Tammy Gustafson and Dr. Rob continue their conversation about creating emotional space between you and your betraying partner. They discuss the power of actually feeling all of your feelings, and the importance of allowing fun and play in the healing process. Tammy offers free resources for finding peace, and underscores the power that comes with surviving and thriving after betrayal.

TAKEAWAYS:

[1:23] You don’t have control over your partner’s behavior. Now what?

[4:22] Shifting from safety seeking in others to self.

[7:35] Pumping the well of your soul.

[8:52] The danger of suppressing your anger and sadness.

[13:00] Allowing the flow of emotions while grieving.

[17:01] Free resources for finding peace.

[21:07] The role of fun and play in healing.

[25:06] Moving toward the best version of yourself through healing.

RESOURCES:

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QUOTES:

● “Over time, the way that we start to heal… is a version of healthy detachment.”

● “There is an energy to anger that has a purpose.”

● “Part of the grieving process is allowing the flow of emotions to go through you.”

● “You cannot heal your heart with your head.”

Tammy Gustafson is a licensed professional counselor and coach who focused on trauma, PTSD, and EMDR before her own marriage imploded. She now works with others who are facing betrayal, focusing on women who have been betrayed to help them find their worth and strength again. Together, she and Dr. Rob discuss healing after betrayal and regaining trust in your partner, but more importantly, in yourself.

TAKEAWAYS:

[2:00] Tammy’s reluctant, and now passionate journey toward betrayal counseling.

[4:30] The personal element of Tammy’s services.

[6:05] Growing into the best version of yourself after betrayal.

[9:03] What if I can’t feel my feelings?

[11:20] The process of healing requires the help of others.

[12:52] It is never your fault that your partner betrayed you.

[15:30] What if my anger is directed at the other woman?

[17:25] Rebuilding trust after betrayal.

[21:07] How can I trust myself again?

[25:00] Resetting the nervous system.

RESOURCES:

Sex and Relationship Healing

@RobWeissMSW

Sex Addiction 101

Seeking Integrity

Free Sexual Addiction Screening Assessment

Partner Sexuality Survey

Tammy Gustafson

Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.

QUOTES:

● “We can’t hide from our emotions and heal.”

● “The grieving process is the healing process.”

● “Healing is a thousand times easier with the help of other people.”

● “Power is the ability to influence, or to resist influence.”

Carol Juergensen Sheets and Dr. Rob continue their conversation about healing as a couple. Carol defines the six primary needs of every person, ways to create meaningful connection, and what it means to be brave and do it anyway throughout a couple’s healing journey.

TAKEAWAYS:

[1:23] Where do couples start with healing?

[3:27] Transactional sex versus emotional connection.

[4:13] First steps with couples work – what do you need that you aren’t getting?

[6:03] Defining the 6 primary needs of every person.

[9:40] Creating meaningful ways for connection.

[11:56] Helping couples heal starts here.

[14:15] Do you know your own strengths?

[15:05] Be brave and do it anyway.

RESOURCES:

Sex and Relationship Healing

@RobWeissMSW

Sex Addiction 101

Seeking Integrity

Free Sexual Addiction Screening Assessment

Partner Sexuality Survey

Carol Juergensen Sheets

Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.

QUOTES:

● “You need to be seen as a couple that is not in distress.”

● “Create ways that you can look forward to connection.”

● “I want couples to work through their trauma with each other.”

● “You have to do what will make your partner feel safe.”