Summary In this bold and beautiful episode of Thriving Not Surviving, Helen speaks with Crystal Powers, an Elite Courtesan, content creator, and advocate for ethical tech. With honesty and heart, Crystal shares her journey from childhood trauma and emotional struggle to personal liberation, growth, and thriving in her truth. Together, they explore the power of therapy, the importance of forgiveness, and how transformational coaching helped her build emotional resilience and self-worth. Crystal speaks openly about her work, challenging outdated myths about sex work and shedding light on the emotional connection, care, and deep personal boundaries it requires. She also discusses her mission to build tech platforms that prioritise safety, visibility, and empowerment for sex workers, and how creative expression through costume design and content creation — can be healing and freeing.💫 This conversation is packed with insight, warmth, and truth, a call to reclaim your story, follow your calling, and create change from the inside out.

Keywords: Elite Courtesan, healing, trauma, forgiveness, ethical tech, sex work, empowerment, transformation, community, personal growth, safety, boundaries, costume design, emotional connection, myths, coaching, financial independence

Takeaways

• Crystal Powers is an Elite Courtesan offering transformative experiences

• She values sisterhood, support, and community among women

• Her journey from surviving to thriving involved deep personal healing

• Forgiveness became a key to personal freedom

• Therapy and coaching helped her rebuild her life

• Crystal’s tech vision centres on safety and dignity for sex workers

• She creates respectful, conscious adult content

• Visibility and self-acceptance are core to her mission

• Sex work is about connection, boundaries, and empowerment

• Emotional resilience is essential in the industry

• Many sex workers are business owners, creators, and community leaders

• The myths about sex work often fail to reflect lived truth

• Creative work like costume design is a vital outlet and career

• The right resources and planning make entering sex work safer and more empowering

References from Show

https://www.crystallisedpowers.com

Instagram.com/CelestialCoutures

animascoaching.com

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Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussions of grief, baby loss, suicide, and death from illness. Please listen with care.

Keywords: Grief, trauma, healing, loss, psychotherapy, spirituality, rituals, mental health, emotional resilience, PTSD, personal growth, shamanism, somatic healing.

Episode Summary:

In this deeply moving episode of Thriving Not Surviving, Helen Valentino speaks with Maria — a psychotherapist and trauma specialist — about her extraordinary journey through grief, loss, and spiritual transformation.

Over just two years, Maria experienced the deaths of nine loved ones. She opens up about how this intense period of loss impacted her personally and professionally, and how it led her deeper into the realms of ritual, somatic healing, and spiritual exploration.

Together, they explore the multifaceted nature of grief — from the trauma of loss to the gifts that can emerge when we meet death with presence and ritual. Maria offers gentle, embodied wisdom on how to move through grief, the somatic signs of PTSD, and the ways in which childhood trauma can shape our responses to death.

This episode is a tender, honest, and healing space for anyone navigating loss or seeking a deeper understanding of how we honour life — and death.

Takeaways:

• Maria lost nine loved ones in two years

• Grief is a uniquely personal experience that defies a set timeline

• Trauma can open doorways to unexpected spiritual insights

• Rituals help us process grief and honour those who have passed

• Cultural narratives shape how we view and experience death

• Somatic approaches are vital to healing trauma and grief

• PTSD can arise from repeated or complex trauma, not just flashbacks

• Music, nature, and animals can support emotional release and healing

• Grief can trigger unresolved childhood trauma patterns

• Community, compassion, and gentle listening are essential for healing

• Maria’s experiences led her toward shamanism and spiritual practices

• Accompanying someone in their final moments can be a sacred honour

Soundbites:

• "It's like you land on Planet Grief."

• "We don’t have an understanding of death."

• "Ritual gives the soul a language."

• "We need a more somatic approach to healing."

• "PTSD isn’t always loud — sometimes it’s silent and deep."

• "Grief taps into our own patterns and history."

• "It’s about very gentle listening."

References & Contact Info:

🌿 Instagram: @goldenthread.thehive

https://www.soulwave.co.uk/dying-matters

https://wcwaid.co.uk/

https://penhaligonsfriends.org.uk/

https://treglobal.org/

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✨ Episode Description

In this raw and heartfelt episode of Thriving Not Surviving, host Helen Valentino is joined by Andy, a gifted master carpenter and channel for dragon medicine, who shares his extraordinary journey from a high-control religious upbringing to a life of spiritual awakening and healing.

