Why do so many South Asians struggle with guilt, burnout, people-pleasing, family pressure, and setting boundaries?

In this episode of S&S Diaries, Sha sit down with Saijel, a South Asian therapist specialising in intergenerational trauma, to unpack the hidden emotional patterns passed down through generations.

From migration, colonisation, family expectations, gender roles, mental health, queer identity, body image, and relationships, this conversation explores how our ancestors’ experiences continue to shape our lives today.

Whether you’re navigating family expectations, struggling with self-worth, feeling exhausted from constantly achieving, or simply trying to understand yourself better, this episode will leave you with a new perspective on healing.

🎙️ Hosted by Sha

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⏰ Timestamps

00:00 – The South Asian burden nobody talks about

02:15 – Meet Saijel: The journey into therapy

05:47 – Growing up South Asian in New Zealand

07:08 – Why South Asian parents operate from fear

10:10 – Women, boundaries & family expectations

13:38 – Body shaming, marriage pressure & self-worth

19:33 – A powerful healing breakthrough story

23:29 – Why South Asians constantly compare themselves

26:45 – Setting boundaries without cutting off family

29:20 – What is intergenerational trauma?

36:13 – Queer identity in South Asian culture

42:19 – South Asian men & mental health

49:25 – Building a career around purpose & healing

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Connect with Saijel Dheda :

Website: https://wwwunlearnwithsaijelcom.netlify.app/

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In this deep and thought-provoking episode of S&S Diaries, PJ sits down with astrologer Navjyot Mahendru to uncover the real meaning behind astrology, kundli, karma, Shani Sade Sati, Rahu-Ketu, relationships, business success, destiny, and human energy.

This isn’t your typical astrology conversation filled with fear and superstition.

Navjyot explains astrology as a life manual — a science of energy, discipline, karma, and self-awareness.

From Shani Dev and Sade Sati…

to Manglik dosha, marriage compatibility, business success, emotions, planetary energies, and the role of karma — this episode goes deep into topics people are often scared to ask about openly.

If you’ve ever wondered:

• Why some people attract money easily

• Why certain relationships fail

• Why life suddenly changes during Saturn periods

• Whether kundli and astrology are real

• Or how planetary energies affect your mind and life…

…then this episode is for you.

Much love,

PJ & Sha 🤍

TIMESTAMPS

00:00 – What is Astrology ?

01:33 – Introducing Navjyot Mahendru

03:14 – “Stars don’t control you… your karma does”

04:04 – How Navjyot entered astrology through gemstones

05:28 – Kundli explained as a “life manual”

06:07 – Astrology, energy & human vibrations

07:18 – Meaning of the 12 houses in kundli

08:56 – Rahu, Ketu & planetary energies explained

10:16 – Why some people attract money naturally

11:18 – Business success & the 10th house

12:31 – PJ’s birth chart & debilitated Mars explained

18:00 – The truth about Shani & Sade Sati

24:06 – Love marriage vs arranged marriage discussion

31:02 – Attachment, ego & Saturn’s lessons

41:32 – Birth chart vs transit chart explained

1:03:26 – Mahadasha, Antardasha & Sade Sati breakdown

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Connect with Navjyot Mahendru :

📞 0434 893 965

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karmickolors/

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From being overweight, insecure and lost… to becoming The Muscle Engineer.

In this episode of S&S Diaries, Jas Warraich opens up about the real story behind his transformation — the pain, the scams, the fake coaches, the mental battles, and the life experiences that built the man he is today.

We talk about:

• Bro science and manipulation in the fitness industry

• Losing thousands to fake coaching

• Body image, confidence & mindset

• Why fitness is deeper than just abs

• His wife’s cancer journey & staying strong together

• Social media, hate & online pressure

• Punjabi culture, masculinity & discipline

• Why health comes before money

• The truth about becoming mentally strong

This isn’t just a fitness podcast.It’s a conversation about pain, purpose, growth and becoming the strongest version of yourself.

If this conversation helped you in any way, share it with someone who needs to hear it.

Much love,

SS Dairies

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Timestamps

00:00 Intro

02:00 Meet Jas Warraich – The Muscle Engineer

03:10 The Truth About Bro Science

05:14 Starting The Fitness Journey At 101kg

08:28 Confidence, Body Image & Self Respect

11:15 The Mental Battle Behind Weight Loss

17:44 His Wife’s Cancer Journey

24:44 Fitness Saved Him Mentally

26:32 The Fake Coach Experience

31:00 Why He Started The Muscle Engineer

35:43 Religion, God & Personal Beliefs

46:45 “Australia Made Me A Man”

56:22 Final Message To The Audience

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Connect with Jas Warraich:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/share/1EtjF8S1aB/?mibextid=wwXIfr

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themuscleengineerjw?igsh=MzJ0OWxmZWp3ZWJt

Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@themuscleengineer?_r=1&_t=ZS-96TifGmKQGj

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