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  • Why I Changed The Name from Sex Afflictions to Patters of Power

    Why I Changed The Name from Sex Afflictions to Patters of Power
    2026/01/25
    There’s a painful truth most people never admit: the men who look confident, successful, and put together are often the ones collapsing internally.

    They’re hiding, performing, people pleasing, and losing themselves one tiny lie at a time.

    In this episode, I’m explaining a major shift:
    my podcast is no longer called Sex Afflictions and Porn Addictions.
    It’s now called Patterns of Power.

    And I didn’t change the name because it sounded better.
    I changed it because over 14 years of doing this work, I realized something I couldn’t ignore anymore:

    If the framework keeps men stuck in shame, fear, and identity collapse…
    it might get their attention, but it won’t build the life they want.

    In this episode, I break down:
    • Why “addiction language” helps some men early on… but can hold others back long-term
    • How the real issue is often patterns, not porn
    • Why sex isn’t the root problem… it’s the relief valve
    • The shift from running away from a problem → to building a system that makes you unstoppable
    • How power, integrity, self-leadership, and capacity are the real transformation
    Because shame keeps people quiet.
    Power builds movements.

    If you’re a leader, founder, executive, or high performer who knows something is “off” internally…

    this podcast is for you.

    Ready to interrupt the patterns and step into your power?

    Visit: mindfulhabitmastery.com

    If you’re struggling with sex and porn addiction and need direct support:
    Visit: mindfulhabithelp.com
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    23 分
  • Why Successful Men Feel Empty (With Aaron Velky)

    Why Successful Men Feel Empty (With Aaron Velky)
    2026/01/12
    There’s a painful truth most people never admit: the men who look confident, successful, and put together are often the ones quietly collapsing inside.

    They’re driven, disciplined, respected — and deeply disconnected. Hiding behind busyness. Chasing validation. Terrified of stillness. Losing themselves one “successful” decision at a time.

    Visit www.mindfulhabitmastery.com for powerful help now!

    In this episode of Patterns Of Power, Craig Perra sits down with Aaron Velke, founder of Get Out of Your Own Way and creator of the Living Vision Program, to expose the hidden patterns that keep high-performing men stuck — even when everything looks good on the outside.

    Aaron works with seven-, eight-, and nine-figure leaders who have already “made it,” yet feel restless, unfulfilled, and quietly trapped by compulsive achievement. Together, Craig and Aaron unpack why success doesn’t heal insecurity — it often amplifies it — and why the real work begins when the noise finally stops.

    In this conversation, they explore:
    • The masks high-achieving men wear to avoid feeling “not enough”
    • Why validation, busyness, and adrenaline become addictive
    • How adventure and challenge can unlock breakthroughs when discipline fails
    • Why community heals what isolation quietly destroys
    • The role of stillness in finding real vision, clarity, and direction

    Aaron brings a powerful blend of depth, honesty, and lived experience — challenging the belief that more success is the answer, and offering a different path forward: one rooted in presence, purpose, and embodied leadership.

    Connect with Aaron Velke
    Follow Aaron on all platforms: @AaronVelke
    Listen to The Living Vision Show on all major podcast platforms.
    Aaron also leads powerful, immersive experiences for high-performing leaders:
    • Living Vision Retreat — January 2026
    • 90-Day Living Vision Accelerator — January / February 2026

    To learn more about Aaron’s work, upcoming retreats, and programs, visit:
    https://www.living.vision

    If you’ve built a life that looks impressive but feels empty… this episode will hit close to home.
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    42 分
  • The Identity Shift That Ends Porn, Distraction, and Self-Sabotage with Niko Arapkiles of Vision Expresso

    The Identity Shift That Ends Porn, Distraction, and Self-Sabotage with Niko Arapkiles of Vision Expresso
    2025/12/22
    Most men aren’t stuck because they lack discipline.

    They’re stuck because they’re fighting the wrong battle.

    In this episode of Patterns Of Power, I sit down with Niko Arapkiles, founder of Vision Expresso, to expose the real reason change doesn’t last for most men: they try to fix behaviors without changing identity.

    Visit www.mindfulhabitmastery.com for powerful help now!

    We break down why willpower eventually fails, how distraction quietly destroys focus and purpose, and why you’ll always lose in a fight against yourself if your identity hasn’t changed.

    This conversation goes beyond addiction. It’s about becoming the man you were meant to be.

    In this episode, we talk about:
    • Why identity change matters more than habits, rules, or discipline
    • How distraction, porn, and constant stimulation rewire the brain against you
    • Why most men stay stuck even after therapy, retreats, or big breakthroughs
    • How to operationalize identity so change actually sticks
    • What it looks like to live from your future self instead of chasing motivation
    If you’re tired of starting over, white-knuckling sobriety, or feeling like you “should be further by now,” this episode will change how you see recovery, growth, and yourself.

