Confusion Is a Signal, Not a Flaw | Cancer Journey Podcast | Episode 117

Confusion on a cancer journey isn't a sign that something is wrong with you. It's a signal, and learning to read it instead of fighting your way out of it can change the whole experience of being in it.

In Episode 117, Shariann and Alicia explore what confusion and lack of clarity actually feel like on a cancer journey, why the instinct to do more doesn't fix what's happening underneath, and what willingness really means when you're trying to find your footing again.

This is a candid, unscripted conversation that models exactly what it's talking about: two people processing in real time, finding their way back to themselves through the fog.

Topics covered in this episode:

• What confusion feels like and why it shows up so often on a cancer journey
• The plan on top versus the emotional experience underneath
• Why doing more doesn't fix what's going on at a deeper level
• The difference between doing and being
• Information overload and why chasing optimal health can make things worse
• Willingness as the key to getting out of the pit
• What it means to let something go when you don't know what that is yet
• Coming back to the present: what do I need, what do I want
• Why confusion means something still matters to you
• The fog lifts on its own when you stop forcing it

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Chapters: 0:00 Welcome and PESH check-in1:30 What confusion feels like: messy, unstable, swirly4:00 The plan on top and the emotional experience underneath8:00 Why doing more doesn't reach what's actually struggling12:00 Information overload and chasing optimal health16:00 Willingness as the real key to getting unstuck20:00 Coming back to the present: what do I need right now23:30 Confusion as a signal that something still matters26:30 Closing takeaways and PESH check-out

Why the End of Treatment Feels So Complicated | The Cancer Journey Podcast | Episode 116The end of cancer treatment should feel like everything you've been waiting for. And sometimes it does. But a lot of the time, it feels anticlimactic, disorienting, or even empty , and almost nobody talks about that.In Episode 116, Shariann and Alicia dig into the experience of endings: what the drop after treatment feels like, why the wide open space of "what's next" can be so overwhelming, and how to move through this transition with more gentleness and intention.This conversation draws on the Cancer Journey Roadmap and the real, lived experience of what it means to finish something enormous and not know who you are on the other side.Topics covered in this episode:• Why ringing the bell can feel anticlimactic• The drop after endings and why it happens• Losing the structure, rhythm, and care team all at once• There is no going back to normal, only a new reality• The lull after treatment and what it's asking of you• The retirement analogy: why freedom can feel untethered• What happens to all the emotions suppressed during treatment• Why play and small joys matter especially in this transition• The Cancer Journey Roadmap and the pit after endings• What do you want? The biggest question after treatment ends• How a Cancer Journey coach helps you find yourself again#CancerJourney #CancerJourneyPodcast #CancerSupportChapters: 0:00 Welcome and PESH check-in 1:30 Endings at CJI: certification and fundamentals groups 3:00 The bittersweet feeling of endings on a cancer journey 5:30 Ringing the bell and why it can feel anticlimactic 8:30 Losing the structure and care team after treatment 11:30 There is no normal anymore — only the new reality 14:30 The retirement analogy: freedom that feels untethered 17:30 Play and small joys as anchors in the transition 20:30 The anger and grief that comes out after treatment ends 23:00 What do you want? The excavation that comes next 26:00 How a Cancer Journey coach holds this turning point 28:00 Closing takeaways and PESH check-out

When Forgiveness Feels Like Giving Something Up | The Cancer Journey Podcast | Episode 115

Forgiveness is one of those words we think we understand until we actually try to practice it. On a cancer journey, it takes on a whole new dimension: forgiving your body, forgiving yourself for how you've responded under enormous pressure, and forgiving others when your capacity to hold anything extra is already gone.

In Episode 115, Shariann and Alicia go deep on what forgiveness actually feels like, why self-forgiveness is the hardest kind, and what it looks like to make it a real practice rather than just an intention.

This is a thoughtful, honest conversation that moves through the complexity of forgiveness without trying to wrap it up too neatly.

