Episode 8 – AITAH? Poly Edition + Gravy Boat of Poly Terms
Get ready to judge (and be judged). In this episode, we dive into Reddit's Am I the Asshole?—but with a polyamorous twist. We react to posts that center around relationships, communication fails, and ethically questionable behavior, sharing our hottest takes and personal insights. Plus, we’re back with another Gravy Boat of Poly Terms to stir the pot just right.

Whether you're here for the drama, the learning, or the laughs, this one’s got layers.

🎧 Listen now and decide: are they the asshole—or are you just seeing your old self in the story?

Get ready for some hot takes and heartfelt truths in this spicy and insightful episode of Modern Polyamory! Jan and Kyle dive into the big question: What do women really want in dating, sex, and relationships? Spoiler: it's not just flowers and good morning texts. From emotional safety to shared responsibility, clear communication to spontaneous joy, this episode unpacks the desires, boundaries, and expectations that many women wish men understood.Plus, don’t miss our fan-favorite segment, the Gravy Boat of Knowledge, where we serve up a savory scoop of polyamorous wisdom—this time, about how unmet expectations can derail connection, and what to do instead.Whether you're a woman nodding along or someone trying to love one better, this episode is for you.🎧 Listen now on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, YouTube, or at modernpolyamory.com🔗 Follow @modernpolyamory for updates and extra content💌 Got a question or want to share a story? Email us at jan@modernpolyamory.com

Episode 6: People-Pleasing & Monogamy Myths

In this episode, we delve into the intricacies of people-pleasing within polyamorous dynamics. Are you constantly prioritizing others' needs over your own? We explore how this behavior can impact your relationships and personal well-being.

Additionally, we address some of the most common—and often humorous—misconceptions that monogamous individuals have about polyamory. From misunderstandings to outright myths, we shed light on the realities of non-monogamous relationships.

Topics Covered:

• Recognizing and overcoming people-pleasing tendencies

• Setting and maintaining healthy boundaries

• Debunking common myths about polyamory

• Navigating conversations with monogamous friends and family

Whether you're new to polyamory or have been practicing for years, this episode offers valuable insights and practical advice.

Join the conversation:What’s the most surprising or amusing thing a monogamous person has said to you about your polyamorous lifestyle? Share your experiences in the comments below!

Episode 5 – Red Flags, Green Flags, and Non-Negotiables (Plus a Blooper!)

What sends you running for the hills—and what makes you want to stay and build? In this episode of Modern Polyamory, we’re digging into the subtle (and not-so-subtle) signals we look for in dating and relationships. From the classic red flags like love bombing and inconsistent communication, to underrated green flags like active listening and emotional accountability, we break down what matters most when forming connections—polyamorous or otherwise.

We also talk about our non-negotiables: the boundaries that help protect our energy, clarify our values, and keep our relationships rooted in self-respect. Whether you're new to dating or deep in the polyam trenches, this convo will help you reflect on what you really want (and what you're no longer willing to tolerate).

And yes, the Gravy Boat of Knowledge makes a return! This time we’re stirring the pot with some juicy relationship terms and hot takes, helping you deepen your vocabulary and your understanding of how these concepts show up in real life.

Plus: we left in a blooper. Completely unintentional, slightly embarrassing, and 100% human. You’re welcome.

🎧 In this episode:

• Red flags that don’t always look like red flags

• Green flags that deserve more hype

• How to identify your dealbreakers

• Why red flags are relative

• The Gravy Boat of Knowledge: our signature jargon segment

• And a behind-the-scenes moment that slipped through editing…

This one is equal parts thoughtful, relatable, and totally unfiltered. Grab a cup of tea (or something stronger) and come hang out with us.

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Episode 4 – Polyamory 101: Back to the Basics
Curious about polyamory? In this episode, we break down the foundations of ethical non-monogamy. From the history of monogamous behavior to the many forms of consensual non-monogamy, we explore why people choose monogamy—and how it actually works. Whether you’re new to polyamory or brushing up your relationship skills, this is your sexy little intro class. 💋

In this episode of Modern Polyamory, we dive into the importance of checking in with your partners, featuring the RADAR method from Multiamory. Then, we lighten things up with a quick ‘Gravy Boat’ segment before tackling the complex topic of infidelity — yes, even in polyamory, it’s a thing. Whether you’re looking to strengthen your connections or navigate difficult conversations, this episode offers insights and laughs along the way.

Friends With Benefits – More Than Just Casual Fun
What exactly is a friend with benefits, and how does it fit into consensual non-monogamy? We break down why FWB relationships work for some people and not for others, how they differ from dating or hookups, and why they count as a valid form of CNM. Plus, we spill some tea on our own FWB experiences—the good, the awkward, and the unexpectedly deep.

Compersion vs. Jealousy – Are You Actually Happy for Your Partner or Just Faking It?
We love to say we feel compersion, that warm, fuzzy feeling when your partner is thriving in another relationship, but let’s be real. Jealousy happens. We spill our own experiences and dish out tips on shifting from “Why them?” to “Hell yeah, babe!”

Polyamory Dictionary – Let’s Define the Chaos
From kitchen table poly to relationship anarchy, we’re decoding the terms that make polyamory sound way more complicated than it needs to be. Ever wonder what a "polycule" actually is? We got you.

This episode is equal parts wisdom, ridiculousness, and unfiltered poly talk. Whether you’re a seasoned poly pro or just poly-curious, there’s something here for you. Hit play, and let’s get into it.

Dive into the world of polyamory with an episode that breaks down the lingo, logistics, and love in non-monogamous relationships. We're decoding common polyamory terms so you can speak the language of ethical non-monogamy with confidence. Time management is the name of the game when balancing multiple partners, and we're sharing tips on how to juggle schedules without losing your mind (or your calendar). Plus, we're swiping through the wild world of online dating and dating apps how to craft an honest poly-friendly profile and navigate the digital dating scene. Whether you're poly-curious or a seasoned pro, this episode is your guide to making connections without losing connection.