FEAR-Face Everything and Rise

A listener requested we talk about fear. We feel this when we think something bad is going to, or might happen. Jess talks about where that that fear lives in our brain—in the Limbic region. It does not speak a language there—it messages us with images or sensations. Our brain wants a story and sometimes it confabulates something that could be false. We can change and re-write that story so we don’t get triggered. Cathy talks about fear and how it can get in the way of the rider. She wants to know if there is fear and then it can be talked about. Preparation in our riding and in other things in our life can help us not let the fear take hold and control what we want to do, or how we want to live!

Theme song and host introduction. Jess and Cathy welcome listeners to There You Are, introduce themselves, and share what the show is about and who it's for.

Theme song and closing words from Jess and Cathy, including a call to action to share the episode, leave a review, and tune in next week.

Cathy is a professional at training and teaching the sport of Three Day Eventing. Her website is:

https://www.cwevent.com

Jess is a licenced clinical social worker. She see's clients in her office in the back of the house here at the farm.

Her website is:

https://www.jessicabollinger.com

Cathy and Jess talk this morning about preparation. Preparing correctly helps you live in the moment, knowing that you are ready— Jess is taking her boat, The Relation Ship back to Canada at the end of June. She has made sure the boat was “summerized”—the wheel bearings done on her trailer, and the brakes looked at. Her truck just was serviced. They keep lists of things that need to be done. Cathy is preparing to put out jumps for the MidSouth Horse Trial. She has driven over the land to see the best placement, she has measured the arena for the show jumping. We all have to “think ahead”, do what needs to be done, and that helps us live in the moment, in peace to enjoy it!

Theme song and host introduction. Jess and Cathy welcome listeners to There You Are, introduce themselves, and share what the show is about and who it's for.

Theme song and closing words from Jess and Cathy, including a call to action to share the episode, leave a review, and tune in next week.

Cathy is a professional at training and teaching the sport of Three Day Eventing. Her website is:

https://www.cwevent.com

Jess is a licenced clinical social worker. She see's clients in her office in the back of the house here at the farm.

Her website is:

https://www.jessicabollinger.com

Reunions of our People and Places

It’s Monday, June 1, Jess just had her 50th high school reunion festivities, and Cathy had a weekend Horse Trial at the Indiana Hoosier Horse Park. They talk about the people, and the stories. Cathy has been here in Kentucky for 48 years teaching and training. There is a beauty in knowing people for that many years. Jess graduated from Sacred Heart Academy in 1976. She loved all of the conversations and reconnecting with old friends. There is such a rich history in our lives of the people and the place. Thank you for listening! Please give us a rating, and subscribe! Peace and Love!

Theme song and host introduction. Jess and Cathy welcome listeners to There You Are, introduce themselves, and share what the show is about and who it's for.

Theme song and closing words from Jess and Cathy, including a call to action to share the episode, leave a review, and tune in next week.

Cathy is a professional at training and teaching the sport of Three Day Eventing. Her website is:

https://www.cwevent.com

Jess is a licenced clinical social worker. She see's clients in her office in the back of the house here at the farm.

Her website is:

https://www.jessicabollinger.com

Being Brave comes in all ways

Being brave comes in all forms—Cathy pushing her transmission temperature as she goes up a hill in West Virginia, to riding at upper levels around a cross country course. It could be having that tough conversation, making changes in your life that you have never known before— One thing about it, being brave is contagious. When you are brave it helps all the people around you! Listen up, like, subscribe and share it! You got this! Peace and Love!

Theme song and host introduction. Jess and Cathy welcome listeners to There You Are, introduce themselves, and share what the show is about and who it's for.

Theme song and closing words from Jess and Cathy, including a call to action to share the episode, leave a review, and tune in next week.

Cathy is a professional at training and teaching the sport of Three Day Eventing. Her website is:

https://www.cwevent.com

Jess is a licenced clinical social worker. She see's clients in her office in the back of the house here at the farm.

Her website is:

https://www.jessicabollinger.com

Getting Tools for Life!

