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  • Navigating the Workplace, School Shame, and Neurodivergent Burnout with Ellie Kay
    2026/11/11
    In this episode I’m joined by Ellie Kay who shares her own journey with ADHD and dyslexia. Ellie is a workplace mediator, coach for neurodivergent individuals and career changers, to talk about the exhausting, often invisible barriers we face when trying to navigate a world that wasn't built for our brains. We cover a lot, including why traditional management styles so often fail neurodivergent employees, how old school shames and strict rules leave lifelong marks, and why forcing yourself to fit into a broken corporate mould leads straight to burnout. If you're wondering how to get past the point of just surviving, figure out what workplace accommodations you actually need and how to get them, or know when it’s time to walk away from a job that is draining your spirit, this episode will help. EPISODE REVEALS When your brain processes tasks differently you face additional hurdles. You know they are there, but the chances are your manager has no idea they exist. Many managers are promoted without any additional support or training. So, they don´t have the softer communication skills needed to properly support neurodivergent staff. ADHD operates much more like an "interest-based operating system" than a true deficit, where engagement, passion, and environment dictate your ability to function and succeed. If you dread going to work every Sunday and a manager repeatedly refuses to offer basic understanding or flexibility, it’s a clear sign that you need to reassess your path. BEST MOMENTS "You only get one life, so make sure you're with the right person and make sure you're in the right job." "If your workplace isn't suiting you well in terms of your needs and requirement, your happiness, then it's time to reassess and think about moving on." "Quite a lot of neurodivergent people need a break in between tasks to get their head out of one task before starting another one." ABOUT THE GUEST https://www.elliekay.co.uk/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/elliekayuk/ Email: hello@elliekay.co.uk RESOURCES Famisafe Parental control App Link: https://wondersharesoftware.pxf.io/ParentingAUDHD What to Do When Your Child Shuts Down: Real-World Parenting Strategies for Neurodivergent Kids Who Shut Down, Refuse School, or Just Stop communicating with you: https://amzn.eu/d/0fBIfbhR CLIFF´S SERVICES Are you struggling with anxiety and want support from someone who has been there and come out the other side? - Message Cliff here and take advantage of his founding members offer: https://m.me/cliff.kilmister CONTACT ME Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cliff_kilmister08 X (Twitter): https://x.com/KilmisterCliff Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ParentingAutismandADHD HOST BIO Cliff Kilmister is a dedicated parent, advocate, and cat whisperer with firsthand experience raising a child with autism, ADHD, and Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD). Having navigated the challenges of school refusal, meltdowns, and sensory sensitivities, Cliff brings an empathetic, real-world perspective to the podcast. When he's not helping his child thrive, he’s dodging the evil stares of his three cats, who are plotting to take over the world (fortunately, they still haven’t figured out how to use the tin opener). Cliff offers practical advice, expert insights, and personal stories to help families facing similar struggles. Cliff is focused on connecting with professionals and networks to raise awareness about the growing need for the education system to adapt to the increasing neurodiverse population. Join the community on Patreon to share experiences, access exclusive content, and work together for change! This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/
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    42 分
  • From Overwhelm to Calm: ADHD Anxiety and Overwhelm Firefighting and Effective Long Term Help with Naomi Pegden
    2026/11/04
