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This week, I'm bringing back one of my favorite episodes because its message is just as relevant today as when I first recorded it.

You've decided to quit porn. You're feeling motivated, you've set your goals, and you're ready to change. But then an urge hits, and suddenly all that determination feels a lot harder to hold on to.

What do you actually do in that moment?

In this rebroadcast of Unhooked, I break down eight practical strategies for dealing with cravings, including how to make urges less likely to arise and what to do when they show up anyway.

One of the biggest mistakes people make in recovery is relying entirely on willpower. But lasting change isn't about fighting every urge that comes your way. It's about creating an environment that supports your goals while developing the ability to experience cravings without automatically acting on them.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• How to identify your personal triggers and change the routines that keep pulling you back toward porn
• Why simple changes to your environment, including where you keep your phone, can make recovery easier
• How mindfulness creates space between experiencing an urge and choosing what to do next
• What urge surfing is and how to practice it without fighting or suppressing your cravings
• When to use physical movement, cold showers, or support from another person to get through a difficult moment

The goal isn't to spend the rest of your life avoiding temptation. It's to build the freedom to choose how you respond, even when an urge is strong.

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What happens when something you turn to for pleasure slowly starts shaping the way you see yourself, your relationships, and the world around you?

In this reshare from Wake Up with Marci, I sit down with Marci Hopkins to share a part of my own story that changed the direction of my life.

On the outside, things were going well. I had good grades, friends, and plenty of opportunities ahead of me. But privately, I was struggling with porn addiction, constantly chasing pleasure, and becoming increasingly dissatisfied with what I already had.

Then one day, walking down the street in my early twenties, I had a realization that scared me. I could suddenly see the kind of man I was becoming, and I knew I didn't want that future.

That moment led me to question everything I thought I knew about happiness, fulfillment, and what it actually means to be free.

In this episode, we explore:

• Why porn can be especially difficult to quit, including the three factors that make it so accessible and habit-forming
• How to recognize the difference between toxic shame that keeps you hiding and healthy remorse that helps you change
• What I learned about happiness and neuroplasticity through Buddhist philosophy, and how it changed my approach to recovery
• Why trying to empty your mind during meditation can actually reinforce self-judgment, and what to practice instead
• What partners often misunderstand about porn addiction, and why understanding the behavior doesn't mean excusing the harm it causes

If you've ever wondered why changing a behavior can feel so difficult, or why getting what you want doesn't always make you happy, I think you'll find something valuable in this conversation.

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Timestamps:

00:00 Jeremy's Story: When Porn Addiction Became a Problem

03:32 Welcome to Wake Up with Marci

05:36 How Jeremy's Porn Addiction Started

08:00 When Porn Began Taking Over His Mind

10:00 The Moment Jeremy Saw Where His Addiction Was Taking Him

12:16 Porn, Alcohol, and Other Forms of Escape16:52 How Porn Changed the Way Jeremy Viewed Women

20:06 When Does Porn Become a Problem?

22:29 The Three A's of Porn Addiction

24:32 Why Porn Can Be So Difficult to Quit

25:45 Understanding the Shame Cycle

29:22 Healthy Shame vs. Toxic Shame

31:27 Moral Shame and Moral Dread

33:19 Trauma, Insecurity, and Filling the Void

35:58 Searching for a Different Kind of Happiness

38:25 How Buddhism and Neuroplasticity Changed Jeremy's Life

41:22 Mindfulness, Meditation, and Recovery

43:51 Meditation as a Gym for the Mind

46:18 Why Meditation Isn't About Clearing Your Mind

47:13 Recovery Is More Than Sobriety

49:10 How to Practice Mindfulness in Everyday Life

52:16 How to Start Meditating

53:03 Building a Practice of Gratitude

55:34 What Partners of Porn Addicts Need to Know

57:35 Porn Addiction as a Coping Mechanism

58:31 Where to Find Jeremy

59:06 You're Not Alone

01:01:29 Jeremy's Closing Message

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In this episode of Unhooked, I sit down with Ben Brown, host of The Shift podcast, to talk about his journey from years of compulsive sex, porn, validation-seeking, alcohol, and drugs into a life of recovery, purpose, and transformation.

Ben shares what his life looked like before recovery, including the constant pursuit of women, escalating porn use, partying, and the feeling that he was becoming someone he thought he needed to be.

We talk about the moments that finally made him realize something wasn't right, including a chance encounter with a stranger who told him how sex addiction had destroyed his life, and the experience that finally pushed Ben to walk into a recovery room.

We also get into what actually helped him change: community, mentors, faith, willpower, small daily habits, and finding something meaningful to put his energy into.

And Ben shares one of the biggest lessons from his recovery: you are not exempt. No matter how much shame you carry or how far gone you think you are, you can still change your life.

