Why You Keep Self-Sabotaging Your Health Goals (And How to Finally Stop)

Ever catch yourself thinking, “I know what to do... so why aren’t I doing it?”

You’re not lazy. You’re not broken. And this isn’t about willpower.
This episode of The Menopause Method is your midlife brain’s wake-up call.

🎙 In this episode, Cam Allen reveals:

• Why self-sabotage in midlife is actually self-protection
• How the unconscious mind keeps you stuck in familiar patterns
• The real reason motivation fades (hint: it’s not your fault)
• Simple NLP-based reframes to shift your story and your results
• Why behavior follows identity—and how to change both gently
• How to finally get consistent without more pressure or perfection

Whether you’re navigating perimenopause, postmenopause, or just feel like your spark has turned into a flicker—this one’s for you.

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🧠 This episode is packed with mindset shifts, nervous system wisdom, and language upgrades that actually work for midlife women.

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We'll cover:

1. Why ‘sabotage’ is actually your brain’s outdated safety system.That block you keep running into? It’s not laziness — it’s biology. Your brain is efficient, always choosing familiar (even uncomfortable familiar) over the unknown.
2. Why your old willpower tricks don’t work anymore. Shaming yourself or trying to “just do it” doesn’t calm your nervous system — and that’s exactly what you need as you move through and beyond menopause.
3. How to reframe your inner dialogue to become your own cheerleader. Instead of “I always quit,” try “I haven’t found a rhythm that supports me yet.” The words you use with yourself aren’t just fluff — they’re instructions to your body and mind, especially in midlife.
   
   

Key Takeaways:

• Self-sabotage is often actually self-protection, not a personal flaw.
• Your brain prioritizes safety and the familiar over your goals, especially in midlife.
• Willpower and shame-based motivation don't work for long-term health changes after menopause.
• Reframing your thoughts and language can help shift your habits and outcomes.
• Hormonal changes in menopause affect stress and stored hormones, making past strategies less effective.
• Small, compassionate steps lead to real change—start with micro moves, not grand gestures.
• Your identity creates momentum; embracing new self-talk can anchor lasting behavior shifts.

Chapters:
00:00 Rethink Motivation for Post-Menopause
04:13 Rewire Thoughts Through Reframing
07:26 Rediscover Leadership: Embrace Change