In this episode of Mindset Money Success, host Loraine Marshall shares powerful transformation strategies inspired by her time at Tony Robbins’ "Time to Rise" event. The discussion focuses on mastering your internal world to achieve external success, covering foundational rituals, emotional mastery, and the shift from being a business operator to a true owner.

4 Best Moments

• The 10-Minute Ritual: Loraine discusses Tony Robbins’ belief that "if you don't have 10 minutes for your life, you don't have a life," highlighting the necessity of a daily priming routine to shift your biochemistry.

• The Science of Suffering: A deep dive into why suffering is a choice; while emotions last chemically for 90 seconds, anything beyond that is caused by ruminating on the thought.

• Adapting for Trauma Survivors: A poignant reflection on why traditional gratitude can feel dangerous for those in "survival mode" and how to use "I am" affirmations and protective visualisations instead.

• The "C.A.N.I." Philosophy: Exploring the concept of Constant and Never-Ending Innovation and why success comes from doing more for others than anyone else.

4 Key Takeaways

• Priming Your Nervous System: Start your day with a 10-minute ritual: one minute of "breath of fire," three minutes of heartfelt gratitude, three minutes of blessing/guidance, and three minutes to visualise three goals as already accomplished. This wires your Reticular Activating System (RAS) to spot new opportunities.

• The 90-Second Rule: To stop stress or anger from taking root, use the Acknowledge, Observe, Breath, and Release method. By observing the stress without "believing it" and using slow breaths, you can calm the nervous system and let go of the thought.

• Business Map vs. Business Plan: Traditional plans are often too rigid for modern markets. A Business Map allows for agility, helping you stay committed to your decisions while remaining flexible enough to pivot your approach when necessary.

• Owner vs. Operator Mindset: To have a true business rather than just a job, you must have an exit strategy. A successful business is designed to make money even when the owner is not physically present, allowing you to work on the business rather than in it.

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In this week's episode, we’re going to explore the profound mindset shifts that can turn a challenging time into your greatest comeback story. We are talking about escaping a debt trap and knowing the difference between "smart debt" and "foolish debt".

4 Best Moments

• The Metamorphosis of Randy Gauge: Discover how Gauge transitioned from a major business failure to building a library of over 1,000 books to understand how thoughts shape reality. His journey proves that rock bottom is not a story of failure, but a necessary metamorphosis.

• Reframing "Financial Crystal Meth": A sobering look at "foolish debt"—the debt of instant gratification. Gauge describes it as a temporary high that results in a brutal comedown of regret, energy leaks, and a diminished sense of self-worth.

• The Radical "Naked Truth" Step: The moment of true liberation begins with radical honesty. Host Lorraine Marshall discusses the necessity of pulling every statement and creating a master list, leaving no place for your fear to hide.

• The Police Line-up Analogy: A powerful reminder that wealth without connection is hollow. Gauge asks the rhetorical question: What is the joy in earning millions if your children couldn’t pick you out of a police line-up? Success must be tied to relationships and well-being

4 Key Takeaways

• Distinguish Between Smart and Foolish Debt: Not all debt is equal. Smart debt acts as leverage to acquire income-producing assets, while foolish debt acts as a "silent drain" on your confidence and abundance.

• Execute a Strategic Escape Plan: Breaking free requires a relentless roadmap. This includes prioritising the highest interest rates, negotiating with creditors to lower APRs, and committing to accumulating no new bad debt.

• Play the "Infinite Game" of Wealth: Shift your philosophy from "earning money to do good" to "doing good while earning money." This creates an expanding cycle of prosperity where more resources allow for more positive impact.

• Focus on the Person You Become: The ultimate reward of financial independence isn't the bank balance; it’s the personal growth required to achieve it. Building wealth is a journey of upgrading your identity to someone who lives above debt, not under it

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Welcome to Mindset Money Success with your host, Loraine Marshall. Today, we dive into the journey of reclaiming your power after the "three Ds": Divorce, Death, or Discard. For women navigating life at 40-plus, these aren't just relationship endings; they are traumatic events that require a total reconstruction of the soul. Learn how to move from a state of survival to one of transformation by becoming the master of your own mental architecture.

