How much of the way we see our bodies is actually about our bodies… and how much of it is about how we feel inside?

In this episode of She’s Not Done, we get honest about body image, confidence, aging, motherhood, food, comparison, and the years many women spend believing they’re somehow not “good enough.”

We talk about looking back at photos from our 20s and realizing we were criticizing bodies we’d now call incredible, the unhealthy eating habits that can start young and follow us into adulthood, and what happens when body image keeps us from fully participating in our own lives.

We also get into why commenting on someone’s weight—even as a compliment—can do more harm than we realize, how raising daughters has changed the way we speak about ourselves, and why taking the picture matters even when you don’t feel your best.

And maybe confidence has much less to do with what we see in the mirror than we think.

Because sometimes your body can look exactly the same… and you can feel completely different inside.

Timestamps

00:00 – Body image: how do we feel about ourselves today?
03:15 – Looking back at our 25-year-old bodies
06:20 – When unhealthy eating habits start young
10:00 – Trying to achieve the “perfect” body
13:00 – Gaining weight after motherhood & avoiding pictures
16:00 – Take the picture: your kids won’t see what you see
19:30 – Can we blame social media for body image issues?
23:00 – Stop commenting on women’s bodies
26:30 – Raising daughters changes how we talk about ourselves
30:00 – Missing events because you don’t feel good in your clothes
33:45 – Confidence: does it come from peace or appearance?
37:15 – Movement, routines & healthier coping mechanisms
40:30 – Loving yourself without needing to love every part of your body
43:00 – Final thoughts: does every woman struggle with body image?

Thank you for being here! And remember, you are NOT alone and you are Not done.

xxx Andrea & Kouelee

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Everyone says having kids changes your marriage—but does it make it stronger, or does it simply reveal what's already there?

In this honest conversation, we unpack one of the biggest myths about marriage and parenting. We discuss why children don't create relationship problems, how they amplify communication issues, the pressure of parenting styles, and why so many couples stay together "for the kids."

Andrea shares the heartbreaking reality of realizing divorce also meant giving up the dream of another child, while Coley reflects on how working through relationship struggles before having a second child changed her marriage.

Whether you're newly married, raising little ones, or wondering if your relationship is surviving the chaos of parenthood, this episode will remind you that you're not alone.

Timestamps

00:00 Cold open: "I've never heard anyone say a baby fixed their marriage."

01:20 Do people secretly believe another baby will save their relationship?

04:10 Why kids don't create problems—they expose them.

07:15 The exhaustion, stress, and pressure that change a marriage.

10:40 Andrea shares how divorce meant letting go of having another child.

14:05 Why parenting styles become the real source of conflict.

17:15 The resentment that builds when one partner isn't reliable.

20:30 Staying together "for the kids" and ignoring relationship problems.

24:15 Communication: when repeated conversations stop leading to change.

28:00 What healthy marriages do differently after kids.

31:10 Looking back: what we'd do differently before having children.

33:00 Final thoughts: Do kids bring couples closer—or expose the cracks?

Thank you for being here! And remember, you are NOT alone and you are Not done.

xxx Andrea & Kouelee

Here is where you can find us online:

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Does work-life balance actually exist… or are we chasing a fantasy?

Everyone talks about finding work-life balance—but what if it's something we'll never truly achieve?

In this episode of She's Not Done, we unpack the pressure women face to "do it all" while juggling careers, marriages, motherhood, friendships, and the endless mental load that comes with it. We share our very different experiences—one married, one divorced—and explore how balance looks different in every season of life.

We dive into mom guilt, why women struggle to put themselves first, teaching kids to help around the house, the invisible mental load, and why saying "yes" to one thing often means saying "no" to another.

Maybe the goal isn't balance at all.

Maybe it's building a life that reflects your priorities.

0:00 – Introduction: Does work-life balance exist?

02:15 – Married vs. divorced: Does balance look different?

05:20 – The trade-offs nobody talks about

08:45 – There aren't enough hours in the day

11:30 – Getting kids involved instead of doing everything yourself

15:00 – Chores, independence, and raising capable kids

18:00 – The mental load mothers carry

21:15 – Why making time for your marriage is so difficult

24:30 – Mom guilt and putting yourself last

27:00 – Self-care, habit stacking, and realistic routines

29:45 – Delegating and asking for help

32:00 – Why women are judged differently than men

34:30 – Letting go of guilt and redefining balance

36:00 – Final thoughts: Maybe balance isn't the goal

Thank you for being here! And remember, you are NOT alone and you are Not done.

xxx Andrea & Kouelee

Here is where you can find us online:

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