Dating isn't your problem. Deciding is.

You don't have a shortage of options... you have an infinite amount of them. One more swipe. One more app. One more profile. And somewhere in there we stopped asking "is this someone I can build a life with?" and started asking "could there be someone better one swipe away?"

In Week 4 of our series, It's Complicated, Brad talks to singles about how to date God's way — and reminds married people they never actually stopped dating.

But before the how, hear this: singleness is not a curse to be solved.

It's an opportunity for impact. Paul wished everyone were single, because an unmarried person can move. Our God, named Jesus, changed the whole world — and He did it single. You don't need to find a person to find your purpose. So don't let a waiting season become a wasted season.

Then Brad gets practical. There's not one verse in the Bible about finding the right one, but there's a whole lot about becoming the right one — before Ruth and Boaz ever found each other, she was already a woman of noble character and he was already a man of standing. He throws out the old list and gives a new one. He names seven red flags, because red flags are warnings, not accessories — they don't turn green, they get more red. And he defines what dating actually is: a process to move through, not a status to sit in.

Because you never actually find the one. You choose someone. And the choosing is what makes them the one.

Love isn't a feeling you fall into. It's a choice you keep making.

That's what covenant is.

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There's nothing wrong with him. And there's nothing wrong with you.

You've spent years thinking he was broken. He isn't broken — he's male. He's spent years thinking you were broken. You aren't broken — you're female.

God designed you opposite each other on purpose, before sin ever entered the picture.

In Week 3 of our series, "It's Complicated," Brad talks directly to the women — and gives the men a picture of who they're called to love and lead.

When God said "I will make a helper," the Hebrew word is Ezer — a word God uses for Himself. "My help comes from the Lord."

Eve wasn't given to Adam because he was lonely. She was given because he was insufficient for the assignment.

And the word that follows, Kenegdo, means corresponding to him — face to face. Not above him. Not beneath him. Not behind him. Across from him.

Then sin distorted the design. Brad walks through the four mistakes Eve made in Genesis 3 that women still get pulled into today:

• The wrong voice
• The wrong focus
• The wrong desire
• The wrong order

"Did God really say?" is still the oldest question in the room.
But Jesus died to break the pattern and bring us back to the Garden. Brad closes with four practical marks of a godly wife:

• She gives respect
• She gives help
• She prioritizes her marriage over everything but Christ
• She builds her home

Stop demonizing God's design. Start walking in it.

You were never just the reward for the mission. You're part of how the mission gets done.

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Adam was standing right there.

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When the serpent showed up in the Garden, Adam wasn't off somewhere else. Scripture says he was with her and he said nothing. A lot of what men carry today traces back to a man who went silent when it was his job to speak.

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In Week 2 of our series, It's Complicated, Brad talks directly to the men — and gives the women a biblical standard to look for.

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Before Eve was ever in the picture, God gave Adam a work to produce, a place to protect, and a Word to preserve. Before a companion, he got a commandment. Before a woman, he got a Word.

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Then sin distorted the design. Brad walks through the four traps Adam fell into that men still fall into today: he was silent, he hid, he blamed, and he struggled with work. And that last one cuts both ways — the workaholic and the man on the couch are not two different problems. They're the same curse with two different symptoms.

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If you're hiding something... the browser history, the second account, the debt she doesn't know about, the pornography no one is naming — this message calls it into the light.

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But we don't have to follow our great-great-great-grandfather Adam. We can follow the second Adam. Adam was silent; Jesus spoke. Adam hid; Jesus stepped out. Adam blamed his bride; Jesus took the blame for His.

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Men, you're not in a waiting room. You're in a weight room. God is forming you.

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Manhood begins when you stop waiting for somebody else to take responsibility.

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Dating, marriage, sex, heartbreak, singleness — every season of relationships comes with the same question: why does this have to be so complicated?

Here's the truth: sin and the world complicate what God designed to be clear. Your relationships were never meant to be this hard.

In the first message of our brand-new series, It's Complicated, Brad kicks off our Love, Sex & Marriage series by going back to the beginning — to God's original design for relationships in Genesis. Before the sin. Before the mess. There was an order, an intent, and a plan.

Brad exposes the lies the enemy has been whispering since the Garden:

To married people… "You married the wrong person." "It shouldn't be this hard."

To singles… "You're behind." "The right person will complete me."

About sex… "It's just physical." "God is holding out on you."

He answers each one with the truth of God's Word.

Because God isn't afraid to get His hands dirty. No matter what you've done or how messy it's been, He can breathe life into your relationships too.

Stop looking for the right one. Start becoming the right one.

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What if the people who know the most about you don't actually know you at all?

