Matt Okine has been privy to a few life changing events.

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Hailing from Triple J infamy (the radio station ……. not the athletic event), Matt has seen success across television screens, the comedy scene and music stage.

A triple threat, you might say.

Joining us in the studio, Matt is incredibly vulnerable in sharing with Hugh, Ryan, and Josh the pain and confusion of losing his mum at just 12 years old, and how becoming a parent himself has filled him with an irrational, but at times crippling, fear of death.

Matt and Ryan bond over the cathartic and confronting process of writing about yourself as a character, who doesn’t always get it right, and Matt talks to Josh about jealousy and how he learned to trust again after being cheated on.

Matt, what a feeling.

If you’d like to watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/SnV65OzHxEg

🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

• Dr Emily - Meaning of Mid-Life - http://bit.ly/3JRXb3O

📺 Things to watch

• The Other Guy - https://bit.ly/4m32zOL
• Ryan and Matt’s Legendary Moments Ad - https://bit.ly/4pfHxPE

🎧Things to listen to

• Helen’s Message 1992 - Matt and Alex - All Day Breakfast - http://bit.ly/46tLede

📖 Things to read

• Being Black ‘n Chicken, and Chips by Matt Okine - http://bit.ly/4nl9OCP

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Suicide is the leading cause of death for Australians aged 15 to 44.

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On average in Australia, 9 people die by suicide each day, and for every suicide, it is suggested 135 people find themselves in the impact zone.

Today we speak to Karissa Lewis, a lived experience practitioner, who sits with those in perhaps their darkest moment, in the hours, days and weeks after someone they know has died by suicide.

We discuss what a lived experience practitioner is, how it is professionalised, and how postvention (done well) is the most incredible prevention.

Going into specifics, Ryan asks Karissa what the impact zone is like in a school environment, and how you can know what to say, what to do, and how to talk to children about suicide with honesty and age-appropriate language.

Karissa is candid with Hugh, Ryan, and Josh about the stigma of suicide, which prompts Josh to share a story about the complicated nature of the word ‘choice’. And we get some scientific evidence of the power of a good cry.

Life is not better off without you.

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🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned on this episode

• Dr Emily - Grief Lightening - https://bit.ly/4nijyxP
• Samuel Johnson - A Life of Vulnerability - https://bit.ly/4mK0zvW

📖 Things to read

• Is crying good for you? - https://bit.ly/41ys2Iy
• Zone of Fabulousness by Vikki Reynolds - https://bit.ly/3I0i5Nv

📱Things to download

• Beyond Now - Safety Planning App - https://bit.ly/466T9Mo

💻Things to check out

• Social Futures StandBy Support After Suicide - https://bit.ly/4mHWZ5s
• National Centre for Childhood Grief - https://bit.ly/466ONop
• Certificate IV in Mental Health Peer Work (there’s lots!)
• Living Works Australia - ASIST 2 Day Course - https://bit.ly/429tNMz

🎟️Things to buy tickets for

• Together Again, Imperfects Live Show - https://bit.ly/47VT9Bc

🚨If you, or someone you know, is thinking about suicide;

• Contact Lifeline on 13 11 14.
• 13YARN (Aboriginal & Torres Strait Islander Crisis Support Line) – 13 92 76
• Please call 000 in an emergency
• StandBy Support After Suicide – 1300 727 247

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The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

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Mid-life crises have a bad rap.

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Joined by our resident psychologist Dr Emily Musgrove, this emisode is for everyone, but especially for those who’s back goes out more than them, and who are trying to fill the void with purpose (or a ponytail, or a sports car).

Technically, you’re in your mid-life from about the ages of 35-70. Which would be quite bleak, if we didn’t have Dr Emily in the studio to reframe this period of our lives with hope, meaning and purpose.

Tuning into what our soul is yearning for, Dr Emily discusses how we can intentionally look at generating legacy, combat narratives which suggest “we should have it all worked out”, and maybe even turn our intelligence into a …. um, butterfly.

And then we hear from Josh, who’s right in the thick of it. Cue tears. Cue hugs. Cue sending Josh all of the love in the entire world.

