I break down how perfectionism, overthinking, and procrastination are often rooted in emotional protection, not ambition.

If you've been stuck in cycles of rehearsing conversations, delaying decisions, or trying to "get it right" before you move, I'll show you how to shift from reacting to responding so you can stop overthinking and start participating in your life.

This is about building emotional awareness, communicating calmly, and letting go of the need to control how everything lands.

What You'll Learn

• Why perfectionism is really about avoiding uncertainty

• How to stop replaying conversations in your head

• The difference between reacting and responding

• A simple phrase that instantly shifts difficult conversations

• How to tolerate discomfort instead of delaying your life

• Why personal growth fuels confidence (not the other way around)

Resources

If this episode hit home and you're ready to work on your emotional reactions, communication patterns, or perfectionism more deeply - contact me directly to learn about my 1:1 coaching services.

https://jennymcoaching.com/contactme/

We'll slow it down, untangle the triggers, and help you respond instead of react.

Remember

You can't control how something lands.
You can only control how honest it feels when it leaves you.

You don't need to be perfect to move forward.
You just need permission.

This episode was produced by www.keystepsupport.com