Dating advice for high-achieving women isn’t “follow the butterflies.” In this episode, we dismantle the lie that intense feelings equal real potential—and show you what actually predicts commitment.

You’ll walk away able to separate chemistry from compatibility, stop projecting your feelings onto him, and use a simple alignment check to protect your standards without hardening your heart.

• A no-drama filter to spot commitment-ready men using actions, not adrenaline rushes.
• How to keep standards in dating high when your feelings are loud (and your hopes are louder).
• The 3 hidden assumptions that tank momentum—and the intentional dating swaps that fix them fast.
• A post-breakup reality check that ends the closure spiral and brings your power back.

If you’re done confusing butterflies with green flags, this episode gives you the grounded roadmap to stay magnetic, keep your standards, and move toward the right man—without wasting another month on mixed signals.

ABOUT THE PODCAST

Said Lovingly is the podcast for high-achieving women entrepreneurs, creators, and powerhouse professionals who are ready to attract committed love without lowering their standards.

Said Lovingly is hosted by Crystal Irom, a lawyer-turned-love coach and educator for high-achieving women who has helped 70+ women go from single to happily married with her proven frameworks for attracting love.
Subscribe to Said Lovingly for new episodes every Thursday—and follow me on Instagram @crystalonlove for daily insights.

Ever had a man come on strong at the start… only to suddenly cool off? If you’re wondering why men stop pursuing and how to respond without chasing him, this episode is your blueprint.

You’ll finally understand the real reason pursuit fades, what it means about him (not you), and how to stay magnetic instead of falling into the exhausting cycle of over-functioning.

In this episode, you’ll discover:

• Why men stop pursuing after the early dates—and what it really signals about commitment-ready men
• The #1 mindset shift that keeps you from chasing when he pulls back
• How to use his pursuit (or lack of it) as clarity about his emotional availability
• The secret to staying confident in dating even when things slow down
• What to do instead of lowering your standards or “auditioning” to be chosen

If you’ve ever felt that sting of someone pulling away, this conversation will change how you see pursuit forever. You’ll leave knowing exactly what to do instead of chasing—so you can attract the man who doesn’t stop showing up.

About Said Lovingly

Said Lovingly is the podcast for high-achieving women entrepreneurs, creators, and powerhouse professionals who are ready to attract committed love without lowering their standards. Said Lovingly is hosted by Crystal Irom, a lawyer-turned-love coach and educator for high-achieving women who has helped 70+ women go from single to happily married with her proven frameworks for attracting love.

📌 Subscribe to Said Lovingly for new episodes every Thursday—and follow me on Instagram @crystalonlove for more daily insights.

Think you need to fix your flaws to be chosen? The truth: confidence in dating comes from embracing every part of you. Yes, even if you think you're "too much" or have "thin skin."

Confidence in dating doesn’t come from pretending to be perfect—it comes from embracing your so-called flaws, quirks, and sensitivities. When you stop hustling to “prove you’re not too much” and start owning every part of yourself, your magnetism skyrockets.

In this episode, I share how I went from being crushed by comments like “you’re high-maintenance” to attracting men who loved me because of it—not in spite of it. If you’ve ever felt like you need to tone yourself down or fix yourself to be chosen, this conversation will be be a gamechanger for you.

You’ll learn how to:

- Build confidence in dating that isn’t shaken by “too much” or "not enough" labels

- Shift your self-worth in love so flaws no longer hold power over you

- Stop over-explaining and start attracting men who celebrate you

- Unlock magnetic feminine energy that draws in commitment-ready love

Here’s the truth: you don’t need to be perfect to be loved. You get to bring your full self—flaws, fire, and sensitivity—and still have a happy, healthy, committed relationship with a man who adores you. Listen to the episode to understand how.

ABOUT THE PODCAST

Said Lovingly is the podcast for high-achieving women entrepreneurs, creators, and powerhouse professionals who are ready to attract committed love without lowering their standards. Said Lovingly is hosted by Crystal Irom, a lawyer-turned-love coach and educator for high-achieving women who has helped 70+ women go from single to happily married with her proven frameworks for attracting love.

📌 Subscribe to Said Lovingly for new episodes every Thursday—and follow me on Instagram @crystalonlove for more daily insights.