In this episode, you'll learn:
- Why addiction can become a way of escaping discomfort and seeking validation
- What finally pushed Ben to seek recovery after years of compulsive behavior
- Why willpower can help in the early stages but isn't enough for long-term recovery
- How small daily wins can build momentum and create lasting change
- Why finding a “mountain to climb” can help redirect sexual and creative energy into something meaningful

Recovery doesn't happen all at once. Sometimes it starts with one small decision, one mentor, one meeting, or simply taking the first step.

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Instagram: @benbrown3000 https://www.instagram.com/benbrown3000/

YouTube: The Shift Podcast with Ben Brown https://www.youtube.com/@theshiftpodcastwithbenbrown

Website: The Shift with Ben Brown https://www.theshiftwithbenbrown.com/

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What if stopping porn isn't actually the thing that creates lasting recovery?

In this episode of Unhooked, I’m resharing a conversation I had on Sam’s Healing Podcast about porn addiction, recovery, and what it really takes to build lasting freedom.

We talk about why porn itself is often not the underlying problem, but instead a way of escaping uncomfortable emotions, stress, loneliness, boredom, insecurity, or other difficult experiences. I also explain why simply chasing a streak or practicing sobriety without doing the deeper inner work can leave the underlying issues untouched.

In this episode, you'll learn:

- Why sobriety alone isn't the same as recovery and why the underlying reasons behind the behavior matter
- How porn can become a coping mechanism for stress, loneliness, boredom, insecurity, and other uncomfortable emotions
- Why I describe meditation as strength training for the mind and how it can help build greater awareness and self-control
- How the Reset → Rewire → Rebuild → Restore framework supports lasting transformation
- Why learning to sit with discomfort instead of escaping it is an essential part of creating real freedom

If you're early in recovery and looking for a clear, grounded overview of what this work actually involves, this is a good place to start.

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Timestamps:

00:00 Why Sobriety Isn’t Recovery

02:59 Welcome to Unhooked

03:37 Introducing Jeremy and Unhooked

04:47 Why I Created Unhooked

06:02 Why Do We Get Hooked on Porn?

09:05 Why Sobriety Alone Isn’t Enough

11:09 Cross-Addictions and Replacing Unhealthy Habits

12:29 Meditation as Strength Training for the Mind

15:23 Different Types of Meditation

17:01 How to Let Go of the Performance Mindset

18:22 Why a Structured Meditation Practice Matters

20:04 The Four Phases of Recovery

21:28 Reset: Getting Clear on Where You’re Going

23:32 Rewire: Using Neuroplasticity for Change

25:04 Rebuild: Changing Your Environment and Habits

26:59 Restore: Building a Life of Fulfillment

28:42 Solitude vs. Isolation

30:14 Why We Run From Unpleasant Experiences

31:56 Learning to Sit With Discomfort

32:56 Why You Have to Take Ownership of Your Recovery

34:21 Can You Really Break Free?

36:27 Where to Learn More About Unhooked

37:21 Sam’s Closing Thoughts

37:56 Final Thoughts

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What does it actually take to heal after infidelity, and why does defensiveness make rebuilding trust so difficult?

In this episode of Unhooked, I sit down with Sam from Sam's Healing Podcast to talk about infidelity, addiction, and what real recovery looks like after betrayal.

Sam shares his own journey after an affair that turned his life upside down. We talk about why radical honesty is the first step toward healing, how defensiveness gets in the way of rebuilding trust, and why taking ownership of your actions matters so much.

We also explore how childhood wounds can shape destructive coping patterns, the role of community and mentorship in recovery, and why healing looks different for every person and relationship.

In this episode, you'll learn:

- Why radical honesty is the first step in recovery
- How defensiveness and blame-shifting get in the way of healing
- The difference between guilt and shame
- Why self-acceptance and accountability go hand in hand
- What recovery looks like for both the unfaithful and betrayed partner
- Why healing takes time and what makes rebuilding trust possible

If you're navigating addiction, infidelity, or the difficult process of rebuilding trust after betrayal, this conversation is for you.

Ready to start your recovery?

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Timestamps:

00:00 Sam's story of despair and recovery

01:39 Episode introduction

03:32 Welcome to Unhooked

04:24 Sam's journey into recovery

08:44 Why radical honesty is the first step

12:53 Becoming a student of recovery and finding support

19:48 Understanding childhood wounds and the roots of addiction

24:08 The turning point: Feeling worthy of love

30:04 Self-acceptance and doing the next right thing

35:33 Balancing self-acceptance with personal growth

40:27 Why people become defensive in recovery

41:56 Shame, guilt, and taking responsibility

45:46 What healing looks like for the betrayed partner

49:59 How long does healing after infidelity take?

52:38 Can couples truly heal after infidelity?

