In this episode, I explore what it truly means to dream a self-centered life — and how centering yourself creates the foundation for everything you want to build, experience, and become.

Building on last week’s conversation about seeking your purpose, this episode shifts inward. I reflect on what happens when we stop dreaming only for the collective, or in response to struggle, and begin asking a more personal question: what do I want for me?

This episode is about releasing the shame around desire, reconnecting with the dreams you had before the world told you who to be, and allowing yourself to want more — even when it feels unfamiliar or uncertain.

I also reflect on how this realization has evolved — from building for others to remembering myself — and what it means to continue dreaming, creating, and expanding from a place of alignment.

This episode is about remembering: you are allowed to center yourself.

In this episode, I explore:

• The difference between dreaming from survival vs. dreaming from expansion • How conditioning shapes what we believe we’re “allowed” to want • Why it can feel uncomfortable to center yourself — and why it’s necessary • Reconnecting with your inner child’s desires and sense of possibility • Letting go of rigid paths and allowing curiosity to guide your life

Journal with me:

• What do I truly want for my life right now? • What dreams have I hidden, dismissed, or outgrown? • What did I dream about as a child? • What would it look like to center myself in my own life?

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In this episode, I explore what happens after we begin healing and regulating our nervous system — when we return to ourselves and start asking the deeper questions: Who am I? Why am I here? What do I want to do with my life?

Building on last week’s conversation about nervous system regulation, this episode introduces the Seeker phase of my liberation method — the stage where curiosity, imagination, and self-trust begin to guide us.

I share how releasing societal scripts and expectations opens up space to rediscover what actually brings you joy, and how purpose often lives in the things you naturally return to, the challenges you’ve overcome, and the ways you’re called to support others.

This episode is about understanding that purpose is not something you find outside of yourself — it’s something you remember.

In this episode, I explore:

• Why purpose begins with curiosity, not pressure or perfection • How societal scripts disconnect us from our true desires • The connection between healing, self-trust, and clarity of purpose • How to use experimentation and “the scientific method” to explore your life • Why your purpose is often tied to your joy and lived experiences

Journal with me:

• Who am I when no one is watching? • What patterns or beliefs did I inherit about success and safety? • What am I ready to unlearn? • Who am I becoming when I live in alignment with my truth?

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In this episode, I explore why healing and regulating your nervous system is the foundation for everything you’re trying to build. Because if you don’t, you’re building your dreams on quicksand.

I share how entrepreneurship, creativity, and even healing itself will bring all of your “stuff” to the surface — your inner child wounds, inherited patterns, and survival responses. And how learning to regulate your nervous system is what allows you to stay grounded, present, and aligned instead of operating from fear, scarcity, and overdrive.

This episode is about understanding that healing is not separate from your success — it is the foundation of it.

In this episode, I explore:

• Why you shouldn’t build your dreams on an unregulated nervous system • How trauma and inherited patterns live in the body • The role of somatic healing in rewiring your brain and emotional responses • Practical tools to regulate your body in moments of stress and overwhelm • Why grief, rest, and emotional processing are essential to building sustainably

Journal with me:

• What does my body feel like when I’m dysregulated? • What patterns or coping mechanisms am I ready to release? • What does safety feel like in my body? • How can I support my nervous system on a daily basis?

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In this episode, I reflect on what it means to build in the midst of collapse — and why this moment is calling us not just to witness what’s falling apart, but to actively create what comes next.

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Building on last week’s conversation about becoming your own safe space, this episode expands into the collective: if safety is something we cultivate within, how do we then come together to build a world rooted in that truth?

I share a deeply personal reflection on lineage, survival, and the realization that we are here because our ancestors endured the unimaginable — and believed in a future they would never see. That same courage, vision, and responsibility lives in us now.

This episode is about remembering that we are not powerless in this moment. We are builders.

I also introduce The Unbought & Unbossed Academy — a space for Black women to come together as healers, creators, strategists, and visionaries to build the infrastructure of a new world, for us and by us.

This episode is about choosing creation over fear. Community over isolation. Vision over collapse.

In this episode, I explore:

• What it means to live and build during the collapse of an empire • How ancestral survival and resistance inform our responsibility today • The four phases of liberation: healing, seeking, building, and amplifying • Why we must create systems and spaces that center Black women’s leadership • The tension between vision, resources, and staying in integrity with your mission

Journal with me:

• What world am I imagining? • How will my work contribute to that world? • What am I afraid of when I think about building my vision? • What do I love more than I fear?

