"Legal System Abuse & Dropping the Mask"

This episode covers the period from mid-May through July 2023, focusing on Gary's weaponization of the State Bar grievance process as retaliation for Amy's public disclosure of his actions. Throughout June and July, Gary oscillates between trying to "save" Amy and threatening her career, while simultaneously constructing an elaborate fictional narrative that Amy is on a drug
bender at her mother's house. The episode culminates on July 4th weekend, when Gary,
intoxicated, calls Amy claiming he "hit someone" while driving. Amy calls for a wellness check,
and police break down Gary's new glass front door to find him hiding inside—leading to an
explosive, profanity-laden recording where Gary's mask completely drops.

Suggested Resources for Narcissistic Abuse Awareness and Recovery

Guidance & Education from Therapists and Mental Health Professionals
● Dr. Ramani https://www.youtube.com/@DoctorRamani
● Surviving Narcissim https://www.youtube.com/@SurvivingNarcissism
● Prof. Sam Vaknin https://www.youtube.com/@samvaknin

Narcissistic Abuse Educators and Recovery Coaches
● Synful_ https://www.youtube.com/@ResilientAF
● Love and Abuse https://www.youtube.com/@LoveandAbuse
● Understanding Narcissim https://www.youtube.com/@Understandingnarcissism
● The Virtual Couch https://www.youtube.com/@TheVirtualCouchPodcast
● Claire Auden https://www.youtube.com/@claireauden

Content from “Self Aware Narcissists”
● Mental Healness https://www.youtube.com/@MentalHealness
● Raw Motivations https://www.youtube.com/@RawMotivations
● The Bat Wolf https://www.youtube.com/@The_Bat_Wolf

Other Helpful Content Creators
● Jefferson Fisher https://www.youtube.com/@jeffersonfisher
● Jimmy on Relationships https://www.youtube.com/@JimmyonRelationships
● Therapy Jeff https://www.youtube.com/@TherapyJeff
● Beyond Bitchy Podcast
● Lisa Bilyeu https://www.youtube.com/@LisaBilyeu
● Conflictish https://www.youtube.com/@conflict-ish
● Mel Robbins https://www.youtube.com/@melrobbins

Self-Help Resources
● The Gottman Institute https://www.youtube.com/@TheGottmanInstitute
● CPTSD Foundation https://cptsdfoundation.org/
● Lethality Assessment Questions for First Responders https://shamelesssurvivors.com/lethality-assessment-screen/

Amy’s Spotify Playlist “Narcissistic Abuse”
https://open.spotify.com/playlist/4HMgAmeH3u1NjgKNdQxKo3?pi=EyN_jRs6R7ChK

"Going Underground . . . Narcissistic Injury and Full-Scale War"
In this explosive episode, Amy and Misi dissect the catastrophic fallout from the Purple Hammer Incident, revealing how a narcissistic abuser weaponizes email to destroy lives. After Amy escapes Gary's control in early May 2023, she witnesses his mask slip completely as he launches a vicious smear campaign to everyone in her professional network. Through actual emails, recordings, and evidence, this episode exposes the calculated cruelty of narcissistic abuse: the projection, the DARVO tactics, and the relentless attempts to control the narrative. Despite losing clients and facing professional devastation, Amy demonstrates how she fought back - getting Gary's email shut down for harassment and refusing to be silenced.

Suggested Resources for Narcissistic Abuse Awareness and Recovery

Guidance & Education from Therapists and Mental Health Professionals
● Dr. Ramani https://www.youtube.com/@DoctorRamani
● Surviving Narcissim https://www.youtube.com/@SurvivingNarcissism
● Prof. Sam Vaknin https://www.youtube.com/@samvaknin

Narcissistic Abuse Educators and Recovery Coaches
● Synful_ https://www.youtube.com/@ResilientAF
● Love and Abuse https://www.youtube.com/@LoveandAbuse
● Understanding Narcissim https://www.youtube.com/@Understandingnarcissism
● The Virtual Couch https://www.youtube.com/@TheVirtualCouchPodcast
● Claire Auden https://www.youtube.com/@claireauden

