Remember Cristina Yang turning to Meredith, right as she was leaving the show for good, telling her not to let what someone else wants eclipse what she needs. He's very dreamy, but he's not the sun. You are.

We forget that. There is even a term for it: role engulfment. We get so caught up in the doing for everyone else that our own self, and our own financial life, fades into the background, and it costs us. One day you are comforting a friend who has just been through a brutal divorce, the lights go on, and you think, this could be me.

This episode is about taking the wheel. If you have been carrying the worry without ever holding the wheel, this one is for you. Phoebe walks through why so many capable, high-earning women end up financially invisible in their own lives, why that gap is exactly where women get hurt, and the five things you can do this week, on one page, at your kitchen table, to put yourself back in the centre of your own financial universe. You are not the moon orbiting everyone else's money. You are the sun.

Australia is moving through its largest ever transfer of wealth between generations, estimated at around $3.5 trillion (some research puts it closer to $5 trillion), with roughly 65% of it expected to land with women. Family money tends to flow to the eldest daughter. It can arrive through divorce. It can arrive through the death of a partner. The women who get hurt are not the careless ones. They are the ones who never knew where the money was. This episode gets you ready to hold it.

1. Your money map. How to work out your net worth in one sitting, and why you cannot run a universe you have never looked at.
2. What is yours. The difference between money in your name and money in joint names, and why every financially adult woman needs her own account.
3. Your protection documents. A current will, a binding death benefit nomination on your super, and an enduring power of attorney, and why your super does not follow your will.
4. Your safety buffer. The runway money in your own name that means you are never trapped in a situation you want to leave.
5. Your dashboard. The handful of money concepts that let you ask a good question and recognise a bad answer, without becoming a financial planner.

Plus: who belongs in your financial universe, how to choose advisers you trust instead of inheriting ones you do not, and why talking to your friends about money is one of the most powerful financial moves you can make.

The 12 May federal budget made big moves on family trusts, capital gains tax and negative gearing. Phoebe walks through what actually changed, who it affects, and the steps to take now, with women at the centre of the conversation.

The federal budget handed down on 12 May proposed three major tax changes. First, from 1 July 2028, discretionary (family) trusts will pay a minimum of 30 percent tax on their taxable income, effectively ending the income splitting strategy that has run Australian family businesses for fifty years. Second, from 1 July 2027, the 50 percent capital gains tax discount is being replaced by cost base indexation with a 30 percent minimum tax on the gain. Third, negative gearing losses on residential property purchased after 7.30pm on 12 May 2026 will only be deductible against other residential property income, not against salary or wages. None of these measures are law yet. Women are often the beneficiaries of family trusts they did not set up, which makes the trust change especially worth understanding.

This episode is general in nature and is not personal financial or tax advice. None of these measures are law yet; they are proposed. Phoebe's key sources were the ATO explainer sheets. Speak to your accountant or licensed financial adviser about your own situation.

When my friend Kate (not her real name) broke down on the phone to me three weeks into managing her father's estate, and the line she said that I have heard from a hundred women: "I'm doing all this and I haven't even looked at my own super in years." I had one thought!

There's a phrase doing the rounds; eldest daughter syndrome! It's funny on Instagram until you realise the finance industry has been tracking the same thing for years, and it has some really scary implications for our generation.

JBWere call it the oldest daughter effect. When wealth transfers in an Australian family, it's the eldest daughter who is most likely to end up managing the estate - roughly 50% more likely than other siblings. She didn't ask for it. She's just the one everyone already trusts to deal with things.

In this episode, we unpack what happens when the woman who has carried everyone, suddenly has to carry the money too. We look at the largest intergenerational wealth transfer in Australian history — somewhere between $3.5 and $5 trillion and the staggering fact that about 65% of it is heading into the hands of women. Most of whom have never been the financial decision-maker in their own lives. If we want the world to change we need to understand what this means.

We talk about the three disasters that no one talks about and drain inherited wealth: the wrong-beneficiary super, the death-benefits tax mistake, and the inherited adviser nobody chose. We walk through five things you can do this week to step out of the eldest-daughter trap and into your own financial authority, including the one nobody tells you about: breaking the silence.

This is the episode to send to your sister, your mother, your daughter, and the friend who has been carrying it all alone because taking this on gives us the opportunity to impact the world.

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Think women are bad with money? Think again.

In this episode, we unpack the truth about spending habits, financial confidence, and why intelligent spending—not restriction—is the real key to taking control of your money.

If you’ve ever felt guilty after buying something, avoided checking your bank account, or swung between being overly frugal and overspending, you’re not alone. And more importantly—you’re not broken.

Phoebe shares real-life examples of how intentional spending works in practice, including how she saved over $300 on headphones and cut the cost of a 20-book series down to $40—without sacrificing quality or outcomes.

This episode introduces a simple but powerful 4-question framework to help you make smarter financial decisions on any purchase over $50. It’s practical, realistic, and designed for women who want to feel in control of their money again.

Because financial confidence doesn’t come from earning more—it comes from knowing how to decide.