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Divorce, Identity Loss, and the Clarity That Came After Rage

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In this episode, I dive deep into my kitchen floor meltdown: full-throttle, throat-burning, tears-streaming FUCK-YOU's directed right at God. What happened on the other side of that breakdown was the most unexpected peace of my life and the realization that cracked everything open.

The hardest part of the last 3 years, wasn't the marriage or the career that I ended, it was the identities that I had to let go of. I talk with brutal honesty about the grief of letting go and my stubborn, enduring resistance to it.

This episode has all of it ... why I disappeared, what the coaching industry's collapse looked like from the inside, what full-time single parenting actually costs, and what happens when you stop fighting what is.

Come find me on Facebook or Instagram and tell me what you're going through. I want to know. I'm not here to perform, I'm here because there are things that need to be said and I'm the one to say them.

00:00 Anniversary Reflections
01:02 Divorce Epiphany Setup
03:01 Why I Quit Coaching
04:03 Divorce Survival Mode
05:18 Tools That Explained Me
11:20 Cracks In Coaching Industry
12:04 Marketing For Other Coaches
15:07 Identity Loss And Aging
18:06 Single Mom Anger
19:55 Screaming At God
23:03 I Got What I Asked For
28:51 Letting Go Takes Time
31:56 Your Role In The Dynamic
32:52 Why Ive Been Quiet
34:48 Podcast Invitation
35:34 Closing Thanks

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Why I’m Podcasting Again:
Divorce, Menopause, and Rebuilding in Midlife

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In this episode, I introduce a new season of The Sacred AF Podcast and share why I'm creating this around the struggles that midlife women face.

It's been three years since stepping back from my online coaching business and I've been healing the pain that divorce brought for me and my children.

The last few years has been an intense period of survival (and surrender) from ending a marriage, losing a home, closing my business, becoming a full-time solo parent, experiencing financial instability, and going through menopause.

I can honestly say I have processed a range of emotions from fear and anger to grief and sadness and I want to speak candidly about the “messy” parts of midlife.

Things like loss of identity (wife, business owner, youth, fitness), my inevitable surrender to less-than-ideal circumstances, and to share the profound lessons I've learned through this process.

This season of The Sacred AD Podcast is for midlife women facing similar challenges. My intention is to offer comfort, empowerment, resilience, and hope, while sharing how I processed the past so I (and maybe you) can create a new future.

00:00 Why Podcasting Matters

01:53 Who I Am Now

02:15 Three Years of Upheaval

05:26 Single Mom Survival

06:26 Messy Truth and Grief

09:10 Identity Loss and Body Changes

11:08 Why This Podcast Now

13:39 Redefining Hope and Happiness

15:23 Intention for Midlife Women

17:46 Closing Thoughts and Next Steps

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My first guest episode in a while and it's with my new AMAZING friend Samantha Sanford (I LOVE HER). She's been in the online business world as an OBM for some very successful coaches and got tired being in the background when she knew she had so much to contribute herself.

Samantha decided to take on SHAME by creating a one-month long daily public monologue with shame. For every day of August 2025, she bravely recorded audios of herself confronting the things she was holding shame around. Then worked through allowing the shame to be there, inquiring what it was here to teach her and she has come full circle into her own power.

I'm so inspired by Samantha's discovery doing the Shame Monologues that I reveal something at the end of this episode that shocked even me! Here's what we dove into on this episode...

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We explored how feeling shame, especially in women, is often avoided and how reconnecting with oneself can lead to greater power and intuition. Samantha shared her journey of discovering her own intuition and passion for redefining shame as a hidden teacher for unconditional self-love.

One of Samantha's biggest discoveries happened when she learned the importance of healing in the moment rather than viewing it as a long-term process. We discussed the importance of self-love and personal connection as a path to transforming the world, emphasizing that man-made issues like war and trafficking stem from people being disconnected from themselves.