Content from “Self Aware Narcissists”
● Mental Healness https://www.youtube.com/@MentalHealness
● Raw Motivations https://www.youtube.com/@RawMotivations
● The Bat Wolf https://www.youtube.com/@The_Bat_Wolf

Other Helpful Content Creators
● Jefferson Fisher https://www.youtube.com/@jeffersonfisher
● Jimmy on Relationships https://www.youtube.com/@JimmyonRelationships
● Therapy Jeff https://www.youtube.com/@TherapyJeff
● Beyond Bitchy Podcast
● Lisa Bilyeu https://www.youtube.com/@LisaBilyeu
● Conflictish https://www.youtube.com/@conflict-ish
● Mel Robbins https://www.youtube.com/@melrobbins

Self-Help Resources
● The Gottman Institute https://www.youtube.com/@TheGottmanInstitute
● CPTSD Foundation https://cptsdfoundation.org/
● Lethality Assessment Questions for First Responders https://shamelesssurvivors.com/lethality-assessment-screen/

Amy’s Spotify Playlist “Narcissistic Abuse”
https://open.spotify.com/playlist/4HMgAmeH3u1NjgKNdQxKo3?pi=EyN_jRs6R7ChK

"The Mind Games Behind the Mask"
In this revealing episode, Amy exposes the calculated manipulation tactics Gary employed while pretending to reconcile after the Purple Hammer Incident. Through Gary's own phone evidence, including his notes titled "Gaslighting and Narcissistic Wife" and "Handling Toxic Humans," we witness him literally studying how to psychologically manipulate Amy while filing for divorce behind her back. This episode demonstrates the exhausting reality of circular conversations, weaponized therapy language, and the discovery that everything Amy suspected was actually true—and documented in his own devices.

Suggested Resources for Narcissistic Abuse Awareness and Recovery

Guidance & Education from Therapists and Mental Health Professionals
● Dr. Ramani https://www.youtube.com/@DoctorRamani
● Surviving Narcissim https://www.youtube.com/@SurvivingNarcissism
● Prof. Sam Vaknin https://www.youtube.com/@samvaknin

Narcissistic Abuse Educators and Recovery Coaches
● Synful_ https://www.youtube.com/@ResilientAF
● Love and Abuse https://www.youtube.com/@LoveandAbuse
● Understanding Narcissim https://www.youtube.com/@Understandingnarcissism
● The Virtual Couch https://www.youtube.com/@TheVirtualCouchPodcast
● Claire Auden https://www.youtube.com/@claireauden

Content from “Self Aware Narcissists”
● Mental Healness https://www.youtube.com/@MentalHealness
● Raw Motivations https://www.youtube.com/@RawMotivations
● The Bat Wolf https://www.youtube.com/@The_Bat_Wolf

Other Helpful Content Creators
● Jefferson Fisher https://www.youtube.com/@jeffersonfisher
● Jimmy on Relationships https://www.youtube.com/@JimmyonRelationships
● Therapy Jeff https://www.youtube.com/@TherapyJeff
● Beyond Bitchy Podcast
● Lisa Bilyeu https://www.youtube.com/@LisaBilyeu
● Conflictish https://www.youtube.com/@conflict-ish
● Mel Robbins https://www.youtube.com/@melrobbins

Self-Help Resources
● The Gottman Institute https://www.youtube.com/@TheGottmanInstitute
● CPTSD Foundation https://cptsdfoundation.org/
● Lethality Assessment Questions for First Responders https://shamelesssurvivors.com/lethality-assessment-screen/

Amy’s Spotify Playlist “Narcissistic Abuse”
https://open.spotify.com/playlist/4HMgAmeH3u1NjgKNdQxKo3?pi=EyN_jRs6R7ChK

"Gary's Self-Fulfilled Prophecy"
In this explosive episode, Amy recounts the events of April 13-14, 2023 - what she calls "The Purple Hammer Incident." Starting with a marriage conference they were supposed to attend, the story unfolds through three days of text bombardment, escalating conflict, and ultimately Amy breaking into her own home with a purple hammer to retrieve her belongings. Through actual texts, audio recordings, and security footage, this episode exposes the exhausting reality of narcissistic abuse cycles, gaslighting in real-time, and the lengths abusers go to maintain control. The episode ends on a note of solidarity and healing, with Amy's support network at Transcend throwing her a "Fuck Gary" party complete with a dartboard.

