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  • EP291: Staying With Yourself When You Want to Run

    EP291: Staying With Yourself When You Want to Run
    2025/06/10

    In this episode, we explore how emotional avoidance and self-abandonment often disguise themselves as being “helpful,” “productive,” or “strong.” Whether it's saying yes too quickly, fixing others’ emotions, or numbing out with distractions, these patterns are not bad habits - they’re survival strategies we picked up when it wasn’t safe to feel or express ourselves. We look at where these behaviors come from, why they served a purpose, and what they’re costing us now.

    We discuss gentle, practical ways to begin recognizing and shifting these patterns. You’ll walk away with a deeper understanding of why it’s hard to stay with yourself emotionally and how beginning to do so—even for a few seconds at a time—is a powerful act of healing.

    We don’t always notice

    when we’re

    abandoning ourselves –

    it can look like overdoing,

    over giving, or overcommitting.

    Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here!

    If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!

    Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:

    https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words

    Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out:

    https://findyourvoicecourse.com/

    Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!

    https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour

    Resources:

    Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other. https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143

    Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don’t miss a thing!
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    25 分
  • EP290: Why We Struggle to Feel Safe in Our Own Minds and Bodies

    EP290: Why We Struggle to Feel Safe in Our Own Minds and Bodies
    2025/06/03
    Today, we kick off the month’s theme of Reclaiming Inner Safety by unpacking why so many of us live in a constant state of disconnection. From racing thoughts and emotional numbing to people-pleasing and overfunctioning, we explore how early life experiences—like trauma, chronic stress, or invalidation—teach us that it’s not safe to feel, need, or be fully present. These patterns of self-protection may have once helped us survive, but now they’re keeping us from living a grounded, authentic life. You’ll learn how disconnection often hides behind busyness, anxiety, or over-responsibility, and how the journey back to yourself starts with small, intentional moments of presence. We also talk about how this month, we will be talking about practices like EMDR and mindfulness can support this healing process by helping us gently return to our bodies, emotions, and inner truth—without shame or overwhelm. Three Takeaways 1. Disconnection is a survival response—not a personal failure. Many of us learned to tune out from our emotions and bodies because it didn’t feel safe to stay connected. 2. Busyness, people-pleasing, and overthinking are often symptoms of deeper emotional avoidance. These patterns are how we manage discomfort—but they keep us from our truth. 3. The path back to yourself starts with presence. A single breath, a named feeling, or a brief moment of stillness can begin to rebuild trust with your inner world. When stillness feels unsafe, we don’t slow down – we stay busy, reactive, or numb. Not because we want to – but because it feels safer than what we’d have to feel. Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap! Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice: https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/ Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey! https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other. https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143 Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don’t miss a thing!
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    29 分
  • EP289 How Emotional Safety Makes Space for the Real You

    EP289 How Emotional Safety Makes Space for the Real You
    2025/05/27
    If you've ever found yourself holding back in conversation, choosing your words carefully, scanning the other person's face, or thinking three steps ahead just to avoid conflict, you’re not alone. Emotional honesty isn’t something we magically access. It’s something that grows in the presence of safety. In this episode, we're exploring how emotional safety impacts your ability to be authentic in real time—and why you can’t build connection in relationships where conversations feel like landmines. We’ll talk about the difference between environments where your truth is welcomed, and the ones where it’s quietly shut down. You’ll learn what to look for when testing emotional safety, how to practice small moments of truth-telling without overwhelm, and why the healthiest people in your life don’t just put up with your emotions—they make space for them. This episode is for anyone who’s tired of performing and ready to start showing up more fully and honestly. Three Takeaways 1. You can’t be emotionally honest in relationships where you’re always bracing for impact. 2. Emotional safety isn’t about being coddled - it’s about knowing your truth won’t cost you connection. 3. Practicing honesty in safe relationships rewires your nervous system and helps you reclaim your voice. That’s what safe belonging does. When honesty feels like a risk, what you’re in isn’t connection— it’s survival mode. Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap! Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice: https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/ Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey! https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other. https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143 Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don’t miss a thing!
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    19 分
  • EP288: Feeling Safe Changes the Choices You Make

    EP288: Feeling Safe Changes the Choices You Make
    2025/05/13
    We’re often told that courage is about inner strength…that we have to dig deep and face the fear alone. But that’s not how it actually works. Courage is a relational experience. We’re more likely to take brave steps when we feel emotionally safe, supported, and connected. In this episode, we’re exploring how safe belonging, not just fitting in, but being truly accepted becomes the foundation for real change. We’ll dig into how the nervous system responds to connection, why we’re more likely to take risks when we feel emotionally secure, and what happens when that belonging is missing or conditional. You’ll also hear how to tell the difference between false belonging (where you shrink to fit in) and true belonging (where you expand to be yourself). If you’ve ever wondered why change feels impossible in certain relationships - or why you suddenly feel more capable in others - this episode is for you. Three Takeaways 1. The body needs to feel safe before the brain can take a risk. Belonging calms fear and unlocks courage. 2. You can’t be brave in environments where you’re trying to survive. Safety isn’t optional, it’s foundational. 3. True belonging allows you to make choices that reflect who you are, not just who others expect you to be. That’s what safe belonging does. It doesn’t just hold you-it helps you come back to yourself and move forward as the version of you who finally feels free to grow. Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap! Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice: https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/ Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey! https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other. https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143 Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don’t miss a thing!
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    18 分
  • EP287 Why Courage Doesn’t Work Without Connection

    EP287 Why Courage Doesn’t Work Without Connection
    2025/05/06

    So many of us believe we should be able to be brave on our own. That courage is something we’re supposed to summon from within—without asking for help, without needing anyone. But what if that idea is quietly keeping us stuck? In this episode, we look at what really fuels courage, and how our early experiences with connection—or the lack of it—shape whether we can move forward when life gets hard.

