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  • 433: Erica Komisar on Why the First 3 Years Matter More Than You Think (And How to Parent with Presence, Not Perfection)

    433: Erica Komisar on Why the First 3 Years Matter More Than You Think (And How to Parent with Presence, Not Perfection)
    2026/01/14
    "Don't live your life based in fear. Be courageous." (Erica Komisar) What if the deepest struggles we face as adults: anxiety, addiction, emotional emptiness, the constant need to prove ourselves, don't begin in adulthood at all? What if they begin in the earliest, most fragile years of life… when presence matters more than anything else? In this powerful episode of SoulTalk, I sit down with renowned psychoanalyst and parenting expert Erica Komisar for a conversation that challenges many of the assumptions we've been taught about success, independence, and what it truly means to raise emotionally healthy children. At the heart of this conversation is one radical and deeply confronting idea: human beings are born neurologically unfinished and the first three years of life are not optional when it comes to emotional development. Erica explains why a mother's physical presence acts as a child's external nervous system, how early emotional absence creates a quiet but lasting void, and why so many adults spend their lives unconsciously trying to fill it. We explore the differences between maternal and paternal roles, and the biological intelligence behind nurturing and play. Erica also speaks candidly about the cost of modern pressures, professional ego, and cultural narratives that undervalue caregiving, and how these forces have reshaped families in ways we are only now beginning to understand. Whether you are a parent, planning to become one, healing your own childhood, or simply curious about the roots of emotional well-being, this conversation will impact you. Timestamps (00:01:50) – Erica explains why mothers and fathers should not compete to perform the same tasks.(00:03:53) – An exploration of the concept that human infants are born nine months "too early" in terms of neurological fragility and require total vulnerability..(00:05:32) - How a mother's physical presence regulates a baby's heartbeat, breathing, and emotional regulation.(00:07:43) - Why a child first sees and understands themselves by looking into the mother's eyes.(00:09:37) - Understanding the biological drivers behind maternal nurturing.(00:11:14) - How fathers use physical play to teach children how to regulate high levels of excitement and aggression.(00:17:04) - Erica challenges the modern notion that a parent can be "emotionally present" during the first three years without being physically present.(00:19:32) - A discussion on how early emotional absence creates a vacuum that adults often try to fill with technology, drugs, or eating disorders.(00:21:26) - A courageous look at whether the "need" to work is driven by survival or by ego gratification and the desire for materialism.(00:26:00) - Encouraging mothers to let go of professional ego and consider a "mommy track" to prioritize the critical early years of their children.(00:30:03) - How the feminist movement's dismissal of caretaking as "unproductive" disrupted family structures and impacted the development of young men.(00:34:01) - Insights from Erica's new book on how to avoid treating children as "possessions" or "weapons" during a separation.(00:39:15) – Three Wisdoms for Life: Erica shares her ultimate lessons: prioritize relationships, value interdependence over independence, and live a life driven by courage rather than fear. In this episode, you'll discover: Why the first three years of life are foundational to emotional regulation and mental health.How a parent's physical presence shapes a child's sense of safety, identity, and self-worth.Why emotional absence often shows up later as addiction, workaholism, or disconnection.The biological differences between maternal nurturing and paternal play and why both matter.A courageous reexamination of work, ego, and the fear of "falling behind".How to protect a child's emotional health during separation or divorce.Why interdependence, not hyper-independence, is the key to resilient human beings. Questions I Ask What is the "Fourth Trimester" and why are we born nine months too early?Is parenting a competition or a team exercise?Can you really be "emotionally present" if you are physically absent?What is the true origin of our "voids" and addictions?When we say we "have to work," is it for survival or for the ego?How do we stop weaponizing our children during a divorce?Should we be raising our children for independence or interdependence?How do we heal the "Mother Hunger"? Get in Touch: Email me at kuteblackson@kuteblackson.comVisit my website: www.kuteblackson.com • Website: www.komisar.com • Books: Being There, Chicken Little, and her latest release, The Parents' Guide to Divorce. Resources with Kute Blackson: Purpose Summit: www.purposesummit2026.com Register now! Kute's Life changing Path to Abundance & Miracles : https://www.8levelsofgratitude.com Free masterclass: Learn The Manifestation secret to Remove Mental Blocks & Invisible Barriers to Attract The Life of Abundance You ...
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    43 分
  • 432: Why New Year's Resolutions Fail and What Actually Works in 2026

