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Host: Kristen Lena
Duration: 32 minutes
Season 4: Midlife Mind-Fuckery Edition


"This season is dedicated to the woman who swallows more conversations than she delivers — the midlife woman who goes silent or nuclear with nothing in between."

In this episode, I introduce the theme of the season: learning to tell the truth without blowing up your life. I share my personal origin story — from my parents' divorce when I was nine, to 23 years of estrangement from my dad, to the breakthrough conversation that changed everything. I also break down my SODA framework (the four types of midlife conflict avoiders), I share the three currencies we pay for silence in, and dare you to count every time you say "I'm fine" this week.

Powerful Quotes

"You made it to midlife, Bitch. Own it. Own all of the words coming out of your mouth, and own all of the things that you've never said up until now. Because there's no other way out."
— Kristen Lena

Timestamps

[0:00] Welcome
[1:08] Who This Season Is For
[6:12] Tell the Truth Without Blowing Up Your Life
[8:06] The Three Currencies of Silence
[9:43] Midlife Divorce Stats
[11:25] People Pleasing Is Not Kind
[12:54] What Led Me Here
[18:32] The Breakthrough Conversation
[21:06] The SODA Framework: Four Types of Conflict Avoiders
[24:57] My free guide: Say This Not That Workbook
[27:56] Your Challenge for the Week: Count Your "I'm Fine's"
[32:20] Closing + Special Offer for 1st 10 Women

Highlights

"Every swallowed sentence gets paid for later in resentment, an explosion, or an exit."
"36% of people divorcing are 50 or older. Women initiate 69% of those!"
"People pleasing is not kind because it's not the truth."
"The peace isn't meant to be kept, honey."


Resources & Links

>> Free Guidebook: Say This Not That
>> Remember, the first 10 women to DM me your 7-day "I'm fine" tally get my video course upgrade for FREE ($22 value)
>> Find me on Instagram & Facebook
>> Watch this episode on YouTube

Support the show

You can find more content on my website for real talk, free trainings & other resources to help you fully embrace your SACRED AS FUCK full self.

Kristen

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Divorce, Identity Loss, and the Clarity That Came After Rage

Watch this episode on YouTube:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FL3AkExW1dE

In this episode, I dive deep into my kitchen floor meltdown: full-throttle, throat-burning, tears-streaming FUCK-YOU's directed right at God. What happened on the other side of that breakdown was the most unexpected peace of my life and the realization that cracked everything open.

The hardest part of the last 3 years, wasn't the marriage or the career that I ended, it was the identities that I had to let go of. I talk with brutal honesty about the grief of letting go and my stubborn, enduring resistance to it.

This episode has all of it ... why I disappeared, what the coaching industry's collapse looked like from the inside, what full-time single parenting actually costs, and what happens when you stop fighting what is.

Come find me on Facebook or Instagram and tell me what you're going through. I want to know. I'm not here to perform, I'm here because there are things that need to be said and I'm the one to say them.

00:00 Anniversary Reflections
01:02 Divorce Epiphany Setup
03:01 Why I Quit Coaching
04:03 Divorce Survival Mode
05:18 Tools That Explained Me
11:20 Cracks In Coaching Industry
12:04 Marketing For Other Coaches
15:07 Identity Loss And Aging
18:06 Single Mom Anger
19:55 Screaming At God
23:03 I Got What I Asked For
28:51 Letting Go Takes Time
31:56 Your Role In The Dynamic
32:52 Why Ive Been Quiet
34:48 Podcast Invitation
35:34 Closing Thanks

Support the show

You can find more content on my website for real talk, free trainings & other resources to help you fully embrace your SACRED AS FUCK full self.

Kristen

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Why I’m Podcasting Again:
Divorce, Menopause, and Rebuilding in Midlife

Watch this episode on YouTube:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3PGfhBrdNbw

In this episode, I introduce a new season of The Sacred AF Podcast and share why I'm creating this around the struggles that midlife women face.

It's been three years since stepping back from my online coaching business and I've been healing the pain that divorce brought for me and my children.

The last few years has been an intense period of survival (and surrender) from ending a marriage, losing a home, closing my business, becoming a full-time solo parent, experiencing financial instability, and going through menopause.

I can honestly say I have processed a range of emotions from fear and anger to grief and sadness and I want to speak candidly about the “messy” parts of midlife.

Things like loss of identity (wife, business owner, youth, fitness), my inevitable surrender to less-than-ideal circumstances, and to share the profound lessons I've learned through this process.

This season of The Sacred AD Podcast is for midlife women facing similar challenges. My intention is to offer comfort, empowerment, resilience, and hope, while sharing how I processed the past so I (and maybe you) can create a new future.

00:00 Why Podcasting Matters

01:53 Who I Am Now

02:15 Three Years of Upheaval

05:26 Single Mom Survival

06:26 Messy Truth and Grief

09:10 Identity Loss and Body Changes

11:08 Why This Podcast Now

13:39 Redefining Hope and Happiness

15:23 Intention for Midlife Women

17:46 Closing Thoughts and Next Steps

Support the show

You can find more content on my website for real talk, free trainings & other resources to help you fully embrace your SACRED AS FUCK full self.

Kristen