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The Unburdened Leader

著者： Rebecca Ching LMFT
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 Meet leaders who recognized their own pain, worked through it, and stepped up into greater leadership. Each week, we dive into how leaders like you deal with struggle and growth so that you can lead without burnout or loneliness. If you're eager to make an impact in your community or business, Rebecca Ching, LMFT, will give you practical strategies for redefining challenges and vulnerability while becoming a better leader. Find the courage, confidence, clarity, and compassion to step up for yourself and your others--even when things feel really, really hard.Copyright 2023 The Unburdened Leader 個人的成功 社会科学 自己啓発
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  • EP 150: The Leadership Practice of Joy: Shabnam Mogharabi on Story and Service

    EP 150: The Leadership Practice of Joy: Shabnam Mogharabi on Story and Service
    2026/03/13

    Story is our brain’s first language.


    And our minds fill in a story’s blanks long before the facts catch up.


    Before we consciously interpret an event, our nervous system has already scanned for threat and sent that information to our brains, which in turn builds a narrative about what it means. We’re constantly interpreting events, and not always accurately.


    Research has shown that negative information carries more psychological weight than positive information. That bias isn’t a flaw–it’s survival wiring.


    But what protects us biologically can distort us relationally.


    Unexamined stories shape our leadership. They shape how we interpret feedback. They shape how we respond to conflict. They shape culture. They shape trust.


    Which is why reclaiming “storyteller” as a skill set matters.


    Good storytelling connects to our capacity for joy, along with our ability to connect to what is truly authentic for us, which plays a role in the stories we tell ourselves and others.


    Today’s guest digs into how to become a better storyteller—with yourself and with others—why joy is a skill that helps regulate our state and expand capacity, and how connecting to our authenticity is essential to telling good stories.


    Shabnam Mogharabi is an entertainment executive, producer, and New York Times bestselling author with 20 years of experience in mission-driven media. She is currently the founder of The Joy Brigade, a boutique production company, and also serves as Executive Director at Soul Boom, which creates media to ignite a spiritual revolution. Prior to that, Shabnam was an EVP at film company Participant and also co-founded the uplifting content studio SoulPancake with actor Rainn Wilson, which she ran as CEO for nearly a decade, amassing one billion video views. She has a certificate in positive psychology and believes joy is transformational.


    Listen to the full episode to hear:

    • Why joy is not about bypassing, but actually helps us navigate and weather our hardest days
    • The difference between experiencing the emotion of happiness and cultivating the tools and practices of joy
    • Three tools Shabnam returns to over and over in her own life to reset her perspective
    • Why we have to play the long game with joy practices through consistency and time
    • Key elements that make for an impactful story, and why you don’t need to be an artist or writer to hone your storytelling skills
    • How Shabnam built and sustains the trust at the foundation of her 17-year creative partnership with Rainn Wilson


    Learn more about Shabnam Mogharabi:

    • Website
    • The Joy Brigade
    • Soul Boom
    • Connect on LinkedIn


    Learn more about Rebecca:

    • rebeccaching.com
    • Work With Rebecca
    • The Unburdened Leader on Substack
    • Sign up for the weekly Unburdened Leader Email


    Resources:

    • Soul Boom Workbook: Spiritual Tools for Modern Living
    • The Vanishing Half, Brit Bennett
    • Man's Search for Meaning, Viktor E. Frankl
    • The Goonies
    • Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade
    • When Harry Met Sally
    • Spaceballs
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    1 時間 5 分
  • EP 149: Interrupting the Fawning Trauma Response: Leadership, Safety, and Self-Trust with Dr. Ingrid Clayton

    EP 149: Interrupting the Fawning Trauma Response: Leadership, Safety, and Self-Trust with Dr. Ingrid Clayton
    2026/02/27

    Most of us know about the “fight, flight, freeze” responses to trauma. But there is another concept that has been steadily gaining awareness over the last several years, in large part due to pop psychology on social media: Fawning.


    You might have heard it described as akin to extreme people-pleasing, over-accommodating, over-functioning, and fundamentally a problem in the person doing the fawning. But as my guest today illuminates for us, it’s not a personal failing, or even always a conscious choice.


    It is human nature to prioritize safety and connection, and fawning is a means of keeping ourselves safe. But when fawning runs the show, self-leadership diminishes and quietly drifts toward conflict-avoiding, blurred boundaries, and self-abandonment.


    Waking up to your fawning response takes courage. You will meet resistance from some as you shift the dynamics of your relationships. But it also unlocks deeper intimacy, more honest connection, and the joy that comes from trusting yourself and letting others meet the real you.

    This conversation invites you to consider where and with whom you fawn, and how you might want to respond in the future. Fawning has a real purpose when safety is on the line, but the more we are aware of it, the more we can be intentional about how we show up in our relationships.


    Ingrid Clayton is a licensed clinical psychologist with a master’s degree in transpersonal psychology and a Ph.D. in clinical psychology. In her private practice in Los Angeles she supports individuals in healing trauma, reclaiming agency, and reconnecting to their authentic selves.


    She is a regular contributor to Psychology Today, and her work has been featured in Oprah Daily, The New York Times, Women’s Health, Forbes, 10% Happier with Dan Harris, Girls Gotta Eat, and NPR’s On Point with Meghna Chakrabarti. Ingrid’s latest book, Fawning: Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves and How to Find Our Way Back, explores the often-overlooked fawn response to trauma.


