How much of the way we see our bodies is actually about our bodies… and how much of it is about how we feel inside?

In this episode of She’s Not Done, we get honest about body image, confidence, aging, motherhood, food, comparison, and the years many women spend believing they’re somehow not “good enough.”

We talk about looking back at photos from our 20s and realizing we were criticizing bodies we’d now call incredible, the unhealthy eating habits that can start young and follow us into adulthood, and what happens when body image keeps us from fully participating in our own lives.

We also get into why commenting on someone’s weight—even as a compliment—can do more harm than we realize, how raising daughters has changed the way we speak about ourselves, and why taking the picture matters even when you don’t feel your best.

And maybe confidence has much less to do with what we see in the mirror than we think.

Because sometimes your body can look exactly the same… and you can feel completely different inside.

Timestamps

00:00 – Body image: how do we feel about ourselves today?
03:15 – Looking back at our 25-year-old bodies
06:20 – When unhealthy eating habits start young
10:00 – Trying to achieve the “perfect” body
13:00 – Gaining weight after motherhood & avoiding pictures
16:00 – Take the picture: your kids won’t see what you see
19:30 – Can we blame social media for body image issues?
23:00 – Stop commenting on women’s bodies
26:30 – Raising daughters changes how we talk about ourselves
30:00 – Missing events because you don’t feel good in your clothes
33:45 – Confidence: does it come from peace or appearance?
37:15 – Movement, routines & healthier coping mechanisms
40:30 – Loving yourself without needing to love every part of your body
43:00 – Final thoughts: does every woman struggle with body image?

Thank you for being here! And remember, you are NOT alone and you are Not done.

xxx Andrea & Kouelee

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Everyone says having kids changes your marriage—but does it make it stronger, or does it simply reveal what's already there?

In this honest conversation, we unpack one of the biggest myths about marriage and parenting. We discuss why children don't create relationship problems, how they amplify communication issues, the pressure of parenting styles, and why so many couples stay together "for the kids."

Andrea shares the heartbreaking reality of realizing divorce also meant giving up the dream of another child, while Coley reflects on how working through relationship struggles before having a second child changed her marriage.

Whether you're newly married, raising little ones, or wondering if your relationship is surviving the chaos of parenthood, this episode will remind you that you're not alone.

Timestamps

00:00 Cold open: "I've never heard anyone say a baby fixed their marriage."

01:20 Do people secretly believe another baby will save their relationship?

04:10 Why kids don't create problems—they expose them.

07:15 The exhaustion, stress, and pressure that change a marriage.

10:40 Andrea shares how divorce meant letting go of having another child.

14:05 Why parenting styles become the real source of conflict.

17:15 The resentment that builds when one partner isn't reliable.

20:30 Staying together "for the kids" and ignoring relationship problems.

24:15 Communication: when repeated conversations stop leading to change.

28:00 What healthy marriages do differently after kids.

31:10 Looking back: what we'd do differently before having children.

33:00 Final thoughts: Do kids bring couples closer—or expose the cracks?

Thank you for being here! And remember, you are NOT alone and you are Not done.

xxx Andrea & Kouelee

Here is where you can find us online:

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Does work-life balance actually exist… or are we chasing a fantasy?

Everyone talks about finding work-life balance—but what if it's something we'll never truly achieve?

In this episode of She's Not Done, we unpack the pressure women face to "do it all" while juggling careers, marriages, motherhood, friendships, and the endless mental load that comes with it. We share our very different experiences—one married, one divorced—and explore how balance looks different in every season of life.

We dive into mom guilt, why women struggle to put themselves first, teaching kids to help around the house, the invisible mental load, and why saying "yes" to one thing often means saying "no" to another.

Maybe the goal isn't balance at all.

Maybe it's building a life that reflects your priorities.

0:00 – Introduction: Does work-life balance exist?

02:15 – Married vs. divorced: Does balance look different?

05:20 – The trade-offs nobody talks about

08:45 – There aren't enough hours in the day

11:30 – Getting kids involved instead of doing everything yourself

15:00 – Chores, independence, and raising capable kids

18:00 – The mental load mothers carry

21:15 – Why making time for your marriage is so difficult

24:30 – Mom guilt and putting yourself last

27:00 – Self-care, habit stacking, and realistic routines

29:45 – Delegating and asking for help

32:00 – Why women are judged differently than men

34:30 – Letting go of guilt and redefining balance

36:00 – Final thoughts: Maybe balance isn't the goal

Thank you for being here! And remember, you are NOT alone and you are Not done.

xxx Andrea & Kouelee

Here is where you can find us online:

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As parents, our instinct is to protect our children. But when does protecting them start holding them back?

