Caleb and Chrissy Cole get honest about how an anniversary disappointment and a well-intended golf date exposed a deeper disconnect in their marriage. They unpack the difference between doing life together and actually feeling known, why defensiveness made their conflict worse, and how learning to recognize and validate emotions has helped them reconnect. For couples caught in the cycle of schedules, responsibilities, and surface-level conversations, this is a challenge to make room for the kind of connection that goes beyond simply spending time together.

• (00:00) - Marriage and Emotional Connection
• (01:40) - Why Busy Couples Drift Apart
• (02:59) - The Golf Date That Exposed a Deeper Hurt
• (05:28) - Being Together Isn't the Same as Connecting
• (07:21) - What Quality Time Actually Means
• (08:45) - When Marriage Becomes Family Logistics
• (10:44) - Making Time for Emotional Conversations
• (11:45) - Communicating Hurt and Unmet Needs
• (13:46) - Defensiveness and the Conflict Spiral
• (17:27) - Taking Thoughts Captive vs. Suppressing Feelings
• (20:26) - How Validation Helped Them Reconnect
• (22:03) - Emotional Fluency and Connection Codes
• (24:27) - Learning to Recognize Loneliness
• (26:31) - Understanding the Eight Core Emotions
• (29:25) - Making Emotional Connection a Priority
• (31:22) - Emotional Awareness and Godly Leadership

In this Men of Faith and Project Sisterhood crossover, Caleb and Chrissy Cole sit down with Scott and Karen Hagan to talk about more than four decades of ministry, leadership, marriage, family, burnout, resentment, community, and learning to live with an eternal perspective.

Scott and Karen unpack why serving should come from spiritual overflow instead of anxiety, how resentment can lead to isolation, and why family and healthy relationships cannot become casualties of ministry. Karen also shares what her cancer journey taught her about suffering, healing, prayer, and trusting that God is with us even when He does not answer the way we expected.

They also discuss generational leadership, calling, encouragement, prophetic words, and becoming comfortable with both who God made you to be and who He did not.

• (00:00) - Living With an Eternal Perspective
• (01:15) - Honoring Scott and Karen Hagan
• (02:21) - What 44 Years of Ministry Teaches You
• (04:21) - Gratitude or Resentment
• (06:19) - Why Leaders Need Eternal Perspective
• (08:31) - When You Feel Lonely or Overlooked
• (11:26) - Resentment Turns Into Isolation
• (13:37) - Serving Without Burning Out
• (16:09) - Burnout, Anxiety, and Family Tension
• (18:47) - Faith When Cancer Changes the Plan
• (23:31) - Marriage, Community, and the Cancer Journey
• (30:13) - Becoming Comfortable With Who You’re Not
• (32:33) - Bridging the Generational Gap
• (36:38) - Putting Family Before Ministry
• (38:36) - Finding Purpose Without a Prophetic Word

Dr. Scott Hagan joins Project Church’s Team Con for a conversation about leadership, faithfulness, culture, and going the distance. From the difference between the compass and the clock to optimism, visionary leadership, self-control, and spiritual maturity, Scott challenges leaders to establish their direction before obsessing over efficiency.

• (00:00) - Caleb Cole Introduces Dr. Scott Hagan
• (01:25) - Men of Faith Podcast Intro
• (01:44) - Going the Distance in Faith and Leadership
• (06:36) - Becoming a Faithful Elder
• (08:11) - Organization Is a Discipline
• (09:02) - Can the Church Flourish in Political Headwinds?
• (12:10) - Sennacherib, Hezekiah, and False Confidence
• (15:02) - When Everyone Claims the Lord Is With Them
• (17:13) - Which Came First, the Compass or the Clock?
• (18:44) - Direction Must Come Before Efficiency
• (21:42) - Building the Invisible Organization
• (28:48) - Why Leaders Must Stay Optimistic
• (31:54) - The Strange Tax of Visionary Leadership
• (34:24) - Maturity, Growth, and the Seven Nerd Words
• (35:44) - Guarding Against Self-Pity
• (37:16) - More Than Conquerors and Closing Prayer

What does it actually mean to champion women in leadership, not just say that we do? In this Men of Faith and Project Sisterhood crossover, Chrissy Cole sits down with Caleb Cole, Tim Bittle, and Banning Liebscher for an honest conversation about men and women leading together in the church, ministry, and the marketplace.

They unpack why women often enter leadership without the same years of experience or “reps” that men have been given, and why healthy leaders have to intentionally create opportunities for women to develop, fail, learn, and grow. Tim shares the moment his wife wanted to quit preaching after a difficult message and why he refused to let one failure become her off-ramp from leadership. Caleb challenges leaders to let obedience trump insecurity, trusting God with the results instead of allowing fear or criticism to determine whether they step into their calling.

The conversation also gets into some of the harder tensions surrounding men and women working and being discipled together, healthy boundaries, cross-gender mentorship, equal authority in leadership, and the church culture many Christians are still having to unlearn. Rather than pretending those tensions do not exist, this conversation asks what it looks like to become healthy enough to navigate them while building churches and organizations where both men and women can fully lead.