    432: Why New Year's Resolutions Fail and What Actually Works in 2026
    2026/01/07
    "Consistency, not intensity, is what transforms a life." Every January, millions of people promise themselves that this will be the year everything changes. They set goals. They make declarations. They swear this time will be different. And yet by February, most resolutions are quietly abandoned, not because people are lazy, broken, or lacking discipline but because they've been taught the wrong model of change. In this powerful episode of SoulTalk, I invite you to look deeper, beyond willpower, hype, and the "New Year, New You" myth and into the real mechanics of lasting transformation. If you're tired of starting over… If you're done beating yourself up for "failing"… If you sense that something deeper is calling you forward… This episode is a compassionate wake-up call and a grounded roadmap for real, embodied change. We explore why behavior change alone never lasts, how identity shapes your results, why consistency always beats intensity, and how your environment may be quietly deciding your future. This isn't about forcing yourself to become someone else. It's about remembering who you already are and living from that truth. Timestamps (00:01:10) – Why most New Year's resolutions fail (and it's not your fault)(00:02:09) – Challenging the "New Year, New You" myth(00:03:12) – Invitation to the Purpose Summit 2026 (free global event)(00:05:27) – Why changing behavior alone never creates lasting change(00:07:20) – The real foundation of transformation: identity(00:08:31) – You can't outgrow your self-image(00:10:38) – Shift #2: The power of small, consistent actions(00:12:41) – How tiny habits compound into massive change(00:13:29) – Self-trust: the hidden key to confidence and momentum(00:14:32) – Shift #3: Your environment is shaping your future(00:16:28) – Designing a life that supports your highest self(00:17:59) – Who are you becoming in 2026?(00:19:06) – Let this be a year of purpose, boldness, and alignment In this Episode, you will learn: Why willpower alone is never enough to create lasting changeThe real reason New Year's resolutions don't stickHow your identity silently controls your resultsWhy consistency beats intensity every single timeHow small daily actions rewire your brain and build self-trustThe role your environment plays in success, habits, and self-sabotageHow to stop chasing goals — and start magnetizing themWhat it truly means to live from alignment instead of force Some Questions I Ask: Who do I need to become to live the life I desire? What version of me already lives this reality naturally?Where am I trying to fix myself instead of trusting myself?What small commitment can I keep daily, no matter my mood?Does my environment support who I'm becoming… or who I used to be?What is my soul inviting me to master in 2026? Get in Touch: Email me at kuteblackson@kuteblackson.comVisit my website: www.kuteblackson.com Resources with Kute Blackson: Purpose Summit: www.purposesummit2026.com Register now! Kute's Life changing Path to Abundance & Miracles : https://www.8levelsofgratitude.com Free masterclass: Learn The Manifestation secret to Remove Mental Blocks & Invisible Barriers to Attract The Life of Abundance You Desire.REGISTER NOW : https://www.manifestationmasterclassonline.com
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    23 分
  • 431: Margaret Paul on How to Love Without Losing Yourself

    431: Margaret Paul on How to Love Without Losing Yourself
    2025/12/31

    "Your feelings aren't the problem. They're the guidance."

    What if the real reason relationships hurt so much isn't who you're with, but how you relate to yourself?

    In this profound and eye-opening conversation, Dr. Margaret Paul, bestselling author and creator of Inner Bonding, joins Kute Blackson to dismantle some of the most common and damaging myths about love, relationships, self-worth, and responsibility.

    This episode goes far beyond romantic relationships. It dives into the invisible emotional systems we carry into marriage, parenting, friendships, spirituality, and even our sense of purpose.

    You'll discover why chemistry is often confused with love, why "being nice" can actually be self-betrayal, and how many of us unknowingly abandon ourselves; then, wonder why relationships feel exhausting, painful, or empty.