4 Best Moments

• Defining the Three Ds: Loraine identifies the specific traumas of divorce, the death of a partner, and the abrupt discard, explaining how these moments can leave us paralysed by uncertainty.
• The Literal Mind: A powerful realisation that the brain has no sense of humour; it takes phrases like "this is killing me" literally and may create physical illness or panic attacks to "protect" you from the perceived danger.
• The "I Am Enough" Breakthrough: Exploring how the most simple instruction—repeatedly telling your subconscious "I am enough"—can rebuild a sense of worthiness that has been shattered by betrayal or loss.
• The Shift to Abundance: Learning to stop the "contraction" of fear regarding finances by focusing on visual cues and the deliberate choice to say, "I am having that" instead of "I can't afford it".

4 Key Takeaways

• Your Mind Follows Instructions: Your subconscious is a tool that does exactly what it thinks you want it to do. It responds specifically to the pictures you construct in your head and the words you say to yourself.
• Choose Empowering Language: Switch from catastrophic language to words that generate energy. Instead of "I have to," try "I have chosen to" or "I am on a mission of discovery," which flips the switch from resistance to empowerment.
• Make Self-Praise Familiar: Many people are experts at self-criticism, making it their "natural state". To transform, you must make self-praise incredibly familiar and treat criticism as something entirely "unfamiliar" that you no longer accept.
• Focus on Destination, Not Current Lack: Your mind’s "creative search engines" shut down when focused on lack and fear. To find new opportunities, you must focus on where you are going rather than your current bank balance, using tools like vision boards to prime your mind for abundance.

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In this episode of Mindset, Money, Success, host Loraine Marshall provides a raw and revealing look at the "emotional tax" of business deals gone sour. Drawing on her recent four-week struggle with a "cash for keys" standoff, Loraine exposes the reality of dealing with bullies who move goalposts and the psychological resilience required to hold your ground. From living without running water since 2023 to facing the threat of 17 years in prison during criminal litigation, she shares how she finally secured a new start in 2026.

Best Moments

• The Pyjama Gate Encounter: Loraine recounts the shocking moment she was sick with the flu, only to find the new property owner at her gate with an envelope of 50-euro notes, demanding she vacate the home she had occupied for years within 7–10 days.

• The Three-Hour Manipulation Marathon: A look into a circular, manipulative text argument where the buyer refused to provide an advance for a deposit, essentially pressuring a 64-year-old vulnerable woman to "make herself homeless" before receiving any relocation funds.

• The Removal Company Standoff: The dramatic turning point where the removal team intervened, threatening to unpack the van and leave unless the buyer paid immediately. This forced the "bully buyer" to back down after he had attempted to make Loraine sign contracts under duress.

• Channeling Pain into Paper: Loraine’s powerful closing announcement regarding her upcoming book, Deceptions and Illusions Embroidered with Truth. She reveals that every penny of the royalties will support a non-profit project to help other women facing economic and legal abuse.

Key Takeaways

• Mindset is the Ultimate Ground: Even when legal systems fail or opponents move the goalposts, they cannot take the ground you have won in your mind. Refusing to be silenced is a key step in surviving economic abuse.

• Recognising DARVO: The sources highlight the importance of identifying the DARVO tactic (Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender), which bullies and abusers use to frame themselves as the victim while intimidating their targets with litigation.

• The Power of Community Support: When the buyer refused to assist with relocation costs, it was a neighbour’s personal loan and the solidarity of the removal workers that allowed Loraine to break the cycle of intimidation and secure a new home.

• Advocating for Legal Reform: The episode underscores a critical need for changes in domestic abuse laws in both Spain and the UK to ensure non-married women are not treated as "second-class citizens" by biased or misogynistic court systems.

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In this episode of Mindset Money Success, host Loraine Marshall introduces a concrete, actionable 12-month blueprint designed to take you from broke to building real wealth. Tailored especially for women over 40 who are rebuilding after trauma or financial loss, the episode explores the 7-Step Recovery Plan based on the legendary investor Charlie Munger’s own experiences. Moving beyond "motivational garbage," this "battle-tested" plan focuses on execution and the psychological shift required to transform a negative net worth into a solid foundation.

