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Welcome to Episode 10 of Purposely Crossed Podcast—and first off, thank you for rocking with us on this journey.

In today’s episode, we’re joined by the amazing Michelle Douglas. This conversation hits a little different because we share similar roots—growing up as PKs (pastor’s kids), navigating church life, identity, expectations, and everything that comes with it.

We talk about the real stuff—finding yourself, dealing with pressure, feeling misunderstood at times, and growing through experiences that aren’t always talked about openly in church spaces. It’s honest, it’s relatable, and it’s definitely needed.

Michelle is a devoted wife and mother who keeps God at the center of it all, and her perspective brings both wisdom and transparency to the conversation.

As you listen, come with an open heart. If you’ve ever had experiences—inside or outside the church—that shaped you, challenged you, or grew you… this one’s for you.

Take a seat, join the conversation, and don’t forget to like, subscribe, and hit that notification bell so you don’t miss what’s next.

Key Verses to study:

Luke 17:11-19 (ESV)

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This week, we will reflect on episodes 1-9.

The PC team is fasting this week, and you are welcome to join us. We will meditate on Hebrews 11 & Hebrews 12. We’re praying for strengthened faith and clarity and revelation on our journey, and into the next.

Thank you for your continued support. We love you from the bottom of your hearts.

PC Corporate Consecration:

We will fast from 3am-4pm daily, and No eating during that time but be in constant meditation on the word of God. (If you must have something to hold you over or have special needs for your medical health, please stick to fruit & veggie only, and do not over indulge.)No eating after 8pm at night.

Please seek diligently, and remember to feast on the living & Holy word of God as temptation arises. Remember, and be encouraged that anytime temptation is present, there also lies an escape. Here are a few scriptures to go by;

•1 Corinthians 10:13 “No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it.”

•Matthew 26:41 “Keep watch and pray, so that you will not give in to temptation. For the spirit is willing, but the body is weak!”

•James 1:12 “God blesses those who patiently endure testing and temptation. Afterward they will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him.”

On this week's episode, Jae discusses the discomfort of addressing a sensitive topic, and the conviction she experienced to talk about it. Sexual immorality can have a great affect on one's life, and in this case Jae shares how it started in her childhood, led to enslavement, lustful addiction, spiritual blindness, and many other strongholds. The importance of transparency and deliverance from sexual sin is emphasized, along with the spiritual significance of being hidden in Christ, rather than hiding in crisis. This episode is "unorthodox" and doesn't agree with the ways of culture, but is Biblically sound, and rooted in faith.

_You are not alone.

If you're struggling with sexual immorality or sexual addiction, please know that you are not alone and there is no shame in seeking help. God's grace is sufficient, and healing is possible through him.

If you need someone to talk to, reach out confidentially at ( jcn@purposelycrossed.com ).

Takeaways

• The impact of sexual immorality goes beyond personal guilt and shame, it can affect spiritual intimacy and clarity of purpose.
• Transparency is essential for maintaining deliverance.

Some Key Verses to study:

-1 Corinthians 6:12-20

-Colossians 3-5

Chapters

• 00:00 The Uncomfortable Conversation
• 11:41 The Impact of Sexual Immorality
• 20:19 Enslavement to Sexual Sin
• 27:01 The Spiritual Impact of Sexual Sin
• 33:26 Transparency and Deliverance

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In this week's episode, Jae brings back Pastor Freddie Cole Sr, closing off the conversation on how un-forgiveness will keep you bound, and now highlighting the benefits of forgiveness. There is a divine nature of forgiveness and it has a life changing impact on others. The command from Christ was to love and forgive portraying being made in his image. True forgiveness gives us a heightened experience of intimacy with God because of it's lightness and is commonality characteristic of holiness. While it can be a challenge, there is also healing power of forgiveness. The reward of forgiving is much greater and more satisfying than not forgiving. The act of forgiving comes with the realization that everyone deserves mercy as self does. To heal we learn to identify that we are indeed hurt, and seek true healing from the one who holds all power.