Topics covered in this episode:

• What forgiveness actually feels like in the body
• Why forgiveness can feel like giving up your protection or your power
• The difference between forgiving someone and really meaning it
• Why self-forgiveness is harder than forgiving others
• How cancer can bring up feelings of blame and punishment toward yourself
• The responsibility formula and luminous intent
• Forgiveness as self-care, not just a spiritual concept
• The end-of-day forgiveness practice: what do you need to forgive yourself for today?
• What you can give yourself if you hug yourself as warmly as you'd hug someone else
• If you don't forgive, you build a wall instead of a bridge
• The conversations we want others to have with us that we can have with ourselves

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Chapters: 0:00 Welcome and PESH check-in1:45 What forgiveness actually feels like5:00 Why forgiveness can feel like giving something up8:30 The responsibility formula and forgiving yourself12:00 How cancer brings up self-blame and punishment16:00 Why self-forgiveness is the hardest kind20:00 The conversations we want others to have with us23:30 Forgiveness as self-care: the end-of-day practice27:00 Building a bridge instead of a wall30:00 Closing takeaways and PESH check-out

Play feels like the last thing on the list when you're on a cancer journey. But what if waiting until everything is handled before you let yourself feel good is the very thing making the journey harder?

In Episode 114, Shariann and Alicia have a deeply honest conversation about what gets in the way of play, joy, and lightness on a cancer journey, and what it actually looks like to start making space for those things now rather than later.

This episode starts in a real, unfiltered place and moves somewhere genuinely tender. It's one of those conversations that models exactly what it's talking about.

Topics covered in this episode:

• Why play feels inaccessible when you're deep in a cancer journey
• The have-tos versus the get-tos: how a cancer journey can feel like pure obligation
• Freedom as the thing underneath the craving for play
• The someday trap and why deferring joy doesn't work
• Should versus want: the difference in how they feel in your body
• The steps to getting there are the qualities of being there
• How negative ego gets loudest when you most need lightness
• Small, concrete ways to infuse play into everyday moments
• Why you need someone to say your hard things to without it affecting your relationships
• Cancer sucks: giving yourself full permission to say so

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Chapters:

0:00 Welcome and PESH check-in

1:30 Play on a cancer journey: why it feels so out of reach

4:30 Freedom as the real craving underneath it all

8:00 The someday trap: deferring joy until everything is handled

11:30 Letting someone else do your laundry: vulnerability and receiving help

14:30 Getting familiar with what frustration feels like in your body

18:00 Should versus want: a really important distinction

22:00 The steps to getting there are the qualities of being there

25:30 Small ways to infuse play into the hard moments

28:30 Closing takeaway and PESH check-out

How We Die with CJC Barbara Haedtke | The Cancer Journey Podcast | Episode 113How do we die? It's a question most of us spend our lives avoiding — and one that becomes impossible to ignore when you're on a cancer journey, especially a terminal one.In Episode 113, Shariann and Alicia are joined by Barbara, a certified Cancer Journey Coach who is also living with a terminal cancer diagnosis. She brings a rare combination of professional experience and deeply personal perspective to a conversation about mortality, legacy, grief, gratitude, and what it means to truly engage with the life you have left.This is one of the most honest and tender conversations the podcast has had. It doesn't offer easy answers. It offers something better — the experience of watching someone engage with the hardest material with curiosity, grace, and an open heart.Topics covered in this episode:• What it actually feels like to face a terminal diagnosis• The difference between cognitive acceptance and emotional engagement• Grief as an ongoing, daily process — not a destination• Why the things people say to the dying often have more to do with their own fear• The practical side of facing death — putting affairs in order, shifting financial plans• Gratitude and grief living side by side in the same moment• Legacy — what you want to leave, how you want to be remembered• "Engage with the material" — what that phrase really means• The last year of Debbie Ford's sister's life — and what she said about it• What proximity to death reveals about how we've been living• How a Cancer Journey Coach creates space for this kind of engagementGuest: Barbara, Certified Cancer Journey Coach#CancerJourney #EndOfLife #CancerJourneyPodcastChapters: 0:00 Welcome and PESH check-in 2:00 Introducing the topic — how we die 4:30 Barbara's experience facing a terminal diagnosis 8:00 The drive home from the doctor — grief, beauty, and gratitude 12:00 What people say to the dying (and what they really mean) 16:00 Legacy, curiosity, and engaging with the material 20:00 Money, mortality, and what you'd do if the runway shifted 24:30 The Wise Old Crone — finding yourself through the Cancer Journey Institute 28:00 What "engage with the material" really means 32:00 Closing takeaways and PESH check-out

Where Does Joy Even Fit? | The Cancer Journey Podcast | Episode 112

How do you possibly find joy when you're on a cancer journey? When treatment is exhausting, energy is limited, and just getting through the day takes everything you have — where does joy even fit?

In Episode 112, Shariann and Alicia get practical and personal about what it actually looks like to find moments of nourishment and delight on a cancer journey. This isn't about toxic positivity or forcing a good attitude. It's about giving yourself real permission to feel good, in whatever small ways are actually accessible to you right now.