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The world is on fire, will you wait to feel safe externally to build the new one?

In this episode, I explore what it truly means to become your own safe space — and how that internal safety allows you to show up fully in your life, your relationships, and your purpose.

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Building on last week’s conversation about vulnerability, this episode reflects on the deeper foundation required to sustain it. I share how, for much of my life, I waited for external conditions to feel safe enough to be myself — only to realize that safety is something we must cultivate within.

This episode is about releasing the need for external validation, learning to protect and honor all parts of yourself, and trusting your path even in a world that can feel uncertain and unstable.

I also reflect on how this understanding has evolved — from navigating relationships to navigating a world that often feels unsafe — and what it means to continue building, dreaming, and creating anyway.

This episode is about remembering: you are your own safe space.

In this episode, I explore:

• What it means to create internal safety instead of waiting for it externally • How childhood experiences shape our need for belonging and protection • Why we hide parts of ourselves to feel accepted — and how to reclaim them • The role of boundaries in protecting the safety we build within • How to trust your path and take aligned action, even in uncertainty

Journal with me:

• What am I waiting on to feel safe? • Where am I shrinking myself to be accepted? • What do I need to feel seen, heard, and held with care? • What boundaries do I need to set to protect my internal safety?

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Vulnerability healed my addictions and saved my life.

Every woman I can trace on my maternal line died from addictions or addiction-related illness before the age of 65.

My mother at 44. Her mother at 55. Her mother at 53. And my maternal aunt at 65.

Overdose. Heart disease. Obesity. Smoking. Alcohol-related illness.

Breaking this cycle required my willingness to be radically honest with myself — and to ask for help.

I often think of Nikki Giovanni’s words: “At any point, you have to know who wanted you to live.”

These women gave me the strength to choose life.

Through journaling, therapy, and seven years of somatic healing, I began confronting the ways I numbed pain through alcohol, cannabis, overachievement, and emotional armor. This episode explores what it means to finally release those coping mechanisms and trust that the wound can close.

This episode is about remembering that vulnerability is not weakness — it is the doorway to freedom.

In this episode, I explore:

• How vulnerability creates space for healing and transformation • Why life’s hardest moments can break us open to deeper alignment • The connection between trauma, numbing behaviors, and addiction patterns • What seven years of somatic healing taught me about releasing coping mechanisms • How revisiting old journal entries reveals the evolution of your healing journey

Journal with me:

• When was a time you wished you had been more vulnerable? • What words once felt trapped in your throat? • What would you say to a past version of yourself now? • How can you practice vulnerability with yourself first?

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Lessons from Liberation | Devotion vs. Discipline The Freed Black Girl Podcast

Lessons from Liberation is a mini-episode series on what I’ve learned about what comes after freedom.

In this episode, I reflect on the difference between discipline and devotion — and how healing from childhood physical, emotional, and psychological abuse transformed the way I move through my life, creativity, and self-trust.

When punishment, fear, and perfectionism are tied to safety, it can leave us struggling in adulthood with anxiety, self-doubt, avoidance, overachievement, and shame.

I share how growing up in an environment where discipline was enforced through violence and emotional manipulation created patterns that followed me into adulthood — and how seven years of somatic healing helped me begin to release the trauma stored in my body.

This episode is about reclaiming softness after violence, learning to trust yourself again, and understanding that what kept you safe as a child may no longer serve you as you heal and grow.

In this episode, I explore:

• How childhood physical abuse can shape the nervous system and sense of safety • Why perfectionism, overachievement, and avoidance are common trauma responses • The difference between survival-based discipline and devotion rooted in care • How somatic healing can help release trauma stored in the body • Why softness, rest, play, and self-trust are essential parts of healing

Journal with me:

• What messages did you receive about discipline growing up? • How did punishment shape your relationship with yourself? • What does safety feel like in your body today? • What would it look like to treat yourself with devotion instead of punishment? • How will you care for and protect your inner child?

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Enjoy a replay this week. This episode originally aired in October 2024. It is, perhaps, even more relevant now than it was then.

This episode is about embodying the change we seek. Are we ready to receive our dreams or are we asking for things we haven’t demonstrated the capacity to hold? Are you feeling like leaving your old way of living behind and starting out in a new direction?

Maybe something you've never seen personally before up close? I feel like a lot of us are experiencing this right now. I am, again. It can be scary to dream if that's the story you have told yourself, but how do we know if we're even ready to receive all the things we dream of? Can we really ever be fully ready?

These are the questions rolling around in my mind so I want to share some things I'm learning along the way!