    Listen to the full episode to hear:

    • Why fawning shows up as an unconscious response to ongoing relational trauma
    • How understanding fawning helped Ingrid understand and heal from her own complex trauma
    • How our culture demands and reinforces fawning for women and marginalized people
    • The often very real bind of choosing safety over self and the feedback loop it creates
    • Accessible practices to build a sense of internal safety and self-trust
    • How chronic fawning and self-abandonment contribute to burnout


    Learn more about Ingrid Clayton, PhD:

    • Website
    • Instagram: @ingridclaytonphd
    • Facebook: @ingridclaytonphd
    • YouTube: @ingridclaytonphd
    • Unfawning on Substack
    • Fawning: Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves–and How to Find Our Way Back
    • Believing Me: Healing from Narcissistic Abuse and Complex Trauma


    Learn more about Rebecca:

    • rebeccaching.com
    • Work With Rebecca
    • The Unburdened Leader on Substack
    • Sign up for the weekly Unburdened Leader Email


    Resources:

    • What Is the Fawning Trauma Response? | Psychology Today
    • Peter Levine
    • The Greatest Showman Cast - This Is Me
    • The Traitors
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    1 時間 11 分
  • EP 148: Naming as Leadership Practice: Soraya Chemaly on Language and Power

    EP 148: Naming as Leadership Practice: Soraya Chemaly on Language and Power
    2026/02/13
    There is a well-known cognitive phenomenon that we are all susceptible to, and even more so when we’re stressed. And we’re all at least a little stressed and overwhelmed right now.The illusory truth effect catches us when we repeatedly hear statements and begin to assume they are true through repetition and familiarity. Things feel true, even if they couldn’t be further from it. Research has shown that sheer repetition can even override facts when we know better.Naming–systems, feelings, what we’re witnessing, what’s missing, what’s wrong–is a powerful antidote to the illusory truth effect. Naming forces us to slow down. It interrupts the repetition. We can’t meaningfully talk about integrity, values, courage, or innovation if we refuse to look directly at what is.My guest today reminds us that we can’t disrupt what we can’t name. And we can’t heal what stays vague.Soraya Chemaly is an award-winning author and activist. As a cultural critic, she writes and speaks frequently about gender norms, social justice, free speech, sexualized violence, politics, and technology. The former Executive Director of The Representation Project and Director and co-founder of the Women’s Media Center Speech Project, she has long been committed to expanding women’s civic and political participation.Her most recent book, All We Want is Everything: How We Dismantle Male Supremacy, has been called “a potent rallying cry for a beleaguered feminist movement.” In it, she challenges dearly held beliefs about gender and equality today, drawing clear lines between the dynamics of intimate inequality and global anti-feminist, anti-democratic backlash and machofascism.Content warning: Discussion of details of the video footage leading up to Renee Good’s murder, less-detailed discussion of sexual and gender-based violence and harassmentListen to the full episode to hear:Why we need to name systems clearly and specifically in order to challenge themHow male supremacy encompasses concepts of sexism, misogyny, and patriarchy and frames them as part of a larger hierarchical systemHow we’re witnessing DARVO play out at scale in our government and media, as well as in personal interactionsHow deepfakes use the pervasive threat of sexual violence against women to dehumanize and enforce subjugationHow women play roles in passing on and enforcing male supremacyHow “the boy crisis” reinforces norms of masculinity at the expense of girls and womenWhy big tent politics that asks everyone but cis, straight men to give up fundamental rights cannot be a yardstick of successLearn more about Soraya Chemaly:WebsiteInstagram: @sorayachemalyAll We Want is Everything: How We Dismantle Male SupremacySubscribe to UnmannedLearn more about Rebecca:rebeccaching.comWork With RebeccaThe Unburdened Leader on SubstackSign up for the weekly Unburdened Leader EmailResources:Dechêne, A., Stahl, C., Hansen, J., & Wänke, M.. The Truth About the Truth: A Meta-Analytic Review of the Truth Effect. Personality and Social Psychology Review, 14(2), 238-257Pennycook, G., Cannon, T. D., & Rand, D. G. (2018). Prior exposure increases perceived accuracy of fake news. Journal of Experimental Psychology: General, 147(12), 1865–1880Thinking, Fast and Slow, Daniel KahnemanFazio, L. K., Brashier, N. M., Payne, B. K., & Marsh, E. J. (2015). Knowledge does not protect against illusory truth. Journal of Experimental Psychology: General, 144(5), 993–1002.EP 96: Rage to Action: The Leading Power of Women’s Anger with Soraya ChemalyEP 117: Rethinking Resilience: Moving from Bouncing Back to Relational Resilience with Soraya ChemalyJennifer Joy Freyd, PhD.What is DARVO ? | Jennifer Joy Freyd, PhD.11. Boy Crisis Asides and the Invisible People and Power Living in Them | UnmannedAfterlives, Abdulrazak GurnahRadiohead - CreepI'd Love to Change the World - Ten Years AfterDon't Let's Go to the Dogs TonightBlondieThe Beginning Comes After the End: Notes on a World of Change, Rebecca Solnit
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    1 時間 6 分
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