4 Best Moments

• The "Broke Advantage": Munger argues that starting with nothing is a unique strategic starting point. Unlike the wealthy, those at zero have the freedom to take calculated risks because they have nothing left to lose and their financial mistakes serve as "cheap tuition" rather than catastrophic losses.
• Munger’s Personal Resilience: The episode highlights Munger’s own "rock bottom" in 1962. At 38, he was divorced, drowning in debt, and facing the death of his son—a story that serves as ultimate proof that starting from zero can be a launchpad for success.
• The Harsh Reality of "Deserving": A pivotal moment occurs when addressing the desire for luxuries while broke. Marshall shares Munger’s blunt perspective: "The only thing you deserve when you’re broke is to stop being broke".
• The Final Hurdle of Discipline: As the year closes, the episode warns against "holiday inflation" in November. While most people squander their progress on gifts and travel, the blueprint demands unwavering discipline to protect your hard-won savings.

4 Key Takeaways

• Conduct a Ruthless Financial Audit: January is the month of radical accountability. You must "stop the bleed" by cutting expenses to the bone, including selling liability cars with high payments and eliminating all non-essential subscriptions.
• Aggressive Income Stacking: You cannot invest your way out of poverty with small amounts. The goal is to stack multiple income streams—primary, evening, and weekend work—to save your first £5,000 by April, which shifts your mindset from "broke person" to "investor".
• Build the "Emergency Wall": Before entering the stock market, you must save an additional £10,000 (totalling £15,000). This cash acts as a buffer against fear-based decisions, providing the stability needed to find better career opportunities rather than settling for desperate ones.
• Prioritise Self-Investment: The highest yield asset is your own earning ability. Munger recommends partitioning £5,000 of your savings to invest in new skills, certifications, and networking that directly increase your hourly value.

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In this episode of Mindset, Money, Success, host Loraine Marshall reflects on the eighth anniversary of a day that irrevocably changed the course of her life. On 26 December 2017, what seemed like a peaceful retirement in a Spanish villa was shattered by a brutal confession that exposed a nine-year lie. Loraine shares her harrowing journey through betrayal trauma, financial weaponisation, and the systemic failures of the legal system, ultimately discussing how she turned her "shattered dream" into a mission of discovery and healing for others.

4 Best Moments

• The "Wednesday Girl" Confession: The chilling moment on a sofa in Spain when Loraine’s partner casually revealed a secret life he had maintained since 2009, leading to a scream of pain so physical it damaged her throat.
• The Clinical Presentation of Grief: A look at the "sadistic control" exerted by the abuser when he used a formal presentation to "educate" Loraine on the stages of the bereavement cycle while he was the active cause of her grief.
• Financial Leashes and "Collateral Damage": Loraine recounts being told she was "just a bit of collateral damage" and the way her ex-partner weaponised payments as a tactic of economic control, demanding she not "bite the hand that’s feeding you”.
• The 2024 Legal Victory: The moment of ultimate reclamation when seven malicious criminal allegations—which carried a combined threat of 17 years in prison—were completely dismissed.

4 Key Takeaways

• Identifying DARVO and SLAP: Understanding these tactical abuses is vital. DARVO (Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender) and SLAPP (Strategic Litigation Against Public Participation) are often used to silence victims through the court system.
• The Physical Reality of Trauma: Emotional abuse is not "invisible." It manifests physically, leading to debilitating panic attacks and cognitive dissonance as the body "keeps the score" of the psychological environment.
• Forgiveness as Self-Liberation: Drawing on the wisdom of Nelson Mandela, Loraine highlights that forgiveness is not about condoning the abuser’s actions, but about refusing to let their "poison" kill your spirit.
• Turning Pain into Purpose: The ultimate act of survival is reclaiming your narrative. By writing her book and starting a foundation, Loraine demonstrates that rebuilding from the rubble is the beginning of a new, independent path.

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• Book: Post-Separation Abuse, Betrayal and Abandonment by Loren Keeling.

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In this episode, Loraine discusses the five shocking truths behind narcissistic future faking, often referred to as the soulmate illusion. Future faking is the illusion of 'someday,' where a partner paints a vivid, perfect picture of a life together, while their current actions leave you feeling hurt, ignored, and devalued. If this sounds familiar, you have likely encountered this sophisticated manipulation, which serves as a cornerstone of narcissistic abuse. This tactic involves making grand promises about the future solely to gain power and control over you in the present. We uncover the insidious truths that lie behind this behaviour.

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The narcissist’s promises are a desperate attempt to soothe their own deep psychic pain. Psychologists agree that narcissism is rooted in profound self-hatred and shame, not self-love. By manipulating you into believing their fantasy, they gain a fleeting feeling of power and relief from their own sense of weakness.

