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  • Episode 459: Always Enough, Never Done

    Episode 459: Always Enough, Never Done
    2025/07/04
    How can we truly believe we're "always enough" while acknowledging we're "never done" growing - especially as mothers who constantly feel inadequate?In this transformative episode of Whinypaluza, host Rebecca Greene sits down with licensed professional counselor and bestselling author Erica Bonham to explore the powerful concept behind her book title "Always Enough, Never Done." Erica, a certified EMDR clinician, trainer, and ketamine-assisted psychotherapist, specializes in serving the LGBTQ community, abuse recovery, and trauma related to social and racial injustice. The conversation delves into nervous system regulation, the challenges of perfectionism in parenting, and how we can break cycles of shame-bound beliefs while supporting our children's sense of self-worth. Erica shares her expertise on EMDR therapy and ketamine-assisted psychotherapy and offers invaluable guidance for parents supporting LGBTQ children. This episode is packed with wisdom about healing trauma, understanding our inherent worthiness, and creating a more inclusive world for our families.5 Key Takeaways ➤ The Paradox of Worthiness: You are "always and already enough, lovable, worthy and inextricably connected to every other living thing on this planet" AND you're in a constant state of growth and evolution - both truths can coexist without contradiction. ➤ Trauma Lives in the Body: Knowledge alone isn't enough to heal trauma because it's stored in the nervous system, not the frontal lobes. This is why body-based approaches like EMDR and somatic practices are essential for lasting change. ➤ Model Self-Compassion for Your Children: The best gift we can give our children is to deconstruct our own shame-bound beliefs first. Children see through our words to our actions and energy - we must genuinely believe in our own worthiness.➤ Create Space for Difficult Conversations: Whether discussing LGBTQ issues, race, or other sensitive topics, approach them with curiosity, acknowledge your learning process, and focus on creating a world where everyone feels safe and valued.➤ Healing is Both Individual and Collective: Personal nervous system regulation and trauma healing directly impact how we show up in relationships and communities, creating a ripple effect that contributes to collective healing.Memorable Quotes from Erica"Trauma doesn't give a shit what we know. Your vagus nerve connects the brain stem to the gut - it doesn't connect to the frontal lobes. So we can know all kinds of things, but when we're activated, all of that goes right out the window.""If you wouldn't say what you're saying to yourself to your daughter, if you wouldn't want that for your child - and if somebody showed up for your kid the way you show up for yourself, you'd be like 'get away from my kid, you're dangerous' - then maybe we need to shift that."How to Reach Erica BonhamWebsite: https://www.avoscounseling.com/ (for signed book copies and coaching packages)Book: "Always Enough, Never Done" (available on Amazon or signed copies via website) Instagram: @avoscounselingFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/avoscounseling/TikTok: @ericabonhamsomaticcoach YouTube: @ejbonham1207 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    49 分
  • Episode 457: Taming Teen Anxiety

    Episode 457: Taming Teen Anxiety
    2025/06/27
    Are Your Teen's Digital Habits Fueling Their Anxiety? In this eye-opening episode of Whinypaluza, host Rebecca Greene speaks with licensed therapist Donna Moss about the rising epidemic of teen anxiety in today's digital world. With 30 years of experience helping adolescents navigate life's challenges, Donna provides invaluable insights into creating balance and supporting mental health in an increasingly complex world for young people. Key Takeaways → Establishing a daily structure is essential for teens' mental health - having consistent routines, hobbies, and adequate sleep helps combat anxiety by providing stability and purpose. → The combination of ubiquitous smartphones (starting around 2010-2011) and fear-based parenting has created what psychologist Jonathan Haidt calls "the anxious generation" - teens who spend more time on devices and less time in real-world social interactions. → Parents need to find the middle ground between being too controlling and too detached. They should listen more than they speak and create boundaries around technology use, allowing space for growth and independence. → Physical well-being significantly impacts mental health - ensure teens are getting enough sleep, eating properly, exercising regularly, and visiting their doctor for check-ups (medical issues can sometimes manifest as anxiety or depression). → Teens engage in black-and-white thinking well into their twenties - help them recognize this pattern and guide them toward seeing nuance and "gray areas" in situations that trigger anxiety. Quotes from Donna Moss "You need to have a plan, a schedule, a hobby, a thing every single day. Otherwise, you lose your motivation. If you avoid everything, then you don't learn anything, you don't grow." "Always be curious, not judgmental. Tell them, 'You could tell me anything. It's not gonna shock me, it's okay. I'm not gonna tattle tale,' and you gotta build that trust." Connect with Donna Moss Website: donnacmoss.com Continuing education: Donna offers a two-hour course on her website that provides credits for social workers and mental health professionals in New York Therapy services: Currently accepting new clients in New York and Vermont Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    37 分
  • Episode 456: Mommy Meltdowns

