The old paradigm was when you don't feel good, you confide in someone you trust. Either it's your family or a friend. And your family will watch you until they feel nothing is shifting in their mind. Because they are deal with their stuff while seeing you deal with yours. They think they can manage theirs on their own, because remember, they have been doing it, until you confided in them. They may suggest help, which is usually a western modality aka traditional therapy. You go see someone covered by your insurance, and you talk. You find space to air out what you have been holding on to. You feel heard and you feel one of these fleeting feelings of "happiness" or "peace" or both.

And you return for your next session, and for your alloted time, you share your story, feelings, and you find some respite.

And weeks turn into months and maybe years, depending on what insurance permits. Because who doesn't like to feel heard, without being contradicted.

I have heard many women confide in me that their therapists made them feel like they were wrong in a relationship and they quit their therapy when it came to that after a few sessions.

Honestly anxiety or stress or overwhelm is not something to be managed. In my twenties I heard that everything needs to be managed. Stress, Time, Weight …. you get the drift.

Before it was things like "suck it up" "don't talk about it" or "you need a break".

People go on vacations, hangout with their friends, buddies, guys whatever, but does anything change. You distract yourself with entertainment but does your anxiety or stress go anywhere or lessen.

The poison is within you, and the medicine is within you.

Overthinking isn't the problem, nor is anxiety or any other mental afflictions or emotional states. They are the symptoms of what's running your script beneath it all.

There's a difference between managing the symptoms and transforming the patterns beneath it.

See you tomorrow! Join me for another heart-to-heart, spirit-to-spirit, and trust that there's no accident or absolute. You are here for a reason, and if you want to continue this conversation, subscribe to the channel you are hearing me on, and follow me on the social media you found me.

Until later, be kind to yourself.

This is Keya from California, signing off.

P.S.: To know me more, visit https://coachkeya.com/sfr
P.P.S.: To book a Complimentary Soul Freedom Strategy Session visit https://coachkeya.com/30m