It is all about relationship. Jess and Cathy are so grateful to have learned tools that help them. We don’t know what we don’t know! Early in their relationship, when Jess was getting her Masters of Social Work, she learned about the Getting the Love You Want work of Harville Hendrix. She and Cathy went to a weekend workshop in the Maggie Valley of North Carolina. It has given them the tools to have a rich relationship that evolves daily! Jess became certified in that work, and many other modalities to help her clients the most. Cathy talks about Natural Horsemanship and how it helps the relationship with the horse and rider. They can then reach the goals that the rider has. It is all about what we can learn—what tools can you pick up to help you and others? Peace and Love! Subscribe and share!

Theme song and host introduction. Jess and Cathy welcome listeners to There You Are, introduce themselves, and share what the show is about and who it's for.

Theme song and closing words from Jess and Cathy, including a call to action to share the episode, leave a review, and tune in next week.

Cathy is a professional at training and teaching the sport of Three Day Eventing. Her website is:

https://www.cwevent.com

Jess is a licenced clinical social worker. She see's clients in her office in the back of the house here at the farm.

Her website is:

https://www.jessicabollinger.com

May 11, 2026 Staying Connected

Jess and Cathy have shared their lives together for 32 years, and oftentimes they are not physically in the same space. They have learned what they need to do in an intentional way to stay connected. There are also the people in their lives, both personal and business that they make sure they have the times for. What traditions and in what ways do you stay connected to the people important to you?

Theme song and host introduction. Jess and Cathy welcome listeners to There You Are, introduce themselves, and share what the show is about and who it's for.

Theme song and closing words from Jess and Cathy, including a call to action to share the episode, leave a review, and tune in next week.

Cathy is a professional at training and teaching the sport of Three Day Eventing. Her website is:

https://www.cwevent.com

Jess is a licenced clinical social worker. She see's clients in her office in the back of the house here at the farm.

Her website is:

https://www.jessicabollinger.com

Endings Lead to New Beginnings

Jess and Cathy discuss the circle of life—when one thing ends, a new beginning starts. They reflect on their careers—how there are different phases. Cathy grew into being an upper level competitor and that entailed going to Florida 8 weeks during the winter, renting a barn, being closer to her instructors that teach upper level competitors. She taught less, she didn’t have as much time for the business side of her work, and had less money. Now she says doesn’t miss competing, she has more time for her students, and has an expansive course design profession. Jess was not a professional with horses, but competed at the preliminary level for a lot of years. When motherhood came along, she didn’t want to compete as much. Her horse had retired. Now she rides just for the fun. Jess also talks about the sadness seeing this past week her old fruit and vegetable building had been torn down. There are always new things on the horizon to do and become!

Theme song and host introduction. Jess and Cathy welcome listeners to There You Are, introduce themselves, and share what the show is about and who it's for.

Theme song and closing words from Jess and Cathy, including a call to action to share the episode, leave a review, and tune in next week.

Cathy is a professional at training and teaching the sport of Three Day Eventing. Her website is:

https://www.cwevent.com

Jess is a licenced clinical social worker. She see's clients in her office in the back of the house here at the farm.

Her website is:

https://www.jessicabollinger.com

The Good Stuff and the Hard Stuff—always best when we are connected.

Jess and Cathy share their highs and lows from the past weekend. The “Best Weekend of the Year”—the Kentucky Three-Day Event was this past weekend. It is a five star event—bringing the best riders from the world. Cathy is involved with her expertise in course design, helping repair any footing and jumps that might get compromised during the cross country phase. She also did color commentating for the show jumping on Sunday for anyone that bought headsets to listen. Jess had good friends in for it—her riding buddies from 55 years ago, whom she has remained close. The low was losing their little Boston Terrier, Tessa on Sunday morning. They go on to say how important each of their dogs have been their whole lives, commemorating different chapters of their lives. It is all so rich, this love we have for people and for our animals, and so the grief is felt and it too, is rich and necessary.

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Theme song and host introduction. Jess and Cathy welcome listeners to There You Are, introduce themselves, and share what the show is about and who it's for.

Theme song and closing words from Jess and Cathy, including a call to action to share the episode, leave a review, and tune in next week.

Cathy is a professional at training and teaching the sport of Three Day Eventing. Her website is:

https://www.cwevent.com

Jess is a licenced clinical social worker. She see's clients in her office in the back of the house here at the farm.

Her website is:

https://www.jessicabollinger.com