    Discover my website, Books, YouTube channel, and more: https://helpanxiety.org/podcast In this episode I'm joined by Naomi Pegden, a craniosacral therapist, clinical massage practitioner and silent counselling practitioner, to talk about anxiety, overwhelm and the nervous system for neurodiverse people. Naomi shares her own experience of a brain that goes blank under pressure, a mistake-filled week that sent her spiralling, and the simple things that help her and her clients come back to the present. We also try some of it out together. Naomi guides us through a breathing exercise with a longer out-breath and an eye exercise to stimulate the vagus nerve, so you can try them yourself wherever you're listening. If you feel like your brain has too many tabs open, or you're hard on yourself when things go wrong, this one is for you. EPISODE REVEALS When pressure hits, the brain can go blank and take a lot of coaxing to come back online. Our bodies stay in fight or flight because the tiger has been replaced by an email or a boss wanting a chat, and that never-ending stress feeds brain fog and memory problems. Evidence of a link between ADHD and hypermobility is emerging. Craniosacral therapy and silent counselling are very gentle ways to help the body let go of what it's holding on to, which helps lots of neurodiverse people. The five senses grounding exercise, box breathing and a longer out-breath all help to tell your brain that you're safe again, so you can break the cycle. Two mistakes in a day does not mean you're not coping. Everyone makes mistakes. Rephrase things in your mind, e.g. I made 2 mistakes, so what, nobody died or got injured, it is not a disaster. BEST MOMENTS "Acting normal, you're hiding what you are, so you're constantly wearing a mask, and that mask will slip, and it gets tiring, and that's that leads to burnout.” "The inner voice is horrendous. The best thing you can do is actually name it. Give it a stupid name." "Silent counselling just puts a little hole in the bottom of the bucket." "Just take a step back and breathe." ABOUT THE GUEST www.nptherapies.co.uk WhatsApp - 078 250 45420 RESOURCES Famisafe Parental control App Link: https://wondersharesoftware.pxf.io/ParentingAUDHD What to Do When Your Child Shuts Down: Real-World Parenting Strategies for Neurodivergent Kids Who Shut Down, Refuse School, or Just Stop communicating with you: https://amzn.eu/d/0fBIfbhR CLIFF´S SERVICES Are you struggling with anxiety and want support from someone who has been there and come out the other side? - Message Cliff here and take advantage of his founding members offer: https://m.me/cliff.kilmister CONTACT ME Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cliff_kilmister08 X (Twitter): https://x.com/KilmisterCliff Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ParentingAutismandADHD HOST BIO Cliff Kilmister is a dedicated parent, advocate, and cat whisperer with firsthand experience raising a child with autism, ADHD, and Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD). Having navigated the challenges of school refusal, meltdowns, and sensory sensitivities, Cliff brings an empathetic, real-world perspective to the podcast. When he's not helping his child thrive, he’s dodging the evil stares of his three cats, who are plotting to take over the world (fortunately, they still haven’t figured out how to use the tin opener). Cliff offers practical advice, expert insights, and personal stories to help families facing similar struggles. Cliff is focused on connecting with professionals and networks to raise awareness about the growing need for the education system to adapt to the increasing neurodiverse population. Join the community on Patreon to share experiences, access exclusive content, and work together for change! This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/
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    36 分
  • From Alarm to Action: The Four Rooms, Neurodivergence and Finding Your Momentum with Andy Baker
    2026/10/28
    In this episode I’m joined by returning guest Andy Baker and Eva to talk about entrepreneurship and finding a way of working and navigating the world that truly works for you. Andy shares his four-rooms model, that helps neurodivergent people to better understand how they, as an individual, respond to pressure, generate ideas, and taking action. Using Andy's model will help you to determine what mental state you are in at any particular moment so that you can adjust things to better navigate that task or situation. Enabling you to stop yourself from becoming stuck in overwhelm, able to take full advantage of your creative and productive periods and get into those states more often. EPISODE REVEALS Self-employment can provide autonomy and boost creativity, but it also involves boundaries and accountability. For many people with ADHD, worry or pressure pushes them to enter alarm mode. A state where everything feels urgent which leads to rushing and making mistakes. When they feel threatened many neurodiverse people withdraw. Entering the “cave room” in their mind, a state that can be difficult to emerge from. The "studio room" state is for ideas and planning; the "workshop room" state enables you to take action. Andy explains how to enter these productive "rooms" more often. Ask what your future self needs and try to respond with empathy