You’ve been praying for love… but choosing from your wounds. And today we’re talking about the exact reason God will NOT bless the relationship that was built on your trauma identity — not your God-given identity.

In this episode, you’re going to learn:

✨ Why God blocks certain relationships Even when you prayed for them. Even when you loved him. Even when you thought he was “the one.”

✨ How trauma identity chooses partners that contradict your prayers Wounds crave familiarity, not safety — and God is trying to pull you into truth, not trauma.

✨ How to recognize when God is protecting you Confusion, inconsistency, anxiety, emotional crumbs — they’re not from Him.

✨ What God WILL bless Relationships rooted in identity, peace, healing, and alignment with His Word.

✨ 3 Key Scriptures in this episode: • Psalm 127:1 – Unless the Lord builds it… it won’t stand • 1 Peter 2:9 – You are chosen, royal, His special possession • Romans 12:2 – Be transformed by renewing your mind

✨ How the Holy Spirit heals what self-help can’t If you’ve accepted Jesus as your Savior, you do not heal alone. You heal with the power of God inside you.

✨ 4 practical steps to shift from trauma identity to God identity So you can finally choose love from worthiness — not wounds.

If you’re ready to break the patterns that keep picking for you, that’s exactly what I walk women through inside Rewritten and The Healing Room. Links are in the show notes.

You are loved. You are chosen. You were never meant to settle for breadcrumbs.

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You pray for godly love… but your patterns still reflect the wounds you haven’t fully healed.

This episode breaks down why your trauma identity causes you to choose love that contradicts your prayers — and how to finally shift into your God-given identity so you can receive the love God has for you.

We cover: • Why trauma identity chooses familiarity, not godliness • How your nervous system keeps you stuck in old patterns • What God says about your identity as His daughter • Why prayer alone can’t override unhealed wounds • How to partner with Jesus in healing your love life

Plus: 4 practical steps to start aligning your identity with God’s truth today.

If you're tired of praying for godly love while living from a wounded identity, The Healing Room and Rewritten will change everything.

Rewritten Self Paced course

The Healing Room Waiting List

Topics in episode: love patterns, christian relationships, identity in christ, trauma identity, god given identity, christian woman podcast, healing with god, christian dating, faith and love, trauma healing, god and self worth, kim velez, no more breadcrumbs podcast, jesus changed my life, christian healing, dating patterns, why prayers dont match patterns

You say you want a healthy, godly love… but part of you still expects to be abandoned. That’s your trauma identity—the version of you that learned love through pain. Your God-given identity already knows you’re chosen, covered, and complete.

In this episode, I’m walking you through how to recognize the difference and start shifting today:

✨ What the trauma identity sounds like (fear, control, over-giving) ✨ What your identity in Christ actually says about you ✨ 4 practical steps to start walking in your true identity: 1️⃣ Ask ChatGPT to pull 10 Bible verses on your identity in Christ → read them in your Bible 2️⃣ Memorize 2–3 and speak them out loud daily 3️⃣ Invite Jesus in: “Lord, help me see myself the way You see me” 4️⃣ Audit your love-life behaviors → where are you settling, performing, or negotiating your worth? Then pray, breathe, and let Him meet you in the moment.

When you stop living from the trauma identity and start living from your God-given identity, everything in your love life changes—because you finally stop fighting to be chosen and start living like you already are.

Scriptures Referenced: John 10:10 | 2 Corinthians 5:17 | 1 Peter 2:9 | Romans 12:2 | 1 John 4:19

NEXT STEP: Inside The Healing Room and Rewritten, I help women trade the trauma identity for their God-given one—so they can experience love that’s safe, secure, and Spirit-led.

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