Raised in a fear-based, authoritarian religion, Andy speaks candidly about the mental health crises he endured, the crushing burden of guilt and confession, and the deeply painful experience of being shunned by his community. These events triggered an identity crisis, an experience that, while devastating, became a turning point in his path to self-discovery.

His healing deepened when he reconnected with an old friend and began exploring psychedelics, which opened doors to suppressed emotions and spiritual insight. He found solace and transformation in nature-based spiritual practices, shamanism, and a growing relationship with dragon energy.

Helen and Andy explore themes of emotional healing, masculine and feminine energy balance, and the power of community and ceremony—including the transformative potential of acacia medicine. Andy shares his experiences of channelling dragons, his connection with spirit, and the lessons learned from challenging life experiences.

This episode is a moving conversation about reclaiming identity, breaking free from systems of control, and stepping into one’s true power. It's a powerful reminder that healing is possible, even after deep spiritual wounding—and that every one of us has unique gifts to share with the world.

🧠 Key Takeaways:

• Andy was raised in a fear-driven, high-control religious environment.
• Confession practices were shaming and left lasting wounds.
• He experienced deep mental health struggles, particularly after being shunned.
• Separation from his wife and counselling led to greater self-awareness.
• Psychedelics became a doorway to suppressed emotions and spiritual connection.
• Andy now channels messages from dragons and other spirit guides.
• Nature and shamanic practices were central to his healing.
• The Medicine Festival was a major turning point.
• He emphasises the need for community, trust, and self-empowerment.
• He now holds dragon circles to help others on their spiritual path.
• Living in the present can help alleviate fear of the future.
• Critical thinking and personal truth are vital on the spiritual journey.

🐉 Resources & Mentions:

• Books:
• The Four Agreements – Don Miguel Ruiz
• God: A Human History of Religion – Reza Aslan
• The Sacred Mushroom and the Cross – John Allegro
• Dragon Medicine & Circles:
• www.dragoncircle.co.uk
• IG/YouTube: @wakingupwithdragons
• Acacia Ceremonies:
• www.freespiritexperiences.com/ceromony

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Summary:

In this heartfelt episode of Thriving Not Surviving, Helen Valentino and Eleanor Pool explore the profound power of forgiveness as a pathway to emotional and spiritual healing. They share personal experiences of forgiving themselves and others, highlighting how this practice transforms pain into peace and restores connection to self and community.

Together, they unpack the emotional, physical, and psychological impact of unforgiveness — and why choosing to forgive isn’t about condoning, but about setting ourselves free. They weave science, spirituality, and soul into a conversation that affirms forgiveness as both a practice and a journey.

Listeners will discover tools like the Hawaiian practice of H’oponopono, insights into trauma and conditioning, and the deep link between self-forgiveness and mental health. This is an invitation to meet yourself with compassion, rewrite your inner narrative, and ripple healing into your relationships and wider world.

💛 Online Forgiveness Course: 15th / 22nd / 29th July 2025

💛 In-Person Retreat: Journey to Forgiveness, 29–31 August 2025

Takeaways:

• Forgiveness is a journey, not a one-time act

• Self-forgiveness is essential to healing

• Unforgiveness creates emotional and physical stress

• Forgiveness leads to freedom, not forgetting

• Practices like H’oponopono can unlock deep emotional release

• You can start small and build your forgiveness muscle

• Understanding your triggers helps the healing process

• Childhood conditioning shapes how we forgive

• Compassion towards ourselves expands outward

• Healing ourselves creates healing ripples in our communities

Sound Bites:

• “Self-forgiveness is crucial for healing.”

• “Forgiveness is not about condoning — it’s about freedom.”

• “Hurt people hurt people.”

• “We all just want to be our true selves.”

• “Healing ripples out into our communities.”

• “Everything is happening in divine order.”

• “Forgiveness is a beautiful gift.”

• “It’s about uncovering who we truly are.”

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In this episode of Thriving Not Surviving, Helen Valentino speaks with Rick Kahler — certified Financial Therapist, IFS Practitioner, and pioneer in integrating money and emotional healing. Together, they explore Internal Family Systems (IFS), a model that views every part of us — even the inner critic — as holding good intentions.

