In this episode of Thriving Kids, Dr. Dave Anderson is joined by NBC News anchor and Senior National Correspondent Kate Snow for a conversation about journalism, mental health, and the power of telling stories that can reduce stigma. Kate discusses how personal loss shaped her reporting on mental health, as well as suicide prevention, substance use, access to care, and the systems that families often have to navigate during moments of crisis.

In this episode, they cover:

• Why journalists can play an important role in reducing stigma
• What Kate has learned from reporting on teen mental health, substance use, and access to care
• Why transitions or experiencing a loss of purpose can be mental health risk factors
• How young people are broadening conversations about mental health

Key takeaways

• Sharing personal stories about mental health can help people feel less alone and make it easier for them to seek support.

• Suicide loss can be traumatic for an entire family, and talking about it thoughtfully may help reduce shame and stigma.

• Young people may be more open to conversations about mental health than previous generations, but they still need trusted adults and systems that can respond when they ask for help.

Further reading (and viewing)

NBC’s Kate Snow Shares Impact of Her Father-in-Law’s Suicide on Her Family, Today Show

The Link Between Smartphones and Kids' Mental Health, NBC Nightly News
Opioid Crisis: Historic Cape Cod Town Experiencing Staggering Toll, NBC Nightly News

Allegations of Abuse at Home for At-Risk Kids, NBC News

Further reading from the Child Mind Institute

What to Do if You’re Worried About Suicide

In this Q&A episode of Thriving Kids, Dr. Dave Anderson answers listener questions inspired by last week’s conversation with actress and author Busy Philipps about parenting, mental health, technology, and staying actively involved in kids’ lives.

Dr. Dave discusses how parents can stay connected to what kids are seeing on the internet, including how to help them think critically about influencers and what to do when they start wondering if they have ADHD, depression, or another diagnosis based on mental health content they see online. He also explores how ADHD can be missed in girls and high-achieving kids, how to talk with children about scary news and current events, and why building a parent “village” can help families better understand what’s happening socially, online, and at school.

This episode offers practical guidance for staying curious, setting limits, building trust, and helping kids develop the critical thinking skills they need as they grow more independent.

In this episode, Dr. Dave covers:
• How to stay involved in kids’ online lives without becoming “Big Brother”
• Why screen independence should grow through an “I do, we do, you do” model
• How to help kids think critically about influencers and online algorithms
• What to do when kids self-diagnose after seeing mental health content online
• How AI and social media can be useful tools without replacing real support
• Why ADHD is often missed in girls, women, and high-achieving kids
• How to talk with kids about politics, school safety, traumatic upsetting news, and current events

Further Reading
Social Media and Self-Doubt
Does Social Media Use Cause Depression?
Not All Attention Problems Are ADHD
Big Talks

Don’t forget, you can now watch Thriving Kids on Apple Podcasts and our Thriving Kids YouTube channel!

Dr. Dave Anderson sits down with science journalist and author Melinda Wenner Moyer to talk about what kids actually need to cope, connect, and grow up healthy today.

They cover:

• Why letting kids experience big feelings builds resilience
• How listening (not lecturing) strengthens connection
• What parents get wrong about screens and tech
• Why avoiding hard topics doesn’t protect kids
• How everyday conversations shape empathy and judgment

This episode is about practical, research-backed parenting — not perfection.

Further reading

• How Can We Help Kids With Self-Regulation? - Child Mind Institute
• How to Raise Kids Who Aren’t A**holes - Melinda Wenner Moyer
• Hello, Cruel World - Melinda Wenner Moyer

What do I do when my child is anxious — or angry — or just shuts down?

Welcome to Thriving Kids, a new podcast from the Child Mind Institute. Hosted by clinical psychologist Dr. Dave Anderson, each episode shares practical tools and clear answers to tough parenting questions. Always evidence-based and judgment-free, you’ll hear advice from experts and real parents, all focused on helping you raise confident, connected kids.

Subscribe now!

Learn more at childmind.org/podcast.

Part 3 of 3: What actually helps students succeed in college?

In this episode of Thriving Kids, our clinicians offer practical guidance for families preparing for the transition to college. From understanding accommodations to building routines that support mental health, this conversation focuses on actionable steps.

Moderated by Dr. Morgan Eldridge with Dr. David Friedlander and Dr. Adam Zamora, this episode covers:

• Academic supports and documentation

• Counseling centers and mental health care

• Self-advocacy in college

• How parents can support teens' independence

College Readiness Toolkit

Our toolkit has guidance for teens — along with a section for parents — on how to get a good start in college and navigate this important period of building independence.

Download it here: https://childmind.org/topics/college/#toolkit

In this Q&A edition of Thriving Kids, Dr. Dave Anderson answers listener questions following last week’s conversation with Jennifer Wallace on toxic achievement culture and helping kids feel like they matter.

Parents asked practical, hard questions about failure, pressure, motivation, and emotional regulation. This episode focuses on striking a balance — between support and independence, structure and flexibility, and validation and limits.