    Learn more about Niko and Vision Expresso:
    https://visionespresso.co
    Find him on social media here: @nikoarapkiles
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    25 分
  • Why “Nice Guy” Syndrome Is Destroying Men’s Lives (Interview with Dr. Robert Glover)

    Why “Nice Guy” Syndrome Is Destroying Men’s Lives (Interview with Dr. Robert Glover)
    2025/12/15
    There’s a painful truth most people never admit: the men who look confident, successful, and put together are often the ones collapsing internally. They’re hiding, performing, people pleasing, and losing themselves one tiny lie at a time.

    Visit www.mindfulhabitmastery.com for powerful help now!

    In this episode of Patterns of Power, I sit down with Dr. Robert Glover — therapist, coach, and author of the bestselling book No More Mr. Nice Guy. His work has changed millions of lives, including my clients, and this conversation goes straight to the heart of why men struggle… and what actually creates lasting change.

    We dig deep into Nice Guy Syndrome — why it starts in childhood, how it destroys relationships, and why people pleasing is actually manipulation. We talk about lying (even “harmless” lies), boundaries, masculine integrity, and how men can finally step into honesty, power, and purpose.

    In this episode, we cover:
    • Why Nice Guy Syndrome forms early in life
    • How being “the good guy” kills intimacy
    • Why people pleasing becomes manipulation
    • Why lying — even tiny lies — keeps you powerless
    • How Nice Guys and jerks are two sides of the same survival pattern
    • Why boundaries are an act of love
    • How honesty creates REAL connection
    • How men can stop seeking approval and start living with clarity
    • Why community is essential for recovery

    If you’re tired of pretending… tired of shrinking… tired of living small — this episode is your wake-up call.

    Connect With Dr. Robert Glover

    Website & programs: https://drglover.com
    Integration Nation (Men’s Community): https://integrationnation.net
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    45 分
  • People Pleasing Is Lying: The Truth About Energetic Abuse, Boundaries & Your Voice w/ Melanie Singer

    People Pleasing Is Lying: The Truth About Energetic Abuse, Boundaries & Your Voice w/ Melanie Singer
    2025/12/03
    Most people look successful but feel dead inside.

    They’ve lost their spark, their purpose, and their voice — and they’re stuck people pleasing, hiding the truth, and calling it “love.”

    In this episode of Sex Afflictions and Porn Addictions, I sit down with Melanie Spring — brand muse, international keynote speaker, and creator of Speak With Confidence — to talk about what authenticity really means, why lying is abuse (yes, even “little” lies), and how people pleasing is actually manipulation that keeps everyone stuck.

    If you’re a man struggling with sex or porn addiction — or a partner exhausted from carrying the weight of his secrets — this conversation is for you.

    We talk about:
    • What a brand muse actually does and why finding your voice is soul work
    • How we lose our creative spark and identity as adults
    • Why so many “successful” people are secretly miserable
    • The impact of addiction on partners: energetic abuse, gaslighting, lost intuition
    • Why lying is abuse even when he “doesn’t mean to hurt you”
    • Boundaries as love and why love must be boundaried
    • How Melanie set a hard boundary with her husband — and held it
    • Why women need conscious community, not gossip circles
    • How childhood betrayal loops repeat until we finally close them
    • Why people pleasing is lying and manipulation
    • What radical honesty and radical responsibility look like
    • Personal style as an expression of your authentic self

    If you’re tired of pretending and ready to stand fully in your truth, this episode will hit you in the best way.

    We don’t promote other programs very often — but this one aligns perfectly with what we teach at The Mindful Habit.

    Melanie Spring is incredible at helping people find and express their authentic voice, and I know some of you have been wanting to step into bigger stages, deeper truth, and more confident communication. If that’s you, you’ll get real value from this.

    Here are the details:

    Melanie’s SPEAK With Confidence program is on Black Friday sale right now — up to $1500 off through Tuesday at 8pm ET.
    Use code PERRA for an extra 10% off + it gives me 10% of what you pay.

    Program info: melaniespring.com/swc
    Swipe copy for emails, texts, or social posts if you want to share it too: melaniespring.com/swc/affiliates
    Code: PERRA

    If you’ve been feeling called to speak more powerfully in 2025, this might be the perfect next step.

    Connect with Melanie Spring
    🔸 Website & retreats: https://www.melaniespring.com
    🔸 Learn more about her Speak With Confidence program and upcoming women’s retreats on her site.
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    45 分
  • The Christian Case for IFS: Healing Porn, Compulsivity with Jenna Riemersma ("Altogether You")

    The Christian Case for IFS: Healing Porn, Compulsivity with Jenna Riemersma ("Altogether You")
    2025/12/03
    Most men are taught to hate the part of them that struggles.
    What if that part isn’t your enemy at all… but your protector?

    Buy The Book Altogether You: https://amzn.to/4rvtnex

    In this groundbreaking conversation, Coach Craig sits down with trauma therapist and bestselling author Jenna Riemersma, whose book Altogether You bridges Internal Family Systems (IFS) with Christian faith in a way that is nothing short of revolutionary.