Rick shares how IFS transformed his work, offering a compassionate, non-advisory approach that helps clients understand their inner “parts” and gently unburden their emotional wounds. Their conversation spans money scripts (beliefs about money shaped in childhood), financial anxiety, and the truth that healing around money is rarely just about money.

They also touch on Rick’s personal journey parenting through gender transitions — the grief, the growth, and the importance of community support through profound change.

This is a powerful conversation about self-compassion, transformation, and the deep connection between our financial behaviours and the emotional stories we carry — and how we can begin to rewrite them.

🔑 Key Takeaways

• IFS sees all parts as protective, even the ones that cause distress.

• Unburdening in IFS releases inherited or childhood-based beliefs.

• Money scripts often unconsciously shape adult financial behaviours.

• Financial therapy blends practical knowledge with emotional insight.

• Psychodrama offers healing through re-enactment and safe expression.

• Parenting children through gender transition involves grief, growth, and love.

• Self-compassion and community are vital in navigating change.

📖 Referenced Reading

• The Financial Therapy Podcast – It’s Not Just About the Money

• Kahler, R. S., & Glass, M. (2023). The New Kid on the Block: IFS-Informed Financial Therapy. Journal of Financial Therapy, 14(1), 7.

• Kaplan, D., & Kahler, R. (2023). From Financial Conflict to Financial Intimacy: Financial Therapy for Couples through an IFS Lens. Coupleship Publications, LLC.

• Redfern, E., & Foot, H. (2023). Freeing Self: IFS Beyond the Therapy Room – Chapter 6: IFS-Informed Financial Therapy. B.C. Allen Publishing & Tonic Books.

• Advanced Wellbeing, LLC – Explore IFS-Informed Financial Therapy at: Advanced Wellbeing

• Klontz, T., Klontz, B., & Kahler, R. (2008). The Financial Wisdom of Ebenezer Scrooge: 5 Principles to Transform Your Relationship with Money. Health Communications, Inc. Helping you align your financial path with your spiritual and emotional well-being.

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Keywords thriving, resilience, cancer, meditation, circular economy, sustainability, community, personal growth, environmental economics, self-discovery

Show Notes:

In this episode, Helen Valentino speaks with her godson Zac Mitchell, whose remarkable journey of resilience began with a brain tumour diagnosis at age 12, followed by Hodgkin's lymphoma at 19. Zac shares how meditation, travel, and environmental economics have shaped his path, and how his passion for the circular economy and sustainable food systems fuels his vision for a better world.

This is a story of deep healing, personal growth, and what it means to thrive — not just survive — in the face of life's toughest challenges.

🔑 Takeaways:

• Diagnosed with a brain tumour at 12, then Hodgkin’s lymphoma at 19.
• Found resilience through family, education, and self-discovery.
• Travelled Southeast Asia, exploring Buddhism and meditation.
• Meditation became a key pillar of his healing process.
• Studied environmental economics, focusing on sustainability and the circular economy.
• Believes in the power of local communities and food systems to drive change.
• Emphasizes embracing change and finding hope in uncertainty.

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📖 Referenced reading:

Siddhartha - Hermann Hesse

The body holds the score - Bessel van der Kolk

My stroke of insight - Jill Bolte Taylor

Dhamma.org - Goenka vipassana meditation - https://www.dhamma.org/en/index

The Dharma Brothers – Film

Cwm Connell Cottages - https://www.cwmconnell.co.uk/

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Keywords: thriving, surviving, self-discovery, pleasure, relationships, boundaries, sexual confidence, authenticity, personal growth, coaching, emotional healing, self-awareness, communication, trauma, sexuality, self-pleasure, responsibility

Summary: In this lively episode of Thriving Not Surviving, host Helen Valentino sits down with Jen, an international sex and relationship coach, for an open-hearted conversation about self-discovery, emotional healing, and reclaiming authentic pleasure. Together, they explore the connection between personal growth and thriving — not just surviving — in intimacy, relationships, and life.

Jen shares her journey of shedding perfectionism, embracing authenticity, and cultivating sexual confidence. The conversation dives into the vital role of self-awareness, setting healthy boundaries, and taking responsibility for our healing journeys. Helen and Jen also unpack the impact of upbringing on relationship patterns, and the liberating shift from a victim to a creator mindset.

This episode is filled with practical tips, powerful insights, and candid reflections on emotional and sexual empowerment. If you're ready to pull out the weeds from your emotional garden and step fully into your thriving self, this is a conversation you won’t want to miss.

