It's our very 9th episode, can you believe it? Thanks for sticking with us! Since we talked about anxiety in our last episode, which is a high-energy state, today we're talking about depression, which at it's core is a natural low-energy reaction state that shows up as a response to feeling overwhelmed, overtaxed, and not-enough for too long. But we can get stuck in what was intended to be a temporary state when the "hop-ons" pile on. We'll talk about when (and why) depression is helpful and how to know when it becomes unhelpful, including three key things to watch for: (1) are they threatening our safety (i.e. harm to self, lethal or non-lethal), (2) is it causing us distress? and (3) is it getting in the way of our ability function in important areas of our life? In other words, is being stuck in a depressive state getting in the way of living a meaningful life?

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• No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model - Dr Richard Schwartz
• The Happiness Trap: How to Stop Struggling and Start Living - Dr Russ Harris

• "We’ve Got Depression All Wrong. It’s Trying to Save Us: New theories recognize depression as part of a biological survival strategy." (PsychologyToday)
• Recognizing Depression: 6 Nonverbal Signs

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Hello, friends of the show! Today we are talking about one of Gloria's favorite subjects: AnXiEtY!!! Even that formatting makes us feel uncomfortable. In this episode Jr Top Knot makes a special guest appearance to talk about his own experience with anxiety and how it shows up in his body to let him know it doesn't like things like roller coasters. In fact, he helps us transition into our topic brilliantly because that is what anxiety is, at it's core: a big alarm system run amok. If you've seen Inside Out: 2, you know what we're talking about here! And if you haven't, go watch it immediately (right after listening to our podcast of course).

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• Taming Your Amygdala: Brain-Based Strategies to Quiet the Anxious Mind - Catherine Pittman, PhD
• Good Inside: A Guide To Becoming the Parent You Want to Be - Dr. Becky Kenney, PhD (she has great content in here about kids and anxiety!)

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Hey sports fans, welcome back to the second episode in our 2-part mini-series on relationships and couples. This week we focus on the therapy side of things - in other words, what it's like to facilitate couples therapy (cue ominous music)! Speaking from the LPC track, therapists don't get a lot of couples counseling training in graduate school, so starting to learn and gain experience in couples work can feel very intimidating. Here are some things we've experienced as therapists working with couples, our struggles and our strategies.

We talk about common things couples come to counseling for and dig down to the root of it all. Couples want to communicate, but the truth is that we almost always know how to communicate - what we get to do in therapy is figure out how to identiy and heal what gets in the way of being able to truly listen and hear our partners (and even express our own wants and needs clearly).

We do away with the "I just want my partner to know what I want/need without me having to tell them" nonsense (even though we get why that's appealing) and we talk about how, as therapists, we can get hooked by our Yeah-Butter clients, losing sight of just what makes therapy sessions so uniquely valuable (spoiler alert: it's YOU, hi! You're the treatment, it's you).

As always, thanks to our producer, Mr. Fun Buns, who does all the techy things and keep this train on the tracks. Make sure to like, share, follow, subscribe, and share with your friends.

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Very important book recommendations:

• Secure Relating: Holding Your Own in an Insure World - Ann Kelley PhD and Sue Marriott LCSW CGP
• Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships - David Schnarch, PhD

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