You can be seen by every single person in the room and still not be known by one of them. A lot of us have gotten really good at being known ABOUT — the highlight reel, the put-together Sunday version — while nobody actually knows what we're carrying this week.

In this message from our very first Girls Night — a special night set apart from our normal weekend series, just for the women of our church and our city — Paige opens up Genesis 16 and the story of Hagar: a runaway, a slave, a pregnant woman nobody was looking for. Alone in the desert and sure no one saw her, she becomes the only person in the whole Bible to give God a name — El Roi, "the God who sees me."

But there are two women hiding in this chapter. Hagar is empty and alone in the wilderness. Sarai is empty surrounded by everything she ever wanted — the husband, the wealth, the promise of God — and still lying awake with an ache she'd feel guilty naming out loud. One ran to the desert where nobody could find her. One buried herself in a full, busy, blessed life where nobody could reach her. And El Roi sees them both.

Three things Hagar's story shows us:
- You are already seen — not when you get it together, but right now, in the hiding.
- God sees you… now let Him in — coming out of hiding with God is the safe one. He already saw, and He already stayed.
- There's a healing waiting on the other side of being known — first with God, and then with the people He's placed right next to you (James 5:16).

If "I'm fine" became the only answer you know how to give — if you're the strong friend, the one everyone calls, the one who holds it all together — this one is for you. It's okay to not be okay. It's just not okay to stay there.

Known by everybody. Known by nobody. Today can be the day that changes.

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What do you do when you know your own strength is no longer enough?

Maybe your walk with God feels dry. Your marriage feels dry. You keep trying to overcome the same habits, thoughts, and struggles, but nothing seems to change.

In the final message of our Holy Spirit series, Brad teaches what it means to be filled with the Holy Spirit and why we cannot live the life God has called us to live through willpower alone.

The Holy Spirit is not something we achieve. He is someone we receive. Every believer receives the Spirit at salvation, but Scripture also calls us to be continually filled, fully surrendered, and empowered for the assignment God has given us.

This message explores the indwelling, baptism, and filling of the Holy Spirit, along with a biblical and grace-filled look at praying in tongues. It is not a spiritual status symbol or a requirement to prove you have the Spirit. It is a gift from a good Father that strengthens us as we pray.

God has already made His power available. The question is whether we will keep trying to live by our own might, or surrender every part of our lives to His Spirit.

Not by might. Not by power. But by His Spirit.

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You can leave a church service knowing more about the Holy Spirit than you've ever known in your life… and not be one inch closer to Him.

For three weeks we talked about the Holy Spirit—who He is, what He does, what He gives. This message is different. It's about being with Him.

Many Christians love God, love Jesus, and are on their way to heaven, but have never truly experienced the Holy Spirit. Often that's not a Bible problem—it's that our view of Him is built on one strange experience we had, or one we saw on TV. So He gets a bad rap, and we keep our distance.

In this message from our Holy Spirit series, Brad goes back to the actual words Scripture uses—Rûwach in Hebrew, Pneuma in Greek—and both carry the same picture: wind, breath, a blast of air. From the second verse of the Bible, the Spirit of God is the breath of God hovering over the waters.

Using four things we already understand about wind, Brad shows how to relate to the person of the Holy Spirit:

🌬️ Wind is UNSEEN — you may not see Him, but you can feel Him.
🌬️ Wind is UNPREDICTABLE — He won't be tucked into our systems; worship Him, not the method.
🌬️ Wind is POWERFUL — He brings power for the things human strength can't fix.
🌬️ Wind is REFRESHING — He wants to breathe fresh air back into your marriage, your job, and your walk with God.

If your faith feels stale—everything's "fine," but nothing feels alive—this is an invitation to take a deep breath and receive Him. Let go of your fears and misperceptions, go all in, and develop a real friendship with the Holy Spirit. God the Father loves you. God the Son saves you. God the Spirit is with you.

Some of you are a sail with no wind. He's ready to fill it.

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What gifts has the Holy Spirit placed in your life that are still unopened?

Every believer has been given spiritual gifts, but many Christians remain uninformed, uncertain, or even afraid of what those gifts are and how they should be used.

In Week 3 of our Holy Spirit series, Brad unpacks what the Bible teaches about the gifts of the Spirit, including prophecy, healing, faith, miracles, words of wisdom and knowledge, discerning of spirits, tongues, and interpretation of tongues.

These gifts are not natural talents, rewards for spiritual maturity, or abilities reserved for an elite few. They are grace-given abilities through which the Holy Spirit works for the good of others.

You don’t own the gifts. You have the Holy Spirit, and He chooses to work through you to strengthen, encourage, heal, and serve the people around you.

God has placed something in your hands that may be the answer to someone else’s prayer. The question is: Will you discover it, develop it, and use it?

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