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  • How to Set Boundaries When You’ve Never Set One Before | S2E14

    How to Set Boundaries When You’ve Never Set One Before | S2E14
    2026/10/20

    Becky Mollenkamp joins Lauren for a conversation about why boundary setting can feel so threatening, especially for high-achieving women and people pleasers. Becky, author of Liberate Your Business and founder of the Feminist Podcasters Collective, breaks down how fear, conditioning, and culture shape the way we work, relate, and say no. They also get practical, with scripts and mindset checks for handling work messages after hours, declining expensive invitations, and responding when people guilt-trip or push back.


    Key Topics

    • Why boundary setting can feel unsafe, even when there is no physical danger
    • How fear of rejection is wired into the human brain
    • How people-pleasing can stem from conditioning, rather than being a personal flaw
    • Why self-acceptance matters alongside personal growth
    • How hustle culture and extractive systems can encourage people to overextend themselves
    • How emotional labor and resentment can signal a missing boundary
    • Ways to set expectations early with bosses, friends, and partners
    • What to do when someone pushes back or uses guilt
    • How boundaries can help protect relationships from resentment
    • Lauren’s experiences setting boundaries in corporate consulting and entrepreneurship


    Chapters

    (06:09) Why setting boundaries can feel terrifying for people pleasers

    (11:03) Self-acceptance instead of trying to remake yourself

    (12:25) Social expectations, the patriarchy, and who gets to set the standards

    (14:22) Hustle culture and extractive systems

    (16:55) Questions to ask about who benefits from your fear or self-denial

    (21:25) Noticing anxiety, resentment, and emotional load

    (24:42) How boundaries can protect relationships

    (26:17) Setting boundaries around after-hours work messages

    (31:24) Lauren’s experience setting work boundaries

    (34:48) Setting boundaries around expensive dinners or trips with friends

    (37:23) Responding to guilt trips and pushback

    (39:23) How boundaries can change or end relationships

    (41:41) Starting with small boundary wins


    Action items

    • Name your boundary before a situation becomes a problem
    • Clarify expectations around work hours and after-hours communication
    • Notice resentment as a possible signal that a boundary needs attention
    • Try simple “if/then” language when declining plans outside your budget
    • If someone pushes back, consider restating your boundary, ending the conversation, or reevaluating the relationship
    • Start with a small boundary and practice following through


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    Feminist Podcasters Collective: https://feministpodcasterscollective.com/

    Liberate Your Business Book: https://beckymollenkamp.com/book/

    Her podcasts: https://smashingpatriarchy.com/

    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@becky-mollenkamp


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  • What I Learned from Losing Myself in a Job I “Should Have Loved” | S2E13

    What I Learned from Losing Myself in a Job I “Should Have Loved” | S2E13
    2026/10/06

    Lauren shares her personal journey of navigating her 20s, the challenges of balancing career ambitions with mental health, and the importance of setting boundaries to maintain self-identity. She shares her experience navigating a high-pressure consulting job and the personal development lessons she learned throughout her career. If you’re looking for some relatable self-help content, you’ve come to the right place.


    Key Topics

    • The trap of high-paying jobs and losing yourself
    • The importance of mental health support and therapy
    • Strategies for setting boundaries and avoiding burnout
    • The impact of work environment on personal well-being
    • Unlearning attachment to job titles for self-identity


    Takeaways

    • It's normal to seek therapy and medication for mental health
    • Setting strict work boundaries is crucial for well-being
    • High-stress jobs can leak into personal life and cause burnout
    • Your job does not define your worth or identity
    • Small daily actions can help reclaim your mental health


    Chapters

    01:45 The trap of losing yourself in a high-paying job

    02:51 Experience at Deloitte and the pursuit of stability

    05:30 Working in a high-stress environment

    09:20 Realizing the importance of boundaries and mental health

    11:34 Practical steps to protect your mental health and identity


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    #mentalhealth #selfhelp #personaldevelopment #careerboundaries #therapy #wellness #selfimprovement

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  • From People-Pleasing to Peace: Her Path Back to Herself | S2E12