Dr Em, you’ve hit the nail on the head with this one.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/r6tdU-r5k4o

🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned on this episode

• Elizabeth Day - The Me-est Version of Me - http://bit.ly/3HTMKMi
• Lauren Zonfrillo - Grief: The Shittest Greatest Gift - http://bit.ly/4fYJonW
• Dr Emily - Compassion of The Self - http://bit.ly/45BW9kU

📖Things to read

• Unstuck, by Dr Emily Musgrove - http://bit.ly/4mAhUaA
• Finding Meaning in the Second Half of Your Life, by James Hollis - http://bit.ly/41oMED0
• From Strength to Strength, by Arthur C Brooks - http://bit.ly/4lFObvD

💻Things to check out

• Erik Erikson’s psychosocial theory of development - http://bit.ly/4oV1knq
• Jungian Therapy - http://bit.ly/3JyslNh
• Chip Connolly - Modern Elder Academy - http://bit.ly/4fZUN70
• Kristen Neff - Online Self Compassion Practice - http://bit.ly/4mUIs68
• Chris Germer - Mindful Self-Compassion - http://bit.ly/3Vj5d82
• Paul Gilbert - Developing Self-Compassion - http://bit.ly/4fYN74U
• Regina Gurlach - Self-Compassion - http://bit.ly/3HO1Xi2
• U-Shaped Curve of Happiness - http://bit.ly/4p0m5hQ
• Ron Siegel - The Disillusion of Living - http://bit.ly/4fYO11i

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The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

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Not shut down by the fear of humiliation, Hannah Ferguson believes her biggest failure would be to never try in the first place.

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In saying that, everything Hannah tries (and touches), inevitably turns to gold (media company, podcast, author, you get the point).

In this episode of The Vulnerabilitea House, Hannah answers the question, “what have you learnt about love from the way you were cared for as a child?”

Recounting the moment she was asked to be responsible for the lives of her siblings, Hannah is incredibly vulnerable and honest in reflecting on the status of her relationship with her parents now, and goes deep with Ryan about the importance of intention.

In the spirit of her word of the year being ‘soft’, Hannah and Josh unpack why she has felt undesirable and undatable, and what makes her current partner feel like forev- a very long time (this could age poorly, but hopefully won’t).

Hannah, our BFLT.

If you’d like to watch this full video on YouTube, click here - http://bit.ly/3JLOd7S

🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

• Origin of the Pink Dildo Story (Tim Minchin - Lucky To Be Here) - https://apple.co/492kgsN
• Dr Emily - That Guilty Feeling - http://bit.ly/47BcFmn

🎧Things to listen to

• Big Small Talk - http://bit.ly/41fHklq
• Brene Brown on Oprah - http://bit.ly/3Jqeit6

📺Things to watch

• Hannah’s National Press Club Address - http://bit.ly/4oPN7s8
• Tony Abbott Freeze video - http://bit.ly/3HIW85m
• Tony Abbott Onion video - http://bit.ly/3UFCvy3

📖Things to read

• Bite Back, by Hannah Ferguson - http://bit.ly/4lyOxEf
• Taboo, by Hannah Ferguson - http://bit.ly/4mQrC8D

💻Things to check out

• Cheek Media Co. - http://bit.ly/4oM4zO6

🚨If you, or someone you know, has experienced or is at risk of domestic violence, call the 24 hour national counselling service 1800RESPECT (1800 737 732). In an emergency, or if you’re feeling unsafe, call 000.

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Inside what might be the biggest scandal in Australian sporting history, Dyson Heppell, at 23 years old, found himself at the centre with a choice to make.

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A leader from the beginning of his career, Dyson was living his childhood dream playing AFL for the Essendon Bombers when everything turned upside down.

In this episode, Dyson chats to Hugh, Ryan, and Josh about his relationship with trust, his teammates and the public in the aftermath of the scandal. Reframing, and rebuilding, Dyson shares how he was able to find joy, empathy and positivity in footy, and life, again.

Hugh discusses with Dyson how he chased control through limiting calories, which resulted in a period of disordered eating and finally, the guys talk about Dyson’s relationship with Harrison, and the starting of Haych the Label.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: http://bit.ly/41EIbw1

🎧Things to listen to

• Dyson Heppell I Dyl & Friends - http://bit.ly/4mKhZZ7

🧢Things to check out

• Haych The Label - http://bit.ly/47xSohB
• The Resilience Project Journal - http://bit.ly/3UZtXSH

🦋If this conversation has raised some uncomfortable feelings for you around eating and food, the Butterfly Foundation 1800 33 4673 is a great place to visit - https://butterfly.org.au

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Hey Babe, what’s for (vulnerabili)tea?

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Andy Hearnden, better known for his online moniker Andy Cooks, is a professional chef and home cook extraordinaire, with more YouTube and TikTok followers than the population of a small country.

