You've done the therapy. You know why you people-please, why you say yes when you mean no, why Tuesday at 3pm your nervous system floods and you abandon yourself. You understand your attachment style, your childhood patterns, all of it.

So why can't you stop?

In this episode, I'm sharing what I know for sure after living on both sides of the therapy room: self-awareness doesn't equal self-trust. Understanding your patterns and actually changing them in the moment are two completely different things.

I'm getting real about my own journey—from thinking my deep empathy was my biggest weakness to learning how to use it as precision. From performing "I'm fine" while drowning to actually trusting myself in those messy in-between moments.

This isn't about replacing therapy. It's about what happens in the 167 hours between your weekly sessions when triggers hit, spirals happen, and you need support but your therapist isn't available.

If you've ever left therapy feeling hopeful only to spiral a few days later, if you know your patterns but watch yourself repeat them anyway, if you're tired of feeling like you "should be over this by now"—this episode is for you.

Join The Nest, our free community for therapy-experienced women navigating the gap between knowing and doing. Find us at mentalnesting.com or on Instagram @mentalnesting_

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If this episode resonated with you, I'd be so grateful if you'd leave a review—it helps other sensitive souls find this gentle space we're creating together.

New episodes drop every Wednesday morning—perfect for your commute, morning walk, or cozy evening wind-down.

Connect with me:

• Instagram: @mentalnesting_
• Substack: mentalnesting.substack.com
• Email: hello@mentalnesting.com
• Join The Nest Community

Want to work together? I offer gentle, between-session support for therapy graduates and sensitive adults. Learn more about 1:1 coaching and community offerings at mentalnesting.com

Remember: Messy healing is still healing. You don't have to be done to be enough.

Mental Nesting Podcast: For sensitive adults who've outgrown the hustle

What if the version of yourself you're trying to heal isn't broken—she's just forgotten?

In this nostalgic episode, Barbara explores something that's been at the core of her Mental Nesting brand from the beginning: using nostalgia as a healing tool. Specifically, how connecting with your inner teenager—that Y2K, MySpace-era version of yourself—can unlock healing that traditional "adult" self-care never quite reaches.

While writing her ebook "Healing with Nostalgia: Using Your Past to Comfort Your Present," Barbara noticed something profound: she feels most like herself when she creates content that teenage Barbara would love. When she follows what she "should" post, she scatters and loses herself. But when she leans into that early 2000s aesthetic, everything flows naturally.

This isn't just sentimentality—there's actual science behind why nostalgia works as a nervous system regulator. Your teenage years were a time of active identity discovery, when you were trying on who you were, finding your people, discovering what music spoke to you. And accessing those memories now isn't dwelling on the past—it's reconnecting with the version of yourself who knew what you loved before you learned to edit yourself for others.

You'll discover:

• The neuroscience of why nostalgia calms your nervous system
• The difference between inner child work (healing wounds) and inner teenager work (reclaiming joy)
• How artists like Bad Bunny and Young Miko use nostalgia to create collective healing experiences
• The power of cultural nostalgia for reclaiming parts of your identity you downplayed to fit in
• Five practical steps to connect with your inner teenager without getting stuck in the past
• A journaling prompt to access what your 15-year-old self wants you to remember

This is for anyone who's ever felt more authentic scrolling through old photos than doing "proper" self-care, people who've lost touch with what genuinely excites them, and sensitive souls learning that healing isn't just about resolving wounds—it's about reclaiming joy.

Because your inner teenager isn't a phase you outgrew. She's a part of you holding crucial information about who you are when you're not performing for anyone.

Brief mentions of childhood experiences and cultural identity

Support the show

Thank you for being here, beautiful soul.

If this episode resonated with you, I'd be so grateful if you'd leave a review—it helps other sensitive souls find this gentle space we're creating together.

New episodes drop every Wednesday morning—perfect for your commute, morning walk, or cozy evening wind-down.

Connect with me:

• Instagram: @mentalnesting_
• Substack: mentalnesting.substack.com
• Email: hello@mentalnesting.com
• Join The Nest Community

Want to work together? I offer gentle, between-session support for therapy graduates and sensitive adults. Learn more about 1:1 coaching and community offerings at mentalnesting.com

Remember: Messy healing is still healing. You don't have to be done to be enough.

Mental Nesting Podcast: For sensitive adults who've outgrown the hustle

What's the difference between occupying a space and truly being at home?

In this reflective episode, Barbara shares a profound realization that hit her on her 30th birthday: for the first time in 30 years, she finally feels at home. Not just in her apartment, but in her own life, her own skin, her own existence.

Growing up, she lived in many places. She had her own apartments where she was the only one on the lease. But she never felt at home in any of them. She was occupying space, but she wasn't belonging. And she couldn't figure out why every new place felt temporary, unsettled, like she was still waiting for something—or someone—to make her feel like she could finally exhale.

Then she spent her 30th birthday in her family's kitchen, sharing stories and just being present. Her dad called her "titas" and joked that she looked 29. And something clicked: the reason she'd never felt at home before wasn't about the spaces she lived in. It was about not feeling at home within herself.

You'll discover:

• The crucial difference between occupying space and creating home
• Why external spaces can't feel safe until you build internal safety first
• How three years of self-knowledge became the foundation for belonging
• Why being protective of your peace is wisdom, not gatekeeping
• How creating home within yourself transforms your ability to hold space for others
• Five practical steps to build that internal sense of home right now

This is for anyone who's ever felt like they're just passing through their own life, people who've moved hoping the next place would finally feel right, and anyone learning that belonging starts from within.

Because home isn't something you find or earn or wait for permission to have. It's something you create—starting with yourself.

Brief mentions of family dynamics and 30th birthday reflections

Support the show

Thank you for being here, beautiful soul.

If this episode resonated with you, I'd be so grateful if you'd leave a review—it helps other sensitive souls find this gentle space we're creating together.

New episodes drop every Wednesday morning—perfect for your commute, morning walk, or cozy evening wind-down.

Connect with me:

• Instagram: @mentalnesting_
• Substack: mentalnesting.substack.com
• Email: hello@mentalnesting.com
• Join The Nest Community

Want to work together? I offer gentle, between-session support for therapy graduates and sensitive adults. Learn more about 1:1 coaching and community offerings at mentalnesting.com

Remember: Messy healing is still healing. You don't have to be done to be enough.

Mental Nesting Podcast: For sensitive adults who've outgrown the hustle