    Together, they expose why the traditional addiction model keeps men trapped in shame and powerlessness—and how IFS offers a radically different path to healing, integrity, and self-leadership.

    You’ll hear:

    • Why identifying as an “addict” feels empowering at first—but eventually becomes a cage.
    • Why the part of you that acts out isn’t sinful, broken, or demonic… it’s protective.
    • How Christian theology and modern psychology actually reinforce each other when it comes to understanding your parts.
    • Why partners get stuck in reactive boundary cycles—and how to break them.
    • Why relationship, compassion, and self-leadership heal what shame and control never will.

    Craig and Jenna unpack the Core Self from two directions—psychology and Christianity—and reveal a way of operationalizing faith that most churches completely miss.

    If you or your spouse is struggling with pornography, unwanted sexual behavior, or betrayal trauma, this episode will fundamentally shift how you see the struggle, yourself, and each other.

    This is the conversation every Christian man—and every church—needs to hear.

    Resources and Links Mentioned

    Buy The Book Altogether You: https://amzn.to/4rvtnex

    Jenna’s website https://movetoward.com

    Altogether You On Demand Workshop https://movetoward.com
    Use code AY15 for 15% off

    Free IFS guided meditations and resources Available at https://movetoward.com

    Book referenced in the episode Altogether You by Jenna Riemersma
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    50 分
  • Why Your Relationship Is Falling Apart (And How to Fix It) with Melissa Nanavati, Relationship Coach

    Why Your Relationship Is Falling Apart (And How to Fix It) with Melissa Nanavati, Relationship Coach
    2025/11/25
    You can’t build a powerful life on a foundation of chaos at home. And most men don’t struggle because they don’t love their partner — they struggle because no one ever taught them how to talk about hard things without it blowing up.

    Download The BRAVE Framework here: https://www.melissananavati.com/BRAVEscripts

    In this powerful episode, you will learn:
    🔥 Why love is not enough without structure
    🔥 How to talk about hard topics without triggering defensiveness
    🔥 Why creating safety must happen before chemistry
    🔥 How physical touch regulates the nervous system during conflict
    🔥 Why “I’m sorry” means nothing without action
    🔥 And how to co-create solutions that actually stick

    If you’ve broken trust, kept secrets, or feel disconnected from your partner, this episode will give you a system to repair, rebuild, and lead your relationship with courage.

    Download The BRAVE Framework here: https://www.melissananavati.com/BRAVEscripts

    Melissa Nanavati is a speaker, author, and Relationship Architect who helps high performers rebuild trust, reignite chemistry, and create systems for love that last. She blends neuroscience, biology, and lived experience to teach the art of relational courage.

    Despite early success as a Fortune 100 consultant and bestselling textbook author, Melissa spent years struggling with an anxiety disorder, battling alcohol abuse, and enduring over 100 first dates in her search for a partner.

    When she finally met her husband, their relationship was forged under extraordinary pressure, including raising $1.1 million for his world-record expedition and spending 4 months apart while running two businesses.

    Through that journey, Melissa developed frameworks and tools to help high achievers build peaceful, powerful relationships. She is a trusted relationship coach for executives, founders, and driven individuals seeking actionable, science-backed tools to navigate love.

    Melissa reveals her BRAVE Framework, a neuroscience-backed, action-driven structure that transforms the way couples communicate. This isn’t fluffy advice — it’s tactical, practical, and built for real life.

    Download The BRAVE Framework here: https://www.melissananavati.com/BRAVEscripts

    She offers powerful one-on-one coaching, so reach out and apply here:

    Apply for Coaching: https://www.melissananavati.com/coaching
    Learn more at: www.MelissaNanavati.com
    Instagram: www.instagram.com/MelissaNanavati
    YouTube: www.youtube.com/@PeakPerformanceLove
    LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/MelissaNanavati

    Remember: Your relationship won’t fix itself. Courage will.
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    41 分
  • How Modern Society Broke Men ... with The Undaunted Man Team Geoff Laughton and Mark Johnson

    How Modern Society Broke Men ... with The Undaunted Man Team Geoff Laughton and Mark Johnson
    2025/11/12
    They told you masculinity was toxic.
    They were wrong.

    In this episode, Craig Perra sits down with Geoff Laughton and Mark Johnson, founders of The Undaunted Man, for one of the most raw and powerful conversations you’ll hear this year.

    They expose how modern men have been shamed for being masculine, how this has left millions lost, numb, and disconnected, and what it takes to reclaim strength without losing heart.

    You’ll learn:

    -Why so many men secretly feel broken
    -The difference between healthy masculine and unhealthy control
    -Why community and brotherhood matter more than ever
    -How to be fearless and live with purpose again

    If you’ve ever felt disconnected from your power, this conversation will wake you up.

    👉 Learn more at www.theundauntedman.com

    Remember: No one’s coming to save you. Feed the right wolf inside you.

    Visit: https://mindfulhabithelp.com/group-coaching
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    40 分