    We’ll explore how some of the ways you “get in your own way” might actually be protective patterns rooted in past disconnection. And we’ll talk about why courage is so much easier to access when we feel truly supported, seen, and safe. You don’t have to hustle harder to find your courage. You might just need the right kind of connection.

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    🔑 Three Takeaways:

    1. Courage requires co-regulation. You’re wired to feel safer when you're connected to others—and this helps you face fear.

    2. Early relational wounds create protective behaviors. What looks like self-sabotage might actually be an old survival strategy.

    3. Belonging fuels belief. When we feel truly supported and seen, we’re more likely to believe in ourselves and take the next brave step.

    Feeling truly connected

    doesn’t just comfort us,

    it literally rewires us to be braver.

    Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here!

    If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!

    Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:

    https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words

    Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out:

    https://findyourvoicecourse.com/

    Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!

    https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour

    Resources:

    Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other. https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143

    Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don’t miss a thing!
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    22 分
  • EP286 This Is a Boundary Too: The Small Daily Choices That Set the Tone for Your Life

    EP286 This Is a Boundary Too: The Small Daily Choices That Set the Tone for Your Life
    2025/04/29

    In this episode, we’re exploring the invisible ways boundary issues show up in our everyday routines - especially in how we manage time, energy, and expectations. Most of us think of boundaries as things we set with other people, but what about the quiet, internal boundaries we often ignore? Like the ones that involve being realistic about what we can actually get done, or giving ourselves time to rest, think, and reset?

    You’ll hear a fresh take on how things like over-planning, skipping buffer time, and pushing through exhaustion aren’t just bad habits - they’re symptoms of boundary blind spots. We’ll dig into what’s really going on when you feel behind, overwhelmed, or frustrated with yourself—and how small mindset shifts around time and planning can make a big difference in how you feel and function.

    Three Takeaways

    1. Boundaries aren’t just for relationships, they also show up in how you treat your time, your schedule, and your capacity.

    2. There’s often a gap between what we expect of ourselves and what’s actually humanly possible - and ignoring that gap creates daily stress.

    1. Confidence and calm don’t come from doing more, they come from creating space for what matters most.

    Overloading yourself

    isn’t strength –

    it’s

    self-abandonment.

    Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here!

    If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!

    Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:

    https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words

    Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out:

    https://findyourvoicecourse.com/

    Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!

    https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour

    Resources:

    Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other. https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143

    Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don’t miss a thing!
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    18 分
  • EP285: Is It a Confidence Issue? Sue Reid Shares What to Look For

    EP285: Is It a Confidence Issue? Sue Reid Shares What to Look For
    2025/04/15
    In this episode, I sit down with confidence coach Sue Reid for an honest and empowering conversation about what it really means to have self-confidence. We talk about the moments in life that can shake our belief in ourselves, how old patterns keep us playing small, and why building confidence is often less about doing more—and more about how we see and value ourselves. Sue shares thoughtful insight on how to recognize if you might be struggling with confidence, and what it actually takes to begin shifting that. From emotional resilience to the power of community, we explore what it means to grow confidence from the inside out—and why even small steps can change everything. Three Takeaways: Confidence isn’t just about what you can do, it’s about how you see yourself. The way we treat ourselves quietly shapes everything, especially our ability to grow. Who you spend time with matters more than you think when it comes to personal change. Self-confidence isn’t about what you can do – it’s about how you see yourself and what you believe you’re worth. Confidence Matters by Sue Reid. https://suereid.substack.com/ Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap! Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice: https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/ Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey! https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other. https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143 Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don’t miss a thing!
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    36 分
  • EP284 Finding Your Center When the World Feels Like It’s Spinning

    EP284 Finding Your Center When the World Feels Like It’s Spinning
    2025/04/08

    When life feels overwhelming, whether due to personal stress or world events, it can be incredibly hard to stay grounded and connected to yourself. In this episode, we’re normalizing just how real that struggle is. We explore what’s actually happening in the brain and body during chaotic times and why staying centered isn't about perfection - it’s about small, compassionate returns to yourself.

    We’ll also look at how healthy boundaries, detachment, values, and even grief play a role in helping you feel more rooted in your own life. If you’ve been feeling off-track or disconnected, this episode offers clarity, validation, and a few small, gentle ways to begin again.

    Three Takeaways:

    • Why your nervous system may be driving the chaos more than you realize
    • The real reason peace feels uncomfortable after living in survival mode
    • How to reclaim your sense of self—five seconds at a time

    You’re not failing –

    you’re in the middle

    of something hard.

    And your nervous system

    is doing its best

    to protect you

    Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here!

    If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!

    Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:

    https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words

    Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out:

    https://findyourvoicecourse.com/

    Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!

    https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour

    Resources:

    Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other. https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143

    Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don’t miss a thing!
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    31 分