Suggested Resources for Narcissistic Abuse Awareness and Recovery

Guidance & Education from Therapists and Mental Health Professionals
● Dr. Ramani https://www.youtube.com/@DoctorRamani
● Surviving Narcissim https://www.youtube.com/@SurvivingNarcissism
● Prof. Sam Vaknin https://www.youtube.com/@samvaknin

Narcissistic Abuse Educators and Recovery Coaches
● Synful_ https://www.youtube.com/@ResilientAF
● Love and Abuse https://www.youtube.com/@LoveandAbuse
● Understanding Narcissim https://www.youtube.com/@Understandingnarcissism
● The Virtual Couch https://www.youtube.com/@TheVirtualCouchPodcast
● Claire Auden https://www.youtube.com/@claireauden

Content from “Self Aware Narcissists”
● Mental Healness https://www.youtube.com/@MentalHealness
● Raw Motivations https://www.youtube.com/@RawMotivations
● The Bat Wolf https://www.youtube.com/@The_Bat_Wolf

Other Helpful Content Creators
● Jefferson Fisher https://www.youtube.com/@jeffersonfisher
● Jimmy on Relationships https://www.youtube.com/@JimmyonRelationships
● Therapy Jeff https://www.youtube.com/@TherapyJeff
● Beyond Bitchy Podcast
● Lisa Bilyeu https://www.youtube.com/@LisaBilyeu
● Conflictish https://www.youtube.com/@conflict-ish
● Mel Robbins https://www.youtube.com/@melrobbins

Self-Help Resources
● The Gottman Institute https://www.youtube.com/@TheGottmanInstitute
● CPTSD Foundation https://cptsdfoundation.org/
● Lethality Assessment Questions for First Responders https://shamelesssurvivors.com/lethality-assessment-screen/

Amy’s Spotify Playlist “Narcissistic Abuse”
https://open.spotify.com/playlist/4HMgAmeH3u1NjgKNdQxKo3?pi=EyN_jRs6R7ChK

This episode covers the dramatic January 6th garage door incident through Amy's rehab period in February, establishing the podcast's tone and showing the pivotal moment when Amy began to recognize abuse.
In this raw and unfiltered episode of Phoenix Bitch, Amy and Misi share the harrowing journey of surviving narcissistic abuse, addiction, and the chaotic process of healing. Through real evidence, candid storytelling, and moments of dark humor, they expose the patterns of manipulation, the struggle for autonomy, and the power of reclaiming your story. This episode is a testament to resilience, self-discovery, and the messy, powerful act of rising from the ashes.

Suggested Resources for Narcissistic Abuse Awareness and Recovery

Guidance & Education from Therapists and Mental Health Professionals
● Dr. Ramani https://www.youtube.com/@DoctorRamani
● Surviving Narcissim https://www.youtube.com/@SurvivingNarcissism
● Prof. Sam Vaknin https://www.youtube.com/@samvaknin

Narcissistic Abuse Educators and Recovery Coaches
● Synful_ https://www.youtube.com/@ResilientAF
● Love and Abuse https://www.youtube.com/@LoveandAbuse
● Understanding Narcissim https://www.youtube.com/@Understandingnarcissism
● The Virtual Couch https://www.youtube.com/@TheVirtualCouchPodcast
● Claire Auden https://www.youtube.com/@claireauden

Content from “Self Aware Narcissists”
● Mental Healness https://www.youtube.com/@MentalHealness
● Raw Motivations https://www.youtube.com/@RawMotivations
● The Bat Wolf https://www.youtube.com/@The_Bat_Wolf