She shared her decision to take bold steps in her career, moving from being a stay-at-home mom to building her own brand and mission all of which came out of her discovery of her relationship with long-held and hidden shame. Through her brand REBEL MATRIARCH and her personal work with shame, she's ready to be a catalyst for other women to work through shame.

This is just the beginning of a divine relationship, with both of us continuing to do this work together for the greater good. Listen in to this one and let us know if you're ready to tackle shame yourself.

You can find Samantha Sanford right here.

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This one’s personal, raw and real as fuck and it might be better WATCHED than listened to: https://youtu.be/EKoJdqiwxBA

In this episode, I crack myself all the way open (ugly cries and snotty nose) and tell the truth about what it’s actually like to untangle yourself from toxic conditioning — religious, societal, relational — of the patriarchy and reclaim the parts of yourself you were told to hide, especially your sexuality, your power and your voice.

I talk about growing up feeling unsafe and unprotected, and how the absence of strong male figures shaped the hyper-masculine armor I wore for decades. I share stories I’ve never said out loud before — including early sexual traumas, painful memories from adolescence, and the root of the deep masculine energy that made me feel safe… until it didn’t anymore.

This isn’t just about pain — it’s about the power I am reclaiming while going through the pain.

It’s about finding emotional safety inside a relationship (so delicious) and within myself for the first time as a grown woman.

It’s about healing through trust, pleasure, expression and telling the whole damn truth — even if it offends a lotta people.

I talk about the collapse of my marriage, exploring ethical non-monogamy, and navigating desire as a conscious, powerful woman. I unpack how religion taught me to feel shame about my body and my sexuality — and how I'm burning that shame to the ground.

This episode is for any woman who’s ever felt silenced, scared, shamed, or spiritually suffocated.

It’s for the rebels, the seekers, the rule-breakers, and the ones who know their pussy power is a sacred portal to purpose and prosperity.

And yes — some people won’t like it.

I lost followers and it "stung" ... but not really. Because if I'm pretending to be someone just to keep you around, then I can't blame you for leaving when I actually show you who I am. Right?

We all know I’m not here to play nice just to make others comfortable.

I’m here to start a f*cking rebellion.

You comin'?

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The "funny" thing about life is you don't get the lessons until AFTER you do the thing.

In this episode, I decide to take the mic to talk to ALL THE WOMEN out there, in their late 20's or early 30's who are PLANNING their life.

You know what I mean... assessing your partner (or looking for one) for fatherhood worthiness, provider abilities, alignment of future family goals - you know, the clock is ticking!

Because women have REAL, BIOLOGICAL hindrances, we MUST be discerning when it comes to partnerships during this time in our lives. We are LITERALLY against the clock and who we choose to procreate with is a massive decision.

I share my story as it relates to my marriage/babies journey and how I realized (just a few weeks ago) that I actually INTENDED to be a single parent because of this one thing.

I also cover ...

😱 The HUGE realization about my ex which led me to FULL acceptance & peace
🤦🏼‍♀️ The shitty societal and biological pressures we face around motherhood
👉🏻 How my feminist viewpoints on life took a DRAMATIC twist once I had a baby
🔒 The absolute IMPERATIVE questions to ask yourself (and your partner) BEFORE you have kids

I wish, before I got married and had kids, I knew to ask these questions of myself. Maybe my marriage would have turned out differently. But for any woman approaching that BIOLOGICAL CLOCK DEADLINE, please listen, watch and learn from my mistakes.

Wishing you all the best!

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I decided to pick up my mic and discuss an interaction I had with my daughter that had me questioning and wondering what it would be like ... to be a boy.

Which caused my daughter to ask if I wanted to transition. LOL!

And then a couple of days later, I saw a post by someone I follow on FB about the difference in confidence and boldness between men and women.

Watch the episode on YouTube right here (I pull up the post by Kylie and share it with you): https://youtu.be/lxwV73DkxCA

Here is Kylie's post as well: https://www.facebook.com/share/p/166XP7G4FB/

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This just in 😱 .... HUSTLE IS KILLING WOMEN! (jk I'm being a bit dramatic)

But, true Queens now that to slow DOWN is to speed UP.