Takeaways:

• Authenticity and gentle challenge are key in relationships.

• Perfectionism fuels anxiety and neglect.

• Studying pleasure transforms our connection with our bodies.

• Boundaries are essential for thriving intimacy.

• Self-love is the foundation of sexual confidence.

• Shame and guilt can block personal growth.

• Healing emotional trauma is vital for true thriving.

• Communication unlocks deeper connection.

• Awareness shifts relationship dynamics.

• Healthy love can feel unfamiliar — and that's okay.

• Emotional patterns are inherited, but healing is our responsibility.

• Shifting from victim to creator mindset is transformational.

• Self-pleasure deepens self-knowledge and desire.

Sound Bites:

• "I realized I had anxiety."

• "I spent a full year studying pleasure."

• "You have to know where your border is."

• "Shame and guilt are massive things."

• "Hurt people hurt people."

• "We need to really try and thrive."

• "There's a process to it."

• "It was all subconscious."

• "Awareness is key."

• "It's not taught."

• "It's our responsibility."

• "We need to get rid of the weeds."

• "This is happening for me, not to me."

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📖 Referenced reading:

Pussy: A Reclamation by Regina Thomashauer

Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski

Come Together by Emily Nagoski

The Power of TED by David Emerald

The School of Womanly Arts: mamagenas.com

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Keywords

thriving, surviving, mental health, spirituality, inner child, racism, screenwriting, personal growth, self-kindness, fear, media representation, historical roots, white supremacy, storytelling, social justice, personal experiences, self-healing, emotional well-being, self-reflection, trauma, compassion, inner peace, empowerment

Summary

In this episode of Thriving Not Surviving, host Helen Valentino welcomes Thandi Lubimbi—a barrister, award-winning screenwriter, and shamanic practitioner. Together, they explore Thandi’s deeply personal journey through mental health struggles, spiritual awakening, and the fight against racism in both the military and the entertainment industry.

Thandi shares how spiritual connection, self-kindness, and embracing her inner child have supported her through life’s darkest moments. She speaks with tenderness and honesty about the strength required to remain gentle in a world that often rewards hardness.

The conversation explores the realities of racism within media and military spaces. Thandi reflects on the challenges of writing about race, the backlash that often follows, and the critical role of authentic storytelling in social justice. Her insights reveal how systemic oppression—rooted in colonialism and white supremacy—still permeates modern institutions, from film sets to healthcare systems.

Thandi also emphasizes the power of personal growth, urging listeners to “tend their own gardens” as a metaphor for healing. By focusing on internal work, we begin to shift our relationships and ripple change outward. Through stories, metaphors, and deeply lived wisdom, Thandi and Helen remind us that small acts of self-reflection and compassion can help us move from survival to thriving.

Takeaways

• Human beings are a Holy Trinity of mind, body, and soul • Spiritual connection can offer strength during hard times • Visualizing the inner child supports deep healing

• Self-kindness is vital for mental health and self-worth • True strength lies in gentleness • Racism in the entertainment industry remains widespread • Self-kindness helps reframe negative self-talk • Facing fears fuels personal transformation • Writing is a powerful tool for storytelling and healing • Racial abuse in the military is often dismissed • White privilege often silences Black experiences • Harmful stereotypes persist in media portrayals • Racism has roots in slavery and colonialism • Racism operates like a pyramid, benefiting the few • Healthcare systems carry legacies of racial injustice • Honest storytelling can shift public perception • We must commit to dismantling racism • Healing ourselves allows us to better support others • Bitterness and hate corrode the soul • Self-reflection fuels personal evolution • Every person has a sacred and unique purpose • Prioritizing self-care strengthens our impact • Healing is a lifelong, courageous process • Compassion for ourselves fosters compassion for others

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📖 Referenced reading:

• Book – Race & Entertainment: Reflections on Racism in Film, TV & The Media by Thandi Lubimbi

• Radio play – Barred written by Thandi Lubimbi & Richard Kurti – BBC Radio 4 – 6th November 2021 – winner of best digital drama at the 2022 New York Festival

• Audible story – The Effect – episode 6 – The series won best podcast at the 2022 New York Festival

• Screenplay – Ghosts of War – Finalist at the 2025 Scriptwriters & Co International Festival

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