    From People-Pleasing to Peace: Her Path Back to Herself | S2E12
    2026/09/22
    Lauren sits down with Mia, also known as phoodietings, for a candid conversation about queer identity, people-pleasing, and the mental load of hiding who you are. Mia shares how growing up Filipino and Catholic shaped her early experiences, how she came to understand her sexuality later in life, and how creating content helped her build confidence and community. They also get practical, discussing ADHD diagnosis, setting boundaries without guilt, and why authenticity matters in both relationships and content creation.Key TopicsThe origin story of Mia’s @phoodietings InstagramThe DMV Foodie Crew community of creatorsFilipino food and cultureADHD diagnosis in adulthood, including restlessness, trouble focusing, and trying different medicationsMia’s experience growing up in a Catholic home and masking her identityComing out later in life, including Mia’s first crushes, dating women privately, and the relief of finally living authenticallyThe emotional cost of people-pleasing, especially when there’s no queer community or safe outlet to process dating experiencesComing out publicly on social mediaMia’s advice on boundaries, self-trust, and choosing yourself even when fear is presentChapters02:52 Starting with a breathing exercise04:03 Highs and lows of the week, including entrepreneurship dreams and ADHD challenges05:32 What led Mia to seek an ADHD diagnosis as an adult10:04 Mia’s content creator origin story and how phoodietings began11:03 Why Filipino content resonated and the role of food in love and hospitality12:40 Family expectations, Catholic guilt, and early people-pleasing14:12 Coming out later in life and realizing attraction to women15:40 Masking, dressing to fit in, and the emotional strain of hiding identity17:22 Lauren shares her own bisexual identity journey20:59 Family reactions, internalized homophobia, and the path toward acceptance22:23 Mia’s Hinge story and how she met her fiancé25:33 Dating women in secret and what people-pleasing looked like in practice27:24 The loneliness of hiding dating life from family and friends30:54 How podcasts and a solo Miami trip helped Mia prepare to come out32:31 Coming out to close people through Diana Ross’s “I’m Coming Out”34:21 Why Mia chose to come out publicly on social media36:55 Letting go of outside approval and feeling truly happy39:12 The mental health toll of forcing herself into a straight box40:01 Therapy and feeling free42:29 A practical boundary: waiting 24 hours before saying yes44:50 Advice for people afraid to live authenticallyAction itemsTry a 24-hour delay before agreeing to plans or favorsAsk yourself whether a yes is coming from alignment or people-pleasingPost the creative thing, even if it feels cringe at firstIf you know someone who could benefit from listening to this episode, please share it with them. As always, I welcome your thoughts and feedback. You can also support the podcast by subscribing, rating, reviewing, and/or commenting on your favorite platform. Thank you! 🙂Newsletter: ⁠https://thenakedtruthwithlauren.kit.com/newsletter⁠Email: ⁠hello@thenakedtruthwithlauren.com⁠IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/thenakedtruth.pod⁠Contact Us: ⁠https://www.thenakedtruthwithlauren.com/contactConnect with Mia:IG: https://www.instagram.com/phoodietings/ & https://www.instagram.com/toma_ventures/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@phoodietings YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TOMAVENTURES Thank you to our partners this week:Cozy Earth: Get 21% off bamboo sheets, pajamas, & more with code TRUTH at https://promocode.to/cozy-earth/truth-4zyMore Labs: Get 25% off clinically proven recovery energy drinks with code NAKED at https://promocode.to/more-labs/naked-tjj
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  • How to Navigate Work Stress Without Spiraling | S2E11