rather than criticism. BEST MOMENTS "Everything's urgent. Everything's needs doing now - 1000 tabs open at the same time, multitasking all over the place, and generally struggling to be productive because you're too busy being busy." “It's not about beating you up. It's just about recognising where you are and which direction or what small step could I take to move me in the right direction” ABOUT THE GUEST https://www.andybaker.xyz/ https://www.able-training.co.uk/podcast/ https://www.able-training.co.uk/ Books – Targeting the positive - https://www.amazon.co.uk/Targeting-Positive-Behaviours-that-Challenge/dp/1839979003 The Momentum Room - https://www.amazon.co.uk/Momentum-Room-pressure-self-sabotage-high-performance/dp/1918283125 Previous episode with Andy Baker - https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/beyond-labels-person-centred-support-for-every-child/id1810681675?i=1000729414484 RESOURCES Famisafe Parental control App Link: https://wondersharesoftware.pxf.io/ParentingAUDHD What to Do When Your Child Shuts Down: Real-World Parenting Strategies for Neurodivergent Kids Who Shut Down, Refuse School, or Just Stop communicating with you: https://amzn.eu/d/0fBIfbhR CLIFF´S SERVICES Are you struggling with anxiety and want support from someone who has been there and come out the other side? - Message Cliff here and take advantage of his founding members offer: https://m.me/cliff.kilmister CONTACT ME Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cliff_kilmister08 X (Twitter): https://x.com/KilmisterCliff Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ParentingAutismandADHD HOST BIO Cliff Kilmister is a dedicated parent, advocate, and cat whisperer with firsthand experience raising a child with autism, ADHD, and Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD). Having navigated the challenges of school refusal, meltdowns, and sensory sensitivities, Cliff brings an empathetic, real-world perspective to the podcast. When he's not helping his child thrive, he’s dodging the evil stares of his three cats, who are plotting to take over the world (fortunately, they still haven’t figured out how to use the tin opener). Cliff offers practical advice, expert insights, and personal stories to help families facing similar struggles. Cliff is focused on connecting with professionals and networks to raise awareness about the growing need for the education system to adapt to the increasing neurodiverse population. Join the community on Patreon to share experiences, access exclusive content, and work together for change! This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/
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    42 分
  • Get Curious, Not Furious: A Coaching Approach to Neurodivergence for Grandparents with Jean Ramsay
    2026/10/21
    If you’re a grandparent or family member supporting a neurodivergent young person, it can be hard to know what’s behind their behaviour, or how best to help. Today, we sit down with Jean Ramsay of Coaching for Schools, to talk about what she learned from a career in teaching. We cover how to look beyond behaviour and “get curious instead of furious,” and why focusing on strengths and taking the role of coach makes such a difference. Jean explains how to offer support through structure, visual reminders and providing time to process, while creating space for connection, confidence and fun. EPISODE REVEALS Neurodivergent young people aren’t choosing to struggle. Often, their behaviour is communicating that something else is going on. Get curious before reacting to their behaviour Start with acceptance. Focus on strengths, listen without judgement, and work with your grandchild, child or student to remove barriers. Routines, visual reminders and time to process all help. The goal isn’t to make young people fit rigid expectations. It´s to provide them with the support they need to thrive as themselves. BEST MOMENTS "I think the fact that I found studying so difficult made me a really good teacher because I got the kids in the class who were struggling." "Don’t get furious, get curious. So, what’s underneath that behaviour?" “If your grandchild is acting out what is underneath that, it could be that somebody started bullying them at school.” "Please just accept your neurodivergent young person. They’re not choosing it." How to work with Jean Ramsey ADHD & Education Coach Book a free 30 min discovery call: https://coachingforschools.com/free-30-minute-consultation/ Jean offers a 13 week group coaching program for newly assessed ND families who are feeling overwhelmed, which is also available as a self-study course, or 1:2:1 coaching. Including training for grandparents and ADHD and EBSA training for schools