In this episode, we explore boundaries through a wider, more spacious lens—one that moves beyond rules, ultimatums, or control and into meaning, symbolism, and self-honoring truth.

Inspired by The Great All: A Parable of Hope, New Beginnings, and You by Molly Davis Moon, this conversation invites a zoomed-out perspective on boundaries. Rooted in compassion and dignity, we explore what it means to truly honor yourself and others.

For those navigating betrayal trauma, boundaries often feel confusing, heavy, or weaponized and something you’re told to “set” without ever being taught how to feel your way into them. This episode offers a different entry point.

We talk about:

• Boundaries as symbols of self-respect rather than defenses

• What it means to honor me / honor you without self-abandonment

• How parables and story can bypass shame and speak directly to the nervous system

• Why boundaries are not punishments—but expressions of truth

• The “compassionate revolution”: choosing integrity over control

This is a reflective, meaning-rich conversation—especially for women healing from betrayal who are tired of black-and-white rules and longing for something more humane, spacious, and soul-honoring.

If boundaries have felt rigid, impossible, or unclear… this episode may offer a breath of fresh air—and a new way to see yourself within the story.

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About Molly

Molly Davis Moon is the author and illustrator of, The Great All: A Parable of

Hope, New Beginnings, and You. Raised in her wild ancestral home of Alaska, Molly is a mother and grandmother, lover of nature, and lifelong creative. A therapist, coach, and leader in the healing space, her popular boundaries cartoons and programs have taken social media by storm, creating loyal followers and changed lives. Now, Molly’s heart for a better world flows through her pen in this empowering parable for personal transformation and collective change.

You can find Molly on social media with her popular boundaries cartoons

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Betrayal doesn’t just shatter trust, it forces women to confront questions they never expected to face about boundaries, relationships, and who they are becoming in the aftermath.

In Part 2 of my conversation with author Tammy Gustafson, we move beyond survival and into the tender, complex territory of what comes next.

We talk honestly about boundaries that protect rather than punish, the different relational paths women may choose after betrayal, and how healing can slowly begin to transform into growth.

This conversation honors that there is no single “right” way forward, only the path that supports your safety, truth, and integrity.

• What boundaries actually are after betrayal and why they’re about self-protection, not control

• How to discern relational paths after betrayal without pressure or urgency

• Why healing isn’t about fixing the relationship, but stabilizing and reconnecting with yourself

• How clarity unfolds over time, not through forced decisions

• When healing begins to shift into growth and what that transition really feels like

• How to hold uncertainty with compassion instead of self-judgment
  

Tammy brings a steady, compassionate lens to this conversation — one that respects the depth of betrayal trauma while honoring women’s autonomy, timing, and inner wisdom.

• You’re confused about boundaries and worried you’re “doing them wrong”

• You feel pressure to decide whether to stay or leave before you feel grounded

• You’re noticing growth emerging, but still feel tender and unsure

• You want permission to move slowly and listen to yourself

• You’re ready to explore what healing can become — without rushing the process

Healing after betrayal doesn’t mean erasing the past. It means learning how to live with deeper truth, stronger boundaries, and a more connected relationship with yourself.

🎧 Listen in for a thoughtful, honest conversation about boundaries, choice, and how healing slowly turns into growth one grounded step at a time.

🌟 Meet the Author: Tammy Gustafson

Tammy Gustafson is a trauma-informed licensed professional counselor, coach, and speaker with over 15 years of experience. She holds a master’s degree in counseling and is the founder and CEO of Betrayal Healing and LiveFree Counseling. Tammy hosts the annual Betrayal Healing Conference, which provides compassionate, expert guidance to thousands of betrayed partners worldwide.

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Betrayal has a way of making women feel broken emotionally, relationally, and inside their own sense of self.

In this episode, I’m joined by author Tammy Gustafson for a powerful conversation about what it really means to be broken… and how bravery often emerges in ways we don’t expect after betrayal.

Together, we explore how betrayal trauma impacts the nervous system, identity, and sense of safety—and why healing is rarely a straight line.

• What “broken” actually means after betrayal and why it’s not a personal failure

• How bravery doesn’t look like strength or certainty, but honesty and presence

• The phases of healing after betrayal and why each one matters

• Why the path to healing often feels counterintuitive

• How betrayal creates an invisible injury that deserves real care and time

• What true repair looks like—inside yourself, not just in the relationship
  

Tammy offers a grounded, compassionate lens for understanding betrayal trauma, one that honors the depth of the injury without rushing women toward forgiveness or decisions they’re not ready to make.

