Renee is literally & metaphorically ON THE MOVE & in her own rebirth & reset cycle.

Listen to this episode for a more personal share about:

1. The context that led up to moving from Arkansas to St. Louis - it has been unfolding for many months!

2. How a late diagnosis of AUDHD means disruptions in environment & routine are more challenging & stressful. If this is you, you are not alone & there is a reason your brain is on the blink: it's about CAPACITY!

3. The real & regular challenge of obtaining adhd meds - which demands more executive functioning & adds to frustration.

4. Feeling DEEPLY means saying goodbye is hard. Extended good byes or abrupt are even more challenging.

5. GenX Cycle Breakers, like Renee, rarely get a chance to "come up for air" before a new or another life challenge arises.

Renee will be back "in the saddle" seeing clients soon & can't wait to connect!

Listener Question:

It's hard to decide what to do with my relationship & the advice I see seems contradictory or confuses me. I don't know what to think...

In this Episode:

• Renee discusses the challenges trauma survivors face in making major life decisions, particularly in relationships, due to unresolved attachment wounds and a lack of "codes" for healthy relationships.
• She emphasizes the importance of trusting one's intuition and consuming information selectively, taking what resonates and leaving the rest.
• Renee advises trauma survivors to seek guidance from trusted mentors and to focus on healing and addressing their own trauma FIRST before making significant relationship decisions.
• She also highlights the need for survivors to honor themselves while maintaining healthy relationships, without sacrificing their well-being.

Concepts:

1. Health of individuals & relationships is on a continuum. Mainstream advice may not be nuanced enough for trauma survivors or abuse victims.
2. Look for a mentor who has awareness of the "universal patterns" of your particular challenge and can appreciate the nuances of your specific context.
3. Renegotiating relationships or changing/ending relationship contracts ignites primal fear for folks with insecure attachment. Decisions are best made not from fear based trauma energy but from a place of inner authority, clarity, & discernment.
4. Every human is seeking to meet their biological imperative or essential human needs of: SECURITY/SAFETY & BELONGING/CONNECTION/ATTACHMENT. Healthy relationships meet both needs.
5. It is important to CALL IN what you desire & need versus CALL OUT if you want to exit a negative relationship cycle.
6. Do your part. Engage your healing. Keep your side of the street clean & move with your values & integrity intact to minimize harm & minimize regret.
7. Allow an unfolding. There is a divine plan & divine timing. Your job is to be ready to be have the courage to pivot when needed for your growth & evolution.

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Renee chats with Michael Herman , the Autistic Half of "Scenes from a Neurodivergent Marriage".

They chat about the nuances of communication styles, the importance of self-acceptance, & the impact of neurodiversity on personal and professional relationships.

They also discuss how understanding one's own needs & communicating them effectively can lead to healthier interactions, both in work and personal life.

The dialogue emphasizes the significance of vulnerability, especially in the context of social media, and how sharing personal experiences can foster community and healing.

They also touch on the challenges faced by neurodivergent individuals in relationships and the importance of mutual understanding and support.

Our Guest:

Michael is a Chicago-based director, playwright and teacher. He loves nothing more than watching a new play come to life, while increasing access to the arts. Michael studied Architecture at The Cooper Union, holds undergraduate degrees in Theater and English from The State University of New York at Brockport, and an MFA in Dramatic Writing from Carnegie Mellon University. Music is the answer.

http://www.outerlooptheater.org/

http://www.youtube.com/@MyAutisticHusband

https://www.tiktok.com/link/v2?

aid=1988&lang=en&scene=bio_url&target=instagram.com%2Fmyautistichusband

https://www.instagram.com/myautistichusband?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw==Our Host: Renee Fleming

A therapist turned coach who specializes in trauma healing & late diagnosed neurodivergence.

https://resetwithrenee.com/

https://www.instagram.com/resetwithrenee/?hl=en

https://www.tiktok.com/@resetwithrenee