Everything is available at www.coachingforschools.com Beginners’ Guide to ADHD - https://coachingforschools.com/understanding-adhd/ Parents’ Guide to EBSA - https://coachingforschools.com/parents-guide-to-ebsa/ You tube: https://www.youtube.com/@jeanramsey1250 https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeanramseycoach/ RESOURCES Famisafe Parental control App Link: https://wondersharesoftware.pxf.io/ParentingAUDHDWhat to Do When Your Child Shuts Down: Real-World Parenting Strategies for Neurodivergent Kids Who Shut Down, Refuse School, or Just Stop communicating with you: https://amzn.eu/d/0fBIfbhR CLIFF´S SERVICES Are you struggling with anxiety and want support from someone who has been there and come out the other side? - Message Cliff here and take advantage of his founding members offer: https://m.me/cliff.kilmister CONTACT ME Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ParentingAutismandADHD Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cliff_kilmister08 X (Twitter): https://x.com/KilmisterCliff HOST BIO Cliff Kilmister is a dedicated parent, advocate, and cat whisperer with firsthand experience raising a child with autism, ADHD, and Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD). Having navigated the challenges of school refusal, meltdowns, and sensory sensitivities, Cliff brings an empathetic, real-world perspective to the podcast. When he's not helping his child thrive, he’s dodging the evil stares of his three cats, who are plotting to take over the world (fortunately, they still haven’t figured out how to use the tin opener). Cliff offers practical advice, expert insights, and personal stories to help families facing similar struggles. Cliff is focused on connecting with professionals and networks to raise awareness about the growing need for the education system to adapt to the increasing neurodiverse population. Join the community on Patreon to share experiences, access exclusive content, and work together for change! This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/
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    39 分
  • WHY AM I STRUGGLING AT WORK? | The Hidden Reason Nobody Talks About with Jodie Steele
    2026/10/14
    If you regularly come home from work completely wiped out or spend the weekend worrying about a meeting on Monday, you are not alone, lots of neurodiverse people feel that way. Today, sit down with Jodie Steele, the founder of NeuroTalks, to discuss why that happens and what you, your employers and others can do to solve this issue. We cover why it isn’t usually the person who is struggling that needs fixing, burnout, masking, and psychological safety. As well as how a lack of clear communication leaves neurodivergent people feeling anxious and second guessing themselves. Jodie explains why how supportive managers can help people do well in the workplace by making often small, inexpensive changes – changes that benefit everyone. EPISODE REVEALS Workplace issues often stem from a lack of shared understanding, rather than bad intent. Managers may have had little training in neurodiversity, and employees may not know how to communicate their needs effectively. Clear communication eases anxiety e.g. explaining the purpose of a meeting gives people less room to worry about what might go wrong. Many neurodiverse people don´t disclose a disability or ask for adjustments. Often, they do not feel psychologically safe doing so. Small changes, often low cost, make a huge difference e.g. quiet spaces, regular breaks, flexibility around cameras in meetings and better communication. A company that supports neurodivergent employees automatically creates a workplace that is more supportive for everyone, improving productivity in the process. BEST MOMENTS "Some of the most intelligent people in the world have neurodivergence …There's a lot of superpowers that can be harnessed. So, I help create and guide employers to create high-performance work environments that don't burn staff out." "When you improve the weakest part of the system, you improve the overall system." "We are not talking about organisations spending a lot of money." EPISODE RESOURCES www.linkedin.com/in/jodie-steele/ www.neurotalks.co.uk www.alchemysoulstravel.com www.instagram.com/alchemy_souls_travel/ Free resources for managers and HR: https://neurotalks.co.uk/workbooks-resources/ Previous Jodie Steele episode - https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/from-breakdown-to-breakthrough-overcoming-adhd-burnout/id1810681675?i=1000737332519 RESOURCES Famisafe Parental control App Link: https://wondersharesoftware.pxf.io/ParentingAUDHD What to Do When Your Child Shuts Down: Real-World Parenting Strategies for Neurodivergent Kids