• (00:00) - Why Male Voices Need to Champion Women
• (01:05) - Why This Conversation Needs Men and Women
• (03:36) - Women Already Leading at the Highest Levels
• (05:58) - Why Tim Wrote a Position on Women in Leadership
• (07:54) - Healthy Leaders Matter More Than Gender
• (09:40) - Choose the Best Person for the Job
• (11:13) - Women Need Reps to Grow as Leaders
• (14:18) - You Don’t Get to Quit After a Bad Sermon
• (16:19) - Leadership Requires Playing the Long Game
• (17:04) - Obedience Has to Trump Insecurity
• (19:34) - The Real Tension of Men and Women Leading Together
• (24:09) - Objectivity, Discernment, and Healthy Leadership
• (25:29) - Rethinking Cross-Gender Discipleship
• (30:09) - Equal Authority Means Releasing Control
• (32:37) - Unlearning a Male-Dominated Church Culture

Physical intimacy does not exist separately from the rest of a marriage. In Part 2 of this Men of Faith and Project Sisterhood crossover, Caleb and Chrissy Cole continue their conversation with Jason and Stephanie Caine about scheduling intimacy, emotional disconnection, marriage growth, and the deeper issues that can show up in a couple’s sex life. Caleb shares why he says sex saved their marriage during a difficult season, while the group explores pride, insecurity, therapy, blind spots, withholding affection, receiving feedback, and learning to keep growing together.

• (00:00) - The Red Bow Signal
• (01:03) - How Often Should Couples Have Sex?
• (03:00) - Why Scheduling Sex Can Be Healthy
• (05:52) - Sex Starts Outside the Bedroom
• (07:09) - When Sex Problems Reveal Deeper Issues
• (08:26) - Caleb and Chrissy’s Disconnected Season
• (09:46) - Sex Saved Our Marriage
• (11:11) - Marriage Requires Constant Growth
• (12:34) - When Your Spouse Grows Before You
• (14:20) - How to Share Hard Feedback With Love
• (16:06) - Do Not Withhold While You Wait for Change
• (17:49) - How Will Your Spouse Remember This Season?
• (19:26) - Dream About the Next Season Together
• (22:03) - Be Gentle With Your Spouse and Kids
• (26:34) - Measure Yourself Before Criticizing Others

Marriage can be full of love and still feel lonely. In this Men of Faith and Project Sisterhood crossover, Caleb and Chrissy Cole talk with Jason and Stephanie Caine about getting married quickly, raising twins, surviving the demanding early years of parenting, and learning how to reconnect when marriage starts feeling more like survival. They unpack the importance of community, dating your spouse even when you do not feel like it, naming loneliness and disconnection honestly, and choosing committed love before the feelings catch up.

• (00:00) - Why Marriage Gets Hard After Kids
• (01:19) - Meet Jason and Stephanie Caine
• (05:30) - Married After Only Three Months
• (06:31) - When Twins Changed Everything
• (08:49) - What Premarital Preparation Actually Helped
• (11:06) - Why the Early Parenting Years Are So Hard
• (12:18) - Stop Trying to Survive Alone
• (15:06) - Be Honest About the Hard Seasons
• (19:27) - How to Reconnect After Survival Mode
• (20:05) - Date Your Spouse Before You Feel Like It
• (21:14) - Love Is a Decision, Not Just a Feeling
• (23:01) - Marriage Was Made to Fight Loneliness
• (24:49) - Why Men Struggle to Admit Loneliness
• (28:27) - Vulnerability Can Deescalate Conflict
• (29:15) - Why Humor Matters in Family Life

Some of the hardest battles men face are the ones nobody knows about. Caleb Cole and Antonio Reyes talk about isolation, honest brotherhood, prayer, accountability, rest, and learning to say what you are actually carrying instead of trying to handle everything in your own strength. The challenge is simple: bring it to God, let trustworthy people in, and stop fighting alone.

• (00:00) - Why Brotherhood Matters
• (00:36) - Live From Brotherhood Breakfast
• (01:30) - The Silent Battles Men Hide
• (03:05) - Joseph and the Battle You Can't Explain
• (04:37) - Hear God, Then Do Something
• (05:28) - Stop Fighting Alone
• (07:26) - Say It So It Loses Power
• (08:29) - Listen Before You Fix It
• (09:13) - Go Deeper in Community
• (14:09) - Fight the Lies About Community
• (16:34) - Bear One Another's Burdens
• (18:28) - Who Really Knows the Real You?
• (20:03) - Bring It to God First
• (24:41) - Rest, Healthy Outlets, and Elijah
• (29:10) - God Can Meet You in the Repercussions

In this Men of Faith and Project Sisterhood crossover, Caleb and Chrissy Cole join Joel and Kate VanZanten for an honest conversation about marriage, insecurity, spiritual leadership, and becoming one. Drawing from 14 months and nearly 18 years of marriage, they discuss how marriage exposes pride and fear, why passivity and independence weaken unity, and how intentional connection, vulnerability, prayer, and adaptability help couples grow together. They also explore the difference between supporting your spouse and expecting them to become the source of your security, with a clear reminder to take your needs and insecurities to Jesus first.

• (00:00) - The Hard Parts Don’t Outweigh the Good
• (01:11) - Men of Faith and Project Sisterhood Crossover
• (03:19) - Marriage After 14 Months and 18 Years
• (06:22) - Becoming One Changes Your Identity
• (08:26) - Marriage Exposes What You Hide
• (10:16) - Marriage Is a Refining Commitment
• (11:25) - Insecurity Can Distort Your Marriage
• (13:15) - When Insecurity Produces Passive Leadership
• (16:28) - Inviting Your Spouse Into Life With Jesus
• (20:07) - Leading Together Under Pressure
• (23:41) - Intentionality Prevents Emotional Drift
• (27:19) - Learning Emotional Connection
• (34:40) - Connection Must Adapt With Every Season
• (40:08) - Personal Faith and Spiritual Unity
• (45:06) - Lead, Share Your Needs, and Be Vulnerable