    Episode 456: Mommy Meltdowns
    2025/06/25
    What do you do when you're overwhelmed, exhausted, and on the verge of a mommy meltdown—but the world keeps spinning anyway? In this honest and relatable episode, Rebecca Green opens up about the emotional rollercoaster of June: from the chaos of end-of-school activities to the pressure of parenting milestones and the ever-present mental load of motherhood. Joined by her husband, Seth, they talk candidly about what leads to “mommy meltdowns,” how to cope with them in real-time, and—most importantly—how to recover with grace. If you're a mom who's ever cried in your car or yelled out of sheer exhaustion, this one’s for you. 🖋Key Takeaways: You’re not alone – Even strong moms have breaking points.Check the root, not the trigger – Meltdowns are rarely about just one thing.Compassion over perfection – Grace matters more than a spotless kitchen.Reset, don’t ruminate – Apologize, refocus, and move forward.Small wins matter – Celebrate yourself throughout the day. 💬 Great Quote:“I don't want to take my stress out on anyone, including myself. Seth doesn't deserve it. My kids don't deserve it.” – Rebecca Greene 📣 Call to Action→ Visit Whinypaluza.com for Rebecca’s free resources and blog.→ Subscribe, like, and share this episode to help more moms bring their dreams to life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    30 分
  • Episode 455: Father's Day Special with Seth and Lillie

    Episode 455: Father's Day Special with Seth and Lillie
    2025/06/20
    What happens when a 12-year-old flips the script and interviews her dad about fatherhood? In this heartwarming Father's Day special, Lillie Greene turns the tables on her father Seth, diving deep into the lessons, challenges, and beautiful moments that define being a dad. In this touching Father's Day episode of Whinypaluza, Seth Greene takes over as guest host while his daughter Lillie conducts an intimate interview about fatherhood. From discussing the biggest parenting lessons to sharing favorite memories, this conversation reveals the authentic, unfiltered reality of father-daughter relationships. Seth opens up about learning patience, dealing with sleep deprivation, and the incredible journey of watching his children grow. The episode captures both the challenges and profound joys of parenting through the lens of a father who's learned that sometimes the best thing you can do is simply listen. 5 Key Takeaways ➤ Patience and kindness are foundational parenting skills - Seth emphasizes that learning to be patient and kind, rather than jumping in to solve every problem, has been one of his biggest growth areas as a father. ➤ Children's emotional states aren't always about you - One of the most important lessons for new dads is understanding that when children are upset, cranky, or difficult, it's often not about something the parent did wrong - they might just be tired, hungry, or stressed. ➤ Work-family balance requires intentional presence - Despite running multiple businesses, Seth has made it a priority to be home for dinner and attend virtually every important event in his children's lives over 18 years of parenting. ➤ Each child is unique and will surprise you - Even with previous parenting experience, Seth learned that each child is different and brings their own personality, energy, and challenges that require adapted approaches. ➤ The most rewarding moments are watching your children succeed and be happy - Seth's favorite part of being a dad is watching his children "crush it" at things they love, seeing them proud of themselves, and witnessing their growth as individuals. Notable Quotes from Seth Greene "I think the more I grow as a father that helps me as a leader, that helps me as a business owner, that helps me as a husband. I think that every lesson I learned at home is equally applicable to work and my relationships with other people." "Your kids are going to love you no matter what, and you will never be the same, and it's the most beautiful, magical thing you'll ever do." A Father's Day Message To all the dads listening - whether you're a new father just beginning this incredible journey, or a seasoned parent watching your children grow into amazing humans - remember that showing up is everything. Your presence, your patience, and your unconditional love create the foundation for your children's entire world. As Seth and Lillie remind us in this episode, it's not about being perfect; it's about being there, growing alongside your children, and never giving up on them or yourself. Happy Father's Day to all the dads who are doing their best, learning as they go, and loving fiercely every step of the way. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    23 分
  • Episode 454: Manifest your Life

