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The Unburdened Leader

The Unburdened Leader

著者： Rebecca Ching LMFT
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Meet leaders who recognized their own pain, worked through it, and stepped up into greater leadership. Each week, we dive into how leaders like you deal with struggle and growth so that you can lead without burnout or loneliness. If you're eager to make an impact in your community or business, Rebecca Ching, LMFT, will give you practical strategies for redefining challenges and vulnerability while becoming a better leader. Find the courage, confidence, clarity, and compassion to step up for yourself and your others--even when things feel really, really hard.Copyright 2023 The Unburdened Leader マネジメント マネジメント・リーダーシップ 個人的成功 経済学 自己啓発
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  • EP 155: Hidden Cost of Caretaking at Work: Nilofer Merchant on Invisible Norms Limiting Your Leadership

    EP 155: Hidden Cost of Caretaking at Work: Nilofer Merchant on Invisible Norms Limiting Your Leadership
    2026/05/22
    Every system we move through runs on norms: rules and agreements that are both explicit and implicit. And nowhere are they more powerful–or more invisible–than in how we lead and how we build our businesses. In fact, sociologists have consistently found that norms don’t announce themselves. They travel through families, schools, workplaces, and entire cultures through repetition and imitation, often persisting long after the conditions that created them have changed. We absorb them before we can name them. And once they are inside us, they feel like “just the way things are.”In leadership development the norms run so deep we have mistaken them for truth. As a result, the model leader–despite decades of language to the contrary–still looks and sounds like a very particular kind of person.My guest today offers that leadership development has been trying to make better leaders for a broken system, rather than questioning whether the system itself needs to change. Nilofer Merchant has spent her career making the invisible visible–naming the norms, the systems, the daily routines that keep us collectively stuck. In this conversation, we go deep on the difference between caring and caretaking, what it means to trust yourself when the ground keeps disappearing, and what it actually takes to stop trying to fix what is not working and become someone who builds what is needed, right where you are.Nilofer Merchant is the co-founder of Intangible Labs. She spent over 25 years leading technology companies (Apple, Autodesk, GoLive/Adobe) and personally launched over 100 products and services, netting $18 billion in revenues. She is ranked among the top 50 influential management thinkers in the world (one of her TED Talks has been referenced 300 million times). Our Best Work is her 4th book.Listen to the full episode to hear:Why accepting our current norms won’t get leaders where they want to goHow what we call personal agency is in reality socially constructed and drivenWhy we need more real care and less caretaking in our relationships at work and in lifeHow teams can shift towards situational leadership and recentering how we think about the unique value and capabilities individuals bringHow ownership, shared purpose, and co-creation help us build new systems, unstuck from the status quoNilofer’s lessons about self-trust, taking risks, and approaching the future of work with hopeLearn more about Nilofer Merchant:WebsiteThe Intangible LabsInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/nilofer/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/nilofer.merchantConnect on LinkedInOur Best Work: Break Free from the 24 Invisible Norms That Limit UsLearn more about Rebecca:rebeccaching.comWork With RebeccaThe Unburdened Leader on SubstackSign up for the weekly Unburdened Leader EmailResources:The Power of Onlyness: Make Your Wild Ideas Mighty Enough to Dent the WorldMary Parker FollettMother Mary Comes to Me, Arundhati RoyThe God of Small Things, Arundhati RoyPrizefighter - Mumford & SonsLaw & OrderDire Straits - Money For NothingDuran Duran - Hungry like the WolfThe Curiosity Shop with Brené Brown and Adam GrantChapters:(00:07) - Introduction(12:12) - Why Norms Persist(15:17) - Making the Hard Changes(16:42) - Personal Agency is Not Persona(19:31) - Servant to Situational Leadership(23:44) - Care vs Caretaking(32:37) - Making it Practical: Power of Onlines(39:38) - Uncertainty and Control(43:20) - AI, Layoffs, and Control(46:33) - Build The New Village(48:29) - Ownership Over Accountability(53:03) - Trusting Your Instinct(57:29) - Walking Toward Yourself(01:01:06) - Hope As Liberation(01:04:06) - Quickfire Questions(01:10:44) - How To Connect(01:11:33) - Closing Thoughts
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    1 時間 14 分
  • EP 154: Leading from Safety, Not Survival: Deb Dana on Co-Regulation and Leadership

