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Pleasure Uprising: Desire, Attachment, and the Sex You Actually Want

Pleasure Uprising: Desire, Attachment, and the Sex You Actually Want

著者： Laura Jurgens Ph.D.
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Formerly The Desire Gap Podcast


Most people who feel disconnected from their desire, their pleasure, or their partners have spent years assuming something is wrong with them. It isn't. The disconnection is real — but it traces back to what most of us were never taught: how to be in our bodies fully, how to connect to each other authentically, how to know and ask for what we need without guilt or shame. Culture shapes that — the broader culture we inherit, and the family we grew up in — and it can be unlearned. Pleasure, secure attachment, and authentic desire are your birthright.


You can learn what you were never taught — and unlearn what got in the way.


Dr. Laura Jurgens is a somatic sex and intimacy specialist, Master Certified Intimacy Coach, American Board of Sexology Certified Sex Educator, and former research professor whose work sits at the intersection of nervous system science, attachment theory, and genuine embodied pleasure. Every episode delivers the somatic, body-based tools that generic relationship advice and most therapists miss entirely — because desire, pleasure, and connection aren't fixed by talking more. They're fixed by giving your body and your nervous system reparative experiences and embodied practices that shift you out of your past.


This show covers: getting out of your head during sex · low libido and what actually helps · somatic and nervous system approaches to intimacy · desire discrepancy and mismatched libido · secure attachment and relationship repair · sexual shame and body disconnection · how to talk about sex without fighting · ADHD and desire · the orgasm gap and why it exists · reclaiming pleasure on your own terms.


Whether you've tried therapy, books, or just quietly wondering why intimacy feels harder than it should — this show will help you understand why those things don't move the needle — and what does.


New episodes weekly. Start wherever you are.


Free resource: Get Out of Your Head — A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around Intimacy at https://laurajurgens.com/guide

Wheel of Erotic Emotions: https;//laurajurgens.com/wheel

For deeper analysis and the research behind desire, arousal, and attachment -- plus a chance to ask me questions, subscribe to my Substack: https://laurajurgens.substack.com/

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  • What Two Feminist Relationship Coaches See in Heated Rivalry, with Maggie Reyes

    What Two Feminist Relationship Coaches See in Heated Rivalry, with Maggie Reyes
    2026/06/08

    It's Pride Month, and I am celebrating with my dear friend and fellow feminist relationship coach Maggie Reyes by doing something I've been wanting to do anyway: sit down and talk about Heated Rivalry — the show, the books, why we love them, and what they actually teach us about real relationships.

    Beware: There be spoilers ahead, matey.

    This is a fun one, and it goes deeper than fangirling. Maggie and I both coach on many of the dynamics this show depicts — vulnerability, shame, the cost of hiding your real desires, and what happens when someone finally has the courage to go first. We talk about how we can all learn from this show through that lens.

    In this episode:

    • Why the closet dynamic in Heated Rivalry is a perfect illustration of how shame works, and how to heal it
    • Turning toward vs. turning away: what Shane and Ilya get right (eventually) and what costs them years
    • What Scott and Kip's relationship models that most couples never figure out
    • Why vulnerability requires someone going first — and how to do it without it backfiring
    • The cottage episode as a masterclass in why time and play matter as much as hard conversations
    • What women's response to this show tells us about desire, representation, and who mainstream sexual culture has never been built for
    • The communication pitfall that we both want to warn you off

    Maggie Reyes is a master certified life coach, feminist marriage coach, and host of the Marriage Life Coach podcast. Find her at maggiereyes.com.

    Get my free guide: Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around Intimacy at https://laurajurgens.com/guide

    More links:
    Substack at https://laurajurgens.substack.com/

    Pleasure Path Diagnostic here: https://laurajurgens.com/diagnostic/

    About me, testimonials, blog, bookings: https://laurajurgens.com/

    Wheel of Erotic emotions, go to: https://laurajurgens.com/wheel

    Copyright notice: All content in this podcast is copyrighted and copying, scraping, data mining, or using the content to train AI is prohibited.

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  • From Avoiding Sex to Loving It: Real Client Data

    From Avoiding Sex to Loving It: Real Client Data
    2026/06/01

    If you've been wondering whether your sex life can actually be different, this is the evidence.

    This episode is like the before and after photos you've been needing that real people get real change.

    We're going into details about specific goals and what actually changes when people do real, structured work on desire, intimacy, and connection. Not inspiration. Not theory. Real people, real goals, real numbers — tracked from start to finish.

    In this episode:

    • What people who come to somatic intimacy coaching actually say they want — and how many have already tried therapy, books, and everything else
    • Why going from a 1 to an 8 in fulfillment on "fun, enjoyable sex" in six months is possible even when you've never been there before
    • How desire discrepancy works when both partners get support — and why it's never just one person's problem
    • What shifts for higher-desire partners who struggle with self-worth
    • Why coaching moves the needle when other approaches haven't — and what the Pleasure Path Method actually looks like step by step

    Get my free guide: Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around Intimacy at https://laurajurgens.com/guide

    Find out about the Pleasure Path Diagnostic here: https://laurajurgens.com/diagnostic/

    Find out more about my offerings and read the blog: https://laurajurgens.com/

    Copyright notice: All content in this podcast is copyrighted and copying, scraping, data mining, or using the content to train AI is prohibited.

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    37 分
  • The Last Place High Achievers Give Themselves Permission

    The Last Place High Achievers Give Themselves Permission
    2026/05/25

    You've solved harder problems than this. So why is this one still stuck?

    This episode is for the high achievers who have done real work on themselves — the therapy, the books, the hard conversations — and still can't get traction when it comes to desire, intimacy, and their closest relationships. It's not because you haven't tried hard enough. It's because you've been using the wrong tools for the wrong system.

    In this episode:

    • Why capable, self-sufficient people are often the last to get help with intimacy — and why that costs them the most
    • The cultural lie that you're supposed to just know how to do sex and relationships (and why it makes zero sense)
    • Top-down vs. body-up: why cognitive tools and talk therapy can't reach what's actually stuck
    • Why "trying harder" and "knowing more" can fool you into thinking they'll eventually work for everything
    • What somatic, body-based work actually reaches — and what changes when you find the right tool for the real problem

    Topics: high achievers, intimacy, somatic sex coaching, low libido, desire, nervous system, body shame, sex therapy, intimacy coach, relationship help

    Get my free guide: Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around Intimacy at https://laurajurgens.com/guide

    Find out about the Pleasure Path Diagnostic here: https://laurajurgens.com/diagnostic/

    Find out more about my offerings and read the blog: https://laurajurgens.com/

    Copyright notice: All content in this podcast is copyrighted and copying, scraping, data mining, or using the content to train AI is prohibited.

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    38 分
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