    Episode 454: Manifest your Life
    2025/06/18
    What would happen if you got crystal clear on what you really want—then wrote it down and studied it every day? Could you manifest your dream life...and partner? In this heartfelt and humorous episode, Rebecca and Seth dive deep into the power of manifestation. From Rebecca’s very specific "husband wishlist" to their shared vision for health, family, and financial abundance, the couple explores how clarity, consistency, and specificity fuel real-life results. Inspired by an interview with manifestation coach Suzan Peltekian (airing July 11, 2025), Rebecca shares her “vision homework” and encourages listeners to take intentional steps toward creating the life they want. Whether it's a career shift, a dream car, or building a thriving family life, this episode is your loving push to journal it out, speak it into being, and manifest with purpose.🖋 Key Takeaways📝 Write it down! Clarity plus consistency equals manifestation. 🌱 Your vision must be specific—“a nice car” won’t cut it.📚 Use the power of daily review to rewire your mindset.💡 Reflect on your core values before setting your goals.💪 Revise your goals monthly and make them actionable.💬 Great Quote“I didn’t just manifest Seth—I studied my list every night like I was prepping for a test. And he showed up, checkmarks and all.”📣 Call to Action→ Visit Whinypaluza.com for Rebecca’s free resources and blog.→ Subscribe, like, and share this episode to help more moms bring their dreams to life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    29 分
  • Episode 453: Breaking free from Mom Burnout

    Episode 453: Breaking free from Mom Burnout
    2025/06/13
    Are you a working mom who feels like you're constantly choosing between career success and being present for your children—all while battling guilt, resentment, and chronic exhaustion that a good night's sleep can't fix? Licensed Mental Health Counselor and Coach for Moms Christi Gmyr joins Rebecca to tackle the reality of working mom burnout. Having experienced firsthand the challenges of balancing a demanding career with motherhood—especially when her second child was born during the COVID shutdown—Christi shares practical strategies for overcoming burnout, managing guilt, and reconnecting with family without resentment. This conversation dives deep into the difference between stress and burnout, why boundaries matter, and how to reframe the false choice between being a successful career woman and a present mother. 5 Key Takeaways ➤ Burnout vs. Stress: Stress is situational and temporary, but burnout is chronic exhaustion that doesn't go away with rest—it requires addressing environmental and systemic issues, not just self-care. ➤ Guilt Stems from Mindset: Working mom guilt typically comes from thoughts like "I'm doing something wrong" or "I'm letting someone down"—challenging these deep-rooted societal expectations is key to moving forward. ➤ Career and Motherhood Complement Each Other: You don't have to choose between being a successful career woman and a present mom—when you feel fulfilled at work, it rolls over into your ability to be more present as a parent. ➤ Boundaries Prevent Resentment: Resentment builds gradually from unresolved frustrations, and without clear boundaries, partners can't respect limits they don't know exist—leading to disconnection and relationship strain. ➤ Let Go of Perfection: Success doesn't mean being 100% in all roles at any given time—it's about adjusting, adapting, and remembering that as long as you're intentional, you're doing a great job. Quotes from Christi "We need to let go of this idea of perfection. You know, because perfection does not exist. There are lots and lots of ways to be a great mom." "We're all just doing the best we can." How to Reach Christi Gmyr Website: www.christigmyrcoaching.com Facebook Group: Thrive as a Career Driven Mom (free tips, strategies, and support for working moms) Host: Rebecca Greene | Podcast: Whinypaluza Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    33 分
  • Episode 452: What Volunteering Means To Me

    Episode 452: What Volunteering Means To Me
    2025/06/11
    What inspires someone to step up, show up, and serve—over and over again? In this heartfelt episode, Rebecca Greene shares her emotional journey of receiving the Service to Youth Award. What started as simple classroom volunteering for her children grew into full-blown community leadership. From fundraising for playgrounds to shaping school culture through events and advocacy, Rebecca’s story is a powerful reminder that volunteering changes lives—including your own.Joined by her husband and co-host, Seth Greene, the two reflect on the night of the award, the community that made it possible, and the deep personal fulfillment that comes from giving back. Key Takeaways➤ Volunteering often begins as something you do for your kids—but can turn into a purpose-driven mission.➤ Building strong homeschool connections truly helps students thrive.➤ Big moments like “Kids Day” and “Billy’s Bash” are cornerstones of school spirit and community.➤ Giving back fills your own cup—bringing joy, friendships, and personal growth.➤ When you lead with service, you become the role model your children truly learn from. Want more insight and inspiration from Rebecca?Be sure to read the full blog at: https://www.whinypaluza.com/blog-posts/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    20 分