    Timestamps

    • (00:02:30) - What a healthy relationship really is (getting love vs. sharing love)
    • (00:05:18) - Why we're attracted to the wrong people
    • (00:08:26) - Emotional responsibility in relationships
    • (00:11:56) - Self-care vs. true self-love
    • (00:14:59) - What the inner child actually is
    • (00:19:54) - How to work with anger, desire, and intense emotions
    • (00:28:49) - Perfectionism, control, and false beliefs
    • (00:37:29) - Relationship systems that sabotage love (pull,resist, compliance)
    • (00:40:35) - How self-betrayal affects health and vitality
    • (00:42:11) - Discovering if relationships heal after infidelity
    • (00:45:07) - "I did nothing wrong" and hidden dynamics
    • (00:46:32) - Why compliance is not love

    Questions I Ask

    • What actually defines a healthy relationship?
    • Why do we keep choosing the same kind of partner even when it hurts?
    • If no one is responsible for our happiness, what is our responsibility to each other in love?
    • Can relationships truly recover from infidelity? And how?
    • How do parents raise emotionally healthy children without creating dependence?
    • Is compliance really a form of control?
    • What advice would you give your younger self if you could start again?

    In This Episode, You'll Learn…

    • Why love alone isn't enough to make a relationship work
    • The difference between sharing love and needing it
    • Why chemistry can feel powerful and still be destructive
    • How self-abandonment silently sabotages intimacy
    • Why being "nice" and compliant kills desire
    • What emotional responsibility really means (and what it doesn't)
    • Whether trust can be rebuilt after betrayal
    • How learning to love yourself changes every relationship

    Get in Touch:

    • Email me at kuteblackson@kuteblackson.com
    • Visit my website: www.kuteblackson.com

    • Resources with Kute Blackson:
      • Purpose Summit: www.purposesummit2026.com
      • Register now!

      • Kute's Life changing Path to Abundance & Miracles : https://www.8levelsofgratitude.com

      • Free masterclass: Learn The Manifestation secret to Remove Mental Blocks & Invisible Barriers to Attract The Life of Abundance You Desire.
      • REGISTER NOW : https://www.manifestationmasterclassonline.com

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    54 分
  • 430: The Real Reason You Procrastinate (And How to Stop Holding Yourself Back)

    430: The Real Reason You Procrastinate (And How to Stop Holding Yourself Back)
    2025/12/24
    "What you're avoiding may be exactly why you're here." We all procrastinate. But what if it's not because you're lazy or undisciplined… What if there's something deeper going on? In this episode of SoulTalk, I share a different way of understanding procrastination — one that's more honest, more compassionate, and more empowering. Instead of beating yourself up for the things you haven't done, we'll explore what might really be behind the delay. Sometimes, the very thing you're avoiding is the thing that could change your life. But there's a reason you're not doing it — and understanding that reason is the key to unlocking your next level. Whether you're putting off a difficult conversation, holding back on a big dream, or just stuck in your own head, this episode will help you get clarity, stop judging yourself, and finally move forward with greater purpose and peace. If you've ever thought, "Why do I keep doing this?" — this one's for you. → Listen now and discover what your procrastination has been trying to tell you all along. Timestamps: (00:01:00) – Procrastination reframed: not laziness, but a deeper signal (00:03:00) – The question that changes everything: what are you avoiding? (00:05:00) – Procrastination as self-protection and ego preservation (00:07:00) – Comfort vs. evolution: ego safety vs. soul growth (00:09:00) – Why clarity only comes after action (00:11:00) – Making peace with fear instead of fighting it (00:13:00) – Resistance as a sign of growth and expansion (00:15:00) – Small actions, imperfect steps, and real momentum (00:17:00) – You're not procrastinating because you're weak — you're powerful (00:18:30) – Final reflection, invitation, and closing message Some Questions I Ask What am I avoiding right now that I know would change my life?If I stopped procrastinating, who would I have to stop being?What am I really afraid would happen if I succeeded?Is my perfectionism actually fear disguised as preparation?What part of me is trying to stay safe — and what part of me is ready to grow?What is one small action I can take in the next 24 hours?What is procrastination costing me emotionally, spiritually, and in my future? In This Episode You Will Learn Why procrastination is often the ego's last line of defense.The hidden fear behind perfectionism and over-preparation.Why clarity doesn't come before action — it comes from action.How small, aligned steps create massive transformation.The difference between choosing comfort… and choosing evolution. Get in Touch: Email me at kuteblackson@kuteblackson.comVisit my website: www.kuteblackson.com Resources with Kute Blackson: Purpose Summit: www.purposesummit2026.com Register now! Kute's Life changing Path to Abundance & Miracles: https://www.8levelsofgratitude.com Free masterclass: Learn The Manifestation secret to Remove Mental Blocks & Invisible Barriers to Attract The Life of Abundance You Desire. REGISTER NOW: https://www.manifestationmasterclassonline.com
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    19 分
  • 429: Wim Hof on Break Through Your Limits: The Hidden Power of Breath, Pain and Cold