Who Shut Down, Refuse School, or Just Stop communicating with you: https://amzn.eu/d/0fBIfbhR CLIFF´S SERVICES Are you struggling with anxiety and want support from someone who has been there and come out the other side? - Message Cliff here and take advantage of his founding members offer: https://m.me/cliff.kilmister CONTACT ME Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cliff_kilmister08 X (Twitter): https://x.com/KilmisterCliff https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister X - @KilmisterCliff https://www.youtube.com/@ParentingAutismandADHD HOST BIO Cliff Kilmister is a dedicated parent, advocate, and cat whisperer with firsthand experience raising a child with autism, ADHD, and Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD). Having navigated the challenges of school refusal, meltdowns, and sensory sensitivities, Cliff brings an empathetic, real-world perspective to the podcast. When he's not helping his child thrive, he’s dodging the evil stares of his three cats, who are plotting to take over the world (fortunately, they still haven’t figured out how to use the tin opener). Cliff offers practical advice, expert insights, and personal stories to help families facing similar struggles. Cliff is focused on connecting with professionals and networks to raise awareness about the growing need for the education system to adapt to the increasing neurodiverse population. Join the community on Patreon to share experiences, access exclusive content, and work together for change! This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/
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    48 分
  • Channel 4's The Great ADHD Myth: The Inside Story On What They Didn't Show with Sarah Warley
    2026/10/07
    Sarah Warley joins us to discuss her experience with appearing on Channel 4’s controversial documentary The Great ADHD Myth, including the last-minute title change, why so much of her contribution never made it into the programme, what was cut and the debate it sparked across the ADHD community. We talk about why diagnosis should be the start of the journey, not the end; possible links between the Moro reflex and sensory overwhelm; and how nutrition and other biological factors may influence symptoms. Sarah also shares practical ideas from her CARE framework, discusses medication alongside other approaches, and reflects on why neurodivergent strengths may matter even more in the age of AI. Sarah, founder of The Key Clinic, has spent more than a decade helping families explore evidence-based support. She knows that every person is different, and that understanding what’s behind that particular person´s difficulties is an effective way to move forward Whether you're a parent, neurodivergent yourself, or simply trying to understand ADHD better, this conversation is packed with practical ideas and hope. EPISODE REVEALS The debate around ADHD has started to become so polarised that the people actually living with neurodivergence are at risk of being lost in the middle. A diagnosis should be a starting point, not a verdict. There are many potential underlying contributors that are worth investigating, including sensory sensitivities, retained reflexes, gut health related issues and nutrient imbalances. Neurodivergent brains have strengths e.g. creativity, the ability to think laterally and big-picture thinking. We need to get better at recognising and leveraging those strengths. Just because someone has a diagnosis doesn’t mean their difficulties are set in stone. The goal isn’t to change who they are, but to remove the barriers getting in their way. BEST MOMENTS “I thought, well, this is good. You know, we can talk about all those different things. That's not what happened. I mean, oh my goodness! At the 11th hour, they changed the name of it to the Great ADHD Myth.” "We're not trying to cure someone, we're not trying to fix someone, but we're trying to remove the bits that are getting in the way of them being able to be their best selves.” "Don't try and be perfectionist. Start with where you're at." ABOUT THE GUEST https://bebright.ai https://www.thekeyclinic.co.uk/ RESOURCES Famisafe Parental control App Link: https://wondersharesoftware.pxf.io/ParentingAUDHD What to Do When Your Child Shuts Down: Real-World Parenting Strategies for Neurodivergent Kids Who Shut Down, Refuse School, or Just Stop communicating with you: https://amzn.eu/d/0fBIfbhR CLIFF´S SERVICES Are you struggling with anxiety and want support from someone who has been there and come out the other side? - Message Cliff here and take advantage of his founding members offer: https://m.me/cliff.kilmister CONTACT ME Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08 