The advice that finally set Tom free had almost nothing to do with behavior and everything to do with identity. If you’ve ever felt trapped in shame, stuck in cycles you cannot break, or unsure whether God is even still working in your life, this conversation will hit home fast.

Tom shares the raw story behind his transformation from sexual addiction, binge drinking, abuse, and a crushing father wound into a life marked by healing, purpose, and real freedom. Along the way, he and Dr. J uncover the moment a quiet question reframed everything, why condemnation kept him stuck for years, and how a new understanding of God’s love began changing what self-control could never fix.

You’ll discover:

• why Tom believed he was un-savable for years after coming to Christ
• the conversation that helped him realize guilt was actually evidence of spiritual life
• how inner-healing ministry changed the way he saw his past
• why “His pain, our gain” is more than a phrase, it’s a theology of healing
• what true masculinity looks like when it is rooted in Jesus, not image, force, or performance

Dr. J helps connect the dots between trauma, identity, and discipleship, while Tom explains how prayer, community, and honest confrontation with pain opened the door to lasting change. His stories from Virginia Beach, California, Kenya, and ministry with Desert Stream reveal a process that is both deeply personal and powerfully practical.

If you have ever wondered whether your history is too messy, your habits too entrenched, or your story too broken for God to redeem, this episode offers a hopeful answer. Freedom may not come from trying harder. It may come from finally seeing who you are in Christ.

Real freedom starts with what you believe, not just what you do.

Through the review of a bit of research, the picture is striking. Women are reporting porn use more often than many assume, and the shame around it can make them feel like they have nowhere safe to turn.

In this reflection episode, Dr. J reminds you that lasting behavioral change comes when the heart changes. You don’t need behavior modification or more self-help, but a reorientation toward Jesus, truth, and the God who remembers you. There’s a difference between knowing God’s promises intellectually and actually leaning your life on them, especially when pain has taught you to believe lies.If you’ve ever wrestled with pornography, anxiety, depression, trauma, or the feeling that freedom is for someone else, this episode offers both clarity and hope.

Also, if you want to refer to the women’s resource I mentioned here, check out “Beggar’s Daughter” for more info on freedom from porn.

Pornography, trauma, and rage do not get the final word - Jesus does.

Terri shares the raw story of childhood abuse, fear, secrecy, and how a single altar moment became the turning point that broke shame and set her on a path to lasting freedom.

What starts in childhood echoes into her teen years: a home marked by violence, a predator’s lies, and the secret addiction that followed her into high school, athletics, and college. But this episode is not just about what wounded her - it is about the surprising way God kept drawing her back through Scripture, hunger, and small moments of grace long before she ever ran to the altar.

You’ll hear how a challenge to read Proverbs unlocked a deeper hunger for the Word, why the word “remember” became a spiritual anchor, and how Terri learned that freedom is not just a one-time miracle - it is something you protect with community, accountability, prayer, and the disciplined guarding of your eyes.

We break down:

• how childhood trauma can shape fear, anger, and secrecy for years
• why pornography can be a hidden struggle for women too, not just men
• what changed when Terri finally confessed everything to Jesus
• how Scripture, concordances, and daily renewal became part of her healing
• why “what is most personal is most universal” still gives other women hope

This conversation matters because shame thrives in silence. If you have ever wondered whether God can truly heal trauma, break addiction, and restore what was stolen, Terri’s story is proof that the answer is yes. And if you know someone carrying pain they have never named out loud, this episode gives them language, hope, and a way forward.

Essential listening for anyone who needs a reminder that the light of Christ is stronger than darkness, and that freedom can start with one honest prayer.

Want to grab the book we referenced, by Marnee Feree? Grab your copy of "No Stones" right here.