This episode is especially supportive if:

• You’ve been told to “be strong” when you feel shattered

• You’re questioning why you’re still struggling long after the betrayal

• You want to true healing from the betrayal you’ve experienced

• You’re looking for validation that you’re on the path.
  

You are not weak because this hurt you.

You are not failing because healing takes time.

And you are not broken beyond repair.

🎧 Listen in for a compassionate, real conversation about betrayal, bravery, and what healing actually looks like after everything falls apart.

🌟 Meet the Author: Tammy Gustafson

Tammy Gustafson is a trauma-informed licensed professional counselor, coach, and speaker with over 15 years of experience. She holds a master’s degree in counseling and is the founder and CEO of Betrayal Healing and LiveFree Counseling. Tammy hosts the annual Betrayal Healing Conference, which provides compassionate, expert guidance to thousands of betrayed partners worldwide.

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Surrender is one of the most misunderstood concepts in healing, especially after betrayal trauma. For many women, the word itself can feel painful, unsafe, or even triggering. It can sound like giving up, minimizing harm, or accepting what should never have happened.

In this episode, we slow surrender way down.

This conversation explores what surrender actually means in the context of betrayal trauma and healing in Christ’s light. Not as passive acceptance or forced forgiveness, but as a gradual, grounded process of releasing what was never yours to carry in the first place.

We talk about surrender through multiple lenses. Faith, higher power, and the 12-step framework, while always coming back to what surrender looks like in real, everyday life for women whose trust has been shattered.

In this episode, we explore:

• Why surrender often feels painful and threatening after betrayal
• Making space for different concepts of a higher power without pressure or perfection
• What surrender means in the 12 steps, in practical, lived terms
• How surrender can coexist with boundaries, truth, and discernment
• How surrender can become a pathway back to peace, clarity, and self-connection

This episode is for women who are exhausted from holding everything together, from trying to manage outcomes, and from carrying responsibility that was never theirs. Surrender here is not about shrinking or silencing yourself. It is about softening your grip on what you cannot control so you can come back home to yourself.

You don’t have to understand surrender all at once. You don’t have to do it perfectly. And you don’t have to force it before you’re ready.

This episode offers gentle perspective, grounded truth, and permission to explore surrender at your own pace.

🌟 Meet the Author: Jeni Brockbank

Jeni Brockbank lives in northern Utah with her six children, where she works as a betrayal trauma coach and podcaster. She finds joy in applying the gospel of Jesus Christ to real-life challenges, floating on lazy rivers, snuggling her kids, and long lunches with good friends. She loves the color red as a reminder of her individual worth to her Heavenly Father. Jeni is also the founder of Her Wings Unfold, a nonprofit dedicated to supporting survivors of domestic violence, betrayal, and abuse.

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Betrayal doesn’t just break trust — it fractures your connection to yourself, to others, and often to God.

In Part 2 of this conversation, I’m again joined by Jeni Brockbank, author of Healing in Christ’s Light, to explore what it looks like to move beyond survival and into deeper healing after betrayal — without bypassing pain or rushing the process.

This episode centers on soul-care, compassion, and truth-based healing for women navigating the aftermath of abuse, addiction, abandonment, and adultery.

Together, we explore:

• Why betrayal wounds the soul — not just the heart or mind

• What real soul-care looks like after trauma (and why “just pray more” often isn’t enough)

• How self-compassion becomes a critical healing practice after gaslighting and self-doubt

• Why healing in isolation keeps wounds open — and how safe community supports restoration

• The difference between accountability, support, and pressure disguised as “help”

• What forgiveness is — and what it is not

• Why forgiveness is not the same as reconciliation, tolerance, or bypassing harm

• How faith-centered healing honors truth, boundaries, agency, and dignity

This episode is a grounding reminder that:

You are allowed to be tender with yourself.

You are not meant to heal alone.

And forgiveness is never meant to cost you your safety or your soul.

If you’ve struggled with guilt, pressure to “move on,” or confusion about forgiveness and faith after betrayal — this conversation was created for you.

🌟 Meet Our Guest: Jeni Brockbank

Jeni Brockbank lives in northern Utah with her six children, where she works as a betrayal trauma coach and podcaster. She finds joy in applying the gospel of Jesus Christ to real-life challenges, floating on lazy rivers, snuggling her kids, and long lunches with good friends. She loves the color red as a reminder of her individual worth to her Heavenly Father. Jeni is also the founder of Her Wings Unfold, a nonprofit dedicated to supporting survivors of domestic violence, betrayal, and abuse.