https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister X - @KilmisterCliff https://www.youtube.com/@ParentingAutismandADHD HOST BIO Cliff Kilmister is a dedicated parent, advocate, and cat whisperer with firsthand experience raising a child with autism, ADHD, and Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD). Having navigated the challenges of school refusal, meltdowns, and sensory sensitivities, Cliff brings an empathetic, real-world perspective to the podcast. When he's not helping his child thrive, he’s dodging the evil stares of his three cats, who are plotting to take over the world (fortunately, they still haven’t figured out how to use the tin opener). Cliff offers practical advice, expert insights, and personal stories to help families facing similar struggles. Cliff is focused on connecting with professionals and networks to raise awareness about the growing need for the education system to adapt to the increasing neurodiverse population. Join the community on Patreon to share experiences, access exclusive content, and work together for change! This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/
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    1 時間
  • Is ADHD even a Disorder? — With Hypnotherapist Chris Marsh
    2026/09/30
    In this fascinating episode, I’m joined by Chris Marsh, an ADHD specialist, root cause therapist and fellow neurodivergent thinker, for a deep conversation about ADHD, trauma, anxiety, productivity, healing and what it really means to be “normal.” We explore why so many neurodiverse people spend their lives feeling like they’re getting things wrong - particularly at school and work - and how years of negative feedback can create anxiety, people-pleasing, imposter syndrome and low self-worth. We discuss procrastination, hyperfocus, creativity, meditation, hypnosis and the subconscious mind, including how Chris uses root-cause therapy to help people understand and change deeply embedded patterns. Before venturing into the spiritual side of things with past-life regression, shamanic healing, meditation experiences and cacao ceremonies. This is a conversation about finding ways to work with yourself rather than constantly fighting against yourself. EPISODE REVEALS Procrastination isn’t laziness. It’s a natural signal that your fast-switching brain needs a timeout to clear gridlock and unlock creative flow. Root causes sit in the subconscious. Talking therapy rationalises experiences - real shifts happen at a subconscious level where protective fear patterns can finally be released. World-changing innovation comes from diverse thinking. Breakthroughs require someone to look at established wisdom, refuse to accept it, and obsessively hyperfocus on a new idea until they determine whether it works. Meditation gives your brain the chance to reset. Hypnosis goes even deeper and Reiki can help your body as well as your brain to deeply reset. A neurodiverse brain isn't built for flatline productivity. Forcing a 9-to-5 output ignores how an ADHD mind works. Engaging the body with activities like running or gym work distracts the conscious mind, letting the subconscious untangle complex problems. BEST MOMENTS “It's only considered disordered because it doesn't fit in with the societal expectations” “Find your way of doing stuff, your normal” "People are either in suffering or healing...until you make that choice it won´t work." “I fixed more problems running down the canal than I did sat at my desk” ABOUT THE GUEST linkedin.com/in/chris-marsh-7678b64 www.developlink.com email: chris.marsh@developlink.com www.facebook.com/DevelopLinkwww.instagram.com/developlink_uk/ Helen Valentino episode - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/thriving-not-surviving-rsd-burnout-and-gentle-adhd/id1810681675?i=1000751281425&l=vi RESOURCES Famisafe Parental control App Link: https://wondersharesoftware.pxf.io/ParentingAUDHD What to Do When Your Child Shuts Down: Real-World Parenting Strategies for Neurodivergent Kids Who Shut Down, Refuse School, or Just Stop communicating with you: https://amzn.eu/d/0fBIfbhR CLIFF´S SERVICES Are you struggling with anxiety and want support from someone who has been there and come out the other side? - Message Cliff at: https://m.me/cliff.kilmister CONTACT ME Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08 https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister X - @KilmisterCliff https://www.youtube.com/@ParentingAutismandADHD HOST BIO Cliff Kilmister is a dedicated parent, advocate, and cat whisperer with firsthand experience raising a child with autism, ADHD, and Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD). Having navigated the challenges of school refusal, meltdowns, and sensory sensitivities, Cliff brings an empathetic, real-world perspective to the podcast. Cliff offers practical advice, expert insights, and personal stories to help families facing similar struggles. Cliff is focused on connecting with professionals and networks to raise awareness about the growing need for the education system to adapt to the increasing neurodiverse population. Join the community on Patreon to share experiences, access exclusive content, and work together for change! This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/