Topics covered in this episode:

• Why joy feels out of reach on a cancer journey — and why it doesn't have to
• The difference between nourishment and joy, and why both matter
• Why familiar activities work better than trying to learn something new
• What Shariann leaned on during treatment when TV felt like too much
• Why movies and TV aren't always the easy escape we think they are
• The joy of small things — and why slowing down makes them visible
• Fur babies, kids' laughter, nature, and the unexpected allies on a cancer journey
• Getting dressed for yourself, not for anyone else
• Journaling as a joy practice — and how to actually start
• The pink wig story — and what permission really looks like
• Marie Kondo, monstera leaf pasta spoons, and sparking joy in the everyday

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Chapters: 0:00 Welcome and PESH check-in1:45 How do we find joy — and what does nourishment look like on a cancer journey?4:30 Why TV isn't always the easy escape — and what Shariann did instead8:00 Familiar activities, crafts, music, and books11:30 The unexpected allies — fur babies, kids, nature, comedy15:00 The small joys hiding in plain sight18:30 Getting dressed for yourself — and the woman in the treatment room22:00 Journaling as a joy practice25:00 Permission — and the pink wig story 28:30 Closing takeaways and PESH check-out

What the System Wasn't Designed to Hold | The Cancer Journey Podcast | Episode 111

The cancer care system is extraordinarily skilled at treating the physical body. But a cancer journey is so much more than what shows up on a scan — and for most people moving through it, the emotional, mental, and spiritual dimensions of the experience are largely unaddressed.

This is a conversation about the limits of a fix-it culture, the invisible weight that doctors and nurses carry, and why a Cancer Journey Coach might be the most important addition to a care team that no one is talking about yet.

Topics covered in this episode:

- Why the medical system is built for efficiency — and what gets lost in that model

- The emotional weight that doctors and nurses carry and rarely have space to process

- Why you can cognitively trust your care team and still not feel emotionally safe

- What happens when emotions are suppressed throughout a cancer journey

- How suppressed emotions affect decision-making and quality of life

- Toxic positivity and why forcing it doesn't actually help

- The role of a Cancer Journey Coach as the humanity piece of the care team

- Why bringing emotion back into care doesn't slow things down — it makes everything work better

- What Shariann experienced at the end of her own treatment and what it illuminated

#CancerJourney #CancerCare #CancerJourneyPodcast

Chapters:

0:00 Welcome and PESH check-in

1:45 Why the medical system struggles to hold the emotional experience

4:30 The culture of fixing — and what it misses

7:00 The emotional weight doctors and nurses carry

10:00 Trusting your care team cognitively vs. feeling it emotionally

13:00 What happens when emotions get suppressed throughout treatment

16:00 Toxic positivity and why it doesn't work

18:30 Decision-making and the role of emotions in knowing what matters

21:00 The Cancer Journey Coach as the humanity piece of the care team

24:00 Closing takeaways and PESH check-out

The Conversation Nobody's Having About Chemo Brain | The Cancer Journey Podcast | Episode 110

Brain fog, chemo brain, and the days when you just can't access yourself the way you normally can — this is one of the most common and least talked about experiences on a cancer journey. In Episode 110, Shariann and Alicia get candid about what it actually feels like to not feel brilliant, and what that has to do with how we're taught to push through instead of slow down.

The conversation moves from the personal experience of cognitive fog to the deeper question of what we actually need on days like that — and why a safe space to say what's really there matters more than any supplement or strategy.

Topics covered in this episode:• What brain fog and chemo brain actually feel like from the inside• Why the dip in cognitive sharpness triggers fear and self-blame• The difference between a bad day and a less-resourced day• What Shariann discovered about coaching from the heart during her own cancer treatment• Why slowing down is not the opposite of productivity — especially on a cancer journey• What a coaching session offers that even the best friendship can't replicate• The real-time shift that happened during this episode• Why you don't have to feel brilliant to have value• "There's magic in the telling — but it matters where you tell it"#CancerJourney #ChemoBrain #CancerJourneyPodcast

Chapters: 0:00 Welcome and PESH check-in 2:10 What it feels like to not feel brilliant 5:30 Chemo brain, aging, and the fear that something is wrong 8:45 Good days, less-resourced days, and the body's need for rest 12:00 Coaching from the heart — Shariann's experience during treatment 16:30 What slowing down actually makes possible 20:00 What coaching offers that friendship can't 25:00 Witnessing the shift in real time 29:30 Closing takeaways and PESH check-out