Takeaways

• Forgiveness is essential for success and moving forward.
• Forgiveness is a characteristic of holiness and is necessary for true peace.
• Forgiveness is vital for spiritual growth

Some Key Verses to study:

-Hebrews 12:14-15

-Matthew 6:14-15

-Matthew 18:21-35

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In this week's episode, Jae brings on Pastor Freddie Cole Sr for a conversation about un-forgiveness and the crucial role forgiveness plays in moving forward in life. Many times in life when we hold on to un-forgiveness, we become bitter, and it will also affect our relationships with those surrounding us. Forgiveness is compassion and one of the things required to grow intimately in Christ. There are consequences of holding onto un-forgiveness. In exploring the emotional, physical, and relational consequences of harboring un-forgiveness, emphasizing the transformative power of forgiveness and love, we shine light on Christ being the mirror example of what true Forgiveness is.

Takeaways

• Forgiveness is a choice
• Un-forgiveness leads to bitterness and hurt
• Love and forgiveness go hand in hand Forgiveness is essential for true freedom
• Un-forgiveness affects relationships and physical health

Chapters

• 00:00 The Consequences of Un-forgiveness
• 44:06 Consequences of Un-forgiveness

Verse to reflect on:

Matthew 6:14-15

"If you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly Father will forgive you. But if you refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins."

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In this episode of Purposely Crossed, Jae speaks on the revelation God gave of isolation, spiritual growth, and the purpose of coming out of isolation. It delves into the notion that isolation is not meant to be permanent, but is significantly important for the building of character traits of Christ. Jae use's her testimony of her weight loss journey and how God guided her to the knowledge of "dead weight" keeping you from the places you're actually destined for. While isolation is in fact necessary for preparation, there must be actual moves made in order to fulfill the defeat of Goliath, in whatever way he appears in our lives. In conclusion, this conversation emphasizes the work of God and the need to come out of isolation to fulfill that work.

Takeaways

• Isolation is not meant to be permanent
• Every person must receive opportunity of Christ
• The purpose of isolation is to build character traits of Christ

Some Key Verses to study:

• Matthew 5:16
• Mark 4
• John 8:12

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This conversation is part 2 of "Trusting God's plans". Balancing life, parenthood, marriage, and ministry, can be a struggle, but requires an active prayer life. Trauma and stress, often impacts the love, affection, and communication in marriage when you don't have the proper strategy of healing. The Holy Spirit is our greatest support in maneuvering through life's challenges. Grace is highlighted in rediscovering one's self in relationships, and works with loving others as Christ loves, and seeing other's as Christ's creation. In this walk of faith, it is important too remember that God uses every detail in life in his planned Will. Every single thing happens for a reason, guided by God's plan and purpose in life.

Takeaways

• Balancing life and ministry can be challenging, requiring prioritization and effective time management.
• Prayer plays a significant role in marriage, fostering a deeper understanding of each other's needs and desires.
• The impact of trauma and stress on individuals and relationships underscores the importance of communication and support.
• Struggles and support during a difficult time Emotional turmoil and anger towards God.
• Divine revelation often requires obedience and acceptance of God's plan.
• Spiritual vulnerability can be experienced in unexpected and challenging situations, leading to a deeper recognition of divine intervention and learning the voice of the Holy Spirit.

Chapters

• 00:00 Introducing Bae
• 01:04:02 Praying for Each Other
• 01:10:09 Love Languages and Affection
• 01:15:58 Understanding Love Languages
• 01:26:21 The Impact of Trauma and Stress
• 01:35:18 Struggles, support, and challenges.
• 01:53:55 Self-Discovery and Acceptance
• 02:05:00 Divine Revelation and Obedience
• 02:11:53 House Break-In and Spiritual Reflection
• 02:22:52 The Voice of the Holy Spirit
• 02:29:01 Purposeful Cross

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In this weeks conversation, Jae welcomes a very special guest, Bruce. Their conversation covers their first meeting, early interactions, the start of their relationship. They provide insight into the development of their relationship and the key moments that shaped their journey together. It then delves into their realization of conviction in their relationship, leading to an exploration of transparency, and bargaining with God. It explores the perspectives of both individuals on marriage and the role of faith in their journey. This conversation will highlight the impact of faith and patience during difficult times and the role of faith in overcoming challenges.

Takeaways

• The start of their relationship
• The power of prayer and specific requests Trusting God's plan
• Conviction and obedience
• Faith and Patience in Challenging Times

Chapters

• 00:00 First Meeting and Early Interactions
• 05:01 The Start of Their Relationship
• 13:03 The First Date and Initial Impressions
• 18:04 Prayer and Answered Prayers: Specific Requests and Unique Qualities
• 27:58 Transparency and Conviction: Fornication and Bargaining with God
• 33:26 God's Hand in It
• 41:59 Perspectives on Marriage

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