55:34 Where to find Sam

56:57 Closing thoughts

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Jeremy Lipkowitz reshared his appearance on The Therapy Brothers podcast, where Brendan and Tyler Patrick interview him about how meditation and mindfulness can support recovery. Jeremy explains why mindfulness does not have to conflict with religious faith, and why it is better understood as a practical way to train attention, awareness, and intentional choice. He breaks down the space between stimulus and response and how learning to access that space can help interrupt automatic reactions like craving, anger, fear, and judgment. The conversation also explores neuroplasticity and Jeremy’s “meadow” analogy for how repeated thoughts and behaviors strengthen mental pathways over time. They unpack the meaning of equanimity, why groundedness matters when facing both discomfort and temptation, and how even a simple breath-awareness practice can begin strengthening concentration, self-compassion, emotional regulation, and the ability to respond rather than react.

Chapters:

00:00 Why mindfulness matters in recovery

04:10 Welcome to the episode

04:54 Is meditation against religion?

06:40 What mindfulness really is

09:30 The mindset behind mindfulness-based recovery

13:36 How mindfulness helps with urges and reactions

14:14 Neuroplasticity: how the brain changes

17:01 The meadow analogy explained

18:22 What is equanimity?

20:29 How to begin meditating

23:09 Closing thoughts

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Jeremy Lipkowitz hosts Brannon and Tyler Patrick on Unhooked to discuss why sobriety and recovery are not the same thing. The brothers are licensed clinicians with about forty years of combined experience treating porn addiction and betrayal trauma, and they host The Therapy Brothers podcast. They explain why a heavy emphasis on sobriety is a prelude to relapse, why focusing on inputs beats chasing a streak, and why recovery worked for a spouse always collapses. Tyler breaks down their trust equation for rebuilding trust after betrayal: shame resiliency on both sides plus rigorous honesty, empathy, and consistent action over time. They also cover what real humility is, the hero's journey framework behind their men's program, healthy disclosure versus probation officer check-ins, and what a betrayed partner is really asking underneath the questions about details.

Chapters:

00:00:00 The energy that actually sustains recovery

00:01:01 The cave you fear to enter

00:01:50 Episode intro and the Unhooked app waitlist

00:04:35 Welcome Tyler and Brannon Patrick

00:05:42 Taking men from untrustworthy to trustworthy

00:06:55 What twenty years changed about their approach

00:10:32 How each brother found this work

00:14:08 Sobriety versus recovery

00:17:31 The paradox: does that mean relapse is fine?

00:20:28 Guys who do not know their sobriety date

00:22:17 When sobriety becomes a weapon

00:23:38 Trap one: getting humility backwards

00:24:54 Trap two: recovering for your spouse

00:28:31 Resentment, and turning your partner into your god

00:28:57 Why the instinct to perform makes sense

00:30:39 Corrective experiences and the challenges they run

00:35:30 The hero's journey

00:36:25 Tyler's map of energies, from coercion to love

00:39:05 When a man will not step over the threshold

00:42:26 The parable of the snake and the apples

00:44:53 Where rebuilding trust starts: rigorous honesty

00:46:11 When your partner draws a hard line

00:48:39 Disclosure, lines of defense, and check ins that work

00:49:03 The trust equation

00:51:43 What a betrayed partner is really asking

00:52:58 What actually needs to be disclosed

00:56:35 Harnessing sexuality instead of killing it

00:58:30 What they want couples to hear

01:03:03 Where to find Tyler and Brannon

01:03:45 Closing

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Jeremy Lipkowitz hosts Alessandro on Unhooked to discuss his mission of helping men become husbands, fathers, and human beings they admire, inspired by what he lacked in role models and his marriage. Alessandro explains Dr. Arne Rubenstein’s boy-to-man framework, contrasting boy traits like self-centered power, emotional reactivity, blame, and wanting a “mother” with mature ideals such as service to the team, emotional humility, integrity and ownership, and equanimity in relating to the feminine. They explore how Western culture lacks rites of passage, and Alessandro outlines four initiation components: shared stories, challenge, honoring, and vision for the future. The conversation also covers why men avoid ownership, how men’s circles help disclose porn struggles, distinguishing ownership from shame, stream-of-consciousness journaling, and why being a better husband often means reconnecting with oneself while nourishing the household.

00:00 Welcome and Guest Intro

00:32 Mission Beyond Alpha

03:21 Conscious Masculinity Basics

04:22 Boy to Man Framework

10:54 Applying Traits to Marriage

14:11 Understanding the Feminine

17:19 What Initiation Means

19:41 Rites of Passage Four Parts

27:12 Why Ownership Is Hard

30:34 Handyman Trigger Origins

31:54 Owning Your Feelings

32:36 Recovery Check Ins

35:23 Beyond Performative Apologies

36:24 Resistance And Hard Talks

39:16 Mens Circle Confession

41:37 Ownership Versus Shame

42:22 Shoveling The Shit

48:53 Morning Pages Practice

51:29 Stop Appeasing Your Wife

54:51 Mission Nourish Household

58:34 Lightness Without Excuses

01:01:14 Walking Forward Balance

01:04:29 Final Takeaways And Outro

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