Wanna watch instead of just listen, go here: https://youtu.be/7YIsXjLM97g?si=pZVrOIcgFTdrU4rz

On this episode, I invite listeners to really look at their relationship with work, productivity and success. And I ask them to explore the importance of rest, self-acceptance, and creating boundaries in order to reclaim our time and mental health.

• Stress and overwhelm as universal American expectations
• The mental load of doing it all and its impact on well-being
• Questioning productivity and its association with women's self-worth
• The necessity of setting boundaries and saying no to others and yes to you
• Embracing rest as a new form of success
• The importance of community support in personal journeys
• Normalizing struggle to encourage open discussion

Redefining success without burning out is possible, and we talk about how to achieve it. Reflecting on traditional notions of success, we highlight the importance of rest and self-care, sharing personal stories of intentionally slowing down. Prioritizing happiness over relentless productivity, we look at the new and transformative mindset of how the younger generations are not willing to work themselves to death. Join us as we honor struggles and find balance, advocating for living authentically and finding joy in the present moment.

Send this to a woman that you think is addicted to hustle culture and you want her to stop.

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Join Communication Coach, Authenticity Expert and Conflict Maven, Kristen Lena, as she dives into WHY she is starting her new podcast platform, THE AUDACITY. Listen in as she describes why she's been silent, what she's most afraid of and why she believes NOW more than ever, she must speak boldly about the topics that still affect women - sex, business, religion, money and the hierarchical structures that have destroyed those things for us and the catalytic feminine leadership needed to write the next chapter.

How DARE we? Just watch us!

Watch on YouTube here: https://youtu.be/DOTgzN4kHS4

Episode Summary

Finding Messages From God

Kristen shared a personal story about finding a letter to her mom in a book, which she believes was a message from God. The letter was dated 1993, the same year her grandmother passed away. Kristen found the letter on her daughter's birthday in 2011, and it resonated with her. She also mentioned a friend who has a seemingly perfect life but struggles with self-acceptance. The conversation ended with Kristen expressing her belief in the power of messages from God and the importance of self-acceptance.

Embracing Self-Acceptance and Personal Growth

Kristen discussed her personal struggles with weight and self-acceptance, drawing parallels with other women who may also be holding onto beliefs that prevent them from experiencing total joy. She identified the 'tall poppy syndrome' as a factor in her life, where she felt the need to shrink and hide her true self. Kristen also shared her calling, which is about people living true to themselves and experiencing radical self-acceptance. She acknowledged her current challenges, including her finances, job situation, and the next iteration of her work, but expressed her intention to be more courageous and live into her calling.

Exploring Audacity and Challenging Norms

Kristen discussed the concept of audacity, defining it as boldness or daring, especially with disregard for conventional thought or restrictions. She explained her choice of the word audacity for her new podcast, reflecting her willingness to challenge societal norms and expectations. Kristen expressed her desire to openly discuss topics such as sex, religion, self-expression, and corporate greed, which she believes are mechanisms for controlling the masses. She also mentioned her reluctance to enter corporate America due to her beliefs.

Embracing Self-Acceptance and Love's Power

Kristen emphasized the importance of self-acceptance and embracing one's unique qualities. She shared her belief that love is the key to healing and liberating people, and that it's crucial to create a space where individuals can feel comfortable being themselves. Kristen also expressed her desire to help others overcome their fears and embrace their power, ultimately contributing to a more loving and connected world.

Unifying Women

Kristen emphasized the purpose of this new podcast as uniting women and promoting their success. She encouraged listeners to share the podcast with other women and offered to engage in dialogue through her personal cell phone number. Kristen also invited suggestions for future guests and shared some alternative names for her podcast. She stressed the importance of collaboration and learning from others, and urged listeners to share their own remarkable stories.

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