You’ve been praying for love… but choosing from your wounds. And today we’re talking about the exact reason God will NOT bless the relationship that was built on your trauma identity — not your God-given identity.

In this episode, you’re going to learn:

✨ Why God blocks certain relationships Even when you prayed for them. Even when you loved him. Even when you thought he was “the one.”

✨ How trauma identity chooses partners that contradict your prayers Wounds crave familiarity, not safety — and God is trying to pull you into truth, not trauma.

✨ How to recognize when God is protecting you Confusion, inconsistency, anxiety, emotional crumbs — they’re not from Him.

✨ What God WILL bless Relationships rooted in identity, peace, healing, and alignment with His Word.

✨ 3 Key Scriptures in this episode: • Psalm 127:1 – Unless the Lord builds it… it won’t stand • 1 Peter 2:9 – You are chosen, royal, His special possession • Romans 12:2 – Be transformed by renewing your mind

✨ How the Holy Spirit heals what self-help can’t If you’ve accepted Jesus as your Savior, you do not heal alone. You heal with the power of God inside you.

✨ 4 practical steps to shift from trauma identity to God identity So you can finally choose love from worthiness — not wounds.

If you’re ready to break the patterns that keep picking for you, that’s exactly what I walk women through inside Rewritten and The Healing Room. Links are in the show notes.

You are loved. You are chosen. You were never meant to settle for breadcrumbs.

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You pray for godly love… but your patterns still reflect the wounds you haven’t fully healed.

This episode breaks down why your trauma identity causes you to choose love that contradicts your prayers — and how to finally shift into your God-given identity so you can receive the love God has for you.

We cover: • Why trauma identity chooses familiarity, not godliness • How your nervous system keeps you stuck in old patterns • What God says about your identity as His daughter • Why prayer alone can’t override unhealed wounds • How to partner with Jesus in healing your love life

Plus: 4 practical steps to start aligning your identity with God’s truth today.

If you're tired of praying for godly love while living from a wounded identity, The Healing Room and Rewritten will change everything.

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You say you want a healthy, godly love… but part of you still expects to be abandoned. That’s your trauma identity—the version of you that learned love through pain. Your God-given identity already knows you’re chosen, covered, and complete.

In this episode, I’m walking you through how to recognize the difference and start shifting today:

✨ What the trauma identity sounds like (fear, control, over-giving) ✨ What your identity in Christ actually says about you ✨ 4 practical steps to start walking in your true identity: 1️⃣ Ask ChatGPT to pull 10 Bible verses on your identity in Christ → read them in your Bible 2️⃣ Memorize 2–3 and speak them out loud daily 3️⃣ Invite Jesus in: “Lord, help me see myself the way You see me” 4️⃣ Audit your love-life behaviors → where are you settling, performing, or negotiating your worth? Then pray, breathe, and let Him meet you in the moment.

When you stop living from the trauma identity and start living from your God-given identity, everything in your love life changes—because you finally stop fighting to be chosen and start living like you already are.

Scriptures Referenced: John 10:10 | 2 Corinthians 5:17 | 1 Peter 2:9 | Romans 12:2 | 1 John 4:19

NEXT STEP: Inside The Healing Room and Rewritten, I help women trade the trauma identity for their God-given one—so they can experience love that’s safe, secure, and Spirit-led.

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You keep trying to prove you’re worthy — by doing more, loving harder, staying longer, and showing up for people who don’t meet you halfway. You think if you just get it right this time, they’ll finally stay. But love was never meant to be earned.

This episode is for the woman who’s tired of chasing love, tired of performing for connection, and tired of believing she has to earn what God already called hers.

In this conversation, we’ll talk about: ✨ Why you confuse effort with worthiness ✨ How self-reliance and control sneak into your love life ✨ What it really means to receive love instead of earn it ✨ How God’s love redefines your value and your standards ✨ Why letting Him love you first changes everything

Scriptures: Ephesians 2:8-9 • Romans 5:8 • 1 John 4:19

You don’t have to beg for love, chase it, or prove you’re enough for it. You already are — because He already said so.

Inside The Healing Room and Rewritten, I help women heal their love life and rebuild their self-worth through Christ — not through performance or perfection.

You’ve done the therapy, the journaling, the affirmations — but you still feel like you’re carrying everything alone. You say you trust God… but deep down, you’re terrified to let go.

This episode is for the woman who’s tired of doing it all herself — the woman whose trauma identity built her independence, but now keeps her from real intimacy, peace, and love.