    How to Navigate Work Stress Without Spiraling | S2E11
    2026/09/08
    Lauren speaks with Raisa Martinez, the Regional Director of the David Lynch Foundation in DC and a certified Transcendental Meditation (TM) teacher. They unpack what chronic stress does to the nervous system, how masking and imposter syndrome show up in work and life, and how meditation, gratitude, and basic routines can help people recover from fight-or-flight.In this episode, we discuss:How DC hustle culture and the transition from NY to DC shaped Raisa’s early career stressThe difference between imposter syndrome as a challenge and imposter syndrome as a sign of growthMasking as a woman of color and the hidden cognitive load it createsWhat happens in the fight-or-flight response when work stress becomes chronicWhy sleep, water, nutrition, and safe environments are still the foundation of stress regulationHow journaling, gratitude, and analog hobbies can help interrupt comparison and doomscrollingThe difference between concentration, contemplative, and transcendental meditationWhy transcendental meditation uses a private mantraA powerful story of a DC woman who found relief after years of grief and trauma3 practical steps listeners can use right away to reduce daily work stressKey frameworks and ideas:Fight-or-flight is no longer occasional - Raisa explains that modern stress keeps the nervous system in a heightened state far too oftenMasking as adaptation - changing how you speak, dress, or show up to fit a room can be protective, but it also drains energyGratitude as a daily reset - even 1 specific thing can shift perception and help counter negativity biasAnalogy of the ocean - concentration meditation stays on the surface, contemplative practice explores a guided layer, & TM goes beyond active thinking into quieter levelsThe sunglasses metaphor - stress distorts how we see life until a restorative practice helps clear the lensLobster growth analogy - discomfort can signal the need to shed an old shell and grow into a stronger version of yourselfChapters(02:45) High and low of the week, including Juneteenth and pregnancy sleep struggles(06:50) DC hustle culture and the pressure to prove yourself(12:30) What stress looked like after moving to DC(14:56) Defining masking and the cost of code-switching(18:30) What fight-or-flight does to the body in modern work life(22:28) Wellness practices for stress management(29:04) Getting out of the comparison trap on social media(35:47) The three types of meditation and how they differ(40:21) What transcendental meditation is and how it works(46:49) A transformational story from teaching a grieving woman in DC(53:09) Three practical steps for managing work stressAction items:Write down what is stressing you out instead of replaying it in your headIdentify what feels missing or non-nourishing in your lifePick 1 gratitude practice and do it at the same time every dayGratitude Plus App: https://gratitudeplus.app.link/nakedtruth If you know someone who could benefit from listening to this episode, please share it with them. As always, I welcome your thoughts and feedback. You can also support the podcast by subscribing, rating, reviewing, and/or commenting on your favorite platform. Thank you! 🙂Newsletter: ⁠https://thenakedtruthwithlauren.kit.com/newsletter⁠Email: ⁠hello@thenakedtruthwithlauren.com⁠IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/thenakedtruth.pod⁠Contact Us: ⁠https://www.thenakedtruthwithlauren.com/contactConnect with Raisa & Learn More:Email: raisa@thedavidlynchfoundation.org Learn more about TM: https://tm.org/ Explore the David Lynch Foundation: https://www.davidlynchfoundation.org/ Thank you to our partners this week:Cozy Earth: Get 21% off bamboo sheets, pajamas, & more with code TRUTH at https://promocode.to/cozy-earth/truth-4zyMore Labs: Get 25% off clinically proven recovery energy drinks with code NAKED at https://promocode.to/more-labs/naked-tjj
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  • My Relationship with Comparison & Why I Had to Break Up With It | S2E10

    My Relationship with Comparison & Why I Had to Break Up With It | S2E10
    2026/08/25

    Lauren explores the realities of navigating your 20s, focusing on social media comparison, mental health, and embracing authenticity. She shares personal stories about comparison, practical tips to protect your peace, and mindset shifts to help listeners feel less alone and more empowered.


    Keywords: 20s, social media, comparison, mental health, authenticity, self-worth, mindset, personal growth


    Key Topics

    • Social comparison theory and its impact on mental health
    • Lauren's personal story of jealousy and pride
    • The curated nature of social media and its effects
    • Strategies for managing social media consumption
    • The importance of presence and mindfulness
    • Reprogramming scarcity mindset to abundance mindset
    • Unfollowing and muting for mental well-being
    • Taking social media breaks and digital detoxes


    Takeaways

    • Social media is a highlight reel, not reality
    • Comparison can steal joy, but awareness helps manage it
    • Reprogram your mind to see abundance, not scarcity
    • Unfollow accounts that make you feel less than
    • Presence and mindfulness are skills that help manage stress
    • Taking breaks from social media benefits mental health
    • You are stronger than your insecurities


    Sound Bites

    • “Our brains are wired to compare ourselves to others."
    • "Someone else's win isn't my loss."