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    1 時間
  • The Communication Mistake That Leaves Autistic Children and Adults Feeling Misread and Unseen with Sam Loprete
    2026/09/23
    In this episode I sit down with autism coach Sam Loprete to talk about growing up undiagnosed, feeling “odd but not sure why,” and only later discovering you have ADHD. We swap stories about childhood moments that were seen as shyness or bad behaviour, but were really signs of overwhelm, unclear rules, and needs no one thought of. Sam explains how simple curiosity from others in your life at the right time can change everything, and why being truly listened to is so powerful for autistic adults. We also look at masking as a choice rather than a rule and share practical ways to catch harsh self-talk and replace it with kinder, more accurate thoughts, for yourself or for your child. EPISODE REVEALS You’re not broken; there are reasons for your behaviour. Overwhelm, unclear rules, or your social battery running low often explains shutdown or odd behaviour. Having someone who is calm, curious, and non-judgmental to listen to you help you untangle your thoughts and identify what really matters for you makes a huge difference. When your brain is being mean and attacking you, gently challenge it instead of letting it run the show. Think about when masking genuinely helps you and when it costs too much energy. Masking is exhausting so deciding whether to continue to use it and in what circumstances helps. Do your best to meet others halfway to help close the communication gap. But be honest about how much bandwidth you have and remember that it won’t always work perfectly (and that’s okay). BEST MOMENTS “I spent a lot of time needlessly hating myself or not understanding what was happening.” “Thank your brain - it may not feel like it, but your brain is trying to keep you safe.” “You can't do it when the meltdown or the shutdown is in place. You've got to strike while the iron's cold." ABOUT THE GUEST Sam Loprete helps autistic adults and chronic overthinkers sort through too many thoughts, find the issue that actually matters, and choose a next move that makes sense to them. You can bring him any decision, conflict, problem, or mental pile without organizing it first; Sam listens closely, asks direct questions, reflects patterns, and helps you separate facts from fears, assumptions, values, and expectations. He doesn’t diagnose or tell you how to live. Sam works with autistic you in a flexible, collaborative way, adjusting to fit how your mind works. samloprete10792@gmail.com https://calendly.com/samloprete10792/free-1-hour-discovery-call RESOURCES Famisafe Parental control App Link: https://wondersharesoftware.pxf.io/ParentingAUDHD What to Do When Your Child Shuts Down: Real-World Parenting Strategies for Neurodivergent Kids Who Shut Down, Refuse School, or Just Stop communicating with you: https://amzn.eu/d/0fBIfbhR CLIFF´S SERVICES Are you struggling with anxiety and want support from someone who has been there and come out the other side? - Message Cliff here and take advantage of his founding members offer: https://m.me/cliff.kilmister CONTACT ME Instagram: @cliff_kilmister08 ⁠https://www.facebook.com/cliff.kilmister X - @KilmisterCliff https://www.youtube.com/@ParentingAutismandADHD HOST BIO Cliff Kilmister is a dedicated parent, advocate, and cat whisperer with firsthand experience raising a child with autism, ADHD, and Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD). Having navigated the challenges of school refusal, meltdowns, and sensory sensitivities, Cliff brings an empathetic, real-world perspective to the podcast. Cliff offers practical advice, expert insights, and personal stories to help families facing similar struggles. Cliff is focused on connecting with professionals and networks to raise awareness about the growing need for the education system to adapt to the increasing neurodiverse population. Join the community on Patreon to share experiences, access exclusive content, and work together for change! This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/
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    42 分