    429: Wim Hof on Break Through Your Limits: The Hidden Power of Breath, Pain and Cold
    2025/12/17
    "I'm not afraid to die. I'm afraid not to live." What if everything you've been told about your limits… was a lie? In this rare, raw, and unfiltered conversation, Kute Blackson sits down with the legendary Wim Hof—also known as The Iceman—to explore the true potential of the human spirit. Wim doesn't speak from theory. He speaks from fire-tested experience: plunging into frozen waters, scaling mountains in shorts, and surviving the loss of his beloved wife while raising four children alone. But more than his feats, it's what those experiences unlocked in him and what they can unlock in you, that makes this episode a must-listen. This isn't about breathwork.It's not about cold therapy. It's about coming home to your own inner power. Whether you're facing physical pain, emotional grief, or just feel disconnected from your inner fire, this conversation will remind you: there is a wild, unbreakable intelligence in your body, and it knows the way home. Timestamps (00:00:54) – Why this rare Wim Hof interview is being shared now.(00:04:49) – Who Wim Hof is and why his life defies human limits.(00:06:39) – The moment Wim realized there was "more" to human potential.(00:09:15) – Why most people never access their true power.(00:11:00) – Using breath and cold to influence the nervous and immune systems.(00:14:42) – The mindset shift required for real change.(00:18:14) – Staying grounded when the world doubts you.(00:22:14) – How breathing changes your body chemistry and emotions.(00:27:39) – Preparing the mind to face fear and pressure.(00:32:45) – Grief, loss, and how cold helped Wim survive heartbreak.(00:36:45) – Depression, trauma, and healing from within the brain.(00:42:13) – What to do when belief in yourself is gone.(00:46:29) – Fear, death, and choosing to truly live.(00:48:15) – What success really means.(00:51:44) – The three essentials: health, happiness, and strength.(00:53:14) – One simple practice to start today Some Questions I Ask How did this journey begin for you — and what were you really searching for?Why do so few people tap into their true potential?What keeps us blocked from accessing our inner strength?How do you mentally prepare for extreme stress or fear?How did you survive the grief of losing your wife while raising four children alone?Can depression and emotional pain really be influenced from within the body?Are you afraid of dying — or of not fully living?How do you personally define success?If people could do just one thing today, what should it be? In this episode, you'll learn about: Why pain is not your enemy—it's a doorway to purpose, strength, and awakeningHow to reconnect with the primal wisdom of your body through breath and natureWim's personal story of heartbreak, loss, and the sacred power that pain revealedWhy modern life has made us weak—and how to reclaim your inner resilienceSimple daily practices to restore energy, focus, and emotional balance How to face fear and grief with courage, surrender, and soul Get in Touch: Email me at kuteblackson@kuteblackson.comVisit my website: www.kuteblackson.com Resources with Kute Blackson: Purpose Summit: www.purposesummit2026.com Register now! Kute's Life changing Path to Abundance & Miracles : https://www.8levelsofgratitude.com Free masterclass: Learn The Manifestation secret to Remove Mental Blocks & Invisible Barriers to Attract The Life of Abundance You Desire. REGISTER NOW : https://www.manifestationmasterclassonline.com
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    59 分
  • 428: The Hidden Purpose in Your Pain: How Life Breaks You Open To Prepare You For Your Mission