Other Helpful Content Creators
● Jefferson Fisher https://www.youtube.com/@jeffersonfisher
● Jimmy on Relationships https://www.youtube.com/@JimmyonRelationships
● Therapy Jeff https://www.youtube.com/@TherapyJeff
● Beyond Bitchy Podcast
● Lisa Bilyeu https://www.youtube.com/@LisaBilyeu
● Conflictish https://www.youtube.com/@conflict-ish
● Mel Robbins https://www.youtube.com/@melrobbins

Self-Help Resources
● The Gottman Institute https://www.youtube.com/@TheGottmanInstitute
● CPTSD Foundation https://cptsdfoundation.org/
● Lethality Assessment Questions for First Responders https://shamelesssurvivors.com/lethality-assessment-screen/

Amy’s Spotify Playlist “Narcissistic Abuse”
https://open.spotify.com/playlist/4HMgAmeH3u1NjgKNdQxKo3?pi=EyN_jRs6R7ChK

"Emotional Blackmail & Children as Pawns"

This episode covers July through early September 2023, opening with a lighter segment showing Amy's support system—attending Taylor Swift's Eras Tour in Seattle with son Easton for his 18th birthday, road trips to Gulf Shores with Lynda for their Virgo birthdays, visiting best friend Betsie in North Carolina, and Lynda's unwavering support in Lake Charles. However, beneath these joyful moments, Gary continues his harassment via text, accusing Amy of being on drug benders and having affairs, and demanding that she pay bills after stealing all of her money. The episode's central conflict revolves around Gary's son’s birthday weekend in August. Gary sets Amy up for a relapse by suggesting they use together "one last time," then traps her in an upstairs bedroom when she tries to leave. Amy calls police, who handcuff Gary and hold him outside while she packs her belongings—including precious Navy memorabilia and photo albums—into Octavia. Post-incident, Gary demands Amy spend the entire birthday weekend in Houston, using his son as emotional leverage. Recorded phone calls reveal Gary's complete inflexibility, constant interruptions, gaslighting, and suicide threats when Amy proposes a compromise of just dinner and a movie. Amy finally stands firm, telling him "no deal" and that they're done. The episode ends with Amy's powerful writing from a C-PTSD Foundation workshop and her hilarious "pop back" email offering to conspire with Gary's ex-wife.

Phoenix, B*tch.
Suggested Resources for Narcissistic Abuse Awareness and Recovery

Guidance & Education from Therapists and Mental Health Professionals
● Dr. Ramani https://www.youtube.com/@DoctorRamani
● Surviving Narcissim https://www.youtube.com/@SurvivingNarcissism
● Prof. Sam Vaknin https://www.youtube.com/@samvaknin

Narcissistic Abuse Educators and Recovery Coaches
● Synful_ https://www.youtube.com/@ResilientAF
● Love and Abuse https://www.youtube.com/@LoveandAbuse
● Understanding Narcissim https://www.youtube.com/@Understandingnarcissism
● The Virtual Couch https://www.youtube.com/@TheVirtualCouchPodcast
● Claire Auden https://www.youtube.com/@claireauden

Content from “Self Aware Narcissists”
● Mental Healness https://www.youtube.com/@MentalHealness
● Raw Motivations https://www.youtube.com/@RawMotivations
● The Bat Wolf https://www.youtube.com/@The_Bat_Wolf

Other Helpful Content Creators
● Jefferson Fisher https://www.youtube.com/@jeffersonfisher
● Jimmy on Relationships https://www.youtube.com/@JimmyonRelationships
● Therapy Jeff https://www.youtube.com/@TherapyJeff
● Beyond Bitchy Podcast
● Lisa Bilyeu https://www.youtube.com/@LisaBilyeu
● Conflictish https://www.youtube.com/@conflict-ish
● Mel Robbins https://www.youtube.com/@melrobbins

Self-Help Resources
● The Gottman Institute https://www.youtube.com/@TheGottmanInstitute
● CPTSD Foundation https://cptsdfoundation.org/
● Lethality Assessment Questions for First Responders https://shamelesssurvivors.com/lethality-assessment-screen/

Amy’s Spotify Playlist “Narcissistic Abuse”
https://open.spotify.com/playlist/4HMgAmeH3u1NjgKNdQxKo3?pi=EyN_jRs6R7ChK