In this episode, we dive into one of the biggest parenting challenges—raising confident, independent kids while still wanting to hold onto their childhood. We share honest stories about school buses, learning to ride bikes, Montessori education, letting go of control, teaching confidence, financial independence, and the little parenting moments that shape our children into capable adults.

We also open up about our own parenting mistakes, the fears we've accidentally passed down to our daughters, and why independence isn't just about tying shoes—it's about teaching kids to advocate for themselves, trust themselves, and believe they're capable.

Whether you're raising toddlers, school-age kids, or teenagers, this conversation will make you think differently about what it really means to prepare our children for the real world.

00:00 – Introduction & today's conversation: Are we raising independent kids?

02:15 – The school bus debate: freedom vs. fear

06:45 – When other kids introduce conversations you're not ready to have

10:10 – Every household teaches independence differently

13:15 – Why I chose Montessori (and why it helped me as much as my kids)

16:20 – Teaching kids to pack their own suitcase

18:45 – Eye contact, ordering food, and building confidence

22:10 – "Do you want me to listen or help you solve it?"

25:20 – Healing our own childhood while raising our children

28:30 – Letting go without letting fear win

31:00 – How overprotection affected my daughter's confidence

33:40 – Learning to ride a bike—and believing she could

36:00 – Life skills vs. academics: What matters most?

38:00 – Teaching financial independence from a young age

40:00 – Final thoughts: Are we preparing our kids for adulthood?

Thank you for being here! And remember, you are NOT alone and you are Not done.

xxx Andrea & Kouelee

Here is where you can find us online:

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Why do we fight about the cup in the sink, the forgotten text message, the dirty laundry, or someone being five minutes late? The truth is… most arguments are never about the actual thing we’re arguing about.

In this episode of She’s Not Done, Andrea and Kouelee dive into the hidden meaning behind small fights in relationships and why tiny moments can create huge emotional reactions. They talk about how repeated behaviors can make someone feel unheard, unimportant, or like their needs don’t matter.

From the mental load of managing a household to the frustration of feeling like your time isn’t respected, they unpack how resentment builds when communication breaks down. They discuss the difference between a one-time mistake and a repeated pattern, why apologies without change can become exhausting, and how couples can learn to separate the action from the meaning they attach to it.

They also explore compromise in marriage, accepting the things about your partner that may never change, and knowing the difference between something you can lovingly accept and something that continues to hurt you.

Because sometimes it’s not about the cup in the sink. It’s about what that cup represents.

This episode is a conversation about communication, resentment, emotional triggers, partnership, and finding your way back after conflict.

Chapters / Timestamps

00:00 — Introduction: Why We Fight Over Small Things
Andrea and Kouelee introduce the topic of communication breakdown and why small arguments often represent something deeper.

02:30 — It’s Not About the Cup in the Sink
Why everyday frustrations are usually about feeling unsupported, unseen, or unheard.

06:45 — When Repeating Yourself Creates Resentment
The emotional impact of asking for the same thing over and over again.

10:30 — When Being Late Feels Like Disrespect
How time, reliability, and broken expectations can affect trust in a relationship.

14:30 — Is It the One Minute… or All the Minutes Before?
Why small moments can trigger big emotions when they represent a pattern.

18:30 — Learning to Manage Your Own Emotions
Taking responsibility for your reactions while still acknowledging your partner’s behavior matters.

21:45 — The Mental Load and “Helping” vs Doing Your Part
Why household responsibilities are about partnership, not one person helping another.

25:30 — Different Backgrounds, Different Expectations in Marriage
How culture, childhood, and family dynamics shape how we communicate.

29:00 — When Do You Accept Someone or Decide You’re Done?
Understanding unconditional love, compromise, and when repeated issues become too much.

32:00 — Finding Your Way Back After a Fight
How couples repair after conflict and rebuild connection.

35:00 — Communication Breakdown: You’re Not Alone
Final thoughts on conflict, growth, and remembering that relationships take work.

Thank you for being here! And remember, you are NOT alone and you are Not done.

xxx Andrea & Kouelee

Here is where you can find us online:

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In this episode of She’s Not Done, Andrea and Kouelee explore marriage and divorce as two sides of the same coin—how relationships can start with connection and slowly shift into distance, resentment, or clarity about leaving.

They talk openly about what it looks like when a marriage enters a “roommate phase,” where couples are living together but no longer emotionally connected. From communication breakdowns to emotional and physical disconnect, they unpack how relationships don’t usually fall apart overnight—they fade through stages.

The conversation also dives into the reality of divorce: not as failure, but sometimes as peace, clarity, and rebuilding. They discuss what it feels like to create a new home dynamic, focus on the kids, and rediscover stability after leaving a relationship that no longer works.

A big part of the episode focuses on children—staying for them versus leaving for them—and how both decisions come with emotional weight and long-term impact. They also touch on how judgment from others often makes it harder for people to speak honestly about what they’re going through.