    Chapters

    02:01 Understanding social comparison theory and its origins

    02:35 Personal story involving comparison

    03:57 The curated nature of social media and behind-the-scenes reality

    06:48 Shifting from scarcity to abundance mindset

    08:11 Curating your social media feed for positivity

    08:56 The importance of presence and mindfulness activities

    10:18 Taking social media breaks and digital detox tips

    10:43 The mute and unfollow audit for peace of mind


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  • How She Stopped Letting Her Anxiety Run the Show at Work | S2E9

    How She Stopped Letting Her Anxiety Run the Show at Work | S2E9
    2026/08/11
    Shabnam Khan shares her journey from a high-stress nursing career to founding Khansciously Healing + Wellness Services. She discusses overcoming workplace anxiety, the power of sound therapy and breath work, and practical tools for self-alignment and resilience.Keywords: workplace anxiety, breath work, sound therapy, self-awareness, mental health, career pivot, healing, nervous system, self-care, wellnessKey TopicsWorkplace anxiety and its impact on mental healthTools for managing anxiety: sound therapy and breath workThe importance of self-awareness and internal alignmentCareer pivoting and trusting your intuitionPractical self-care strategies for high-stress jobsThe role of community and environment in mental healthUsing visualization and affirmations to manifest changeThe connection between nervous system regulation and well-beingTakeawaysSelf-awareness is key to aligning your career with your valuesTools like sound therapy and breath work can provide relief from anxietyYour breath is your life force and a direct connection to your higher selfCreating a routine for self-care helps manage stress and anxietyYour career and personal life are interconnectedTrust your intuition and be naive enough to take risks for growthSmall breaks and self-check-ins can significantly improve your dayYour nervous system needs evidence and repetition to changeSound Bites"Your breath is your life force energy.""You are enough as you are organically."Chapters06:50 Experiencing anxiety in the early nursing career10:21 Transition to travel nursing and new layers of anxiety19:52 Breaking point: emotional struggles as a nurse in Atlanta22:24 The interconnection of work and personal life27:00 Understanding sound therapy and breath work29:14 The power of breath work in calming the nervous system34:58 Integrating mindfulness practices into daily work life43:56 Advice for those feeling stuck in unfulfilling careers47:44 Reflecting on the power within and self-confidenceIf you know someone who could benefit from listening to this episode, please share it with them. As always, I welcome your thoughts and feedback. You can also support the podcast by subscribing, rating, reviewing, and/or commenting on your favorite platform. Thank you! 🙂Newsletter: https://thenakedtruthwithlauren.kit.com/newsletter⁠Email: ⁠hello@thenakedtruthwithlauren.com⁠IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/thenakedtruth.pod⁠Contact Us: ⁠https://www.thenakedtruthwithlauren.com/contactConnect with Shabnam:IG: https://www.instagram.com/khansciously/ Thank you to our partners this week:Cozy Earth: Get 21% off bamboo sheets, pajamas, & more with code TRUTH at https://promocode.to/cozy-earth/truth-4zyMore Labs: Get 25% off clinically proven recovery energy drinks with code NAKED at https://promocode.to/more-labs/naked-tjj A note from Shabnam: Dear listener, as you listen to this podcast and reflect on your experiences with anxiety in the workplace, I invite you to remember anxiety is an experience. It is information. Anxiety is not your identity. Invite yourself to detach from the “I have anxiety” and “I am anxious” storyline and rewrite it to “I am experiencing anxiety”. I hope in time you learn that anxiety is a normal human experience with something to offer. Oftentimes it comes to show you where your nervous system is and is not yet secure, and that in itself can open the door to the alignment you truly desire. But it’s hard to access this if you view anxiety as a problem to be fixed, numbed, or to escape from. You have to rewrite the story and become an observer. Observe when and how anxiety is showing up in your body and watch how it starts to give you wisdom. The more you do this, the more you can alchemize anxiety into power and a tool for direction. So the next time you feel anxious, I invite you to pause, breathe, turn inwards, and observe the messages that are coded within the anxiety.
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  • How to Date with Self-Worth (Even When You’re Tired) | S2E8

