For years, I believed there was something fundamentally wrong with me because of my anxiety. I avoided people, made excuses, and hardened myself against the very things I wanted most — connection, friendship, and life itself. In this episode, I share how fearful thinking kept me stuck and the realization that helped me see that I wasn’t broken after all. If you’ve ever wondered, “What’s wrong with me?” this episode is for you.

Perspective: Walking Into the Uncomfortable

Loss has a way of stripping away the noise and leaving only the truth of what actually matters.

I recently lost a dear friend—someone who believed in me long before the books or this podcast existed. Her passing shifted my perspective in a hurry. It reminded me that we can’t control who listens or who understands us; we can only control the act of showing up and putting ourselves out there.

In this episode, I talk about:

• ​ Why "trying" is the only way to truly know.
• ​ The danger of standing outside the life you want, looking through the window but too afraid to open the door.
• ​ Finding the courage to walk into uncomfortable places with your head held high.

Somewhere out there is someone who needs to hear what you’re saying—whether it’s in the next hour or the next year. If you find light in what you’re doing, you’ve done something good.

When it’s time to pack it in, I want to know I tried. I hope this episode encourages you to do the same.

Learn more and read the blog at: trippingovermyself.com



What listeners are saying:

“I love your podcasts!” — danee.marsh This came in after the show unexpectedly charted #1 in Gambia. I’m building this podcast slowly, honestly, and one listener at a time.

Before your week starts, a reminder for anyone who has spent too much time fighting themselves.

For years, I thought staying silent, avoiding people, and handling everything on my own was the safest way to live. Looking back, I realize anxiety slowly became part of my identity—not because it was who I was, but because it was how I learned to survive.

In this short Sunday bonus episode, I share a message I wish I could have given my younger self:

Trust someone.

Don’t be afraid of yourself.

You are not something to fear.

You are something to be loved.

Take care of yourself, and have a great week.

The Spotlight Effect: Why Nobody Actually Cares (And Why That’s Good News)

Do you ever feel like the world is a giant jury and you’re the one on trial? In this episode, Gerard dives into the "invisible committee" we all carry in our heads.

From the paralyzing fear that stopping to re-tie a shoelace while jogging will become "headline news," to the panic of an emergency bathroom break in the bushes, we’ve all been there—thinking every human moment is being recorded by "important people."

The truth? 99% of people are too busy drowning in their own problems to notice yours. Join Gerard as he breaks down the anxiety, the paranoia, and the ultimate freedom of realizing you aren't the center of everyone else's entertainment.

As Gerard says in his book: "If people are talking about you, let it remind you that you’re living a life distinct enough to be noticed. Let that fact—not their opinions—guide you."

Connect with Gerard:

• Website: trippingovermyself.com

• Follow on: TikTok & Facebook

A short Sunday bonus from one of the earliest episodes of the podcast about anxiety, overthinking, and mistaking silence for healing. Sometimes alcohol wasn’t about getting drunk — it was about trying to find relief from the noise inside my own mind.

We only get to live today once. There’s no fast‑forward button on life, and there’s no rewind either. In this episode, I talk about what happens when we keep replaying painful moments, rolling them around until they turn into anxiety. I share how I used to let alcohol do my thinking for me, and what it took to finally reclaim my own thoughts.

Bitterness, jealousy, resentment — those are thoughts we create. And if we can create them, we can release them. The same is true for love, respect, and hope. Our thoughts are interchangeable if we allow them to be.

This episode is about learning to live in the moment, letting go of the replay, and choosing the thoughts that let you breathe. Change your thoughts, and you really can change your life.

Learn more at trippingovermyself.com

A short reflection from the very beginning of this story.

I was thirteen when I first discovered what silence felt like — and I mistook it for peace. Looking back now, I can see how anxiety and alcohol were already shaping each other long before I understood either of them.

Take care of yourself.

Most of the time, you don’t realize you’re helping people while you’re doing it. You’re just trying to stay sober, show up, and do the next right thing. It’s only when you look back that you start to see the impact you’ve had.

In this short episode, I talk about the quiet ways we give back without even knowing it — through responsibility, integrity, and the small choices that make life better for the people around us.

If your life feels small or stuck right now, you might be building something meaningful without seeing it yet. Someone else already feels the difference you’re making.

Take care of yourself. Talk soon.