In episode 6 of The Unfiltered Mirror, I talk about a kind of grief we almost never speak about: the grief for the versions of ourselves that have no grave.
We often associate grief with death, with a visible loss, with a specific date. But while preparing this episode, I realized that grief can also be much quieter. It can hide in the dreams we abandon, in the futures we imagined, in the choices we make to survive, and in the sacrifices we sometimes call “realism.”
Here, I talk about the versions of us that disappear over time: the one who dreamed of a specific life, the one who thought they could love without fear, the one who wanted to travel, succeed, build a family, create a career, do everything at once… before understanding that choosing often means giving something else up.
Through my feelings, my personal experience, and a wider reflection, I explore this invisible grief: the grief of aborted possibilities, changing plans, postponed dreams, and the sacrifices tied to studies, work, motherhood, career, responsibilities, and the reality of adult life.
This episode is my way of putting words to that strange melancholy: the feeling of missing yourself.
For anyone who feels like they lost a part of themselves without knowing exactly when. For those mourning a version of themselves that no longer exists. And for those who understand that sometimes, living also means grieving everything we could not become.
The Unspoken Grief: Mourning the versions of ourselves that have no grave.