Dr. Rob and Jena Jake continue their conversation about finding healthy relationships that you can model, the role of grief in love and healing, and tactics to empower yourself today, no matter what your healthy or unhealthy relationships with a spouse, partner, child or parent might look like.

TAKEAWAYS:

[1:24] Pushing back against powerful but unhealthy attachments.

[6:10] How could I not have know this was happening?

[8:08] Making improvements within yourself.

[9:56] The role of grief in love and healing.

[12:32] When is it finally time to stop and say no?

[16:10] Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself.

[19:26] Tactics to empower yourself now.

[22:05] Identifying the patterns that create your actions.

[26:15] Jena’s final advice for empowerment.

RESOURCES:

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QUOTES:

• “Change your familiar and your baseline for relationships.”
• “You’re not trying to get someone, you’re trying to become someone.”
• “It’s time to stop self-abandoning and start moving forward.”
• “Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself.”
• “Empowering yourself empowers other people.”

Dr. Rob is joined by compatibility specialist Jena Jake. Together they discuss the power of feeling a pain so strong that you are finally ready to stop self-abandoning. They explore the importance of awareness and boundaries, what it looks like to build a life alone, and strategies for carefully choosing the self-talk and blaming that so many of us face in unhealthy relationships.

TAKEAWAYS:

[2:03] Jena’s transition from marital therapy to executive coaching.

[3:35] What are we looking for when choosing a partner?

[6:07] Identifying patterns that feel like love.

[8:42] Jena’s ABA formula, including awareness and healthy boundaries.

[12:24] Your inner self needs you to stop giving yourself away.

[15:10] Facing your wake up moment.

[17:00] Yes, you can build a life alone.

[17:53] Seen, safe, supported, sought after and satisfied.

[22:28] Rebuilding trust after betrayal.

[27:55] Be careful about self-talk and blame.

[29:50] Jena’s healing journey.

RESOURCES:

Sex and Relationship Healing

@RobWeissMSW

Sex Addiction 101

Seeking Integrity

Free Sexual Addiction Screening Assessment

Partner Sexuality Survey

Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.

QUOTES:

• “What feels familiar isn’t always what’s aligned or what’s good for you.”
• “Stop setting yourself on fire to keep everyone else warm.”
• “You may not have gotten better, but you did deserve better.”
• “I don’t have to trust you, but I do have to trust myself.”

Dr. Rob, Beth Kelley, and Dr. Brett Kennedy continue their conversation about the many faces of loneliness. They consider the challenge and impact of technology on authentic relationships, explore Dr. Rob’s recent experience with ChatGPT, and reflect on the hard work that is creating human connection and combatting loneliness every single day.

TAKEAWAYS:

[1:25] What about partners who are physically together but not connected?

[4:58] The role of ChatGPT and social media in loneliness.

[9:20] Seeking connecting is not simple work.

[12:30] How to regulate when you’re feeling overstimulated.

[14:32] Acceptance of what is over what you want there to be.

[16:21] Loneliness in the face of technology.

[22:04] Interpersonal relationships have to be two-way.

[26:40] Loneliness and betrayal in marriage.

[29:06] Connecting with Both and Brett.

RESOURCES:

Sex and Relationship Healing

@RobWeissMSW

Sex Addiction 101

Seeking Integrity

Free Sexual Addiction Screening Assessment

Partner Sexuality Survey

Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.

QUOTES:

• “What is the connection that I’m seeking to make when I’m reaching for my phone?”
• “Combating loneliness is hard work. It’s the work of being human.”
• “Acceptance is not always endorsement.”
• “Until you’re actually interacting with other humans, technology use will put you at a disadvantage.”