At its core, this episode asks the hard questions: When is it time to stay and work through it, and when is it time to walk away?

No matter where you are in your journey—married, divorced, or somewhere in between—you’re not alone in asking those questions.

You might be married. You might be divorced.
But you’re definitely not done.



Timestamps

00:00 – Intro + Welcome Back
Meet the hosts: “Still married” vs “still divorced” and setting up the conversation.

02:10 – What Makes Marriage Feel Good (Team Dynamic)
Being polar opposites, balancing each other, and why “being a team” matters.

05:40 – Dating, Early Relationship Memories & Evolution
Workplace memories, early relationship dynamics, and how people change over time.

08:30 – What Divorce Feels Like: Peace vs Chaos
Divorced perspective on peace, clarity, and emotional relief after leaving.

11:20 – Home, Safety, and Creating Stability for Kids
Why creating a safe home environment becomes a core focus after separation.

14:50 – The Divorce Process: Trying Everything First
Emotional breakdown of trying, failing, and knowing when enough is enough.

18:10 – Roommate Phase in Marriage
When couples become coexisting roommates instead of connected partners.

22:00 – Emotional vs Physical Connection in Relationships
Different needs in intimacy, communication gaps, and mental connection importance.

25:30 – Unconditional Love & Relationship Expectations
What unconditional love means (and what it doesn’t), and marriage expectations.

29:00 – Kids, Staying vs Leaving, and Breaking Cycles
How children impact decisions and shifting perspectives on staying “for them.”

34:10 – Judgment, Advice, and Why People Struggle to Open Up
Friendship support, judgment around divorce, and learning not to project.

38:20 – Closing Thoughts: Marriage, Divorce & “Not Done”
Final reflections: love, growth, and the reminder that you’re still not done.

Thank you for being here! And remember, you are NOT alone and you are Not done.

xxx Andrea & Kouelee

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This week on She's Not Done, we're having an honest conversation about couples therapy—what it is, who it's really for, and why so many couples wait until they're on the brink of divorce before asking for help.

We talk about our own experiences with marriage, divorce, communication, accountability, and why therapy isn't always about saving a relationship—it can also help you understand yourself better.

Whether you're happily married, struggling, dating, or divorced, this episode offers an honest perspective on what healthy relationships really require.

We'd love to hear from you:
👉 Did couples therapy help your relationship?
👉 Would you go before things got bad?
👉 What's one thing that helped you reconnect with your partner?

Don't forget to like, subscribe, and share this episode with someone who needs to hear it.

00:00 Intro & Would You Ever Get Married Again?

02:35 Why Couples Therapy Has a Bad Reputation

05:20 Two Different People, One Shared Life

08:05 Our Personal Experiences with Marriage Counseling

11:10 Why Therapy Only Works If Both People Want It

14:15 Accountability vs. Blame

17:00 Therapy as Prevention, Not Punishment

20:05 Losing Connection After Kids

23:00 Why Date Nights Matter More Than You Think

26:10 The Fear of Divorce vs. Fear of Being Alone

29:15 Why Communication Is Everything

31:30 Final Thoughts: Is Couples Therapy Worth It?

Thank you for being here! And remember, you are NOT alone and you are Not done.

xxx Andrea & Kouelee

Here is where you can find us online:

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In this deeply honest conversation, we unpack divorced parenting, co-parenting expectations, and the emotional reality behind what it actually looks like when two people separate but still share children.

One host shares openly that she doesn’t fully resonate with the word “co-parenting” in her situation — and that becomes the foundation for a raw, layered discussion about communication breakdowns, emotional triggers, healing timelines, and the difference between intention vs reality after divorce.

At its core, this episode is about acceptance — not of perfection, but of reality. And learning how to move forward when the picture you once had no longer exists.

“You can’t fix someone else’s experience of divorce — you can only manage your own.”

Raw. Honest. Unfiltered. Real life parenting after separation.

00:00 – Intro: Divorced parenting vs co-parenting
04:10 – What “co-parenting” actually means (vs reality)
08:35 – Default parent dynamic carries into divorce
13:20 – Trying to create “healthy co-parenting” early on
18:45 – Emotional triggers when communicating with an ex
23:10 – Why separation doesn’t equal emotional distance
27:55 – Different expectations of divorce outcomes
32:40 – “You leave before you leave” discussion
37:15 – Why communication styles break down post-divorce
41:50 – Protecting kids while managing adult emotions
45:30 – The hope of peaceful co-parenting vs reality
49:10 – Identity shift: mother, wife, and now single parent
52:00 – Rebuilding life, stability, and emotional independence
55:10 – Final reflections: acceptance, growth, and moving forward

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Thank you for being here! And remember, you are NOT alone and you are Not done.

xxx Andrea & Kouelee

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