Joining us in the Vulnerabilitea House, Andy answers the question, “what’s been your biggest failure and how was it good or bad for you?”

Imitating the behaviour of others around him, alcohol became a normal part of Andy’s daily routine, and eventually, his identity. Andy opens up to Hugh, Ryan and Josh about the non-linear nature of his sobriety journey, and the incredible support of his partner Katelyn (Babe).

As a garnish, Andy chats to Ry about breaking the cycle of poor people management, and learning how to become a leader.

Andy, you can cook (or chat) with us anytime.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, click here - https://youtu.be/Pq8iKXWIfGA

🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

• Ben Shewry (Pt 1) - The Other Side of Excellence - https://apple.co/4hhc2RB
• Ben Shewry (Pt 2) - How The Chef Was Made - https://apple.co/48hrQiQ
• Ben Shewry - Making It Right (And Delicious) - https://bit.ly/4jPHq9F

📖 Things to read

• The Cookbook, by Andy Cooks - https://bit.ly/3UIB161

💻Things to check out

• Andy Cooks - YouTube - https://bit.ly/4okLSRk

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Do you ever wonder whether you belong?

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According to Dr Emily Musgrove, our resident psychologist, belonging is an evolutionary need, literally built into our DNA. And in our current loneliness epidemic, the feeling of belonging uncertainty can impact our sense of safety, identity and even physical health.

This week, Dr Em goes into the intolerable state of uncertainty, and the self-fulfilling prophecy we may induce when trying to protect ourselves. Unfortunately, for all of us introverts, creating connection involves risk.

Thorough in her research as always, Dr Em explains the benefits to seeking perspective and crafting situations to help others feel like they belong.

AND with a guest star appearance from Producer Bridge, we unpack what it looks and feels like to get it wrong, and how you can work to get it right.

Dr Em, this is our favourite time of the month.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/r1qTUZwBLDw

🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

• Rana Hussain - Belonging For Connection - http://bit.ly/4odhGY8
• Fern Brady - Autistic in a Non-Autistic World - http://bit.ly/4l8Y4lt
• Grace Tame - “Sexy-time, Scissoring, Autism” - http://bit.ly/4mbPvaq
• Glenn Robbins - Listening to the Voice in Your Head - https://bit.ly/40HM8zK
• Billy Slater - Leading from the (Full) Back - https://bit.ly/45qvmrr

📖Things to read

• A question of belonging: race, social fit, and achievement by Geoffrey Cohen and Gregory Walton - https://bit.ly/4mbPMds
• A Brief Social-Belonging Intervention Improves Academic and Health Outcomes of Minority Students by Geoffrey Cohen and Gregory Walton - https://bit.ly/3UCcS0Y
• Breaking the cycle of mistrust: wise interventions to provide critical feedback across the racial divide by Geoffrey Cohen, David Yeager & others - https://bit.ly/4odZKgc
• Pygmalion in the Classroom by Robert Rosenthal & Lenore Jacobson - http://bit.ly/4fa2Tte
• BELONGING: The Feeling That We “Belong” May Depend in Part on “Affirmations” by Mary Rowe - http://bit.ly/4l8fPBo
• Unstuck by Dr Emily Musgrove - http://bit.ly/3J8tieV

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Well, well, well, it’s time to prove things.

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Today we’re jumping in your ears for a public service announcement: The Resilience Project (TRP) is officially backed by some rock-hard, super-sciencey evidence.

Founded by our very own Hugh (you know, from the podcast), TRP delivers emotionally engaging programs to over 1000 schools across Australia, as well as workplaces and sporting clubs.

This longitudinal, independent study conducted by Roshini Balasooriya Lekamge is peer reviewed (no Ryan, not that pier), published in The British Journal of Psychiatry, and most importantly, highlights a staggering decrease in depression and anxiety for kids who are engaged with TRP programs and content. Yay!

We hope you love this news as much as we do xx

If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/MGLr0I9UE94

🧐To read this study yourself, click here! - https://bit.ly/4l7y9KR

🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

• How I Built Dis - The Resilience Project Story - http://bit.ly/40IhXZg

💻Things to check out

• The Resilience Project - https://theresilienceproject.com.au
• TRP @ Home - http://bit.ly/4ociNr0
• The University of Melbourne Evaluation - http://bit.ly/44Snxe4
• University of Adelaide Research Findings - http://bit.ly/44Sp83y

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The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

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