I’m sharing how self-reliance is actually a trauma response that feels empowering because it once kept you safe — but now it’s blocking what God’s trying to give you.

We’ll talk about: ✨ Why trusting God feels so scary for trauma survivors ✨ How bad church experiences or absent father figures create self-protection patterns ✨ Why surrender isn’t weak — it’s the most powerful thing you can do ✨ How partnering with God in your healing transforms every area of your life — not just your love life

When you surrender to God, you’re not losing control — you’re gaining peace. He’s not taking power away from you — He’s restoring it to you.

Scriptures referenced: Proverbs 3:5-6 • 2 Corinthians 12:9 • Matthew 11:28

If you’ve been stuck between striving and surrender, this is your invitation to let God into the healing process and finally rest in His strength instead of your own.

NEXT STEPS: Inside The Healing Room Waitlist and Rewritten, I help women break free from survival mode, rebuild their self-concept in Christ, and bring God into the parts of their love life they’ve been trying to fix alone.

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Stop jumping through hoops for love and start sitting at the table God already prepared for you. It’s time to heal the “not enough” wound with Jesus and remember who you are.

Are you tired of feeling like you have to earn love? Like no matter how much you give, it’s never enough to make someone stay?

In this episode, Kim exposes the lie of “not enough” that keeps women chasing breadcrumbs instead of receiving the feast God already prepared. She breaks down how your self-concept shapes your love life, why you keep repeating the same painful patterns, and what changes when you finally invite Jesus into the wound that affirmations and manifestation couldn’t heal.

You’ll learn how to stop performing for love, surrender the need to prove your worth, and finally sit at the table God already set for you.

🎧 Listen if you’re ready to:

• Break free from toxic love cycles

• Heal the “not enough” identity once and for all

• Rebuild your self-worth through God’s truth

• Stop chasing validation and start receiving divine love

📖 Scripture referenced: Ephesians 2:6 (NLT) — “For He raised us from the dead along with Christ and seated us with Him in the heavenly realms because we are united with Christ Jesus.”

👉 Take the free Love Identity Quiz to discover which love pattern you’re healing from — and where God wants to set you free. 👉 Start healing your self-concept and rewriting your story inside the Rewritten Course. 👉 For deep, Spirit-led transformation and identity rebuilding, join The Healing Room — where we invite Jesus into the parts of you that self-help could never reach.

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I didn’t go looking for Jesus — He came for me. And in just 90 days, He transformed every part of my life.

In this episode, I’m sharing how Jesus radically shifted my:

• Identity — from self-reliant, performance-based, and world-shaped to Daughter of Christ • Finances — from fear and striving to supernatural provision and Kingdom stewardship • Location — how God moved me across states and why He did it • Relationships — instant restoration and reconciliation after years of distance and pain • Healing — how He broke trauma patterns, control, and survival mode • Desires — how my goals, calling, and focus shifted from mine to His • Relationship with God — how I learned the difference between religion and intimacy

This is for the woman who:

• Has tried healing, manifesting, therapy, or “being strong” on her own

• Has felt God tugging at her but didn’t know how to surrender

• Is tired of performing, controlling, or striving in her own will

• Wonders what it looks like to follow Jesus in her real life — not just in theory

He didn’t just change my beliefs. He rerouted my life, my money, my heart, and my direction.

Inside The Healing Room and Rewritten, I help women heal at the root, break survival patterns, rebuild identity in Christ, and walk in what God is calling them into next. Details are below:

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Why do you keep attracting emotionally unavailable men? Why does breadcrumbing feel so addictive? Why do trauma bonds make it so hard to leave toxic relationships?

In this episode of the No More Breadcrumbs Podcast, I’m breaking down:

• The real reason you’re stuck in repeating toxic love patterns.

• Why breadcrumbing and trauma bonding wire your nervous system to chase love instead of receive it.

• How your self-concept and nervous system get trained to believe you’re “not enough.”

• The biblical truth about your worth — and how inviting God into your healing changes everything.

If affirmations, vision boards, and self-help haven’t worked… it’s because the wound is deeper. It’s not about forcing yourself to be chosen — it’s about rewiring your love story with God at the center.

✨ Ready to go deeper? 👉 Join the Healing Room Waitlist — a trauma-informed, Spirit-led space for women who are ready to stop craving crumbs and step into their God-given worth. 👉 Start the Rewritten Course — the self-paced step-by-step program to shift your self-concept and rewire your nervous system around love.

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