Sofia thinks she's stuck because of her past. She justifies it by tying it to her past. How she grew up, where she grew up, her experiences and how others do not get her. She often thought that people didn't get her when she said how abusive her mom was, how controlling she was. She loves her mom and understands why she does what she did. But the hurt lingers in the little girl's mind and in the adult's body. It's hard to wash it off.

Healing begins in the presence of an empath. You don't heal on your own. The place that hurt you is not the place where you heal. The people who made you feel hurt are not the people who can help you assemble your fragmented parts together..

Your family and your parents love you. They don't want you to hurt. Your mom wants what's best for you. But your loved ones are hurting too. Together you amplify each other. When you are in the same space with people who are going through personal versions of the same broad hurt, then how can one help another?

The people you attract in your life today might be repeating patterns from your past relationships, amplifying the pain from the past and reinforcing belief systems that do not help you.

It's your belief systems of relationships or money that keep you in the relationships and money stories that you feel stuck in. Your belief system is a script. When you change this script, you stop staying stuck. Your life shifts.

Be kind to yourself, Love you. Bye!

Keya Murthy, M.S., C.Ht.

The Wine Wasn't the Problem

Maria came to me with something she thought she needed to change.

She needed to stop drinking.

But after six deep sessions, something much more important happened.

She no longer needed the wine.

Because we didn't make the wine the enemy.

We went underneath it.

We worked with the hurt, the abandonment, the trauma, and the emotional patterns that made that Friday-night bottle feel necessary.

And eventually, she could sit with her mother, have those conversations, and be fully present—without needing alcohol to get through them.

That's the difference between managing a symptom and transforming the pattern beneath it.

Because sometimes the thing you're trying so desperately to stop…

isn't actually the problem.

It's the solution your mind found to survive the problem.

And when you transform what's underneath?

You don't have to fight the symptom anymore.

You simply don't need it.

If you want me to break down how we did this, write to me at coaching@coachkeya.com "Power" and I'll send it over.

Keya from California signing off!

Until next time, be kind to yourself please!

Keya Murthy, M.S., C.Ht.

The old paradigm was when you don't feel good, you confide in someone you trust. Either it's your family or a friend. And your family will watch you until they feel nothing is shifting in their mind. Because they are deal with their stuff while seeing you deal with yours. They think they can manage theirs on their own, because remember, they have been doing it, until you confided in them. They may suggest help, which is usually a western modality aka traditional therapy. You go see someone covered by your insurance, and you talk. You find space to air out what you have been holding on to. You feel heard and you feel one of these fleeting feelings of "happiness" or "peace" or both.

And you return for your next session, and for your alloted time, you share your story, feelings, and you find some respite.

And weeks turn into months and maybe years, depending on what insurance permits. Because who doesn't like to feel heard, without being contradicted.

I have heard many women confide in me that their therapists made them feel like they were wrong in a relationship and they quit their therapy when it came to that after a few sessions.

Honestly anxiety or stress or overwhelm is not something to be managed. In my twenties I heard that everything needs to be managed. Stress, Time, Weight …. you get the drift.

Before it was things like "suck it up" "don't talk about it" or "you need a break".

People go on vacations, hangout with their friends, buddies, guys whatever, but does anything change. You distract yourself with entertainment but does your anxiety or stress go anywhere or lessen.

The poison is within you, and the medicine is within you.

Overthinking isn't the problem, nor is anxiety or any other mental afflictions or emotional states. They are the symptoms of what's running your script beneath it all.

There's a difference between managing the symptoms and transforming the patterns beneath it.

See you tomorrow! Join me for another heart-to-heart, spirit-to-spirit, and trust that there's no accident or absolute. You are here for a reason, and if you want to continue this conversation, subscribe to the channel you are hearing me on, and follow me on the social media you found me.

Until later, be kind to yourself.

This is Keya from California, signing off.

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