    428: The Hidden Purpose in Your Pain: How Life Breaks You Open To Prepare You For Your Mission
    2025/12/09
    "Your pain wasn't sent to break you down. It was sent to break you through." Have you ever wondered why the people you loved the most walked away, why the path you trusted suddenly crumbled beneath your feet, or why life sometimes breaks your heart in ways you never saw coming? In this episode of Soul Talk, I invite you into a profound exploration of one of life's greatest mysteries, the hidden purpose inside your pain. This conversation is a journey into the soul-level truth behind your heartbreaks, disappointments, delays, and breakdowns. Together, we peel back the layers of misunderstanding, resistance, and egoic fear that make you believe something is wrong when life falls apart… when in reality, something deeper is seeking to be born through you. You'll discover how pain is not a punishment but a sacred initiation, a divine preparation for the next level of your life. You'll learn how your soul uses challenges to awaken you, how heartbreak refines your compassion, and how the very experiences you've tried to avoid may be the exact ones shaping you into the person you were destined to become. This episode reveals how your pain prepares you for your purpose: How it softens you, strengthens you, expands you, and ultimately breaks you open in order to break you through. This is an invitation to trust the divine curriculum of your life, to recognize that every loss carries a hidden light, every setback conceals a lesson, and every wound contains the blueprint of your greatest service to the world. Listen to this episode and learn how to stop resisting the seasons of pain, so you can finally understand their meaning, receive their gifts, and rise into the purpose you were born to live. Timestamps: (00:01:10) - Why painful events happen and the meaning behind them.(00:04:13) - Rethinking pain as a breakthrough, not a breakdown.(00:05:07) - Outgrowing relationships and structures of life.(00:06:00) - Pain as preparation for your mission.(00:06:52) - Pain as a teacher, initiation, and soul curriculum.(00:08:18) - Why resisting pain keeps it stuck.(00:09:22) - The cocoon: letting go of who you've been.(00:10:17) - How the ego interferes with healing.(00:11:21) - The danger of suppressing pain.(00:13:58) - Purpose found in darkness, not comfort.(00:14:49) - Your wound as the womb of your purpose.(00:15:46) - Step 1: Welcome your wounds.(00:16:32) - Step 2: Allow yourself to feel.(00:18:00) - Step 3: Identify the lesson.(00:18:58) - Step 4: Rewrite your story.(00:20:21) - Step 5: Turning pain into service.(00:21:20) - You are being forged, not failing. Some questions I ask: Have you ever wondered why the people you love most walked away or why your path suddenly collapsed?What if your pain is preparing you for your mission?What is this wound trying to show me?What lessons is my soul seeking to learn from this experience?Who am I becoming as a result of what I'm going through? In this episode, you will learn about: How to transform pain into abundance by unlocking the hidden lessons that activate your higher purpose.Why surrendering to discomfort creates emotional, spiritual, and energetic freedomHow to release resistance and experience inner peace, even in the midst of uncertainty.How your breakdowns create the foundation for breakthroughs in wealth, love, and fulfillment.The difference between suppressing emotions and using them as gateways to healing and expansion.How to dissolve ego patterns that block prosperity, aligned relationships, and soul-level success.Why your wounds hold the blueprint to your freedom, abundance, and authentic power.Practical spiritual tools to alchemize pain into peace, clarity, and purpose-driven prosperity. Get in Touch: Email me at kuteblackson@kuteblackson.comVisit my website: www.kuteblackson.com Resources with Kute Blackson: Purpose Summit: www.purposesummit2026.com Register now! Kute's Life changing Path to Abundance & Miracles : https://www.8levelsofgratitude.com Free masterclass: Learn The Manifestation secret to Remove Mental Blocks & Invisible Barriers to Attract The Life of Abundance You Desire. REGISTER NOW : https://www.manifestationmasterclassonline.com
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    24 分
  • 427: The Purpose Summit 2026 - Register for Free

    427: The Purpose Summit 2026 - Register for Free
    2025/12/06

    Join me and Register For Free!