    How to Date with Self-Worth (Even When You’re Tired) | S2E8
    2026/07/28

    Today, we’re diving into the trenches of dating with Dr. Laura Finkelstein, a licensed psychologist who also serves as the Director of George Washington University (GW) Counseling and Psychological Services. We explore imposter syndrome in love, navigating the DC dating scene, relationships and breakups, and managing social media's impact on our self-esteem. Dr. Laura offers practical tools for healthier dating and relationship self-awareness.


    Keywords: imposter syndrome, dating, breakup, social media, self-esteem, mental health, relationships, therapy, self-care


    Key Topics

    • Imposter syndrome in love and dating
    • Strategies for healthy breakups and self-confidence
    • Impact of social media on self-esteem and comparison
    • Tools for self-soothing after bad dates
    • The importance of self-awareness and therapy in relationships


    Takeaways

    • Dating is a “piece of the pie,” and it’s important to maintain a balance with other activities in life
    • We’re all whole without a partner
    • Spending time single and being comfortable with yourself helps with dating
    • “Dating is data” - you’re just learning information about others and yourself
    • Telling others that they’re being too picky is minimizing
    • Muting social media connections that evoke negative feelings can help you feel better
    • We’re all struggling in different ways, and it’s important to remember this
    • Self-doubt is one of the biggest reasons people don’t end unhealthy relationships

    Sound Bites

    • "Dating is data, just learn about yourself"
    • "Don't think of yourself as being too picky"
    • "Chart your own course, don't follow societal timelines"


    Chapters

    05:00 Dr. Laura’s high and low of the past week

    06:26 Navigating dating in a high-pressure environment

    10:46 Detaching self-worth from relationship status

    15:04 Identifying dating non-negotiables

    20:26 Managing the comparison trap in dating

    23:09 Curating your social media to invoke positive feelings

    29:44 Self-care after bad dating experiences

    32:10 Split Decisions: Dr. Laura’s newsletter for breakup initiators

    37:53 Advice for someone who feels like they can’t end a relationship

    40:08 Advice for women who feel behind


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    Substack: https://substack.com/@laurafinkelstein1

    IG: https://www.instagram.com/splitdecisionsinsta/


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    47 分
  • The Week I Realized My Burnout Wasn’t “Just a Busy Season” | S2E7

    The Week I Realized My Burnout Wasn’t “Just a Busy Season” | S2E7
    2026/07/14

    Lauren shares her personal journey through burnout in January 2026, the importance of listening to your body, and practical strategies for managing stress and workload as a working professional. She also shares a quick AI tip to simplify your workload at the end. She leaves us with 1 small practical action for the week to set a boundary.


    Keywords: burnout, self-care, entrepreneurship, productivity, mental health, delegation, AI tools, work-life balance


    Key Topics

    • Burnout as a sign to pause and reflect
    • The importance of self-care and boundary setting
    • Delegating tasks and outsourcing for growth
    • Using AI tools to simplify work tasks
    • Lessons from personal experiences with burnout


    Takeaways

    • Burnout is often mistaken for a busy season but requires attention
    • Listening to your body and mind is crucial for sustainability
    • Delegating tasks that drain your energy can free up mental space
    • AI tools can help simplify and delegate tedious tasks
    • Taking time off can lead to renewed creativity and energy


    Sound Bites

    • "I felt like I failed, but it was a lesson."
    • "Saying no is a boundary that protects your energy."


    Chapters

    01:38 The realization: burnout isn't just a busy season

    03:11 January 2026: a month of intense activity and burnout

    07:37 The breaking point: acknowledging failure

    09:51 Recognizing burnout and the need for a break

    12:18 Lessons learned: saying no and listening to your body

    13:55 The importance of outsourcing and delegation

    15:08 Helping people avoid burnout

    15:55 Practical advice: say no and delegate using AI


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    20 分