Questions cover:

• Natural consequences vs. stepping in – Did you rob your child of a lesson by rescuing a forgotten school project? How to decide based on context and stakes.
• Kids who cheat because they hate losing – What’s developmentally normal at younger ages, when rule-following matters for peer relationships, and how to address cheating without turning games into power struggles.
• Paying kids for good grades – Does it increase pressure? How to use rewards thoughtfully and fade them out over time.
• When your child says, “I suck at this” – How to respond to negative self-talk and helping kids move from self-blame to problem-solving.
• The brutal car ride home after a loss – Why “I loved watching you play” can backfire and how to ask your teen what support they actually need.
• When schools make failure feel high-stakes – What to say when mistakes lead to remedial groups or lost electives and how parents can act as “counter-programming” to achievement culture.

Key takeaways:

• There is rarely one “right” parenting move.
• Kids need both scaffolding and space to struggle.
• Pressure affects children differently.
• Validation doesn’t mean fixing feelings.
• Effort matters more than perfection.

This episode is especially helpful if you’re parenting a child who is sensitive to failure, a perfectionist, or feeling overwhelmed by expectations at school or in sports.

Talking to kids about racism and discrimination can feel intimidating. But in this episode of Thriving Kids, Dr. Dave Anderson and Dr. Isha Metzger discuss how to start the conversation early, keep it practical, and support kids in ways that match their age and situation.

What you’ll learn:

• How to convey a clear definition of racism that goes beyond “one person being mean”
• How microaggressions show up in everyday life, even when someone “didn’t mean it”
• Why kids might show stress from experiencing racism through behavior (withdrawal, irritability) or physical symptoms (headaches, stomachaches)
• How to help your child respond if they experience discrimination
• How to teach ally behavior: what to say, when to get help, and why speaking up in the moment matters
• What to do if your child causes harm: Reflect → Repair → Relearn

Key takeaways:

• Start the conversation early and keep it going. Don’t wait for a single “big talk.”
• Use direct, factual language. Kids do better with simple, clear wording.
• Practice a few “in the moment” phrases your kid can actually say, like: “That’s not okay.”
• If your child is targeted: validate first, then problem-solve.
• If your child is the one who said something harmful: stay calm, name the impact, and coach a better next step.

From the episode: M&M exercise

Use a small bag of M&Ms to talk about difference and unfair treatment:

• Observe differences (color, shape, cracked shells)
• Ask: “Are any better than the others?”
• Connect it to how people can get treated unfairly based on how they look
• Keep it simple: same on the inside, differences add value

Tips from the Thriving Kids tip sheet:

1. Talk about it. Kids are likely to encounter racism and discrimination at a young age. Put aside any discomfort and talk about these topics with your kids early and often.
2. Be direct and factual. When you’re explaining racism for the first time, it’s important to use clear, straightforward language.
3. It’s ok to show emotion. When talking with your children about racism or specific events that have happened due to racism, it’s okay to express your own feelings of anger, hurt, or sadness. This helps normalize these reactions and validate what your child may already be feeling.
4. Take a multimedia approach. Share books, movies, TV shows, YouTube channels or anything else with age-appropriate content related to the issues you are trying to tackle. These can provide additional information, context and characters for kids to relate to.
5. Listen and validate. Even young children are perceptive and may be scared or confused by things they’ve seen or heard. Ask open-ended questions and give them plenty of space to answer. Little kids can also express themselves through drawings or acting things out with toys.
6. Teach advocacy. Just as you may have encouraged your child to stand up for friends who are treated unkindly, teach them to speak out if they witness or experience discrimination firsthand – if it is safe to do so.
7. Plan a course of action. There’s nothing worse than feeling helpless, so if your child comes to you with a troubling experience or concern, help them develop a response. Remind them that it’s not always on them to respond, and depending on the situation, there may be reason to make a report with the school or authorities.

Further reading

• Free Guides and Resources – Dr. Isha Metzger
• Positive Parenting, Thriving Kids – Child Mind Institute

In this Q&A follow-up to our conversation with Dr. Rubén Parra-Cardona, Dr. Dave answers eight listener questions about building and maintaining warm, positive relationships with your children, from toddlerhood through the teen years.

He covers questions, including:

- How do I stay present during child-led play when I'm bored out of my mind?

- Can I build a positive bond with a child whose personality clashes with mine?

- How do I stop my "inner drill sergeant" from taking over?

- How do I keep the relationship going when my teen won't talk to me?

0Key takeaways

• Being together is the most important thing. You don't have to be endlessly delighted during child-led play — just showing up can fill their emotional cup.

• It's okay to talk about your differences. When personalities clash, explicitly telling your child "I'm devoted to building our unique relationship" goes further than you might think.

• You can be warm without losing structure. Ditching your “inner drill sergeant” doesn't mean abandoning your values — it's a "yes, and" approach: maintain expectations while opening space for connection.

• Instead of questions, try descriptions. With a silent teen, use behavior descriptions, reflections, and praise instead of peppering them with questions — it resets their expectations and opens the door for genuine conversation.

• Positive Parenting Thriving Kids Curriculum

• Family Resource Center