    The Purpose Summit 2026.

    www.purposesummit2026.com

    From January 12th to January 20th.
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    7 分
  • 426: Collete Baron-Reid on The Art of Manifesting: Why Letting Go Changes Everything

    426: Collete Baron-Reid on The Art of Manifesting: Why Letting Go Changes Everything
    2025/12/03
    "Your desire is an acorn with success built into it." What if the universe wasn't something to command, but something to collaborate with, a living intelligence responding not to your wishes, but to your being? In this SoulTalk episode, I sit down with world-renowned intuitive, bestselling author, and spiritual teacher Colette Baron-Reid once again to reveal the deeper, often misunderstood art of manifesting, not as a formula, but as a spiritual practice. Together we journey into what Colette calls the sacred partnership, a dynamic relationship between your inner state and the quantum field. She shares vulnerable, soul-stirring stories from her own life: getting sober with nothing to her name, receiving unexpected miracles when she finally let go, and the painful collapse of her music dreams that revealed a deeper destiny. Colette explains why manifestation fails when we chase outcomes from fear, and why it opens when we align with who we are becoming. Why the universe isn't interested in our ego's timeline. Why forcing pushes blessings away. And why surrender is not passive, it is the most powerful action of all. Colette reveals her signature practice, the Circle Method, a deceptively simple yet profound drawing ritual that rewires the brain, shifts the nervous system, and activates synchronicity. Listen to this episode and learn how to manifest not by gripping tighter, but by partnering with the intelligence that already knows the path to your highest good. Timestamps: (00:02:33) - Clarification on Colette's 19 oracle decks & 8 books.(00:03:20) - Manifestation as co-creation vs willpower.(00:04:28) - Colette's early spiritual roots and Unity Church teachings.(00:05:26) - Why forcing "what you want" doesn't work.(00:07:27) - The music dream, surrender, and learning divine timing.(00:11:38) - Getting specific vs letting go of attachment.(00:14:19) - Quantum field, the RAS, and why we rehearse reality.(00:17:10) - How to manifest when you're broke.(00:19:06) - The miracle of lasagna + tithing story.(00:21:00) - Surrender as a practice.(00:23:17) - Effort vs trust: the "Spirit of Your Business" concept.(00:26:12) - Are there limits? Destiny vs free will.(00:29:37) - Fame, self-worth & why some manifest stardom.(00:31:26) - The New York Times manifestation story.(00:33:17) - The Toronto condo: letting spirit choose better.(00:37:50) - Why attachment blocks miracles.(00:42:03) - What "quantum field" actually means.(00:46:34) - The Circle Gratitude Method: daily manifestation practice.(00:50:07) - Why you don't need to be hyper-specific.(00:52:53) - Receive bigger blessings by not limiting the universe. Some Questions I Ask: Why do we desire things that aren't ultimately meant for us?Can we manifest anything, or are some things destined?What role does effort play, and when does surrender matter more?How do you manifest money when you have none?Why does attachment create scarcity?What is the quantum field and how does it affect manifestation? In This Episode, You Will Learn: The real science behind manifestation and how to apply itHow to follow synchronicities and stop blocking your blessings.How to manifest without forcing, hustling, or burning outWhy letting go magnetizes your desires faster.The Circle Gratitude Method, a daily drawing practice that rewires your brain. How to align with divine timing instead of ego timing. How beliefs, trauma, and early conditioning affect abundance.Why do you attract who you ARE, not what you want. LINKS COLETTE BARON REID'S URL: https://www.colettebaronreid.com Get in Touch: Email me at kuteblackson@kuteblackson.comVisit my website: www.kuteblackson.com Resources with Kute Blackson: Kute's Life-changing Path to Abundance & Miracles: https://www.8levelsofgratitude.com Free masterclass: Learn The Manifestation secret to Remove Mental Blocks & Invisible Barriers to Attract The Life of Abundance You Desire. REGISTER NOW: https://www.manifestationmasterclassonline.com
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    58 分