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What if the problem isn’t that our calendars are full—but that we’ve gotten really good at making everything fit?

In this episode, we’re talking about overscheduling, rest, the pressure to keep up, and the cost of saying yes—even to really good things. Because just because we can make it work doesn’t necessarily mean it’s actually working.

The hardest things to say no to usually aren’t bad things. They’re competing good things. So maybe the question isn’t, Can we fit it in? Maybe it’s, What is it going to cost us?

🎧 And I have way more to say about this one than I could fit into a single episode. Email subscribers are getting a bonus episode where I’m taking this conversation even further—into kids’ activities, family expectations, exhaustion, church, and what happens when our lives leave us very little time to actually sit face-to-face with the people we love.

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After almost 12 years together, you’d think Trey and I would know exactly what the other person needs by now. Newsflash: we don’t.

In this episode, Trey joins me for a conversation about what happens when “you should know” quietly becomes the standard in our closest relationships. We talk about marriage, counseling, friendship, parenting, teenagers, conflict, and the very large elephants we sometimes hope will just leave the room on their own.

Sometimes the thing a relationship needs most is also the thing we’re most uncomfortable saying. What if being known has less to do with someone knowing exactly what we need—and more to do with what we’re willing to say out loud?

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What happens when someone else gets the thing you wanted?

It’s easy to celebrate people when their success doesn’t bump up against our own disappointment. But what about when it does?

In this episode, Nicole talks competitive dance, the scoreboards we create for ourselves and our kids, a painful confession from her years of infertility, and why someone else’s success was never evidence of your failure. Because maybe the goal isn’t to stop wanting things for ourselves—it’s learning to genuinely cheer when someone else gets them.