Narcissists are master manipulators who use a tactic called narcissistic mirroring. They encourage deep conversations early in the relationship to get you to reveal your most heartfelt desires, hopes, and dreams for the future. They then mimic your dreams back to you, making the connection feel magnetic and uniquely perfect, leading you to believe you have met your soulmate.

Future faking is a powerful tool used throughout the entire abuse cycle, not just during the initial love bombing phase. They may dangle the future you crave only to snatch it away as punishment, perhaps by stating an engagement or vacation is on hold because you "ruined the mood".

The constant mismatch between loving words about the future and harmful actions in the present creates a profound psychological discomfort known as cognitive dissonance.

Personal Example of Future Faking: Loraine recounts a personal experience involving future faking where, after talking about a dream to live in Spain, the partner purchased a property there. However, shortly after the purchase, the partner revealed he had made a "huge mistake," leaving the speaker feeling deflated and upset.

Key Takeaways

Future Faking is a Tool of Control: It is a sophisticated manipulation used to gain power and control over you in the present, fueled by the abuser's own self-hatred and need for fleeting relief.

You Are Trapped by Your Own Hopes: The narcissist uses narcissistic mirroring to sell you a future built exactly upon your own most heartfelt dreams, making the connection feel uniquely perfect. Designed to keep you emotionally invested and trapped.

The Dissonance is Deliberate: The painful paradox of hearing someone plan your future home while they devalue you right now is a tactic designed to keep you disoriented through cognitive dissonance. You are kept busy trying to reconcile their conflicting behaviours rather than seeing the abuse for what it is.

To break free, you must stop focusing on empty promises and start looking at the hard evidence of present-day actions. Your nervous system often registers the danger before your mind can name it, so listen to your body—if you feel tense, unsure, or small in their presence, trust that physical response as honest data.

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Welcome to Mindset Money Success. Host Loraine Marshall speaks with Tina Woods, a coach dedicated to helping individuals recover from narcissistic abuse and unlock trapped trauma. Tina recounts her entry into this field after leaving a 24-year advertising career and navigating her own journey through complex trauma (CPTSD), addictions, burnout, and a highly abusive relationship with a covert narcissist. She now works in her purpose of empath empowerment, assisting women to transform lessons learned and move from victim mode into their highest frequency. This episode delves into the deep psychological trap of the trauma bond, the strategic nature of narcissistic abuse, and practical self-help steps for recovery.

3 Best Moments

Understanding the Trauma Bond: Tina explains that the trauma bond is a "serious, serious addiction" and is fundamentally a "spiritual, a physical, a mental, psychological trap" that is extremely difficult to break.

Abuse Starts with Love Bombing: It is crucial to understand that the manipulation and abuse cycle begins not with the devaluation or discard, but with the love bomb phase. Narcissists are highly strategic; they plot their victims and look for supply by weighing up their wounds, such as isolation or self-love issues, making the love bombing the beginning of the abuse.

Harnessing Anger for Healing: Tina advocates for releasing anger, describing it as her "kill Bill stage," rather than repressing or suppressing it, which can cause sickness. Techniques she used for release included joining kickboxing and self-defence, as well as bouncing on a mini trampoline, shaking, and dancing.

4 Key Takeaways

Embrace Deep Honesty and the 'Ik-List': To begin breaking the trauma bond, the first step is to come into deep, painful honesty about both the abuser's behaviours and your own attachment patterns. Tina suggests creating an 'ik-list' (a tip she borrowed from Dr Ramani) detailing all the awful things the abuser said and did, so you can clearly see the truth when they attempt to 'hoover' you back in.

De-centre the Abuser and Reclaim Self-Love: Recovery requires understanding your codependency and recognising that seeking validation from a toxic person reflects a lack of self-love and self-worth. You must de-centre the narcissist and the relationship story to go on a deep journey of reclamation, which often involves reviewing childhood patterns and behaviours.

Implement the 360 Approach for Complex Trauma: When dealing with complex trauma (CPTSD), a self-help strategy should address the mind, body, and soul. For the soul, focus on raising your frequency through faith, prayer, cord cutting, or walking in nature. For the body, prioritise nervous system safety through somatic exercises, yoga, breathwork, and nourishing food.

Listen to Your Intuition: Your intuition is activated when you start spotting the abuser's patterns of behaviour. When you find yourself having the same conversation multiple times or noticing flare-ups around certain times, this may lead to the realisation: "maybe it's not all me," which is a powerful starting point for moving forward.

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