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On this episode of Rage on the Rocks, Lauren puts Sarah in the hot seat to talk about the wild, occasionally wonderful and often deeply confusing world of online dating in your 40s. 🍷

From big fish photos, dead animals, high-vis selfies and men hiding in group shots, to “no drama” bios, dominance declarations and messages that make you want to delete your whole profile and move to a cave — we unpack the early profile clues that can help you decide who deserves a conversation and who deserves an immediate swipe left.

But this episode is not about judging every fish-holder or diagnosing strangers from three blurry photos. It is about getting clear on what you want, trusting your instincts, recognising the difference between a genuine red flag and simple incompatibility, and remembering that your time, energy and safety matter.

We talk emotional intelligence, profiles as personal branding, being specific enough for the right people to self-select, and why you do not have to keep entertaining someone who cannot ask a single question about you.

If you are dipping a toe back into the apps — in your 40s, 50s or any age — this one is for you. You are not too picky for wanting respect, curiosity, clear communication and someone who adds to your life.

Key takeaway: Keep your eyes peeled, know your values, and if he cannot ask you a question… rage on and leave.

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This week on Rage on the Rocks, we’re bringing you an update on two stories that continue to generate huge public discussion — and a whole lot of online noise.

We begin with the Lindsay Clancy case, following the mistrial in her Massachusetts murder trial after the jury could not reach a unanimous decision. We talk about the difficulty of cases involving severe mental illness, criminal responsibility and postnatal psychosis; the polarised public reaction; and why the conversation matters for parents who may already feel scared or ashamed to seek mental-health support.

We then turn to Andrew and Tristan Tate: their ongoing detention in the United States while they fight extradition to the UK, the fresh Romanian indictment, their online luxury-and-dominance brand, and the deeply committed supporters doing push-ups outside a Miami jail. Because apparently that is where we are.

These are very different cases, but both raise questions about online fandom, misinformation, gender, power, loneliness, accountability and what happens when serious legal matters become content.

⚠️ Content warning: This episode includes discussion of child deaths, suicide attempt, serious mental illness, rape and human-trafficking allegations, sexual exploitation, misogyny and online harm.

If you are pregnant, a new parent, or worried about your mental health, PANDA’s National Helpline provides support for perinatal anxiety, depression and postnatal psychosis: 1300 726 306. If you are in crisis, contact Lifeline on 13 11 14. In an emergency, call 000.

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In this episode of Rage on the Rocks, we unpack the public conversation around the Lindsay Clancy case — a mother on trial in the US over the deaths of her three children — and the flood of certainty, armchair diagnosis and attention-seeking media coverage surrounding it.

This is not a verdict episode. We are not here to decide guilt or innocence from a podcast microphone. Instead, we talk about postnatal psychosis, the difference between perinatal anxiety/depression and a rare psychiatric emergency, the impossible expectations placed on mothers, and what happens when devastating family tragedy becomes online content.

We also ask harder questions: Who gets empathy when they are unwell? Who is assumed to be a “good mother”? Why does public discussion so quickly become a hot-take competition? And what would it look like to take maternal mental health seriously before crisis hits?

Trigger warning

This episode discusses child deaths, suicide attempt, severe mental illness, postnatal psychosis and criminal court proceedings. Please take care while listening. You may wish to skip this episode, pause it, or listen with someone you trust if these topics are difficult for you.

Postnatal psychosis is rare but serious, and can develop suddenly in the days or weeks following birth. If you or someone you know is experiencing hallucinations, delusions, paranoia, severe confusion, extreme changes in mood or behaviour, prolonged inability to sleep, or thoughts of self-harm or harm to others, please seek urgent medical support.

Australian support

• PANDA — Perinatal Anxiety & Depression Australia: 1300 726 306
  Support for expecting and new parents, as well as partners, family and friends: PANDA panda.org
• Lifeline: 13 11 14
  Crisis support and suicide-prevention service: Lifeline Australia
• ForWhen: 1300 24 23 22
  Free mental-health navigation support for new and expecting parents: ForWhen

If there is an immediate risk to someone’s safety, call 000 or attend the nearest emergency department.