    EP 154: Leading from Safety, Not Survival: Deb Dana on Co-Regulation and Leadership
    2026/05/08
    It is hard to be human. And right now, it is even harder to be humane, to ourselves and to others.And so many high-achieving, deeply caring leaders are under pressure to stay regulated, calm, and adaptable, no matter what they’re facing. They look serene on the outside, but internally? They feel like a hot mess. They mask what they’re feeling and push through so they can try to be the person, friend, leader they want to be. They fake regulation at the expense of their actual wellbeing.As the language of modalities like IFS and polyvagal theory has spread into the culture, the concepts have been distorted and even weaponized to police others and encourage self-editing, silencing, and hypervigilance. The exact opposite of cultivating the safety, connection, and practices that support a resilient nervous system.Today, polyvagal-theory expert Deb Dana is back to talk with me about what the culture so often gets wrong about nervous system regulation, why we need to plan for how to approach repair and reconnection when we inevitably make mistakes, and how to protect our compassion and curiosity about all the other kinds of nervous systems we encounter out in the world.Deb Dana, LCSW, is a clinician, consultant, author, and international lecturer on polyvagal theory-informed work with trauma survivors and is the leading translator of this scientific work to the public and mental health professionals. She's a founding member of the Polyvagal Institute and creator of the signature Rhythm of Regulation® clinical training series.Deb's work shows us how understanding polyvagal theory applies across the board to relationships, mental health, and trauma. She delves into the intricacies of how we can all use and understand the organizing principles of polyvagal theory to change the ways we navigate our daily lives.Listen to the full episode to hear:Why we can’t ignore our fundamental need for connection and co-regulationHow leaders can take steps to acknowledge and normalize the diversity of nervous systems and needs on their teamsHow to plan ahead for moments when you feel disconnected or dysregulatedWhy the goal is not to be regulated at all times and shifting states is just dataWhy identifying the worries underlying our patterns of states and behaviors is the first step to shifting themWhy leaders need to tend to their own systems, both for their wellbeing and to model safety for othersLearn more about Deb Dana:Rhythm of RegulationLearn more about Rebecca:rebeccaching.comWork With RebeccaThe Unburdened Leader on SubstackSign up for the weekly Unburdened Leader EmailResources:The Fearless Organization: Creating Psychological Safety in the Workplace for Learning, Innovation, and Growth, Amy C. EdmondsonStephen PorgesPolyvagal-Informed Restorative Movement: Psychotherapy Roots, Rhythm, and Reciprocity, Amber Elizabeth GrayProject Hail MaryField of DreamsChapters:(00:07) - Introduction(06:36) - Meet Deb Dana(08:57) - The Fundamentals of Co-Regulation(13:42) - Survival vs. Safety(17:36) - Leading Diverse Nervous Systems(19:34) - Two AM Connection Plans(22:55) - Polyvagal Hierarchy Explained(25:36) - Build Your Regulation Menu(34:05) - Micro Moments And Glimmers(37:28) - Safe Enough And Curiosity(40:41) - Protecting Curiosity Under Stress(42:45) - Neck Up Trauma Patterns(47:27) - Home Away From Home and Our Nervous System(55:24) - Safety for Leaders Today(01:01:00) - Quick Fire Favorites(01:06:09) - How To Connect(01:06:51) - Closing Thoughts
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    1 時間 11 分
  • EP 153: Power Dynamics and Personal Power: Dr. Amanda Aguilera on the Right Use of Power

    EP 153: Power Dynamics and Personal Power: Dr. Amanda Aguilera on the Right Use of Power
    2026/04/24
    The way you relate to power is the way you relate to everything around and within you–your work, your people, your sense of what's possible. And most of us have never actually examined that relationship.And in this season we are in, when everything is changing so quickly, any unexamined beliefs we hold will quietly run the show. They will shape the risks we take, the rooms we walk into, and the moments we either step up or shrink back. If we don’t have something to ground us internally to our values, our body, our nervous system, and our beliefs, we run the risk of looking to external validation and trying to control everyone and everything around us. We do damage control and play nice at the expense of real connection and progress.Which is why I am thrilled to welcome back Dr. Amanda Aguilera to talk more about the Right Use of Power framework for personal power and her new book, Shaping Power for Good: Wayfinding to Right Relationship. She reminds us that staying rooted and using our personal power for good isn’t a box to be checked, but a continuous practice and commitment to ourselves and our relationships. Dr. Amanda Aguilera currently serves as the Executive Director of the Right Use of Power Institute and co-leader of Sacred Wayfinding. She has dedicated most of her career to helping people and organizations understand systems, conflict, and social power dynamics to create right relationships and a sense of belonging. She has a knack for making difficult conversations easier, complex ideas more accessible, and resistance more workable. Integrating power, contemplative practices, neurobiology, and restorative practices, she works by finding a balance of head and heart and facilitating the co-creation of strategic maps that lead us forward in a more equitable way.Listen to the full episode to hear:Defining the six core types of power through the lens of relationships to others, ourselves, and the collectiveHow four essential aspects of being in right relationship show up in us and othersWhy checking in on power and relationships starts with connecting to our bodies How committing to being in right relationship helps us overcome how we’ve been socialized to access power and belongingWhy right relationship fundamentally starts with ourselves, our boundaries, and our valuesHow each of us can use our power for good, conscientiously and in alignment with our valuesLearn more about Dr. Amanda Aguilera:Right Use of Power InstituteInstagram: @rightuseofpowerinstituteShaping Power for Good: Wayfinding to Right RelationshipLearn more about Rebecca:rebeccaching.comWork With RebeccaThe Unburdened Leader on SubstackSign up for the weekly Unburdened Leader EmailResources:ParenthoodEP 88: Right-Use-of-Power: Navigating Leadership Dynamics with Dr. Cedar BarstowEP 125: Power, Regulation, and Leadership: Connecting to Your Personal Power with Dr. Amanda AguileraBelonging: The Science of Creating Connection and Bridging Divides, Geoffrey L. CohenEP 149: Interrupting the Fawning Trauma Response: Leadership, Safety, and Self-Trust with Dr. Ingrid ClaytonMaya Angelou's 1992 Commencement Address at Spelman CollegeIn the Absence of the Ordinary Soul Work for Times of Uncertainty, Francis WellerChico Gospel - ma museHannah GadsbyChapters:(00:00) - Introduction(08:20) - Meet Dr. Aguilera(09:02) - Six Types of Power(17:25) - Rooted vs Socialized Power(23:09) - Right Relationship(27:56) - Checking in with Your Body(30:03) - Checking with your Why(35:51) - The Messy Truth of Power(38:48) - Showing up in Relationship Differently(41:08) - Up Power, Down Power(45:25) - Shaping Power For Good(49:49) - Double Loop Learning(52:10) - Quick Fire Favorites(55:49) - How To Connect(56:38) - Closing Thoughts
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