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Betrayal doesn’t just break trust, it breaks the world you thought you were living in.

In this powerful conversation, I’m joined by Jeni Brockbank, author of Healing in Christ’s Light, for a grounded and faith-centered discussion on the realities of abuse, addiction, abandonment, and adultery, including the deep trauma that follows.

Together, we explore:

• What betrayal trauma actually is and why it impacts the nervous system so intensely
• Gaslighting and spiritual manipulation — how they warp your sense of reality
• Why you start to question your sanity (hint: you’re not crazy — you’re in trauma)
• The difference between unsafe support that causes more harm… and safe support that helps you heal
• How to hold onto your identity, worth, and faith when your partner’s choices create chaos
• What real safety looks like in your body, in your soul, and in your relationships
• How healing in the light of Christ supports truth, clarity, and empowerment

This episode is a validating reminder that:

You didn’t cause this.

You’re not alone in it.

And your healing is sacred.

If you’ve ever felt confused, spiritually conflicted, or unsure where to turn — this conversation was made for you.

🌟 Meet Our Guest: Jeni Brockbank

Jeni lives in northern Utah with her six children, where she works as a betrayal trauma coach and podcaster. She finds joy in applying the gospel of Jesus Christ to real-life challenges, floating on lazy rivers, snuggling her kids, and long lunches with good friends. She loves the color red because it reminds her of her individual worth to her Heavenly Father. Jeni is also the founder of Her Wings Unfold, a nonprofit dedicated to supporting victims of domestic violence, betrayal, and abuse.

🕊️ Listen in for grounding truth and gentle direction.

You are not crazy — you are surviving trauma. And healing is possible, especially when truth and safety lead the way.

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When the person who promised to love you is the one who caused the deepest harm, it creates a specific kind of trauma — one rooted in injustice. Betrayal trauma shatters safety, damages trust, and turns your entire world upside down. And yet… women are so often told to “be more understanding,” “let it go,” or “move on.”

In today’s episode, we’re naming what so many experience but rarely say out loud:

What happened to you was unjust.

And your anger? It’s not a flaw — it’s a sign of your worth and your wound.

Together, we explore:

• The deep injustice of betrayal and how it reshapes your sense of reality
• Why anger shows up in every chapter — past, present, and future
• The anger tied to uncertainty and the pain of not knowing what comes next
• How anger reflects your longing for truth, stability, and fairness
• Ways anger can become a guide back to clarity, safety, and self-respect

We draw from insights in Betrayal Trauma Anger by Dr. Crystal Hollenbeck — not to pathologize your anger, but to understand it as a natural response to harm.

You’ll walk away with a clearer understanding of your emotional reactions — especially if you’ve been judging yourself for them.

Key Reminder:

You are not overreacting.

You are responding to a real violation.

And your anger can be a powerful ally on your way back home to yourself.

📚 Resource Mentioned:Betrayal Trauma Anger by Dr. Crystal Hollenbeck

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ANGER! Let's talk abou it.

Anger after betrayal can feel huge, sudden, or out of character — but it’s not a sign that something is wrong with you. It’s a natural response to harm, deception, and the collapse of emotional safety.

In this episode, we break down why anger shows up so strongly and how to begin processing it in ways that support your healing.

We cover:

• Why anger in betrayal trauma feels so intense
• How gaslighting and minimization fuel anger
• The protective purpose anger serves
• What happens when anger gets pushed down
• How to process anger without exploding or shutting down
• Simple ways to support your body as anger moves through

Anger isn’t a flaw — it’s information. It’s your body responding to what happened.

If you’ve ever asked yourself, “Why am I this angry?” or “Is this too much?” this episode will help you understand your reaction with more clarity and compassion.

Your anger makes sense. And it’s allowed.

Book Discussed:

Betrayal Trauma Anger by Dr. Crystal Hollenbeck

About the Author

Dr. Crystal Hollenbeck is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, Anger Management Specialist, and Certified Clinical Trauma Professional. She helps individuals and couples heal from the devastating impact that broken trust and broken relational attachment brings including the complex trauma that results from intimate betrayal. She is a highly sought after conference speaker and has private practice in Florida where she also conducts 3-day intensives.

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